Well, it's not really a problem but it's a problem. I really don't know what to call the subject so I called it that.

Now, the thing is I see every lady(girl) as either way to old or way too young, this has been my issue for a while now.
Let me explain my history so you can understand what I'm going through:

I'm a 23years old guy, who is already working (with Bsc), while I was in school (university), all the ladies I dated were older than I was, even NYSC was worst, as the corpers I dated were far older. I hide my age up and down.

Now that I'm working, it's a different case entirely as we all know our age in my place of work, and looking out for ladies in my new area, I perceive most of the ladies as either underage or too old to date my age.

Please help me out.
Mature comment pls
Thanks a lot in advance

I was in your shoes. I only related to ladies way older than me. and ladies who were more than 2 years younger seemed underaged.
I discovered it was because I grew up really quickly, (both physically and mentally), and at various times, what went through my head was different from that of my peers.
in relationships, you end up hurting people for no cause. when they try to get more serious, you escape (knowing that because of your real age you cant keep the pace of their involvement) thereby, breaking hearts.
HOW TO OVERCOME IT.
First, tell yourself the truth about what you need in a relationship. whether yo want to be serious or you just want to flirt.
Second, come up straight. Tell the lady your age... I know you fear that most of them would run away (call you a small boy), but its more satisfying when you have nothing to hide.
Third, be ready to take shit. having dated older girls, you'd find younger girls stubborn, disrespectful and unnecessarily difficult. (that's the real lady's world).

PEPPERified:
I was in your shoes.

So how were you able to pull the dem shoe off??

^ I hope when you removed the shoe you had socks on?


OP, I am sorry, but I have to say this. You have crafted an imaginary woman in your subconscious wish makes you see every other woman below your taste. The only solution I have for you is getting a lady you are younger than with the gap of two and forget the age issue you have in your mind.

So, are you tryna tell me that you can date a girl of 20-21??

You really need help like seriously, there is radio program every Mon-Friday (102.3fm) Time 6:10pm to 7pm with IBK and Moses talk to dem am sure u will get ur answers there.

happyjuliet:
You really need help like seriously, there is radio program every Mon-Friday (102.3fm) Time 6:10pm to 7pm with IBK and Moses talk to dem am sure u will get ur answers there.

Do you know that not everybody listen to radio, if at all he's a radio guy, you have not done enough justice.

You put the radio frequency without the location of the radio station. I hope you know not everybody resides where you live?

firstking01:
So, are you tryna tell me that you can date a girl of 20-21??

The thing is I find it difficult to accurately assume a girls age

happyjuliet:
You really need help like seriously, there is radio program every Mon-Friday (102.3fm) Time 6:10pm to 7pm with IBK and Moses talk to dem am sure u will get ur answers there.

I'm not really a fan of radio, I find it very boring.
Thank you tho for the contribution

ambidextrous:


The thing is I find it difficult to accurately assume a girls age

Hmmm, so, hw do you get to knw the one you dated in the past are older than you according to ur post??

well.... Ive never dated a younger girl... I just enjoy myself and hide my age. No big deal

firstking01:
Hmmm, so, hw do you get to knw the one you dated in the past are older than you according to ur post??

That's obvious, after we start dating, private matters become known like waec result, the girl's little brother's age, school I'd card, etc.
For instance, my lady of NYSC, I got to know about how old she is when she gave me the wedding card of her smallest sister who is also a graduate.

NevetsIbot:
well.... Ive never dated a younger girl... I just enjoy myself and hide my age. No big deal

But the things, I now (after NYSC) find it difficult to approach a lady I facially feel is way older than me. School and NYSC made things easier then, since you all feel you are in the same level, but now that there is no "group" "class"-level , I feel i'm thrown into the sea looking for pin.

ambidextrous:

But the things, I now (after NYSC) find it difficult to approach a lady I facially feel is way older than me. School and NYSC made things easier then, since you all feel you are in the same level, but now that there is no "group" "class"-level , I feel i'm thrown into the sea looking for pin.

i suggest you dive in at being just friends first... Get to know her age before going for a relationship. Many girls who are young look older than their age... So... You can't guess for sure what their age is. Just let em know your real age. Whoever will stay in your life will stay. You have a choice tho

NevetsIbot:
i suggest you dive in at being just friends first... Get to know her age before going for a relationship. Many girls who are young look older than their age... So... You can't guess for sure what their age is. Just let em know your real age. Whoever will stay in your life will stay. You have a choice tho

Thanks, this really help

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I'm not really a fan of radio, I find it very boring.
Thank you tho for the contribution[/quo


his not necessary u talk to dem on air naa dey can have a little chat abt d program or u send dem a text

ambidextrous:
Thanks, this really help

you're welcome bro.