I have this issue that i have been pondering on for sometime now, and the more i think about it, the more i get confused.

Its about this man my fiancee always call's her uncle, she said that this man is a relation to her grandma and honestly, this particular man is the one sponsoring her education since both parents are divorced.

My problem is this, everytime this man is in town, she goes over to his house to clean up, and will spend the night over there as well, and this man has never for once visited with his wife. Secondly whenever this man calls her on phone, and she happens to be anywhere expect her house or in school, he will start accusing her of sleeping around, something i am suspecting might be a 'lover's jelousy' than a mere concern for her well being. I might be wrong in my suspecions but i cant just bring my mind to rest when he stoped paying her school fees for a while when it was reported to him that she was caught coming from a guys house by a friend. I knew that day in particular , cause i was escorting her when she bumped into someone she remarked as her uncle's bossom friend, it took the intervention of her mother and sister to placate him.
I was shoked one day when she remarked that if you dont know well, you might think that they where dating, and futher said that his wife might be suspecting them atimes. I was thinking, what must be running through her mind for saying all these? I have seen her selfies in this uncles apartment and most of the pictures are not so "funny" as what she wears around the house.

Now today, the man is around and as usual she will be up there cleaning and stuff, but what is worrying me this night is the " swtheart,my husband good nite" sms i got from her after all the missed call i gave her earlier tonight. Its unlike her, cause we never fail to call eachother and say our goodnights every night.
I replied her asking if shes spending the night in her uncle's house which she did not reply.
I dont know how to confront her on this, about my fears and suspicions.
Your advice is kindly needed, as the imaginations alone is giving me sleeples night.

Above is the sms of tonite that futher roused my suspicions.

Guy wake up & face ur fears ooh... U better let her know ur mind before it gets out of hand.

Shït happens in this so-called country of ours.

gabinogem:
Guy wake up & face ur fears ooh... U better let her know ur mind before it gets out of hand.

Shït happens in this so-called country of ours.

currently iam awake and thinking seriously about this, this is a woman am about paying her bride price in few months time.

Investigate on ur own or hire someone to do it for you

He is an ARISTOcrat uncle.

BlackMystery:
Investigate on ur own or hire someone to do it for you

thanks for ur advice

Op, they are sleeping with each other! It's so obvious unless if one is deaf and blind.


Don't let her take you for a ride.

Randyhot:
currently iam awake and thinking seriously about this, this is a woman am about paying her bride price in few months time.

hmmm... Imagine u find out ur fears is the truth about her having affair with her uncle & u are already married to her... What will u do by then?

But I thought you were a sharp babe. The right answer to all your wonderings was right in front of you the whole time.
Of course they are hitting it off the whole time.@

No 2 ways about it. This man is dating ur girl. Are u really sure if dis man is her Uncle? U have to do a research on dis. Be dat as it may, It is unfortunate dat u can't stop ur girl from going to his house anytym he comes home, cos if u do, u can't sponsor ur girl. But is dis d kind of life u want to live? What baffles me is dat ur girl do spend d night there. If I were u my broda, but am not u, I would not mind ending dis relationship. What a world we live in

gals and lie be like

Do you really want to hear the truth? Lol.
He is sure screwing your 'wife' and she ain't hiding it anymore cos you fell for the fake uncle story already...
Wake up and quit that shit bro.

You've been played for too long!

He be like say your story true , so i go try talk sense this tym ... Now, Sheybi u are fukcing her too?... That aside, Guy man, if you know u can't handle the bills this her uncle is bearing better dey your lane and dey enjoy life as it comes. Don't complicate a complicated issue for yourself. From all indications yo still an hustling Nigga. If u know how to play your games right this 'uncle' can be helpful... Don't goan love up oh, its not good for your health, Na ladies dey love, Na brains niggaass dey get. Noff said

Bro....the man is not her uncle...he's her sugar daddy.Have you ever once...just once heard her call him Uncle Whatever? ....and she may be telling the truth when she says she's going over to clean up... but I don't think that u want to know clean up what. You know the deal...but just in denial. My advice to you... consider yourself lucky you didn't marry first and find this out after. Keep your bride price for someone deserving.... be warned....she would always have explanations. .. believe none. Drop her...cut your losses... move on.

Don't let one girl make you have BP o. Abeg, tear her red card now before you later regret, she wants to eat her cake and have it. The truth is she might and will want to marry you and even introduce you to her people but she doesn't want to loose you and she wants to keep her uncle going. My fears is if after everything and you married her, will she stop? Definitely No!...
Similar thing is what I had with my ex, I couldn't just stay and listen to her lies while I have facts to prove.. Abeg, let go..

@op... the only reason I will write is because you said you want to marry her... my friend if you marry this gal "it is finished". Just be doing ur thing with her while u get ur self a loyal chic.

From experiencee brother, Any relationship that cause you sleepless night or worried to the point of coming online and seeking for advise to me such relationship is not healthy and no total commitment and happiness......One how old are you and how old is your girllfriend that the said uncle do not want to see anyone around her, my advice for you sir, i do nt know what you do for leaving but please be more focused on your carrer or whatever things that u do , its very unfurtunate that these days no one want to settle , I donnt want to judge you but the truth is if you are very okay and stand as a man, she will be the one to worry about you......in conclusion put more energy to whatever that will command respect for you and you will see..........

tho i didn't read what you wrote well.. but next time the uncle is around tell your girlfriend that you want to pay him a visit just to thank him for all he has been doing .....

Randyhot:
currently iam awake and thinking seriously about this, this is a woman am about paying her bride price in few months time.

If you plan to pay her dowry few months to come, why can't you start shoulder her responsibilities,these will give you an edge and will make you have full control of her actions and inactions . He who blows the pipe dictates the tunes .

Besides, FIANCEE and not GF that you want to marry FEW MONTHS to come would be coming from your house and her uncle would be shouting on her that she is too flirt?
FIANCEE you want to marry soonest that you have not known her "father figure" (uncle) yet? Even though both of you stay in the same town.

Your story is curve...

Randyhot:
I have this issue that i have been pondering on for sometime now, and the more i think about it, the more i get confused.

Its about this man my fiancee always call's her uncle, she said that this man is a relation to her grandma and honestly, this particular man is the one sponsoring her education since both parents are divorced.

My problem is this, everytime this man is in town, she goes over to his house to clean up, and will spend the night over there as well, and this man has never for once visited with his wife. Secondly whenever this man calls her on phone, and she happens to be anywhere expect her house or in school, he will start accusing her of sleeping around, something i am suspecting might be a 'lover's jelousy' than a mere concern for her well being. I might be wrong in my suspecions but i cant just bring my mind to rest when he stoped paying her school fees for a while when it was reported to him that she was caught coming from a guys house by a friend. I knew that day in particular , cause i was escorting her when she bumped into someone she remarked as her uncle's bossom friend, it took the intervention of her mother and sister to placate him.
I was shoked one day when she remarked that if you dont know well, you might think that they where dating, and futher said that his wife might be suspecting them atimes. I was thinking, what must be running through her mind for saying all these? I have seen her selfies in this uncles apartment and most of the pictures are not so "funny" as what she wears around the house.

Now today, the man is around and as usual she will be up there cleaning and stuff, but what is worrying me this night is the " swtheart,my husband good nite" sms i got from her after all the missed call i gave her earlier tonight. Its unlike her, cause we never fail to call eachother and say our goodnights every night.
I replied her asking if shes spending the night in her uncle's house which she did not reply.
I dont know how to confront her on this, about my fears and suspicions.
Your advice is kindly needed, as the imaginations alone is giving me sleeples night.

When trust is in short supply, and neither party is making effort to get closure on the mistrust, then it's time to say good bye. Your girlfriend or fiancee is being economical with the truth. You also haven't been truthful... If you say you can't gauge her finances and other signs that would indicate her true disposition, then you don't have a relationship. It might be considered smart to fool others, but it is the greatest foolishness of all to fool yourself. Tell yourself the truth and have closure.

Wish you luck!!

It's best you confront her now and end things amicably... from your post, i can evidently deduce that she's been playing you for long now, and you've fallen so deep for it, but you're having a reflection.


Bro, this simply means it's time to move on. That reflection you're having now is for your own good...

If you still hold on to this relationship, i am sorry to say, i see your life in great peril...



My 2cents

bros I dont tink its healthy for her to always sleep in her uncle's house and scared to the extent of not introducing him to u since u will marry her in few months. but if u want to be sincere with yourself talk with her and explain how u feel over dinner or lunch. if she breaks out move on, if she keep calm watch her, she will open up.. but dont let ur emotion overcloud u..

even the blind knows she is bleeping that man

That was how Mrs B was bringing her supposed uncle to her husband's house, the husband would treat him like a real inlaw. It got to a point, the wife decided to divorce her husband despite having 3 kids o, d poor husband was cheated.
Guess what? The wife just gave birth this month for her 'UNCLE'.

Nawa o and she's already your fiancé. Too bad

Guy, You should be smarter than this na.
From all you wrote, It's very clear that your girl is messing around with that man. That man is also not his uncle.

Modified


simply install Call recorder pro system in her fone... its N900 in playstore. it has 'hidden feature' which means u can hide it after installation and she won't know somtin like dat is in her fone. leave it for at least one week, it will do d work for u...
But whatever happen next, u're on ur own.... The app have succeeded in destroying two of my friend's relationship..


Quote me if u're interested lemme giv u d name

I am glad I am blunt and not afraid to express myself anytime.

Op, you shouldn't even be with someone if you're so afraid to ask em questions about something that is bothering you, number one!

Number two, what Uncle? (Who should be playing the role of a father) Wouldn't want his daughter to be engaged and get married in the nearest future?

Number three, what Uncle doesn't realise she is a grown woman and has every right to have a boyfriend if she even has plans of marriage in the future. Her Uncle should even encourage her and meet her "serious" boyfriend, giving him rules and asking him to treat her right because she is his daughter.

Op, your suspicious are sensible. I am equally convinced she is having a sexual relationship with her Uncle.

Ask her the questions and tell her, you will not be able to cope. Somehow, you're going to have to threaten to leave her if she doesn't stop and realise threatening to leave her means you will propose to be paying her bills ( at least the bills her Uncle pays-which clearly keeps her indebted to him because he is a dirty sick man).

Try that, if she agrees to stop it and even start avoiding her uncle. Please, seriously pay her bills and allow her focus on just you. If she gets mad and doesn't even give you a sensible explanation, prepare yourself for a break up. Because even after you marry her, she will continue fucking her Uncle and might possibly Bleep your own Uncle too.

Bonjour.