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Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Cadamlk: 4:57pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86:Then there is more to their issues than they try to make you and your wife understand. I think you should stare clear for now. |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Cadamlk: 4:58pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86:Then there is more to their issues than they try to make you and your wife understand. I think you should stare clear for now. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by holyword: 5:00pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Foundation matters a lot in everything. did they ask the hand of God in that marriage. they see eachother and like eachother is not a good foundation. you saw yourselves physically but did not see spiritually. for me,there was no good preparation with God and anything without God is with satan. Get her back and embrace God thru prayer,God will stil make some amendment. |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:01pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86: OP Am really glad you brought this up here to NL. I have been in a relationship for about a year now and wanted to begin formalities but I see many of the issues raised in this thread in my relationship I will hold off everything until I get clarity. I believe the wife is still very young?, less than 24, because this unpredictability is predominant with young brides and very spoilt matured girls Thanks once again 6 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by longview007: 5:01pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
A realy sad story, but will be a bleaaing to the young man at end. I pray that God will guide him well. My opinion is: The parents of the girl has a very big role to play, The mediator couple(Snakie86) should stop calling the girls phone line. Their role is only to advising the young man on what to do and calming him down so that he will know that divorce is not death, that no mater what happens, that he can still come back stronger and happier. Man, can go for what he wants and get it. unlike the girl. I think the girl has an unfinished business outside or she is possessed. For the husband to say that he didnt know what wrong he has done to the wife proves that his wife can keep secreat and lack sincerity to the husband. No body is perfect, but sincerety and family prayer help so much in every marriage. The young man should involve his brother(not sisters for niw pls) and the parents of the wife. A solution will come out. Wish you the best. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:02pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
cbrass: All glory to GOD. I like the old school. It was good enough for saint Paul, saint Peter, saint John, etc. My utmost desire is to be like JESUS CHRIST, to be dead to sin and self but alive to and in CHRIST JESUS. Even if I am poor and sick, let Him be glorified in my life. Remain blessed. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by numericalguy(m): 5:02pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
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Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:07pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Am a believer and I also know prayer is important in marriage but he might have prayed and had peace in his mind towards the marriage Sometimes trials come even when you prayed against them. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by byvan03: 5:08pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
amclimax: Thank you . |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by longview007: 5:09pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
A realy sad story, but will be a blessing to the young man at end. I pray that God will guide him well. My opinion is: The parents of the girl has a very big role to play, The mediator couple(Snakie86) should stop calling the girls phone line. Their role is only to advising the young man on what to do and calming him down so that he will know that divorce is not death, that no mater what happens, that he can still come back stronger and happier. Man, can go for what he wants and get it. unlike the girl. I think the girl has an unfinished business outside or she is possessed. continue from below. |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by longview007: 5:10pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Continued from Above I think the girl has an unfinished business outside or she is possessed. For the husband to say that he didnt know what wrong he has done to the wife proves that his wife can keep secreat and lack sincerity to the husband. No body is perfect, but sincerety and family prayer help so much in every marriage. The young man should involve his brother(not sisters for niw pls) and the parents of the wife. A solution will come out. Wish you the best. |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by akintho(m): 5:11pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86: I love this response. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by macminista(m): 5:13pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Its very SIMPLE! She aint ready for marriage, no need for long stories..so long as there is no child btw them the man should move on with his life |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by aakpan904: 5:17pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Thinking out loud.... Are you sure s*x is not the problem. You would be surprised the manner of indirect problems that occur when that food is not served properly and adequately..... 4 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by fm7070: 5:19pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
The sense of judgement of some people on this forum amuse me a lot. How can you be blaming the @OP who came to this forum to seek a solution to a problem he should be ordinarily less concerned about. Some said he is too involved, some said he shouldn't have entertained the man's wife in their home and all that. Has it become a crime to be a good neighbour who listen to the concern of another? What if she was not allowed to express her mind and she ended up killing the man instead of packing out? In my candid opinion, I think the wife cooperated with external forces and enemies to ruin her own home She was too expectant of the man. There is nothing you can do to satisfy a demanding wife. How can you expect your husband to always be with you in the kitchen when he still have to think on how to provide for the home The woman has the key of david to control her own husband but she willingly gave the key to the enemy. Proverbs 14: 1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.[i][/i] @OP Continue to do your best in restoring the marriage. It will be said of you that you have done your bit. Tell them to build their marriage on Jesus the rock foundation. They should not compare themselves with others, everyone has different destinies. Shalom! 8 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by holluphemydavid(m): 5:24pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Marriage councilors are needed on dis topic, so pathetic, just 2 months old marriage.... God av mercy |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by marv1: 5:26pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
That woman has some unfinished job outside. The same sinario happened to my friend. They were married for 8months. I attended the wedding live. The wife packed all her things and the marriage certificate and left b4 my friend got back from work one day. That was the last day together. Meanwhile my friend said he called her that day at work and she responded everything was fine. Eventhough she was not working my friend said they had discussed how he would start a biz for her since she is a trained fashion designer, my friend too is into textile biz. She even washed his clothes and spread them outside the house that day b4 she left. Only for us to hear that she packed to another man's house who appears to her to have small coins and connection. Family meeting was called and the only thing she said was that my friend doesnt know how to kiss, he doesnt know how to make love to her. Everybody just bursted out laughing but she insisted she was not going back. She got pregnant for this man and delivered the baby. Her eyes have cleared now because the guy showed her his true colour and sent her packing after the baby came between them. My friend later saw her in an hosipital where she came for her daughter's treatment, she was hidding her face in one corner. After two years of waiting by my friend and calling her by concerned people, including a lawyer friend was fruitless, she always tells them to go to hell. My friend re-married another woman quietly. They have two kids now and they have moved to there own house. The first wife went back to her father's family compound which is always the tradition of most ladies in their family. The father died sometime last year and i dont know what has become of her because the properties have been shared. Since this incident happened i fear women. 4 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by 400billionman: 5:27pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86: That her saucy friend might be a dominant lesbian who wants to control the wife of your neighbor. The woman is being controlled. From your story you did everything just right. Your wife's advice not to intervene since the husband never complained was also right Keep trying, one day you will be able to talk sense into the woman to come back home. |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by wealthyk: 5:27pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
As hard as this may seem, the solution is not going to be from you but from the Lord and it all starts with the husband. Let me tell you the hardest truth, you may not like it and am sure most in the house may not either but I'll say it any way. 1. Tell God about it and let Him worry about how He's going to resolve it. God taught me a great lesson and it is that, let go and let God. Though it seems simple and unbelievable but that's how He takes over our battles. 2. Let the husband pray for God's love to increase in his heart. This is from experience because I had not a too similar situation but God did wonders to me when I prayed that prayer. My own woman had an affair and never was remorseful about it and you can imagine what must have happened to me as a man. Thought of several ways to deal with her and revenge and all stuffs but when I got more knowledge of God's ways, I prayed that prayer and still praying and am the better for it. Even though we are still together and I still remember the stuffs but at least we are still together. So pray for God to help you love Him first of all and to love his wife and before too long, she will super naturally come back. 2 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Kakamorufu(m): 5:29pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
To knw more abt eachother NovusHomo: |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:30pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Eyop: How do u know how d woman feels? No one knows what goes on in a marriage. I know a woman dt left her husband cos he could not get it up & after much nagging confessed to her he was aroused by men. Even his parents didn't know. Mr neighbour needs to chill wt d poke nosing & pray for them if he's dt concerned. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:32pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
NovusHomo: courting shows couple compatability,,,during this period d lady shuld stay more around d man,,both observing each other.. wateva ur preference is u wil knw if he/she as it,,d signs r alway but we ignore a lot of signs this days n dats d reason 4 more breakup |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by OmoBety(f): 5:34pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
First of all, you guys can say whatever you want about the lady because you were not in the house with her. You won't understand her pain. But I do. We ladies are emotional beings not logical beings like the men. No woman in her right sense will marry a man n want to leave her marriage just 2 months into it. She must have been hurt seriously for her to have taken such a decision to leave the home. But it's frustrating to live with a man who doesn't understand you and who isn't trying to make the marriage better. Marriage is work my Dear. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by nmreports: 5:39pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
The three most difficult things in life now are: 1) Being successful. 2) Living a holy life. 3) Finding a good woman. ALL VERY HARD. He should count his losses because even if she comes back it cant remain the same again. 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Egie4real: 5:42pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Kakamorufu:I believe if a woman leaves her matrimonial home once and come back again... She will have the intention of leaving a thousand times and still come back! Marriage shouldn't be something one rushes into especially when not much is being known about your partner. I blame the man because most women can hardly keep secrets hence they prefer to talk out their hearts through discussion. The man would have find a way to pretend to be engaging in her gists even if passively. My advice... Both parents should be come together with one purpose of making the marriage work! 1 Like |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
jusRadical: I remove cap for u bro....u ve said it all.....God bless u... |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by femboye2015: 5:43pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
Most importantly, I think he should thank his God that she didn’t decide to poison him or something and move on. Secondly, he should thank God that there are no kids involved cos that will not have prevented her or her family from doing what they did, it would only have meant he would have to deal with the trauma of having a child growing up without the father. He should move on with his life as there’s nothing new under the sun. Take his time, face his job/business for now and with time, he’ll meet someone that is compatible with him. For those talking about compatibility, I don’t think that was the issue, the guy did not become introverted overnight, he most probably was always like that. The issue is that the wife probably never loved him and went into the marriage for ulterior motives which are best known to her and her family. There are other questions the guy should answer, what was her upbringing like? What kind of marriage do her parents/siblings have? (If she has older ones). How come both of them did not have some sort of relationship with the other parties’ siblings etc. etc. But as I said earlier, the most important thing is that there are no kids involved. He should pick himself up, take his time and not rush into another marriage. Focus on his job and be close to his GOD. He will see him through it. Tell him not to think there’s any shame in what occurred and it’s better it happened earlier than later when he would have invested so much in the marriage and kids might be involved. May God help us all. Amen. 3 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Abagworo(m): 5:46pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
The man is simply not rich that's all. 2 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Mariojane(f): 5:48pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
snakie86:. Is the wife a benin girl? Am sorry if there re benin girls in the forum. You ask the guy how long they ve been courting? That doesn't assured of a happy home. Y don't you start by asking the guy about the girl's family. What kind of family she is from?the first impression he got the very first time he visits them? How is the girl relationship with everyone in her family? If no member of your family support your unruly behavior you won't dare it. There re little details guys re supposed to take serious in a girl but they never did. Most guys especially Nairalander has the impression that all a lady want is money which is very wrong. We need money, Time,love,attention,care etc but you people conclude only is what we need. He should be happy she didn't cheat on him atleast it shows she respect him. . |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by DICKtator: 5:49pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
BellaElla: Please marry me!!!!!!. Please, would you be my wife? I'm on my knees(both knees down) Please!!! |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by babeabike: 5:50pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
5minsmadness: I feel the husband is not speaking out.There are basis one can file for divorce. I'm suspecting the husband is unable to meet up with his sexual responsibilities for her to have her parent's support 3 Likes |
Re: Two Wasted Months Of Marriage by Ayauche(f): 5:52pm On Jul 24, 2016 |
[quote author=viver1 post=47806972]Itz nt d marriage that made her leave. She is a thief. D husbd just ddnt see. Y ddnt she go with only her belongings? My point too cos I dnt see the reason she left the marriage. That a man does not help u in the kitchen, is that ur right? If u have a hubby that helps in the kitchen its just a bonus 4 u. She has no reason at all for leaving her marriage. |
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