Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

suleiman16:
Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

it's very courageous of u to decide to keep the baby, some people are looking for that blessing for years and haven't found any. When is she graduating? u can go and pay her bride price or do introduction. Let her give birth and stay with your parents then go back and complete her education if she doesn't graduate bf then. While she is getting ready to deliver, get an affordable apartment if you dont have and start small. No condition is permanent in life.

How do u want us to help ?

Is it financially ?

Cos i dont seem to understand what u want, since both families are in support of your relationship and u have decided to keep the baby then u have nothing to worry about .

Keep hustling ..............

My friend go do the needful!

ubiR:
it's very courageous of u to decide to keep the baby, some people are looking for that blessing for years and haven't found any. When is she graduating? u can go and pay her bride price or do introduction. Let her give birth and stay with your parents then go back and complete her education if she doesn't graduate bf then. While she is getting ready to deliver, get an affordable apartment if you dont have and start small. No condition is permanent in life.

The guy just said he doesn't hv money, and you're talking abt paying bride price, getting affordable apartment n going bck to sch. Hv u ever been really broke?

Things are very simple op:

1. Pray, Seek God's forgiveness and commit your plans and your lives into God's hand.
1. Inform your parents (both of you going at once).
2. Go to the registry for court wedding.
3. Start planning traditional wedding
4. Start preparing for babies arrival (more hustle, saving money, e.t.c).

Please start doing the above immediately

CONGRAT ON YOUR NEW ACHIEVEMENT.


just work extra hard to keep your family happy

since ur nt yet ready, I suggest dat word 'fiancee' is too strong.just use my girlfriend is pregnant

Great decision!! respect bro, only few will have the heart to accept it and you're part of em.. for sure it'll be hard at first,but kids bring blessings and joy along with them..so just keep hustling,stay close to God, tell your parents, and get along with whatever plans you have for ur fiancee and unborn child, it'll be hard at first but things will turn good as long as you're a hardworking guy.. any man can get any woman pregnant but not any man can stand and be a father..i'm sure your fiancee is proud of your decision already

CONGRAT BRO

Thank you all for this wonderful advice, it will go a long way...
Please I will appreciate if I can get more opinion.

cozy7:
The guy just said he doesn't hv money, and you're talking abt paying bride price, getting affordable apartment n going bck to sch. Hv u ever been really broke?

leave her, she's still eating "mummy thank you" and dnt know the state of the Nigerian economy.

suleiman16:
Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

did you know that she was capable of falling pregnant if she had sex? If you do, what kind of advice do you want exactly?

ubiR:
it's very courageous of u to decide to keep the baby, some people are looking for that blessing for years and haven't found any. When is she graduating? u can go and pay her bride price or do introduction. Let her give birth and stay with your parents then go back and complete her education if she doesn't graduate bf then. While she is getting ready to deliver, get an affordable apartment if you dont have and start small. No condition is permanent in life.

This is the best advice here take it or leave it.

ubiR:
it's very courageous of u to decide to keep the baby, some people are looking for that blessing for years and haven't found any. When is she graduating? u can go and pay her bride price or do introduction. Let her give birth and stay with your parents then go back and complete her education if she doesn't graduate bf then. While she is getting ready to deliver, get an affordable apartment if you dont have and start small. No condition is permanent in life.

Thank you for this weekend this wonderful advice, hopefully she would graduate before this year run out, I have an apartment she can stay, thou will like her to stay with my parent since I won't be around... My fear is just how she will cope with her final year n pregnancy...

When you were indulging in the premarital sex you did not come here to wail o...


Getttooouuuttt

kiddoiLL:
Great decision!! respect bro, only few will have the heart to accept it and you're part of em.. for sure it'll be hard at first,but kids bring blessings and joy along with them..so just keep hustling,stay close to God, tell your parents, and get along with whatever plans you have for ur fiancee and unborn child, it'll be hard at first but things will turn good as long as you're a hardworking guy.. any man can get any woman pregnant but not any man can stand and be a father..i'm sure your fiancee is proud of your decision already

Thank you bro for this, we have plan of getting married later this year, just that it came so soon, she is full of hope n optimistic about life and future, the fear is just on my own side, don't know why?

suleiman16:
Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

Well since you did the crime,you gotta pay the fine.You enjoyed the sex so be a man and take care of your child.

suleiman16:



Thank you bro for this, we have plan of getting married later this year, just that it came so soon, she is full of hope n optimistic about life and future, the fear is just on my own side, don't know why?

it's okay to feel scared cus of the way things are, but it's like a bridge for u to cross..stand n face ur fear, just keep being loyal to ur hustle..better times ahead

suleiman16:



Thank you for this weekend this wonderful advice, hopefully she would graduate before this year run out, I have an apartment she can stay, thou will like her to stay with my parent since I won't be around... My fear is just how she will cope with her final year n pregnancy...

If that's the case, its not really an issue, been 13weeks means she might deliver next year. People have survived giving birth and schooling at same time, she will pull through. Worry less, she can give birth and go back and complete her school either of them.

The girl no help you think these ones . Ask her how una go take do am
No dey ask us, you hear

congratulation!


i have not much to say, just
think wisely, make a right decision plus, ask God for his help.
GOOD LUCK

This economy

op, your problem isn't that your gf is pregnant. Your problem isn't family cause they are both supportive. I think your problem is looking for a good business idea that will unleash you from the grasp of financial huddles. Your assertion about the economy being unfavorable is so lame coming from someone who have at least, seen the four walls of the university. In every blockade, there's a stepping stone. In all instabilities, there are opportunities to be tapped.

Good luck!

suleiman16:
Hi Nairalander,

I am going through one of the toughest stage in my life, my Fiancée is pregnant (13 weeks), and we have decided to keep it, I am presently doing my NYSC and she is a final year student in a Federal University.

Both family is aware of our relationship and we have been together for a very long time, she is very supportive and I really love her.

But where the problem lies is that am presently faced with the challenges of keeping a family and other responsibilities that are attached to it, Thou I have a business am doing but the business has not been doing well as we all know the economy challenges facing the country now.


Pls I want the member of this forum to advice me on what to do, abortion is out of it, because if we want to, we would have done that before now,also I don't want to keep baby mama, but my fear is how will my self and my Fiancée cope by starting our own family now


Pls good people of this forum that have gone through similar stage or known someone that has gone or going through similar problem should advice on what to do and how to face challenges of this nature...

Please help me out of this...

You two should go back to the room where you had sex in secret to discuss this issue amicably. Let me help you with one suggestion: go and hustle!

What help do you want from us Op?
Your case is simple.Go and beg your family to support you.When the baby is born,the child will stay with your mother or your girl's mother while she goes back to school to complete her education.You also keep working hard till you are financially buoyant enough to do the marriage rites.

Use a condom or better yet abstain from sex.


Oh wait...too late.

Congrats OP. Many are really looking for that bundle of joy you and your fiance just got on a platter of gold. Mine was just like urs in the beginning. Be optimistic, prayerful and have faith. All things will fall in place. My advice - Try to be independent. Your family, your pride.

Good. But staying with your parents may not go down well with her. She may not complain but she may not like it either. I for a person like to be independent no matter what. It will give her more room to make her own decision, unlike when with her in-laws, she will be doing shy shy and will not be so free. Let her stay in your apartment and start building your own empire. Like I said earlier, be independent. Your family, your pride.

suleiman16:



Thank you for this weekend this wonderful advice, hopefully she would graduate before this year run out, I have an apartment she can stay, thou will like her to stay with my parent since I won't be around... My fear is just how she will cope with her final year n pregnancy...

Estonto:
Good. But staying with your parents may not go down well with her. She may not complain but she may not like it either. I for a person like to be independent no matter what. It will give her more room to make her own decision, unlike when with her in-laws, she will be doing shy shy and will not be so free. Let her stay in your apartment and start building your own empire. Like I said earlier, be independent. Your family, your pride.

Thank you for ur advice, it will go a long way...