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Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 2:38pm On Jul 11, 2016
I am in a relationship with a guy for a year now, there used to be a connection when we just started dating, but later there wasn't any connection, i guess its due to the fact that he hardly pays attention to me, and when I need him he's hardly there, although he loves me, but it's just not like how I want it..

In my loneliness and boredomness, I chatted up a ex toaster, we got talking and I realise I have feelings for him, but the problem is, he's a big time player, ohh God, he dates different girls, I don't want to be a number, but my heart won't just stop going towards him, he claims he loves me a lot, but I'm too scared to give him my totality.... what should I do, should I stick with my guy who cares less about me, or go ahead with this player who gives me all the attention?
Re: Confused! by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jul 11, 2016
test dat other guy...let hm have ur punny n c if he stays....if he continues, he loves u
Re: Confused! by Cutehector(m): 2:42pm On Jul 11, 2016
Wen u need him, he is hardly there. Although u love him, but it's not just how u want it.




Please explain to the house how u wanted it.
Re: Confused! by ronald4ever(m): 2:45pm On Jul 11, 2016
Go and fvck the ex player na. I see until you gbensh him your seething testosterone and itchy pussay won't rest. undecided

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Re: Confused! by prinsam30: 2:49pm On Jul 11, 2016
I think the OP knows the answer already to her miseries
Re: Confused! by LuveU2(f): 2:52pm On Jul 11, 2016
JJc
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 2:58pm On Jul 11, 2016
Cutehector:
Wen u need him, he is hardly there. Although u love him, but it's not just how u want it.




Please explain to the house how u wanted it.



Okay, for example my roomie is always at her bf's place, I'll call my bf to come over, at least spend time over, he won't, we dont even do like normal couples do, hes either too busy or it's too sunny for him to come over, and he only comes when he chooses and not when I choose,.I once told him that he's pushing me out, and one day I would, he just laughed over itsad
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 2:59pm On Jul 11, 2016
prinsam30:
I think the OP knows the answer already to her miseries


If I did, I won't be here asking.
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 3:01pm On Jul 11, 2016
nnamdiokere45:
test dat other guy...let hm have ur punny n c if he stays....if he continues, he loves u


So u mean it's only sex that can determine if he loves me or not, can u pls elaborate?
Re: Confused! by Nobody: 3:02pm On Jul 11, 2016
lipsrsealed
Re: Confused! by IamLEGEND1: 3:03pm On Jul 11, 2016
mtcheeeeww!
Re: Confused! by prinsam30: 3:05pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:



If I did, I won't be here asking.


fair enough, I will advice you to dump both of them and Contact me through this email address "mybrainatwork1@gmail.com"


let's have a heart to heart talk and you won't regret ur actions, thank you
Re: Confused! by firstking01(m): 3:10pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:




Okay, for example my roomie is always at her bf's place, I'll call my bf to come over, at least spend time over, he won't, we dont even do like normal couples do, hes either too busy or it's too sunny for him to come over, and he only comes when he chooses and not when I choose,.I once told him that he's pushing me out, and one day I would, he just laughed over itsad
Why are you wasting you precious timw on a guy who doesn't seem to understand that punna hardly comeby these days when we have able bodied men here on nlgrin
Re: Confused! by Cutehector(m): 3:10pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:




Okay, for example my roomie is always at her bf's place, I'll call my bf to come over, at least spend time over, he won't, we dont even do like normal couples do, hes either too busy or it's too sunny for him to come over, and he only comes when he chooses and not when I choose,.I once told him that he's pushing me out, and one day I would, he just laughed over itsad
I value physical communication a lot in relationships and where dat is lacking drastically, then such relationship will b heading for the rocks. Partners should try to create time to spend with themselves which you have been begging from him yet he seems adamant to it.


If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't go out with d odA bad guy just to punish him, wah I would tell him is dat whatever bad dat will happen to the relationship, let him knw at the back of his mind he caused it, not you.


And please don't go out with dat oda assumed player, u don't want a lot of dramas in your life for now. Be patient enough, see to it that you have tried all in ur best to save ur current relationship and if it doesn't work, u di-associate urself and move on.


Pls no rebound relationships after dat. Wait until u find another guy who suits ur kind of person dah will always want to spend quality time with u nonetheless.


Am I clear?
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 3:14pm On Jul 11, 2016
Cutehector:
I value physical communication a lot in relationships and where dat is lacking drastically, then such relationship will b heading for the rocks. Partners should try to create time to spend with themselves which you have been begging from him yet he seems adamant to it.


If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't go out with d odA bad guy just to punish him, wah I would tell him is dat whatever bad dat will happen to the relationship, let him knw at the back of his mind he caused it, not you.


And please don't go out with dat oda assumed player, u don't want a lot of dramas in your life for now. Be patient enough, see to it that you have tried all in ur best to save ur current relationship and if it doesn't work, u di-associate urself and move on.


Pls no rebound relationships after dat. Wait until u find another guy who suits ur kind of person dah will always want to spend quality time with u nonetheless.


Am I clear?


Awwww, tnx so much....u made it so clear n I understand...Thanks a lot for your timesmileysmiley
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 3:15pm On Jul 11, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
mtcheeeeww
!


You again!!
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 3:16pm On Jul 11, 2016
firstking01:
Why are you wasting you precious timw on a guy who doesn't seem to understand that punna hardly comeby these days when we have able bodied men here on nlgrin


Lolgrin
Re: Confused! by Cutehector(m): 3:21pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:



Awwww, tnx so much....u made it so clear n I understand...Thanks a lot for your timesmileysmiley
u welcome
Re: Confused! by IamLEGEND1: 3:25pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:
You again!!
I know u?
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 3:37pm On Jul 11, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
I know u?


Yes o, you insulted my thinking this morning.
Re: Confused! by IamLEGEND1: 4:00pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:

Yes o, you insulted my thinking this morning.
RIGHT! you're the girl with the 'give him sex' comment earlier today.
I remember you now.

So now you're contemplating banging the first thing with a penís that looks ur way.Why? because ur boyfriend isn't showering u with his affections the way u want him to.
Well,Boohoo! cry me a river. I haven't seen u mentioning how u sat him down and had a long conversation about how u felt about ur relationship. It's not like u have to tell him everything u would love if he did,bt u shouldn't remain silent either,acting all docile and shít.

guys are not martians with mind-reading capabilities and neither are they all equally sensitive to ur emotional needs.

it's funny how u people don't realise that this same thing u are come online to post for strangers to read might just steer ur relationship back on the right track if u bared ur soul to ur partner in this way.
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 4:06pm On Jul 11, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
RIGHT! you're the girl with the 'give him sex' comment earlier today.
I remember you now.

So now you're contemplating banging the first thing with a penís that looks ur way.Why? because ur boyfriend isn't showering u with his affections the way u want him to.
Well,Boohoo! cry me a river. I haven't seen u mentioning how u sat him down and had a long conversation about how u felt about ur relationship. It's not like u have to tell him everything u would love if he did,bt u shouldn't remain silent either,acting all docile and shít.

guys are not martians with mind-reading capabilities and neither are they all equally sensitive to ur emotional needs.

it's funny how u people don't realise that this same thing u are come online to post for strangers to read might just steer ur relationship back on the right track if u bared ur soul to ur partner in this way.






Hmmmm, you're right you know, but one thing u should have asked me is how many times have I sat him down to complain? ....I always sit him down, we talk, I tell him my pains, but all he tells me is how he's different from other guys, how he can't displease himself, how he loves me, but he's just not into spending time laughing and chatting with each other, im tired of trying, im tired of trying to make him realise that im tired, I always tell but he always fails to listensad
Re: Confused! by firstking01(m): 4:18pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:


Lolgrin
I'm serious.
Re: Confused! by firstking01(m): 4:19pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:


Lolgrin
I'm serious.
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 4:24pm On Jul 11, 2016
firstking01:
I'm serious.



Awwww, Lol...but I don't think I'd wanna date anyone from nairaland.
Re: Confused! by Fmartin(m): 4:39pm On Jul 11, 2016
Cutehector:
Wen u need him, he is hardly there. Although u love him, but it's not just how u want it.




Please explain to the house how u wanted it.
that explains op's love for s3x rather than goin for her heart
Re: Confused! by jejemanito: 4:41pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess post=47432042I:
am in a relationship with a guy for a year now, there used to be a connection when we just started dating, but later there wasn't any connection, i guess its due to the fact that he hardly pays attention to me, and when I need him he's hardly there, although he loves me, but it's just not like how I want it..

In my loneliness and boredomness, I chatted up a ex toaster, we got talking and I realise I have feelings for him, but the problem is, he's a big time player, ohh God, he dates different girls, I don't want to be a number, but my heart won't just stop going towards him, he claims he loves me a lot, but I'm too scared to give him my totality.... what should I do, should I stick with my guy who cares less about me, or go ahead with this player who gives me all the attention?
You Have A Boyfriend Who Is Finding It Difficult To Be Available All The Time Instead Of Finding A Solution To The Above Problem, You're Fantisizing About An Ex

My Gawd!
Re: Confused! by IamLEGEND1: 4:48pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:

Hmmmm, you're right you know, but one thing u should have asked me is how many times have I sat him down to complain? ....I always sit him down, we talk, I tell him my pains, but all he tells me is how he's different from other guys, how he can't displease himself, how he loves me, but he's just not into spending time laughing and chatting with each other, im tired of trying, im tired of trying to make him realise that im tired, I always tell but he always fails to listensad
U should have mentioned that earlier.
I think ur next step is pretty obvious-u two are not exactly a healthy match,so u bin the nígga & move on.
A relationship is many things,but in the end,it's about looking at ur other half and thinking "damn,this person loves me". Not necessarily because he voiced it out, but because deep down,u know that beneath all his bravado and beside those moments u feel like burning his dick off with a blowtorch...... u know that when push comes to shove, this person would do anything...would be anything,just to put a smile on ur face.
If u can not say the same for ur so-called 'boyfriend'. Then I suggest u just go bang ur ex and get it over with.
No be by force to date na.
+ See my bosses smellymouth & Airsultan dey find wives since.

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Re: Confused! by oodua1stson: 5:03pm On Jul 11, 2016
ronald4ever:
Go and fvck the ex player na. I see until you gbensh him your seething testosterone and itchy pussay won't rest. undecided
you, sir fxcking nailed it
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 5:17pm On Jul 11, 2016
IamLEGEND1:
U should have mentioned that earlier.
I think ur next step is pretty obvious-u two are not exactly a healthy match,so u bin the nígga & move on.
A relationship is many things,but in the end,it's about looking at ur other half and thinking "damn,this person loves me". Not necessarily because he voiced it out, but because deep down,u know that beneath all his bravado and beside those moments u feel like burning his dick off with a blowtorch...... u know that when push comes to shove, this person would do anything...would be anything,just to put a smile on ur face.
If u can not say the same for ur so-called 'boyfriend'. Then I suggest u just go bang ur ex and get it over with.
No be by force to date na.
+ See my bosses smellymouth & Airsultan dey find wives since.


Wao, Thanks a lot, I really appreciate.....


Lol, smellymouth Don get wife o, no let sandoski hear o.
Re: Confused! by fairygodgodess(f): 5:19pm On Jul 11, 2016
jejemanito:
You Have A Boyfriend Who Is Finding It Difficult To Be Available All The Time Instead Of Finding A Solution To The Above Problem, You're Fantisizing About An Ex

My Gawd!


A toaster(ex) and not my ex boyfriend...

What more solution should I find when he doesn't think we have any problem.
Re: Confused! by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jul 11, 2016
fairygodgodess:



Wao, Thanks a lot, I really appreciate.....


Lol, smellymouth Don get wife o, no let sandoski hear o.

Bestie no mind dat guygrin

IamLegend1 no make me jump inside well...sad

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