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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Okijajuju1(m): 12:01am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith: Hi OP, Sorry for the hardship you and your sibling are experiencing. I will just like to ask you some questions to better understand things as much as I can. What is your brothers financial status. Basically what does he do? What is/was your relationship with your brothers wife prior to and after the marriage. Do you and your sibling live with him? Was he married before your parents passed on or after? What was the relationship between your parents and the wife? Is your brother the bread winner of his home or his wife? Between them, who has the money? Basically I will like to get a clearer picture of the dynamics in his home and the relationship between you all. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Elle277(f): 12:02am On Jul 09, 2016 |
search for help elsewhere..I dislike begging or hoping on someone rather hope in God, be strong and don't get yourself depressed.. you will come out successful 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by 2sexynet: 12:02am On Jul 09, 2016 |
david290:The emboldened should make you even pity the men who house those women. It is why I do not come around the family section because most of them are filled with evil selfishness. They see members of their respective husband's family as aliens, forgetting that they might need help from same people they alienate. it happened to me and today I render help to my predator of years ago. Pity the men that house them bro. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Luckygurl(f): 12:04am On Jul 09, 2016 |
byvan03: Did you not see where she wrote she's in her finals? Project stuffs and it's likes ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by 2sexynet: 12:06am On Jul 09, 2016 |
banmee:https://www.nairaland.com/tehn |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by otunbashonny(m): 12:07am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith: I cant stand it a week. Get closer to God and tell him ur needs |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by ashala(m): 12:07am On Jul 09, 2016 |
WHOcarex: Hmmmmm, bro you mean ooooo |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by marvelous000: 12:07am On Jul 09, 2016 |
2sexynet:[size=13pt] Baba, it still beats my imagination how a random woman with the title “wife,” will be able to hack into some guy's brain and rob them of their love and sense of responsibility for their family (especially female siblings). I still can't fathom how the mental pillage works, but I'm certain of my radical immunity to such fuckery. [/size] 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by bekpo(m): 12:08am On Jul 09, 2016 |
cococandy: It's saddened when such comments r duled out in situations like this. Most of us that had put on this shoe, we know what it means. However I love my wife and or however money I spend on my wedding, it cannot and can never set me against my family. Except I purposely refused to do it. I am the man of the house and u r not married only to me but my family. It will b a thing of joy for me to see my siblings progressing in life courtesy of me, after all the woman never know how we started. My candid advice to u is simple, I may know u where not raised in a hard way, but u must adjust, go get a legitimate work and do, do it with the heart that u r responsible for ur self and if u fail, u fail ur self. Determined to succeed and u will succeed. I was once in ur shoe but I never gave up. But today I can confirm to u that I am a legal practitioner. I could remember vividly those period I will buy digestive biscuit of 5 naira ate it and am off to the class for TDD. But today am successful. I know u shall succeed as well. Cheers good luck. 8 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 12:10am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I cant believe men with great minds like this still exist.may God bless you with a good wife when the time comes. david290: 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by onos217(m): 12:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
For me your bro has falling short of what we call Big Brother . If he is one , he have would sit you down and explain how things are actually hard for him and see how he can possibly raise the money you need , and not this one that he does whatever the wife puts into his head(atleast show some concern). No wife can dare comes between me and my siblings, especially the ones that's are willing to go school. If she dares me , she should be ready to take the next available bus—she won't dictates to me how to run my home 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Oyimeoyimemua(f): 12:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith:then be patient and get what you want from him even if it means coming closer to his wife never eavesdrop when they are talking (that is bad) get something to do even if na sales girl for your uncles don't worry they will one day look for you my heart goes out to you I know how it feels cos am an orphan too 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by teacherbim(f): 12:12am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Some wives could be so heartless,Just keep praying but you need to talk to him in private. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 12:12am On Jul 09, 2016 |
What's my business with your family? bekpo: 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by uwagimboo: 12:12am On Jul 09, 2016 |
OP, if I must say, ur story is not complete.. *How come none from ur maternal home nd paternal home cares about you ![]() *Now u Know ur brother does not care about your welfare what re u doing now to succeed or do whining proffer solution. * what if this same brother of urs slumps nd die today, will his widow also be responsible about ur welfare? OP, as a christian I will say talk to God but u need to work out something for urself.. We all have our stories, not until u re told, u will hide urs. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nzeh12(m): 12:15am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Why I run away from any female who I feel isn't comfortable with any member of my family. Brotherly be of good cheer, talk to your bro but don't bring his wife into the talk. Thank God ur done. Stay focused and motivated for Lil bro, even if big bro still doesn't help. QUESTION:If big bro wasn't in the picture, what legal means will u use to get the needed cash ![]() Any little effort you mk, God will double. 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by banmee(m): 12:17am On Jul 09, 2016 |
2sexynet: Thank you. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Luckygurl(f): 12:17am On Jul 09, 2016 |
darlenese: Cut the crap!! ![]() ![]() If you tell me she's meant to be responsible for her upkeep, I wouldn't have any problem with that. But saying she's supposed to have a boyfriend to cater for her needs is plainly absurd. Or what was that you had in mind when you typed the emboldened? Majority of us living off men we ain't related to since 16BC and priding in it as if it's some form of achievement. 8 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 12:19am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Wao,your generations wont lack by doing this,only wise people think like this. banmee: 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by 2sexynet: 12:20am On Jul 09, 2016 |
marvelous000:It happens bro. It happened and my younger sister left the house, I almost left and when my elder sister heard it, she was mad because she knows I am the least troublesome among us and therefore even if she felt my younger sister was at fault, certainly not me and something must be the cause. The same girl who left house cos of that shiiit either pays school fees or I pay currently, i paid not too long ago for their daughter. Just like the OP, our mum had just left the world to greater beyond when this whole thing started happening. The girl in question even cause rift between my bro and his long childhood friend. It happens bro. It is why I am very and extremely cautious of the words that comes out of a girl I am dating. I can decipher their personality that way. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by david290(m): 12:22am On Jul 09, 2016 |
2sexynet:Thank you for your submission. I am not the type that comment on this forum -- of course I understand Jezebel and Yaba left have just got to have representatives here -- but it's just that the comment I saw coming from supposed humans to another of their fellow distressed human is just what I couldn't tolerate. My advice to Op and other Nairalanders is that they should take their time to study the comments of some objective and rational nairalanders and follow such forum members. Whenever the need for advice arises, just privately chat those forum members and then use your discretion. Peace 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 12:22am On Jul 09, 2016 |
shes doing peety peety hairdressing,but she cant do much now as she has to concentrate on her finals. uwagimboo: |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 12:22am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal: oh cool. how nice and kind hearted of you. keep rubbing your sibling on the head and parting their back. you know they have you so they don't need to work at all. you should literally give them every kobo they will ever need in life. they should be totally dependent on you. even after they marry, you will have to continue paying their bills, house rent, kids fees, clothe them and their spouse and also don't forget to give each of the pocket money weekly including their spouses and kids. according to your rules up their, siblings are never to be independent. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by bendike: 12:22am On Jul 09, 2016 |
If u have noting to say or help to offer then shut the Bleep up! If you are fortunate to have things rosy for you and you do not know what others go through then thank God for your life. This lady is pained and pouring out her fustrations and you talk to her this way? So sad for you! God please bless me and other nairalanders so we could be of help to those that need. AMEN taryour: 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 12:23am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:I've an assignment for you. Stop. Take a deep breathe. And ask yourself how your comment is helping the OP. The fact that people like me advice her to stop looking up to her brother and try for herself doesn't mean we think he shouldn't help her. Yes he should. How about in this situation that he isn't doing it? What's a better advice than encouraging her to see herself capable than dependent? Does your ranting against his wife and other posters help her? Instead of giving her constructive advice like things she can do to get by, you're indulging her in the pity party that she's been looking all year long. Ask yourself again if after instigating her to hate the sister-in-law more, you'll be there to give her actual practical physical support that she needs when they get more and more alienated from her brother due to her attitude towards his wife (read her past posts). Meanwhile you call yourself a good person. Taking the liberty to insult all the Christains on this thread by saying our way of life is evil. What have you done as a good Muslim to help her now? You're even judging people you don't know. Maybe we should all call our brothers and sisters-in-law to come show you how our husbands have been helping them before you know you're not the only 'good' wife on this thread. Right? Madam good woman. 13 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by 2sexynet: 12:23am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Luckygurl:lol, are you surprised? this is Nigeria where such bullshiit is recommended,EVEN woman will tell her fellow woman to furk around to for upkeep. Just imagine... because that is what many of them do to survive and why marriage is like an olympic gold medal to most of them as the greatest achievement. wonder why they are ever excited when a guy propose? ![]() |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Oyimeoyimemua(f): 12:25am On Jul 09, 2016 |
you must respect ur bros wife,inlaws will always make it sound like the wife is a very wicked person get something doing please something must have gone wrong somewhere Being an orphan is not d end of life I am an orphan too and I didn't let that define me 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 12:27am On Jul 09, 2016 |
2sexynet:I know what you are saying dear, your own is even money, my cousin's wife own na food ![]() ![]() See dear, you just have to understand that if your bro really wants to help, he will, except he is more f00lish, wicked and selfish than you thought, of course his priorities have been adjusted, you are still a vital part of his life, family is family, he just has to know that there's a place for you in his life and compromise in that regard, just like you should for him, that's why you need to start thinking of ways to support yourself because he may no longer be able to give you as much as he used to, plus you don't plan to depend on him forever, do you? Why not start now since its actually important you do, to help your brother and yourself? What I don't agree with is him not helping at all, that's not a loving brother. Don't heap all the blame on his wife, if you think she's coming between you and your brother, it's cos he let her. That's why I said I don't know how strong your bond is but you should be able to call him out, if he talks rubbish, be the adult and tell him he is being an a$$, instead you are there crying, Tah! Cry for what? go talk to your bro jor. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by KINGinVAHALA: 12:28am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Okijajuju1: Hi bro, good am! I guess you still do remember my moniker? same dude contesting for Mr Nairaland, our last convo was about Nigerian judges and being corrupt. I can still vividly remember that I said I was gonna term you a lawyer despite nor been one and also solicited for your support and vote for my humble self in Mr Nairaland and you promised to support and vote me, hmmm. Anyways, I'm just checking on you and kinda reminding you not to forget and renege on your promise to support and vote me.
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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 12:30am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Abeg gerrout ,your comment is not a good comment abeg and dnt sound as if you like the brother to help,pls i dnt have time for wicked people like you and the rest.am not gonna reply you, i dnt care if you insult me. cococandy: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 12:30am On Jul 09, 2016 |
cococandy: GBAM!!! |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 12:30am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:Go figure out your issues. You have plenty. 6 Likes |
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