KingCheezyPuff:
you missing 2 of yer ladies maxi112 and najikomassa
or how do i spell it?

IamLEGEND1:

if they were just termed slùts,then they got off easy. they should be thrown in jail for public indecency.
you expect to proudly walk around town topless,in full view of kids too young to be exposed to sexual situations and expect no backlash?
Show me a guy who was allowed to walk down the street with his penis hanging out and then I'll agree with u on the "double standards" you've been harping on about.

THIS is EXACTLY how I view going topless and why i oppose the topless movement
.........❤minus that that 1st sentence though

IamLEGEND1:

if they were just termed slùts,then they got off easy. they should be thrown in jail for public indecency.
you expect to proudly walk around town topless,in full view of kids too young to be exposed to sexual situations and expect no backlash?
Show me a guy who was allowed to walk down the street with his penis hanging out and then I'll agree with u on the "double standards" you've been harping on about.

Jarizod:
Iamlegend has said it all

Boss!

IamLEGEND1:
Those two are on maternity leave.

what!!? How?!
..... I used protection so this wouldn't happen!

KingCheezyPuff:
We're saying the same thing..... We've been saying the same thing.
Only you say wear what you want and make men behave.
.........❤not gon happen.
.....❤The realty is we can no more control a man's perceptions than we can a women's right 2 choose what she wears.
.........
...❤you don't like how some men veiw this matter? Ignore those particular males.

Jarizod:
Iamlegend has said it all

Boss!
#Salutes

foolinlove:


I'm not seeking your acceptance. I'm seeking to be treated like a human. Free from your unfair judgements based on my gender.

I'm seeking for you to leave women alone and stop telling them what to do in order to please you.

Suspectzero:
You think you are a feminist warrior regurgitating things you picked up in western media. Men and Women have never been treated the same and they never will especially in regards to sex. Because we are very different. I support everyone having equal rights but that's where it ends. You can't fight against nature. You are fighting a cause that is not practical. You will be a sad and unhappy person if you continue this way.

Do you know one thing I noticed about radical feminists in the West? It is that they are usually unattractive women who use feminism as a means of getting back at men who rejected them. The attractive women hardly bother with feminism because they know how good they have it the perks their gender and sexuality gives them.

Women want to be seen as sexual objects no matter how much some of them deny it. Why do they wear these tight, body hugging dresses, face full of makeup if it's not to attract the opposite gender? Pay attention to what a woman does and not what she says because there lies her true intentions.

foolinlove:


And females who think the same way.

This is a problem that is far deeper than just what you wear. It is representative of patriarchy and all poor attitudes to women.

No matter what a woman does, it is wrong. Don't pay for a date - selfish bitch. Pay for a date - trying to be a man. Have sex - slvt. Don't have sex - prude. There is no middle ground for perceptions of women to exist as individual humans as men do.

Someone has to fight for our rights. It's ok, I'll do it. I'm not afraid of people disliking me.

Oahray:
thank you. Make dem dey there dey play victim.

It's funny anyone would think other people's opinion can put holes in their favourite skimpy dresses. The freedom to criticize is a big part of the free world we desire. If they care so much what people think, dem never ready to bare chest.

neocortex:


Firstly, if you are being abused or controlled, please run for your life
and if you feared you might be followed , you may get a
restraining order against those telling you what to do.

But if no one is pointing a gun to your head then this your
comment is baseless.

Who is a human if I may ask ?

You want to be free to do whatever you want but you do not want others to think
about what you do.

Every human(both male and female) action attracts judgement, that
is the fact of life and those who wish to achieve success will not
prioritise stopping people from judging them, rather they focus on achieving
their goals.

But if you don't want to be judged, stop interacting with humans simple,
get pets as friend and break up all your relationships with those who judge you.
It is human to judge be it loud or silent, ever since the evolution of humans into
a thinking being, it is impossible to stop it from having an opinion, the genie is
out of the bottle, it can't be caged.

IamLEGEND1:
Boss!
#Salutes

my personal padi..I hail

Suspectzero:
You think you are a feminist warrior regurgitating things you picked up in western media. Men and Women have never been treated the same and they never will especially in regards to sex. Because we are very different. I support everyone having equal rights but that's where it ends. You can't fight against nature. You are fighting a cause that is not practical. You will be a sad and unhappy person if you continue this way.

Do you know one thing I noticed about radical feminists in the West? It is that they are usually unattractive women who use feminism as a means of getting back at men who rejected them. The attractive women hardly bother with feminism because they know how good they have it the perks their gender and sexuality gives them.

Women want to be seen as sexual objects no matter how much some of them deny it. Why do they wear these tight, body hugging dresses, face full of makeup if it's not to attract the opposite gender? Pay attention to what a woman does and not what she says because there lies her true intentions.

Wrong. I'm not radical feminist, I'm not feminist at all.
But I darn sho' don't see no advantages 2 being hyper sexuallized!!
..... I am a human being and I want o be treat like 1 !!!

KingCheezyPuff:

now on them above points, i agree. Paying on dates,I veiw this way:
If a man wants 2 pay,let him
If he wants 2 split . Don't.
if some1 INVITES you out.......they should pay.
....but do you,pay if you like.darn what society says.
❤But this is a whole other topic under gender norms.

foolinlove:


I'm not telling anyone what to think.

I'm telling you to stop making women responsible for what you think. Stop shaming women for YOUR thoughts.

Don't call women slvts because you had a sexual thought about them. Or any other "reason" you think of.

Tenkobos:
Lemme show you the difference between how a real woman thinks and how a feminist thinks.

IN POLITICS.

Real Woman: Politics in nigeria is a war zone and there many people contesting for this post. We gotta plan and strategitize ahead of time, campaign and put in our best if we want to win.

Feminist: Men have been occupying this position for a long time, it is time they get their women hating ass there and allow a woman to lead.

foolinlove:


I always just pay my own way. It's fairer.

And also, its protecting myself. I know if a guy invites me out and pays for me, he will expect sex. Then he'll get mad when I don't sleep with him.

When I refuse sex there is a chance he will rape me out of anger. It's so sad that women think like this.

As if him being nice is payment for my body. Another symptom of patriarchy and rape culture.

oh,yes. Them John's who think women are their employed personal sex worke.r after having being pre paid with a meal smh.
Yes,it's always good 2 have money to pay incase you run into this man.

foolinlove:

It happened in old tribes. Kids weren't harmed. Babies see breasts constantly when they're feeding. Or are you against breastfeeding because bobbs are for sex only?
Breasts are not a sexual organ like a d. They're secondary characteristics, like facial hair on men.
You missed the entire point of my post. Well done.

foolinlove:


Of course everyone "frowns" on rape.

But instead of assigning blame to rapists, people try to excuse it by saying he was provoked by the woman. Usually by what she was wearing.

I'm not trying to make people want what I want. I am trying to provide choice.

So if a woman wants to be a wife, she can. If she wants to be a busineswoman, she can. Whatever she wants to do, she can, FREE OF JUDGEMENT.

Oahray:
those men ( whether in the minority or majority, is inconsequential) who do such don't call ladies _sluts because they feel sexual attraction to them. It's usually because they feel the ladies are dressed or behave like the professional ones seeking customers.

You think men cannot have sexual thoughts about ladies who dress modestly? If you do, you know far less than you think you do. However they wouldn't address them the same way they would a scantily dressed lady.

Tell me, would you think the same thing of a suited presidential candidate and another dressed like a hippie? Dressing leaves an impression. It's not rocket science.

PS: I like how you presumed to know me. Presumptuousness is mostly blind. For the records, I don't call ladies _sluts, but if a lady (this applies to guys too) comes for a job interview bare chested (or nearly), she can forget about the job.

chigoizie7:



Infact I don't know what to tell u again.

Just live ur life the way u want.

KingCheezyPuff:
THIS is EXACTLY how I view going topless and why i oppose the topless movement
.........❤minus that that 1st sentence though

foolinlove:

No, it's because women are seen as sexual objects. Patriarchy.
Their entire personalities are judged on dress sense. Not so for men.
Men go topless - hot weather.
Women go topless - slvts who deserve to be raped.

foolinlove:


Yawn.

I am not physically unattractive to a lot of men. You would probably label me so because you dislike my personality.

If you support equal rights then you are a feminist, that's the definition.

Everyone has a right to do what they want without judgement. You see women dressing in a way you perceive as sexual and all you can think is that she's doing it to attract you.

How do you know she's not doing it to attract other women? Or some other reason? Men on this forum are ao egocentric. Like everything a woman does is to serve men.

My case in point.

foolinlove:


You miss the point entirely.

Women are judged as a gender. Every individual can be judged by every other individual, it is a given.

Example of gender perceptions in action:

If a guy fails a maths test - that guy sucks at maths.

If a woman fails - all women suck at maths.

We need to allow everyone to be individual without these harmful gender perceptions.

IamLEGEND1:
fairest maiden. Why art thou so brilliant?
Marry me perhaps?

Nope. You'll turn me stupid like you

foolinlove:


I do know the difference.

Please go and do some reading. I haven't got the time to educate you on the last thousand years of human sociology.

Google is your friend.

neocortex:


Well, your first post was about individual rights wear anything you want not generalizations
and I am certain most of those who opposed you would not have done so if "generalization is bad"
was your original message not "I can do whatever I want and don't you dare judge me".

Your example is quite extreme and can only be found among backward thinking bigots who
don't matter and even at that people get judged for being black,short, fat and the likes,
so fighting bigotry is a fight for all.

foolinlove:


Dress codes apply to everyone. But dress codes are more strictly regulated for women.

But socially, only dress codes exist for women. Women's personalities are judged entirely on their dress. Men do not suffer same.
There is no excuse for mistreating people based on their state of dress.