Thunderlicious:
Dats not an issue. It can be corrected. Dats not enough reason to not marry her, but the fact dat she has a daughter for u does not mean u should marry her. Don't do something u wud regret for the rest of your life. Marry her ONLY if you love her.

AuroraB:
That War-room is not applicable to Africans, Nigerians especially. Knees fit peel finish and no shange

CACAWA:
jidoski...from all you have said..it's obvious she's using jazz on you.

You won't know.

How can u say she shuts your mum down when advised?

How can you say she replied you with "ok" and you don't know what she meant?

Are you the one paying her fees yet you cannot control her?

Are you the one doing the house chores when she visits?

You dare allow her turn the toilet brown without giving clear cut instructions?

As a graduate ..haba....haba mallam....Jide u fall my hand o.

My only advice is that you should wash your head three times this night before you sleep.

When you wake up...phone her and just drop three instructions as follows:

1. Bathe my daughter three times everyday and send me pics on whatsapp.
2. Help mummy clean the kitchen and/ or bathroom every evening and take pictures.
3. If I don't see changes in your attitude...you will be out of my life forever..and I will have custody of the baby.


Then you give her five minutes to apologise and vow to change. Right there on the phone..no time for excuses...and she dares not give vague answers...

Do that .

SURElee:
When you dey enter the place she no dirty. Now na stupid talk we dey hear for NL. Nonsense, even your spellings tells a lot about you.

dollyjoy:
Shebi you know she is the dirty type before you impregnated her? Nonsense.

ijeshaboy:
That was what I told her yesterday and she said Ok, infact am thinking am finished. I pray she should drop laziness so that life can be meaningful.

Funkybabee:
see u can never change a dirty woman by threats or force because i have some experience about it.!!!!!!my advice for u is to accept ur fate


'GBE agbelebu re to wuwo ti owu WO ma to Jesu leyin!!!??

Pele!!!!!!

but note: u can encourage her, don't force her to change or threaten her because she won't listen.u can start to assist her whenever she is washing things or dress.
when she want to wash cloth sit with her and do it whenever she is dressing ur baby do the same at some points she will change and she will try to do something alone if she is hearing gossip from ur neighbor

don't let it fed u up at last u are going to come here and testify the glory of God in her!!!!!!!!!!!

ijeshaboy:
Pls house, am realy confused, I have a baby mama whom I sponsored in school. She is in her finals now, but she is too dirty, at times she will not bath my baby before taking her to daycare, she do wear dirty cloth for her, and I was also told she do shut my mum down when she corrects her.Inshort, she is dirty, i have talked to her but no changes, am just tired and confused. I love my daughter so well. I don't want to go into polygamy but this one is too hard to bear.

andyanders:


@ Funkybabee, what if they don't have neighbour and she cannot change, must the guy accept his faith?

If now that they are not married and he cannot tolerate her dirty life, I advise him to walk out of the relationship but be ready for the baby's upkeep.

When one marries out of sympathy, it will be hard for them to face life, cus the relationship wasn't based on true love.
When a guy marries a lady because she assisted him financially, it becomes a problem as the lady would come out to challenge the guy by reminding him how and why he is who he is. Likewise a lady that marries a guy because of his assistance towards her but not true love per say.

ijeshaboy:
Pls house, am realy confused, I have a baby mama whom I sponsored in school. She is in her finals now, but she is too dirty, at times she will not bath my baby before taking her to daycare, she do wear dirty cloth for her, and I was also told she do shut my mum down when she corrects her.Inshort, she is dirty, i have talked to her but no changes, am just tired and confused. I love my daughter so well. I don't want to go into polygamy but this one is too hard to bear.

Ishilove:

If you were standing face to face with tearoses, can you say what you have written up there to her face?

Must you troll? The so-called anonymity of the internet doesn't mean we should just type rubbish and disrespect total strangers. It shows illbreeding and crass mannerlessness.

dollyjoy:
Shebi you know she is the dirty type before you impregnated her? Nonsense.

ijeshaboy:
That was what I told her yesterday and she said Ok, infact am thinking am finished. I pray she should drop laziness so that life can be meaningful.

Funkybabee:


although dirty woman is not easy to change but he can give it a try. if u read his story well u will know that he love her,because if he don't he wouldn't come here to said this. so if he can do things I mentioned within 2 weeks even if she don't have neighbors if the man stop to abuse her and help her to do things together he will see a change!!!! because woman have soft heart although we might be stubborn but if a man can cool down and treat his wife well I think it can change her to be submissive the problem we have is that we don't want man to be controlling us every time!!!!!