slyIsaac:
what canai say... it toughened me up.... got me to know it aint a pretty world out there.....

i'll advice a parent not to help his kid fight back... but teach him to fight back .....................the right way.










dont ask me the right way cos ion know..... left for i'll kick the bully in nuts

My nigga ... Truth is, most kids cant fight back so they have to either speak up or live with it, thats why most of this foreign kids end up being depressed or worse, commit suicide .

Btw, whats the right way b'cos by kicking him in the nuts, you've officially signed your death certificate by yourself

Kenneth205:

general111:
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Cutehector:
I bumped into one of my bullies weeks back.





We exchanged pleasantries.




Meeting your bullies makes u regret the kid u were back then. It just reminds u of ur past.

Woah!, exchanged pleasantries ... My uncle once told me of his classmate who joined MOPOL in order to get back at one of his bullies, that should be 10-15 years from his sec. school days.... he later found the guy but the bully was already living a miserable life so he left him to continue in his misery....

GloryIsaac:


Woah!, exchanged pleasantries ... My uncle once told me of his classmate who joined MOPOL in order to get back at one of his bullies, that should be 10-15 years from his sec. school days.... he later found the guy but the bully was already living a miserable life so he left him to continue in his misery....

Mindfulness:
1. Never speak to the bully's parents unless you know them very well and can predict their reaction. The conflict may quickly be taken to a new level, parental level and make life more difficult for everyone, including the teachers.

2. Talk to teachers first. If you feel that they are not caring, talk to the headmaster but first to the class teacher.

3. If your brother says that he is not being bullied, tell him your story and let him know that you are there if he needs you and that you know what to do if he needs help. Build trust.

4. Don't confront the alleged bullies without his consent. You may be projecting your fears and confront the wrong ones and thus create a problem that wasn't there in the first place. And you will make him trust you less if you do something behind his back.

5. Having in mind that your brother now knows that he can count on you, trust that he will find his way just like you did. It made you stronger. And he is better off than you were because you have reassured him of your support which you didn't have.

Thanks for this amazing contribution bro, but the problem is...The teachers keep saying they'll look into it, but I'm not seeing any assuring move being made by them.... To make things worse, my brother is a very soft person and that kind of pisses me off, he cries over matters that i dont think a guy should (he's still young though), i've tried talking him into saying if there's a bully disturbing him but he just says there's none and i keep seeing signs that he's being bullied...wtf.... i really dont know but if it continues like this, then he'll have to find a way out by himself just like i did.
But how do we tackle bullying in general so others dont suffer the same fate

GloryIsaac:


Thanks for this amazing contribution bro, but the problem is...The teachers keep saying they'll look into it, but I'm not seeing any assuring move being made by them.... To make things worse, my brother is a very soft person and that kind of pisses me off, he cries over matters that i dont think a guy should (he's still young though), i've tried talking him into saying if there's a bully disturbing him but he just says there's none and i keep seeing signs that he's being bullied...wtf.... i really dont know but if it continues like this, then he'll have to find a way out by himself just like i did.
But how do we tackle bullying in general so others dont suffer the same fate

Mindfulness:


I am a sis.

You are in the best position to tell how.

I think talking to your brother is the best you can do. Don't be harsh on him. Make him trust you and let him know your story and that he can count on you. He will ask for help if the pressure becomes too much for him but don't force anything. Have some faith in him, it will make him confident. Don't be overprotective.

I remember the time when I was in primary school. There was this boy who was very violent and everyone was scared of him (he ended up in jail later). One day he threatened to beat me up. He came after me and I was faster than a super jet. I came home and told my father about it. My dad went after this boy. From this day on, the boy declared himself to protect me if needed.

Oops, My bad ...

You see, exactly what i'm saying, your dad dealt with the boy by himself and not some 'teacher help me' stuff and it gave him the result he wanted.. this just makes me think beating the bully up will end this issue ....

And you know why i ended my story with 'The hunter became the hunted'
B'cos the bullies didn't just run away at the sight of a built body and all that stuff, i had to beat sense into them to acknowlegde that there has been a change of power....... So does that now mean that violence is the only way out ... Besides, by the time you start encouraging victims to hit the gym, you start hearing all those '6 cars, 6 packs' bullsh!t ... and you dont expect a JS1 boy to hit the gym, right ?

mrwonlasewonie:
Was a victim I secondary school too just like you and so I had a school mother but she only protected me temporarily but as soon as she graduated the bullying became worse because I was in jss3.the protection was only from jss1-jss2.when I got to jss3 had another school father and also told him about the bullying then he introduced me into weed.the weed made me very high bold and happy. Everyone suddenly became ants.when the bullies came again to try me thinking I was still the same person I can't even explain the boldness I had that made me put knife inside my school bag because I knew I will face them

As soon as they started calling me names and taunting me my face became something else.they looked so tiny before me and then I brought out knife in class everyone ran because they saw another different person in me.one wanted to try me and of course i attacked her with the knife on her arm's,her screaming attracted the teachers attention .I was given suspension for a week and then called back. Mumsi dealt with me at home and was upset that I couldn't confide in her but as soon as I resumed school that was the end of bullying for me. My motto became bully the bully.violence ends violence, violence ends verbal assaults and that's why I am pro jungle justice

Introduced you into weed , But this is exactly what i'm saying, why must violence be the only escape plan?, isn't there another way of ending it without violence , i dont support JJ though, just that NPF makes it look like the best option .

GloryIsaac:


Introduced you into weed , But this is exactly what i'm saying, why must violence be the only escape plan?, isn't there another way of ending it without violence , i dont support JJ though, just that NPF makes it look like the best option .

slyIsaac:
what canai say... it toughened me up.... got me to know it aint a pretty world out there.....

i'll advice a parent not to help his kid fight back... but teach him to fight back .....................the right way.










dont ask me the right way cos ion know..... left for i'll kick the bully in nuts

mrwonlasewonie:
yes because he was in ss3 and iF he graduates who will protect me because I can't keep trusting in people or looking for protection in people all the time. So a once timid little girl became an aggressor.

Solution is confide in him share your own story and help him admit that he's a victim of bullying. He may be ashamed of admitting it.however I still stand on my words that violence for violence brings peace

You're female .. cant believe you could bring knife to school Well, from the different experiences of people here, it seems violence is the only way out.. smh...

GloryIsaac:


Oops, My bad ...

You see, exactly what i'm saying, your dad dealt with the boy by himself and not some 'teacher help me' stuff and it gave him the result he wanted.. this just makes me think beating the bully up will end this issue ....

And you know why i ended my story with 'The hunter became the hunted'
B'cos the bullies didn't just run away at the sight of a built body and all that stuff, i had to beat sense into them to acknowlegde that there has been a change of power....... So does that now mean that violence is the only way out ... Besides, by the time you start encouraging victims to hit the gym, you start hearing all those '6 cars, 6 packs' bullsh!t ... and you dont expect a JS1 boy to hit the gym, right ?

Mindfulness:


My father was asked to help and my father didn't beat up the boy but scared him. It was enough to stay away from me but it didn't stop him to bully others.

Hmm, i think i'll do same thing your dad did, only problem is junior bro doesn't want to open up ... smh..
Btw, Will love it if you vote Vizkiz in the upcoming Mr NL contest, Can you do that for me? ...

GloryIsaac:


You're female .. cant believe you could bring knife to school Well, from the different experiences of people here, it seems violence is the only way out.. smh...

mrwonlasewonie:
yes o.because crying, sulking, cringing etc will not solve anything. Violence for violence will.there's Even an addage that says war brings peace. There are bullies every where not only in secondary schools. There are bullies in every stage and facet of your life.Even at work there are bullies so secondary school is the best training ground to devise you own defence mechanism from bullies and once you can get them off your back at that stage when you get to university work environment etc you'll know how to deal with them.

I don't believe in involving parents. They will just deal with it at the surface level and when they go the bullying will still continue. More so tjey cannot follow you to work or university so why involve them.

As per the knife yes o I brought it to school and hid it inside MY bag in between my note book

Even the bible said the violent taketh it by force
bullies don't care about how sad you feel,they only derive pleasure in seeing you miserable
tears don't move them and they have no mercy hence violence begeth violence. When violence meets violence trust me peace will reign

Woah!, you're not changing your stance on this i'm patiently gonn' wait until my bro opens up, then we'll tackle the issue since people here dont think i should act behind his back .... Dont forget to vote Vizkiz shaa

Neverquit:
GloryIsaac, if he does not confide in you, sign him up for martial arts or enroll him in a gym/boxing ring.

The above suggestions will help in building and boosting his self esteem and confidence.

Woah! , you dont expect a JS1 start gyming at this stage, right?

spawnx:
You can teach your ward some form of martial arts. Martial arts trains the body and mind.

He's my bro, and i dont even know Martial Arts not to mention teaching someone else, and he's in JS1

Nyceguy92:
Apart from name calling, taunting, and physical rough-handling, I regard deprivation also as bullying.
Or what do you think of some senior students or a few bad boys in the dormitory depending on junior students' beverages and other personal possessions.
Refusal to bring your tea, milk, sugar, etc attracts punishment, usually kneeling down in his/her corner, or get under the bed.

It is difficult to do, but if the child can ignore the name calling and taunting, that's best solution because the bullying stops if it does not produce the desired effect.
Seriously, the house masters, teachers, principals, headmasters , and the PTA all have a big role to play in stopping the bullying.
This is especially if they act on every reported case, investigate and punish accordingly, including expulsion.

After everything, the best thing to do to minimise the effect of bullying is to prepare the child's mind in a way that does not scare or raise fear.
Tell him or her what happens (not to every child, anyway) and when and who to report if it becomes persistent or aggravated.

Parents should also go to the school, if need be, to "chat" with the school authority.
Give a stern warning if you can against further molestation.

GloryIsaac:


Woah!, you're not changing your stance on this i'm patiently gonn' wait until my bro opens up, then we'll tackle the issue since people here dont think i should act behind his back .... Dont forget to vote Vizkiz shaa

GloryIsaac:


You speak like one who went through the boarding school, Kudos, not easy at all....
The problem is, those who are meant to tackle it are not doing so and it's worrisome, thats why most people bring up violence as the only option available

GloryIsaac:


Woah! , you dont expect a JS1 start gyming at this stage, right?