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My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by suleiman16(m): 5:11pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
Hi Nairalander, I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University. Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her. But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now. Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature... Please help me out of this... 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by cozy7(m): 5:28pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
Ah! Ah!! U should hv thought of all this wen u were busy pounding d innocent girl. Now it's 3mths?? Abortion is surely not an option, also bcoz ur families are aware. U h to handle this reasonably or u could loose d luv of your woman's family n therefore stand a chance of loosing ur woman too. U 2 shd sit n talk, yes things are hard but u need to plan 4d life u bringing 2d world. Ask ur families 4 support. U still hv 6mths 2go.....START NOW! GOODLUCK 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by ubiR(f): 5:32pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
suleiman16:it's very courageous of u to decide to keep the baby, some people are looking for that blessing for years and haven't found any. When is she graduating? u can go and pay her bride price or do introduction. Let her give birth and stay with your parents then go back and complete her education if she doesn't graduate bf then. While she is getting ready to deliver, get an affordable apartment if you dont have and start small. No condition is permanent in life. 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by 3sexy: 5:32pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
How do u want us to help ? Is it financially ? Cos i dont seem to understand what u want, since both families are in support of your relationship and u have decided to keep the baby then u have nothing to worry about . Keep hustling .............. 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by ChappyChase: 5:40pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
My friend go do the needful! |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by cozy7(m): 5:40pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
ubiR:The guy just said he doesn't hv money, and you're talking abt paying bride price, getting affordable apartment n going bck to sch. Hv u ever been really broke? 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by trendyprettygir: 5:41pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
Things are very simple op: 1. Pray, Seek God's forgiveness and commit your plans and your lives into God's hand. 1. Inform your parents (both of you going at once). 2. Go to the registry for court wedding. 3. Start planning traditional wedding 4. Start preparing for babies arrival (more hustle, saving money, e.t.c). Please start doing the above immediately ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by ajasbaba(m): 5:41pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
CONGRAT ON YOUR NEW ACHIEVEMENT. just work extra hard to keep your family happy 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Nobody: 5:43pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
since ur nt yet ready, I suggest dat word 'fiancee' is too strong.just use my girlfriend is pregnant 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by kiddoiLL(m): 5:44pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
Great decision!! respect bro, only few will have the heart to accept it and you're part of em.. for sure it'll be hard at first,but kids bring blessings and joy along with them..so just keep hustling,stay close to God, tell your parents, and get along with whatever plans you have for ur fiancee and unborn child, it'll be hard at first but things will turn good as long as you're a hardworking guy.. any man can get any woman pregnant but not any man can stand and be a father..i'm sure your fiancee is proud of your decision already 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by adewumiopeyemi(m): 5:47pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
CONGRAT BRO ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by suleiman16(m): 8:27pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
Thank you all for this wonderful advice, it will go a long way... Please I will appreciate if I can get more opinion. |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Tunami(m): 8:35pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
cozy7:leave her, she's still eating "mummy thank you" and dnt know the state of the Nigerian economy. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by MmmS(f): 8:47pm On Jul 28, 2016 |
suleiman16:did you know that she was capable of falling pregnant if she had sex? If you do, what kind of advice do you want exactly? 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Nobody: 4:07am On Jul 29, 2016 |
You should have thought of that, before planting your seed in her garden. 5 Likes |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by George22016(m): 5:51am On Jul 29, 2016 |
ubiR: This is the best advice here take it or leave it. |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by suleiman16(m): 6:51am On Jul 29, 2016 |
ubiR: Thank you for this weekend this wonderful advice, hopefully she would graduate before this year run out, I have an apartment she can stay, thou will like her to stay with my parent since I won't be around... My fear is just how she will cope with her final year n pregnancy... |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by duduade: 6:55am On Jul 29, 2016 |
When you were indulging in the premarital sex you did not come here to wail o... Getttooouuuttt 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by suleiman16(m): 6:58am On Jul 29, 2016 |
kiddoiLL: Thank you bro for this, we have plan of getting married later this year, just that it came so soon, she is full of hope n optimistic about life and future, the fear is just on my own side, don't know why? |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Nobody: 7:17am On Jul 29, 2016 |
suleiman16: Well since you did the crime,you gotta pay the fine.You enjoyed the sex so be a man and take care of your child. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by kiddoiLL(m): 7:33am On Jul 29, 2016 |
suleiman16:it's okay to feel scared cus of the way things are, but it's like a bridge for u to cross..stand n face ur fear, just keep being loyal to ur hustle..better times ahead 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by ubiR(f): 7:38am On Jul 29, 2016 |
suleiman16:If that's the case, its not really an issue, been 13weeks means she might deliver next year. People have survived giving birth and schooling at same time, she will pull through. Worry less, she can give birth and go back and complete her school either of them. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by AuroraB(f): 7:49am On Jul 29, 2016 |
The girl no help you think these ones ![]() ![]() No dey ask us, you hear ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by christinnah(f): 8:40am On Jul 29, 2016 |
congratulation! i have not much to say, just think wisely, make a right decision plus, ask God for his help. GOOD LUCK |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by veave(f): 8:42am On Jul 29, 2016 |
This economy ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Nobody: 9:45am On Jul 29, 2016 |
op, your problem isn't that your gf is pregnant. Your problem isn't family cause they are both supportive. I think your problem is looking for a good business idea that will unleash you from the grasp of financial huddles. Your assertion about the economy being unfavorable is so lame coming from someone who have at least, seen the four walls of the university. In every blockade, there's a stepping stone. In all instabilities, there are opportunities to be tapped. Good luck! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Pidggin(f): 12:55pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
suleiman16: You two should go back to the room where you had sex in secret to discuss this issue amicably. Let me help you with one suggestion: go and hustle! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by thorpido(m): 2:42pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
What help do you want from us Op? Your case is simple.Go and beg your family to support you.When the baby is born,the child will stay with your mother or your girl's mother while she goes back to school to complete her education.You also keep working hard till you are financially buoyant enough to do the marriage rites. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by 5minsmadness: 4:33pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
Use a condom or better yet abstain from sex. Oh wait...too late. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Estonto(f): 4:54pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
Congrats OP. Many are really looking for that bundle of joy you and your fiance just got on a platter of gold. Mine was just like urs in the beginning. Be optimistic, prayerful and have faith. All things will fall in place. My advice - Try to be independent. Your family, your pride. ![]() |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by Estonto(f): 5:02pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
Good. But staying with your parents may not go down well with her. She may not complain but she may not like it either. I for a person like to be independent no matter what. It will give her more room to make her own decision, unlike when with her in-laws, she will be doing shy shy and will not be so free. Let her stay in your apartment and start building your own empire. Like I said earlier, be independent. Your family, your pride. suleiman16: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancée Is Pregnant, Please Help! by suleiman16(m): 7:28pm On Jul 29, 2016 |
Estonto: Thank you for ur advice, it will go a long way... |
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