For some weeks now,i notice that one man do call my wife like five times daily and anytime i happen to be arround and the call enters she would not pick it and if the caller persists on calling,she will pick it and be shouting hello hello..,poor network.This act prompted me to begin to look deep into her phone to check her call logs,only to discover the man used to call her like five times daily especially when i am not in the house,likewise she calls or flashes the man atimes.All those while till now i did not ask her about who the man is and their regular calls and conversation.She is from same tribe with the man and i dont understand their language even if she manage pick the calls in my presence say one thing and start shouting hello hello ...poor network or cut the call.I am no longer comfortable with this and begin to suspect her.What should i do?.Please advise.

Obviously somethings wrong

pelusi:
For some weeks now,i notice that one man do call my wife like five times daily and anytime i happen to be arround and the call enters she would not pick it and if the caller persists on calling,she will pick it and be shouting hello hello..,poor network.This act prompted me to begin to look deep into her phone to check her call logs,only to discover the man used to call her like five times daily especially when i am not in the house,likewise she calls or flashes the man atimes.All those while till now i did not ask her about who the man is and their regular calls and conversation.She is from same tribe with the man and i dont understand their language even if she manage pick the calls in my presence say one thing and start shouting hello hello ...poor network or cut the call.I am no longer comfortable with this and begin to suspect her.What should i do?.Please advise.

Go and buy recording devices and put them in special areas in your house (like bedroom and sitting room) before you leave home. you can play the recordings for someone from same tribe as your wife to interprete for u.

pelusi:
For some weeks now,i notice that one man do call my wife like five times daily and anytime i happen to be arround and the call enters she would not pick it and if the caller persists on calling,she will pick it and be shouting hello hello..,poor network.This act prompted me to begin to look deep into her phone to check her call logs,only to discover the man used to call her like five times daily especially when i am not in the house,likewise she calls or flashes the man atimes.All those while till now i did not ask her about who the man is and their regular calls and conversation.She is from same tribe with the man and i dont understand their language even if she manage pick the calls in my presence say one thing and start shouting hello hello ...poor network or cut the call.I am no longer comfortable with this and begin to suspect her.What should i do?.Please advise.

Talk to her about it. Ask her who the man is and tell her you are not comfortable with the frequency of calls she recieves from him. Before doing this make sure you take down the man's number and store it somewhere for future reference.

Divorce


What nonsense

^^^

pelusi:
For some weeks now,i notice that one man do call my wife like five times daily and anytime i happen to be arround and the call enters she would not pick it and if the caller persists on calling,she will pick it and be shouting hello hello..,poor network.This act prompted me to begin to look deep into her phone to check her call logs,only to discover the man used to call her like five times daily especially when i am not in the house,likewise she calls or flashes the man atimes.All those while till now i did not ask her about who the man is and their regular calls and conversation.She is from same tribe with the man and i dont understand their language even if she manage pick the calls in my presence say one thing and start shouting hello hello ...poor network or cut the call.I am no longer comfortable with this and begin to suspect her.What should i do?.Please advise.

This issue of married women keeping male friends is one of deep concern to me. Since the advent of smartphones, facebook, whatsapp etc, the number of married women that engage in intimate conversations with men that are not thier husbands is alarming.

Sometimes it might just be innocent fun, the woman might just be looking for a little benign excitement, but we all know how women are and how they can be moved by words and material things. How can this be curbed? Should it be curbed?

Even we as men have a lot of attention we receive from female folk online. Even when we tell them we are engaged or even married, the attention and sometimes sexual innuendos keep pouring in. But for us guys we might feel it's all right. We are men and it takes a lot for us to fall in love which is the danger we forsee in women. But as men we get tempted too and start to indulge in the attention we get from our online vixens and ours often lead to the point where before you know it nude pictures and vulgar jokes are exchanged. Should we feel vindicated because it's a man's world? If you @op feel bad that someone is calling your wife so frequently, can u imagine how she feels if someone is doing same with you? What will she find if she looks through your phone, your whatsapp? Is it fair on her?


Inasmuch as you should take action concerning this matter, try and make sure you yourself are clean.

Cc tv01, pls I'd like your input cos am having a similar issue though I believe I have resolved it the best way I know how.
*hides shovel*

MonitorinSpirit:


Go and buy recording devices and put them in special areas in your house (like bedroom and sitting room) before you leave home. you can play the recordings for someone from same tribe as your wife to interprete for u.

This isn't a bad idea.

This man again, please people read through his previous posts. You seem to be a VERRRRYYYY insecure man
- You married the woman and didnt pay her dowry
- Una fight tire
- She reminds you to pay her dowry years after yet you no gree pay
- You tell her to leave, she pack leave you begin complain say you no know where she pack go
- You feel she has a high sex drive
- You believe you are not man enough in bed
- Now, its is another man is calling your wife on the phone.
- Tomorrow it will be another man is looking at your wife when she goes out

Abeg, i cant advise you i get the one wey de do me, which good samaritan will sow £10000 into my life?

Lol, keepingmum your post stopped me on my tracks. I no get to strength to advise if the story is fake jare.

keepingmum:
This man again, please people read through his previous posts. You seem to be a VERRRRYYYY insecure man
- You married the woman and didnt pay her dowry
- Una fight tire
- She reminds you to pay her dowry years after yet you no gree pay
- You tell her to leave, she pack leave you begin complain say you no know where she pack go
- You feel she has a high sex drive
- You believe you are not man enough in bed
- Now, its is another man is calling your wife on the phone.
- Tomorrow it will be another man is looking at your wife when she goes out

Abeg, i cant advise you i get the one wey de do me, which good samaritan will sow £10000 into my life?

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You are more than stu.pid since your job is how to check peoples post than addressing the issue raised.Lazy stu.pid amoeba.All posts posted by all OP's is from him/her.Keeping on searching all nairalanders past posts,thats shows how idle and jobless you.

keepingmum:
This man again, please people read through his previous posts. You seem to be a VERRRRYYYY insecure man
- You married the woman and didnt pay her dowry
- Una fight tire
- She reminds you to pay her dowry years after yet you no gree pay
- You tell her to leave, she pack leave you begin complain say you no know where she pack go
- You feel she has a high sex drive
- You believe you are not man enough in bed
- Now, its is another man is calling your wife on the phone.
- Tomorrow it will be another man is looking at your wife when she goes out

Abeg, i cant advise you i get the one wey de do me, which good samaritan will sow £10000 into my life?

@op



You haven't paid her dowry?

pelusi:
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You are more than stu.pid since your job is how to check peoples post than addressing the issue raised.Lazy stu.pid amoeba.All posts posted by all OP's is from him/her.Keeping on searching all nairalanders past posts,thats shows how idle and jobless you.

Baba, are you angry i said you are an insecure man? Or you are angry i said that you shared on a public forum that you cannot satisfy your wife? Or are you angry that i said that you shared on a public forum that you havent paid her dowry?
You berra check your attitude old man and learn to communicate without using abusive words/labels.

You need to man up and take control of your home.She could have a pure mind while the mystery guy is scheming to have a taste of your lawfully wedded wife.

You need to get to the root of this mystery and solve it.I always see people's wives as a reflection of who they are.

keepingmum:
This man again, please people read through his previous posts. You seem to be a VERRRRYYYY insecure man
- You married the woman and didnt pay her dowry
- Una fight tire
- She reminds you to pay her dowry years after yet you no gree pay
- You tell her to leave, she pack leave you begin complain say you no know where she pack go
- You feel she has a high sex drive
- You believe you are not man enough in bed
- Now, its is another man is calling your wife on the phone.
- Tomorrow it will be another man is looking at your wife when she goes out

Abeg, i cant advise you i get the one wey de do me, which good samaritan will sow £10000 into my life?

lobatan......

Na wao, have you tried to ask her?

Sometimes I wonder whether people actually marry strangers or their friends. Someone has been calling your wife, and the best place to demand answers is Nairaland?

Brother, she is your wife, ask her about it and ask for the TRUTH. If you indeed married the right woman for you, she will tell you all you need to know. Failure to say the truth means you married the wrong woman. If the latter is the case, then get ready for more troubles.

This is not jealously or low self-esteem, it is called "enquiry/inquiry".

Almajiri1:
You need to man up and take control of your home.She could have a pure mind while the mystery guy is scheming to have a taste of your lawfully wedded wife.

You need to get to the root of this mystery and solve it.I always see people's wives as a reflection of who they are.

Thanks

Acidosis:
Na wao, have you tried to ask her?

Sometimes I wonder whether people actually marry strangers or their friends. Someone has been calling your wife, and the best place to demand answers is Nairaland?

Brother, she is your wife, ask her about it and ask for the TRUTH. If you indeed married the right woman for you, she will tell you all you need to know. Failure to say the truth means you married the wrong woman. If the latter is the case, then get ready for more troubles.

This is not jealously or low self-esteem, it is called "enquiry/inquiry".

Thanks.

He is full of suspicion.
Then he chose to ask us if he should suspect her...

keepingmum:
This man again, please people read through his previous posts. You seem to be a VERRRRYYYY insecure man
- You married the woman and didnt pay her dowry
- Una fight tire
- She reminds you to pay her dowry years after yet you no gree pay
- You tell her to leave, she pack leave you begin complain say you no know where she pack go
- You feel she has a high sex drive
- You believe you are not man enough in bed
- Now, its is another man is calling your wife on the phone.
- Tomorrow it will be another man is looking at your wife when she goes out

Abeg, i cant advise you i get the one wey de do me, which good samaritan will sow £10000 into my life?

You're right. 80% of his topics are about his wife and her numerous faults.

pelusi:
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You are more than stu.pid since your job is how to check peoples post than addressing the issue raised.Lazy stu.pid amoeba.All posts posted by all OP's is from him/her.Keeping on searching all nairalanders past posts,thats shows how idle and jobless you.

mumu goan pay ya wife's dowry. Oloshi

Go and pay her dowry then she becomes your legitimate wife. failure to do that, you have no right to question who she talks to on phone.

You're hilarious. Out of touch with reality. You are the ones getting the attention huh? You're not the ones asking for it. These ladies chase you. Not the other way round. Pls who are the ones asking for these nude pics? The ladies just wake up and send it into your phones? Not after y'all have begged and cajoled for weeks and finally swear on your .... grave that you'll never show it to anyone?

But somehow your post tactically absolves yourselves blame for this. You're deeply concerned about married women keeping male friends online. Why aren't deeply concerned about married men that keep online female friends?

5minsmadness:


This issue of married women keeping male friends is one of deep concern to me. Since the advent of smartphones, facebook, whatsapp etc, the number of married women that engage in intimate conversations with men that are not thier husbands is alarming.

Sometimes it might just be innocent fun, the woman might just be looking for a little benign excitement, but we all know how women are and how they can be moved by words and material things. How can this be curbed? Should it be curbed?

Even we as men have a lot of attention we receive from female folk online. Even when we tell them we are engaged or even married, the attention and sometimes sexual innuendos keep pouring in. But for us guys we might feel it's all right. We are men and it takes a lot for us to fall in love which is the danger we forsee in women. But as men we get tempted too and start to indulge in the attention we get from our online vixens and ours often lead to the point where before you know it nude pictures and vulgar jokes are exchanged. Should we feel vindicated because it's a man's world? If you @op feel bad that someone is calling your wife so frequently, can u imagine how she feels if someone is doing same with you? What will she find if she looks through your phone, your whatsapp? Is it fair on her?


Inasmuch as you should take action concerning this matter, try and make sure you yourself are clean.

Cc tv01, pls I'd like your input cos am having a similar issue though I believe I have resolved it the best way I know how.
*hides shovel*

Winneygirl:
He is full of suspicion.
Then he chose to ask us if he should suspect her...

lol

cococandy:
You're hilarious. Out of touch with reality. You are the ones getting the attention huh? You're not the ones asking for it. These ladies chase you. Not the other way round. Pls who are the ones asking for these nude pics? The ladies just wake up and send it into your phones? Not after y'all have begged and cajoled for weeks and finally swear on your .... grave that you'll never show it to anyone?

But somehow your post tactically absolves yourselves blame for this. You're deeply concerned about married women keeping male friends online. Why aren't deeply concerned about married men that keep online female friends?

Na Wa o.
The post is there for you to see. I don't know how you can read something and only choose to see what you want.

I clearly stated there that men too are guilty of this online attention from the opposite sex. I EVEN admitted that we males don't see it as a problem until our females start getting the same attention then we go up in flames about it. I even queried the Op that hope he isn't guilty of same offence. How was I absolving the male folk again naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?


For your info, ladies (not just one lady, ladies.) have sent me thier nude pics, completely unsolicited I can assure u. I'm not a teenager to be begging for nude pics, I've seen enough to last me a lifetime. I'd list out my escapades on sexuality section but am too bashful and old-fashioned to do so.

JackBaueress1:
Go and pay her dowry then she becomes your legitimate wife. failure to do that, you have no right to question who she talks to on phone.

Op, you neva pay her dowry??

5minsmadness:


This issue of married women keeping male friends is one of deep concern to me. Since the advent of smartphones, facebook, whatsapp etc, the number of married women that engage in intimate conversations with men that are not thier husbands is alarming.

Sometimes it might just be innocent fun, the woman might just be looking for a little benign excitement, but we all know how women are and how they can be moved by words and material things. How can this be curbed? Should it be curbed?

Even we as men have a lot of attention we receive from female folk online. Even when we tell them we are engaged or even married, the attention and sometimes sexual innuendos keep pouring in. But for us guys we might feel it's all right. We are men and it takes a lot for us to fall in love which is the danger we forsee in women. But as men we get tempted too and start to indulge in the attention we get from our online vixens and ours often lead to the point where before you know it nude pictures and vulgar jokes are exchanged. Should we feel vindicated because it's a man's world? If you @op feel bad that someone is calling your wife so frequently, can u imagine how she feels if someone is doing same with you? What will she find if she looks through your phone, your whatsapp? Is it fair on her?


Inasmuch as you should take action concerning this matter, try and make sure you yourself are clean.

Cc tv01, pls I'd like your input cos am having a similar issue though I believe I have resolved it the best way I know how.
*hides shovel*

If you are talking about the OP', if the backstory as revealed by keepingmum is true, there may be deeper issues. Based on the OP only, the 2 options are to "have it out", or to monitor some more in the first instance. But at some point it will have to be addressed.

If it's about comms with people - particularly of the opposite sex - I would simply say mostly don't do it. Any interaction should be circumspect and very public, if it must be offline, there has to be a very good reason. I'd give known single-mums, divorcees etc. short shrift, but be more receptive to married women I knew were committed to their homes

Having said that, it's probably a slightly different protocol if both are unmarried. Either way though, you have a point, I think women have a greater tendency to romanticise interactions, although this can be driven by an individuals situation as well.

Personally I don't. I wouldn't anyway, and especially not with the new crop of NLanders. I've physically met two people from NL and due to NL in my over 10 years here. One a male I met up with when I visited Lagos, and the other a female who I met with her husband when they came to London on honeymoon.

A few people have tried to contact me offline. I only felt comfortable entering into dialogue with 2. One, female, was about very specific marital advice, which ended when I had said my piece. The other, male, was more ongoing but patchy, and has been dormant for a while. I've also made a few coaching contacts, which for me is professional interaction.


TV

5minsmadness:


Na Wa o.
The post is there for you to see. I don't know how you can read something and only choose to see what you want.

I clearly stated there that men too are guilty of this online attention from the opposite sex. I EVEN admitted that we males don't see it as a problem until our females start getting the same attention then we go up in flames about it. I even queried the Op that hope he isn't guilty of same offence. How was I absolving the male folk again naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?


For your info, ladies (not just one lady, ladies.) have sent me thier nude pics, completely unsolicited I can assure u. I'm not a teenager to be begging for nude pics, I've seen enough to last me a lifetime. I'd list out my escapades on sexuality section but am too bashful and old-fashioned to do so.

Yeah, right.

You wish. In your dream of dreams...

I was taught that if I don't have anything nice to say I should keep shut.... But I have been struggling to keep shut but I cant
1. You are not married
2. You are cohabiting and have a son
3. Your "wife" told you she is with you because of the sex
4. I think you are not topping up your sex game
5. Your issues have been on for at least 5 years
6. You think everything is wrong with your "wife": compulsive liar, super sex drive, she cheats, disrespectful.... name it


In summary Nairaland cannot help you............ (just thinking... with the crazy history you have on nairaland do you expect people to pat you on the back and crucify your wife?)

EfemenaXY:


Yeah, right.

You wish. In your dream of dreams...

Lol!
Let's just get on with the topic

EfemenaXY:

Yeah, right.
You wish. In your dream of dreams...

Dude made me laugh for a bit there too. Jon Bon Jovi.