schumastic:
[b] truth is this, she has more experience than you considering the age gap coupled with the amount of relationships experience she must have had and she is using it against you.[\b]

1.the mistake you made at first was starting a fight you know you can't win.
2.is bad that you have fallen hard for her and she knows this now and will keep using it to her advantage.

my advice.
ignore her even though it will be hard considering the amount o love you now feel for her but just ignore her and give her that space..if her senses doesn't come back then count it as her loss and not yours, after all you have no plans of getting married anytime soon.

VampireeM:
To me she was infatuated with you than love. The truth is that the relationship is over cause even if you both get back together, you might end up breaking up .. I wont be suprised if she manages you for the mean time till a better guy comes along if you keep bothering her . Stop begging her and MOVE ON she doesnt know what she wants for now.

Thats why I hate Office Romance and One night stands.

Ighoga898:
once upon a time u were d toastee & now u re d toaster ; it's just a cycle of life.
I pray she falls 4 u dsame way u do her, but if she doesn't be happy because from ur write up u were looking for a way to discontinue d romance bcoz u weren't comfortable with dating an older girl dan u re

olaboy1:
1. Don't take this personal, the novelty and adrenalin rush she had for you are gone. Build your emotions to a degree where people who leave or stay in your life don't bother you so much. Also remember Naija women generally want their men older than them, no matter how desperate they want marriage, so in your case the 5yr age difference is a big no no. It's hard to find a woman that's older and richer than you and still respects you like you want her to be, women love to look up to an alpha male when it's marriage time. Consider this affair as an office fling and don't think about this again. 2. Dress good, nice hygiene, focus on career and go out their and hit on random girls.
Maybe she suddenly discovered you are not the one, also you need to understand that some women also can be emotionally manipulative and sometimes they just don't want to hurt your feelings by telling you the real reasons they are breaking up with you.
3.Now is time for you to act like an adult and carry on with your life like you guys never went to bed, don't engage her in this relationship discussion anymore and if she tries to bring it up, tell her you guys are just friends and colleagues in the office.
It's also true she may have been in it for sex, I know it's hard to comprehend this as an average Naija guy because culturally and religiously we have created a deceitful society that makes it look like our girls are truly sexually repressive or ignorant, when in actual fact they laugh behind us at our foolishness and stupidity of us believing that they don't covet sex and fantasies.
A typical Naija girl that wants sex so badly but she is scared of been shamed, would instead throw the question at you..."why are you looking at me like that, do you want sex"...hmmmm. So it's a possibility you have been used for sex and when she said you should give the relationship 1 yr was her way of telling you atleast let me enjoy this D for one more year. Sometimes women go through sexual dry spell also no matter how beautiful they, and during this period a girl you have been disturbing for several years would call you from the blues and ask you straight forward, 4.where are...are you at home,...are you alone...ok am coming. You noticed no greetings, no petty talk, it's straight to the point.

ekanDamie:


U guys are making points, infatuation? What was she infatuated about? I earlier heard someone said before we started dating tho that she likes tall guys because of *D* length.
I found that amusing then but ive also thoght about it, was she just in it for D cos she came on strong to me with that, im hungrying for u, that was how the text stated

accountbalance:
Look at it this way bro;

Why hasn't she gotten married since you said she is red hot and all that?

It's probably the same attitude that has pushed her to where she is today.

Obviously, she is cool with the whole snubbing thing and moving on with her life. The only logical conclusion is that she has experience in that particular area because that's not the first time she'd be doing that to a guy.

Leave her be my bro, even if she starts smiling at you, I don't sense a good ending. Just move on with your life, struggle with it, don't quit your job, if there is a cute younger female at work that likes you, I think this is the right time to start paying attention to her.

VampireeM:



awww.. you sound heart broken and sad.. My dear it takes two commited people for a relationship to work.. From what you ve said you being snubbed meaning you no longer important. I know its tough esp seeing her daily and remembering all that you shared.. You really need to move on by ignoring her completely and blocking you guys good memories cause the more you remember, the sadder you get.. Treat her like any casual colleague you will get over it soon. Hopefullly you might get a job at another office where you wont ve to see her again.

ekanDamie:

Of course am heart broken n sad but that was before u guys are begining to make me see reasons, right now i feel like going to the office now with my heads up high singing. Aloe blaccs, im the man, im d man, im d maaan!!!

But thats how i use to feel every night before now. Then wen i get to the office jenifer hudson if this aint love will just be playing stupidly in my head.
Im such a mumu walahi

lol. You funny. I'm sure by the time you see her tommorrow you will start singing Rihanna's emotional track "What Now"
Take it jeje and ignore her. Nothing makes most females steam like Silence.

I wont blame her though she seems like the adventrous type who gets bored easily with men esp after the initial infatuation and curosity has been satisfied. We females are complicated beings. From what you ve even said you were carried away by the sex, gorgeousness and being the lucky dude she chose, more like bruised male ego. I wish you the best as you dance a new tune at work tommorrow

Twaci:
She gave u her all and u took it for granted with the silly fights and constant poking (looking for troubles in your relationship). Why couldn't u just accept the joy and do your best in upholding the relationship rather than looking for loopholes and down turns. What more did u want?

In just two days she found that attention she yearned for and someone she believes understand her better.

If u still love her, I mean really love and want her.....fight and win her back. Do everything she did earlier to win u.

But if u ain't sure of it anymore..... Move on and let her be.

Twaci:
She gave u her all and u took it for granted with the silly fights and constant poking (looking for troubles in your relationship). Why couldn't u just accept the joy and do your best in upholding the relationship rather than looking for loopholes and down turns. What more did u want?

In just two days she found that attention she yearned for and someone she believes understand her better.

If u still love her, I mean really love and want her.....fight and win her back. Do everything she did earlier to win u.

But if u ain't sure of it anymore..... Move on and let her be.

VampireeM:


My dear, The bold comment shows that the lady was never in love with him but infatuated.. if you truly love someone, you dont get over them quickly enough to jump unto the next attention that seeked.. She is not worth fighting for.. it takes two to make a relationship work.. The lady has found fun else where and so should be freed to enjoy.. He has begged and she still no gree.. Further begging means foolishness

VampireeM:



lol. You funny. I'm sure by the time you see her tommorrow you will start singing Rihanna's emotional track "What Now"
Take it jeje and ignore her. Nothing makes most females steam like Silence.

I wont blame her though she seems like the adventrous type who gets bored easily with men esp after the initial infatuation and curosity has been satisfied. We females are complicated beings. From what you ve even said you were carried away by the sex, gorgeousness and being the lucky dude she chose, more like bruised male ego. I wish you the best as you dance a new tune at work tommorrow

ekanDamie:

I wasn't looking for loopholes n down turns i only wanted to know how we would fare in dispute. Mayb it turned out nasty but no one goes into any relationship having it all sweet.
How dey respond to heat show how much dey can take together

placeofallure:
Whatever you do OP, do not condescend to the level of sharing your intimate moments with friends. You don't wanna be a kiss and tell, do you? That's kinda immature.

You're lucky because you've gotten sensible people on your thread not the usual who you epp team. I will go with the wise counsel you've received so far, ignore her 101%. Keep a straight face and be very professional around her. Meanwhile dress well and trendy to boost your self esteem or confidence. You can start a masters program or any progressive activity to keep you occupied. These things are not yam and beans it will take extra effort but you know what you are targeting. Relationships shouldn't make people depleted. Please it's time to show her you have moved on already. If you try to salvage it now, you're still coming back to Ground Zero. People like her are who we playfully referred to as Grand mother of experience. Be wise.

Twaci:
Oh no dear. Once u have been in a relationship where your feelings are not ENTIRELY reciprocated, a little attention from another guy would seem like bliss.

Now this is the reason ladies break off from a relationship and run into another quickly with hope and promises. They believe the next person would offer better.




To the OP, permit me to say u weren't worth her love.

I have been in this case before. Gave a guy all I had and all he could do was look for loopholes. Test and test and test......till I couldn't take it anymore.
When he finally concluded we were meant for each other, I had lost interest and yearned for a break.

I found the tiniest problem and broke off. Still don't regret it.

You all keep saying we don't love with all we have got....OP you are one of those that made it so.

Lick ur wounds and move on. Then, go look for that "perfect" one.

VampireeM:


My dear, The bold comment shows that the lady was never in love with him but infatuated.. if you truly love someone, you dont get over them quickly enough to jump unto the next attention that seeked.. She is not worth fighting for.. it takes two to make a relationship work.. The lady has found fun else where and so should be freed to enjoy.. He has begged and she still no gree.. Further begging means foolishness

ekanDamie:


Im not d kiss n tell type mami, it was just anger that made me reason to that part.
See ehn d truth of d matter is i was spose to write a prof exam dis yr that geh distracted me with her supposed love ehn anytime i look at d defination of anything in my book i start reminiscing about her. Chai!!!!
I will resume my study back thats also i have to get over this feeling that i need her desperately.

And LMAO at bolded. I was already impressed with the very two comments n many more sweet ones including urs came true n twaci also seeing things from a diffrent perspective is still mature.

ekanDamie:


U seem versed my bro, i cant disagree with u more on that, she has been in tonnes of relationshipz she says every of her exes always wanted her back.
She does know how to get to that heart.
But as regards d mistake u said i made, i just wanted to be sure that whether or not she was older than i am, i had a say in the relationship like i had my manly authorithy over her cos i was not ready to be anyones puppet.
Your last statememt howver seems to be profound, ignoring her is hardddd, yes with d feelings now attached. But its sometin i just have to do

Twaci:
Oh no dear. Once u have been in a relationship where your feelings are not ENTIRELY reciprocated, a little attention from another guy would seem like bliss.

Now this is the reason ladies break off from a relationship and run into another quickly with hope and promises. They believe the next person would offer better.




To the OP, permit me to say u weren't worth her love.

I have been in this case before. Gave a guy all I had and all he could do was look for loopholes. Test and test and test......till I couldn't take it anymore.
When he finally concluded we were meant for each other, I had lost interest and yearned for a break.

I found the tiniest problem and broke off. Still don't regret it.

You all keep saying we don't love with all we have got....OP you are one of those that made it so.

Lick ur wounds and move on. Then, go look for that "perfect" one.

schumastic:

this is what they all say and at the end, they still prove he same by deceiving we guys.