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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Tomaxzyn1(m): 10:16am On Jul 09, 2016
Fabulocity:
Exactly, it's an African thing and this is one of the few places we are getting it right
Why do you think there's a great difference between kids brought up here and kids brought up abroad?
The beatings we get here reform us, shape our characters so that we will end up as responsible adults
While over there where beating a child is considered as child abuse, don't you see how useless and disrespectful their children are? Insulting and exchanging words with their parents and even threatening to call the police on them?
So sir, I don't consider beating as esteem destroying. Pls, not everything African is evil or backwards.
Am nt against the beatin concept..u shud read my comment well...
Wen u employ incessant beatings in the discipline of a child ..even up until this age specified by the OP..
Sis..dat is gross child abuse..u seem to forget d child is human who deserves some respect..no mata aw little mehn..
The OP said the guy returned by 7pm to get beaten stil..
Is it nt evident alredi dat d parents av resorted to domestic violence unda d disguise of African Trainin?..
How wud u feel if u hear ur child tel som1 dat d best tin dat apund in his life is leavin ur vicinity??(TRUE STORY)
This is 1 of d reasons som children hardly contact their parents wen dey are out of the ause finally for reasons like marriage.

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Tunechi1(m): 10:17am On Jul 09, 2016
ewizard1:
Not with beating!
true but some resetting slap
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by sammykari99(m): 10:19am On Jul 09, 2016
My parents didn't beat me,I remember when I was 13 I upset my mum and she just hit me with one big comb on my back and that was the last time she hit me,but I had an uncle then who beat me till I was 18 ,this guy just want me to focus in school,don't want to see girls around me,even while in SS3 my females friends can pay me visits not to say bae then because it won't be funny,fast forward to when I was working @22 this uncle was married but still monitor my life,been a sharp guy my babe came visiting one evening,we just gisting at the parlour,this uncle came saw us and was shouting hell loose that am now bringing girls to the house,the babe left out of fear,my reaction n gesture from that day my uncle free me....so it isn't proper for parents to still beat there wards when the are above 18 ...they can seat them down and talk to them but if that child is going astray biko call the community youth to deal with them,some parents go as far as calling the police or army to discipline.

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Mekyno(m): 10:26am On Jul 09, 2016
SANDOSKI post. Wow!....so much lyk d pic. Its pure african village setting. It reminds me of many tins
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 10:29am On Jul 09, 2016
Mekyno:
SANDOSKI post.
Wow!....so much lyk d pic. Its pure african village setting.
It reminds me of many tins

Thanks swidy

Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 10:32am On Jul 09, 2016
Jadonjack:


After yu finish reading the verse 4 of that bible passage, pls kindly open the same bible to proverbs 29 :17 and proverbs 23 :13

How do you expect to have rest if you're still beating a guy of 22+ over coming home by 7pm , he's no more a child for crying out loud... Even the bible knows that with time over-doing this things could result in serious damages, thats why it said dont provoke him to WRATH not ANGER!, you know there's a difference between those two words, right .... What happened to giving him a time frame , or using words to melt his heart .... Our problem is that we love explaining the bible in a way that'll suit us without looking at it from different perspectives so as to really understand what it's saying... peace smiley

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Liverpoolfc(m): 10:37am On Jul 09, 2016
My grandma still hits my mum any time she feel say my mum misyarn or misbehave even my mum send her money. We are forever children to our parents. Just avoid the beating. If they beat you, not go happen. I prefer my parents to beat me even as i am married to curse from them
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Charly68: 10:40am On Jul 09, 2016
If at 22 somebody is still undergoing beating,it is either he or she refuses to grow up or his or her parents are abusive in nature. From age 18 it is abnormal to behave foolishly in Africa

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by ashatoda: 10:44am On Jul 09, 2016
i dnt subscribe to children been rude to their parents bt this guys mum is simply calling for it and the beginning is now as you his friends av knwn and are using it against him, he will be resenting it gradually. What he shld do is inform one of d elders of d family atleast nt all of dem wil av d genes of madness if his mum refuses he shld leave house and if dat is also difficult, den expect him to fight back. If he dnt do dis one of his siblings will do. Though i dnt pray so. Those shouting a child remains a child to his parents dnt knw wat dey are saying beating a guy at 23 u are simply killing d guys self esteem later dem go dey shout witch wen d guy does nt make headway in life

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Mekyno(m): 10:45am On Jul 09, 2016
SANDOSKI:

Thanks swidy
Dear, Na me u dey shake wit black hand gloves?.....lol. U stay in PH?
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by wildguy(m): 10:45am On Jul 09, 2016
Everyone supporting beating an adult as a method of correction should then see nothing wrong in a husband beating his wife as a means of correction.

Domestic violence is domestic violence irrespective of who is dishing it out or who is receiving it.

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 10:46am On Jul 09, 2016
PresVA:
If you behave like a child, you'll be treated like one tongue tongue tongue

Exactly, I wonder why kids who tot dey are grown ups find it difficult to listn to there parents for once...


We all knw no one is immune to being wrong not even our parents, but there is surely a way to make them realise they are wrong without disobeying them

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Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 10:48am On Jul 09, 2016
Tomaxzyn1:

This is one great disadvantage of havin religious fanatics(who call demsefs xtians) as parents..


Its unfortunate bro... God gave us a brain for a reason
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by bapullow: 10:50am On Jul 09, 2016
GloryIsaac:
Where do i start this ??

Well, i and a group of friends headed to a friends house yesterday to talk about certain things ahead of the evening service which was scheduled to hold by 4 pm.... on getting there, we noticed he was always touching a particular part of his head, on enquiry we found out that he got a beating from his mum the previous night because he came back late around 7pm which led to a disagreement between them.... We couldn't hold back the laughter grin, though it didn't last long because it led to an arguement on whether his mum was right to still be beating a nigga who would be clocking 23 or 24 this year (not so sure about his age though, but i know he's past 21) .

I'm fully aware that this niggas parents are strict and are really good at dishing out serious beatings since the days of adam and eve, my dad quit beating me when i clocked 13 so i find it really amusing to see a guy in his early twenties still getting some touches from his mum....
Decided to bring it to NL in order to know you guys opinion on this.....

And at what age did you get your last beating ??

Cc RoyalRoy

If u respect ur mother, she won't beat u
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by edwardaigb: 10:53am On Jul 09, 2016
It's time the mum calm down, i have a seven years old son and prefer talking with him to beating.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 10:55am On Jul 09, 2016
Liverpoolfc:
My grandma still hits my mum any time she feel say my mum misyarn or misbehave even my mum send her money. We are forever children to our parents. Just avoid the beating. If they beat you, not go happen. I prefer my parents to beat me even as i am married to curse from them

No one wants to be cursed by his/her parent, i just believe that using beating as a means of correction at that age isn't right ....

Your grandmum still beats your mum lipsrsealed
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:04am On Jul 09, 2016
bapullow:

If u respect ur mother, she won't beat u
You sure
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:08am On Jul 09, 2016
GloryIsaac:


How do you expect to have rest if you're still beating a guy of 22+ over coming home by 7pm , he's no more a child for crying out loud... Even the bible knows that with time over-doing this things could result in serious damages, thats why it said dont provoke him to WRATH not ANGER!, you know there's a difference between those two words, right .... What happened to giving him a time frame , or using words to melt his heart .... Our problem is that we love explaining the bible in a way that'll suit us without looking at it from different perspectives so as to really understand what it's saying... peace smiley

No mata how crazy a mother is, she will never result to beating her child(no mata how old) every time he/she makes trouble...

My brother, this is nigeria, what makes you think a child that still gets beatn at dat age isn't worth more than beating??!!

Do yu knw how many times he s bn sat dwn to talk to?, do yu knw how many times he s bn warned?!!

Yu stay with yur parents, yu must listn to watever it is they tell you to do unless of course they tell yu to run on a running train railway.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:11am On Jul 09, 2016
nonjebose:
I had one of the strictest fathers, who used every opportunity not to spare the rod while we were children. My mum supported him to an extent in this ministry. But none of them continued in this ministry when we turned 17. He always said at that age we have to decide who we want to become. That helped us a great deal to right, from a position of self determination and responsibility

God bless you brother smiley
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:13am On Jul 09, 2016
SexyStrawberry:
No matter how old u are, u will still remain a child in ur mother's eyes.
But seriously the woman needs to cut him some slacks as our new generation boys are very rebellious, she's lucky to have one who's cool headed.

Story, you are not successful, That is why she is still beating you. Period !

Imagine if Chidinma parents beating her after she won project fame, trust me, They can't.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:16am On Jul 09, 2016
GloryIsaac:



Calm down bro smiley, lets not turn this place into an insults zone, you can bring forth your point without that...

Sorry, I just can't help but dish out that 1st paragraph
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:16am On Jul 09, 2016
Tomaxzyn1:

Exactly what dese kinda parents dunno...
The child only grows to FEAR and probably spite u..not to RESPECT nd love u(as shud be)

Tell them bro, its only a matter of time before he finally takes off never to come back again, how can somebody say The best thing to ever happen in his life is leaving his parents house
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by NevetsIbot(m): 11:17am On Jul 09, 2016
hahahaha.. The only time my dad will touch me is if I do something highly disrespectful.... And that's gonna be boxing time. too big for belt of wire. He draws out his punches and I shield my face... And that's once in a while.....

But mumcee.... Simple thing... I just show her my angry face, she will stop whatever she wants to do. Lol
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:19am On Jul 09, 2016
@ 22 ....wtf i left my parents house @ that age to hustle to build my future.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Rashelany: 11:25am On Jul 09, 2016
Xclusivegrin007:
i don laff tayadcheesy
just imagine

#bet why

Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by 99foxxy(f): 11:28am On Jul 09, 2016
GloryIsaac:


Are you a Nigerian
Free born Nigerian.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:39am On Jul 09, 2016
Jadonjack:


No mata how crazy a mother is, she will never result to beating her child(no mata how old) every time he/she makes trouble...

My brother, this is nigeria, what makes you think a child that still gets beatn at dat age isn't worth more than beating??!!

Do yu knw how many times he s bn sat dwn to talk to?, do yu knw how many times he s bn warned?!!

Yu stay with yur parents, yu must listn to watever it is they tell you to do unless of course they tell yu to run on a running train railway.

Ok bro but i've known this guys parents for a long time and i know fully well that they are strict disciplinarians, his dad has stopped beating though (old age has set in), at that time if you see where his dad is beating him or his senior brother, you'll think he was a senior military officer in NA, i'm talking about 8 to 9 years ago.... why am i referring to this?, if such beatings given to him at such an age then couldn't produce something positive, is it now that the mums own would .... if beating cant change a person by ages 15-17, then another less violent way has to be found.
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:43am On Jul 09, 2016
Rainmaker69:

What sort of comment is this?
Extremely hard to believe, right grin grin
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by seungrin(m): 11:45am On Jul 09, 2016
i wont say its bad, afterall my p man have never set his hand on me right from six years now am eighteen.........the guy should take note of hix actions.......
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by nkemjacob2(m): 11:45am On Jul 09, 2016
D beating continue until sense is restored, age does not matter
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Nobody: 11:50am On Jul 09, 2016
99foxxy:
Free born Nigerian.

And you've never been beating .... i have nothing to say lipsrsealed
Re: Is It Right For A Mother To Keep Beating Her Adult Son At Age 22 ? by Greenbullet(m): 11:51am On Jul 09, 2016
Jadonjack:


You are a disgrace to watever species yu from!


Yu mean yu will be happy to see yur younger sibling hit ur papa or mama while punishing him/her?!!! Ode!!

Even , in more developed countries, the highest you see a child do is call 911 which is also bad but fair
there is a thin line between correction and torture, if u beat a dog too much,it will surely fight back,you ar the real disgrace to accept oppression. this is where corruption starts ,IN THE HOUSE,IF U CANNOT STAND AGAINST OPPRESSION AT HOME HOW CAN YOU DO SO AGAINST A POLICE MAN OR A POLITICAL OFFICE HOLDER.YOU ARE A WEAKLING.

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