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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 1:16am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Luckygurl:You can imagine someone's definition of responsiblity. The kind of replies I'm reading on this thread eh, I'm surprised. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by nifton(m): 1:16am On Jul 09, 2016 |
malmo:U mean she should literally become her slave? 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 1:18am On Jul 09, 2016 |
May God not direct such ladies to my son,brother,cousins amen. tosinjay: 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 1:18am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Abio. nifton: |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 1:19am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I said thirsty not thirty freecocoa: |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Prettiepearlz(f): 1:20am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:Bia my sister don't even try to drag Christianity into this issue at all, na you talk say Christians are evil and now you're talking of having good Christians as friends. You're sure confused, why bring religion into this matter? As if Muslims are any way better, see everyone should be responsible for his deeds and not the religion or the tribe. And for the records Christians help each other especially in the Catholic Church although with the exception of a few Christians sha but that shouldn't define the whole religion. Anyway you're not one so I don't expect you to know, likewise I know nothing in your religion because it's none of my business. Oga ooooo, give your advice and leave religion out of it. You people should quit hating. Humbledbyfaith, if all you have said is true, quit the pity party and find a way to be independent and make your brother and his wife sorry for their deeds. You have opened about three threads on your brother and his wife ahn ahn kilode, live your life like they don't exist and make the best out of your life. To achieve success, you need to stop complaining and face your life squarely. I wish you all the best. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 1:23am On Jul 09, 2016 |
freecocoa: you could be right. if only we heard the other side of the story we all would have gotten a clearer view of what's actually on ground. which was why my entire post goes directly to the op and how she can help herself out of this. the brother and his wife will also have their own stories to tell. it's the irony of life, we deal with every challenge as they come and it only makes up stronger. I wish the op the best of luck 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 1:24am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I dnt like insensitive wives honestly,my dad really tried for his siblings,we were just average family o, and all his siblings both single and not well to do married ones comes most times,and my mum will not even raise an eyebrow,wont even sit where they sit to talk,she will do ekale ma up and down and give them correct satisfaction for coming,and yes she bore more than 5 for them and wont complain her husband still care about his siblings freecocoa: 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 1:25am On Jul 09, 2016 |
taryour:Shut up! Can't you understand for one second? Did you even graduate from a university? And I mean from a demanding course? And you graduated with a good degree? Not 2:2 and below. Everyone needs help at one time or another. How far can your independency go? Haven't you ever thought of getting a loan? 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 1:25am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: FINALLY aonther person seeing it exactly from as it should. Thank you sis. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 1:29am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:Damn this liquor strong sha. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 1:29am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Oyimeoyimemua:So she should just get something doing. How long will it take before she gets salary for her urgent need? |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 1:29am On Jul 09, 2016 |
GoodBoi1: ROFLMAO. now give yourself a round of applause. the one and only demanding graduate in the world and with the most demanding course who also came out with first class. Lol. sorry o. when you are done go and rest. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Luckygurl(f): 1:31am On Jul 09, 2016 |
GoodBoi1: 2sexynet: To say I'm surprised is an understatement. Sincerely! Some set of people need an overhaul of how they reason She even had the guts to associate been responsible with been in a relationship with a man who would take care of her. We have a long way to go 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by DICKtator: 1:32am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Was everyone on the first page that responded to the op's issue mentally re.tarded when they read the op initial comment? How can you state she is not entitled to anything from her brother and she should go and work. For Pete's sake, she just requested for a perhaps one-off benefit from her blood brother and you all were ma.s.turb.ating in the first thread? Are all yall m.aad or what? Did you miss when she said that the same bro that said there was no money sent money to his SIL? Family is everything cos they have been with you through thick and thin. ;DShe is a woman and hopefully would soon get married and the "burden" would be lifted from her brother!!!! Please all opening comments on the first page should miss me with the bull crap posted!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 1:33am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:My own mum literally gave her all to my dad's siblings, that's what family does, marriage shouldn't cut you off, it only extends family, not divide them. Sadly many people are too selfish. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Prettiepearlz(f): 1:35am On Jul 09, 2016 |
taryour:Abi wetin person wan talk, opening threads to complain about her brother and the wife isnt what she should be doing right now. Yorubas call that "alaroka". Kilode ahn ahn, Lori kini? I am not disputing the fact that we have manipulative wives (my uncle married one but when she saw that nobody cared, she changed from being bad to good and still we all cared less) but common she needs to buckle up and make herself better for her and the poor little brother. And when she gets married, she should also treat people right cos she has also been there. Simple |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by jojothaiv(m): 1:35am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Cheers... Most of Nairaland family expert are here to help with their beautiful words... As for me, na to just siddon and read.. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by tosinjay(m): 1:36am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal:Sis don't turn it to a Christian and Muslim thing, like you said, no reasonable muslim which means there's possibility of unreasonable ones. It's only an heartless and unChristlike christian that will not think right in this. So abeg leave those aside before some people fish out stories to make you see some muslims who have done worse. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 1:36am On Jul 09, 2016 |
taryour:****clapping**** 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by koboko69: 1:36am On Jul 09, 2016 |
keepingmum: So you even read he/she previous thread and u couldn't see this one is just looking for who will send money to him/her on this forum. Back to the matter; Some people will just open account on NL to extort people. The tone of this OP plus he or she's other threads suggests just that. There are also many inconsistencies in the story. There is always a loop hole for every scammer. You were in 300L just in April when u created a thread. This is July, you are suddenly in Final year looking for sch fees and project money. You are even talking of clearance when u have not even settled project. Lets assume u resumed final year in Jul or may or June, its too early to talk abiut clearance or whatever song u are singing. Appologies if i am wrong! 3 Likes
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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by BumbleBee2ice(f): 1:36am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Hmmm u av spoken well bro |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 1:40am On Jul 09, 2016 |
koboko69: Lobatan!!! |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 1:40am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Yes. My husband and kid come first. My siblings second. It simply means they are the priority when my distributing my income. It's not a way of saying that one group is less than the other in case people are misunderstanding that. You're talking to the brother. But he's not here. I doubt that if he's here anyone will tell him to not help his sister. I know I wouldn't. But since she's the one who's here, she's the one who needs the post that will help her: which is not one revolving around maligning her sister in law. I see such posts as futile. After I tell her that her brother has become whipped, then what? The thread expires and she makes it from my pity posts? And I disagree that he owes her. Parents owe their kids. Not siblings. I know that can easily be misunderstood to say that I think it's okay for siblings not to help each other. I don't think so. I'd actually sacrifice a need of mine (many needs) to help any of my siblings. But the moment they see it as me owing them and have to pay up, it becomes something else. Something I wouldn't like to do. freecocoa: 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Askseek(f): 1:41am On Jul 09, 2016 |
cococandy: You make too much sense for her to understand. Why come up with a solution when we can heap insults on the brother and invoke the dead parents on him. Why think of all other reasons why he was unable to help her out at that moment when nameless and faceless people can join op to heap curses on a young couple. Who knows why the Inlaw needed money or when she asked, how did she even know it was his Inlaw he sent money to from the muffled 1way conversation she had. Too many gaps in the story but it's a story that comes from the "my Inlaw/mother or fathers brother or sister" is being mean to me group of people so most take her at her word and woe betide anyone who questions them or profers a solution. Don't waste your time jare. 10 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 1:41am On Jul 09, 2016 |
taryour:Yea, but then I think sometimes somethings are just obvious if we really look and want to see them. The OP, definitely will have her own issues as a person but that's not the problem here, anyways, I hope she finds what she needs too. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by taryour(f): 1:42am On Jul 09, 2016 |
GoodBoi1: Lol. Good boy, now go and take paracetamol for your headache then lay down and rest. smiles 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by BumbleBee2ice(f): 1:44am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Sis, seems u will be a sis keeper by passing me dat bottle of liquor bcs me don tire already of all dis bickering goin back nd forth, abeg. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by GoodBoi1(m): 1:47am On Jul 09, 2016 |
taryour:Next time think before you post. Peace |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by NUkachukwu: 1:50am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: @poster, I have some questions for you: (1) Kindly explain the meaning of buckle up with regards to your post? (2) Assuming she is willing and ready to work, can she instantly get a job? (3) Perhaps she decides to start a petty trade as a result of not finding a job with ease, can she easily access funds? (4) Putting yourself in the Op's situation, what exactly and I mean PRECISELY would you do to change the situation(perhaps the Op will learn from the solution you profer) Thanks in anticipation for an expected value adding response. 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 1:59am On Jul 09, 2016 |
cococandy:Well, I can't tell you how to distribute your income, so I respect that. What I'm trying to say isn't that your sibling should come yelling that you owe them, that's not it but they can let you know you are, (permit me to use the word) 'jonsing' if you can help them but won't, especially if helping them won't affect your first priority, like you like to call it. You owe her because, she can and should do the same for you, otherwise what makes you family then? In the absence of parents, who comes next? We don't pray nor hope for bad things to happen, but what if you are in a bind and they are they only one that can help you? How would it feel if they say they owe you nothing and therefore can't help? I do get the angle you are coming from, after all, it's not by force to help but then, that blood should further pave way, where normal human kindness would. Btw, I'm not in support of calling the SIL names, even though I can understand wanting to , that's why I said she can't be blamed alone, but fact is, she's not really a nice person and acknowledging that, isn't speaking evil of her, it's calling a spade a spade. A good woman won't cut in like she did, and OP's brother shouldn't be giving his SIL money when he told his sibling he had no money, it's her final year for crying out loud. 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by freecocoa(f): 2:09am On Jul 09, 2016 |
malmo:Get da feck outta here nigga, what you talking about? |
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