By Anonymous:

Last week I stumbled on a television program where a girl was asked what age she thinks was the right age for a girl to start seeing her menses.


Today I thought it wise that I should share what I called “the ugly incidence” experience which happened in 1998. I hope you don’t mind if you share yours too.


As a young child who was still growing I knew nothing about personal hygiene nor
Menstruation when it comes to “woman”. Coming from a family where my parents were all concerned about “what to eat” and not counseling female children on what to expect when they get to a certain age.
At the age of thirteen, I had a friend named Amaka. Amaka was two years older than I was. Each morning we would go and fetch water together.
One morning Amaka and I were on our way home from pump (a borehole close to a nearby street where we normally fetch water). I was behind her, as I looked close at her gown I noticed that her gown has been drenched in blood (she was bleeding) and when I quickly brought to her notice so I could know what the problem was but she said she had no idea of what is happening to her.

As kids our childhood days was fun until that faithful day when the Ugly Incident occurred. As kids we would abuse each other while others will laugh to the peak of their voice. In-fact I was the comedian, I mocked my fellow kids.
Until one faithful afternoon while playing with other children in our compound, I sat on a bench with other children as we are on our normal yarbing business. As normal some were laughing, some were supporting me because they didn’t want me to face them while others were against me expecially one of the kids named Okon.
As we continued I heard a call from my mum - Mum will never call you more than two and if she does then you should give her something in return (beating). As I stood up from the bench to answer mum, blood started rushing out from behind down to my legs. The children began to shout “eheh! So you are a blood sucker”. Okon called me a witch.
Immediately mum came and took me inside, cleaned me up and gave me a piece of cloth to use as an absorber. For weeks I didn’t come out to play with other kids as they will never stop calling me blood sucker.

If my mum had told me earlier that as a woman something like that will happen to me at least I would had told the children but I knew nothing about it.
Please I advise young mums like me to tell our children what they stand to experience as they grow up so what happened to Amaka and I do not happen to them.

Feel free to share your own experience during your first Menstruation.

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Mine is a bit similar to urs,except for the fact that my parents were devorced........well i wasn't intimated,esp being born into a die hard deeper life family. It all started with an outrageous pain(abdominal) I cried all tru d night bcus dad travelled, my siblings were younger and thought it was just stomach ache.......so the next day I managed to go to school (no blood detected as at then just cramps) so in sch it got worse by then I cldnt feel some wetness but was too weak to go outside during bro time.during closing time,I got up ,lo and bohold I was soaked with blood,I tot I was poisoned or going to die.......I begged my friend to call my sch mother,dat I was sick.when she came I confided in her and that was how we waited till d whole sch was empty, den she wrapped my waist with her cardigan. It was her that educated me abt it.......am still grateful for that

so educating, nairaland,needs this kind of post often instead of,can i dump her or can i stay with him

Very informative. It is pertinent for parents most especially mothers to give their female children approaching puberty some real good sexual education. I am not talking about "the how to wear female condoms" kind of education . Secondary sexual characteristics that accompanies puberty in girls as well as ways to maintain good personal hygiene.

Lalasticlala, can you move this to front page pleaaseeeee

Lalasticala which one be this kind blood matter for FP naaaa? Una for kuku add pictures join.

Zbzv

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Very informative. It is pertinent for parents most especially mothers to give their female children approaching puberty some real good sexual education. I am not talking about "the how to wear female condoms" kind of education . Secondary sexual characteristics that accompanies puberty in girls as well as ways to maintain good personal hygiene.

Informational not informative

ok hateu2

wtf

Menstruation,menopause ,mental breakdown ,meningitis .......hey,women do you realize that all your problems begin with men?

Wetin concern me with menstruation...wetin concern agbero with change

OlajumokeBread:


Informational not informative

I no too go skul, na informative me I no

Gals dey try sha

achinaboy:
so educating, nairaland,needs this kind of post often instead of,can i dump her or can i stay with him

u shud know those 'can I dump her' threads make money for Seun


The post too long for me sef. Besides, na 4 d opposite sex.

Bifwoli:
Menstruation,menopause ,mental breakdown ,meningitis .......hey,women do you realize that all your problems begin with men?

Just negodu!!!

I booked space before reading then realised I shouldn't be here

Luckily for me my mum told me all about it before it even appeared,then in secondary school people from either always or ladycare (can't remember) visited and showed us how to use/wear a pad properly.

Was still scared when it finally happened and off course my mum said the usual 'if a man touches u,u will get pregnant' ..I knew better sha

Mopolchi:
ok hateuu2

God, pls all I request from u are 3 boys and 1 girl. I don't have time for female wahala

but some underage girl knew all dis more than adult sef.

OlajumokeBread:

Informational not informative

Both are right. Check your dictionary, Madam Linguist.

HateU2:
My story, no much knowledge about it from my mum. Just from biology stuff and a close friend of mine back in JSS1 days. She started her own in JSS1. I used to see her as . Then in JSS2, I started my own. It was during school period. I went to 'weewee' and I saw blood on my pant with painful 'pains' that landed me in hospital the second day. I was really scared ooo. I checked if it was a 'wound'. On getting home, I told my mum and guess what? She was so angry. She said I was too young to see 'it'. It was as if na me call am oo. Then she scared me of 'if a man touch you, you will get preggy and end up selling pepper '

I will start 'female' discussion with my daughters as soon as possible

HateU2:
My story, no much knowledge about it from my mum. Just from biology stuff and a close friend of mine back in JSS1 days. She started her own in JSS1. I used to see her as . Then in JSS2, I started my own. It was during school period. I went to 'weewee' and I saw blood on my pant with painful 'pains' that landed me in hospital the second day. I was really scared ooo. I checked if it was a 'wound'. On getting home, I told my mum and guess what? She was so angry. She said I was too young to see 'it'. It was as if na me call am oo. Then she scared me of 'if a man touch you, you will get preggy and end up selling pepper '

I will start 'female' discussion with my daughters as soon as possible

Ok

OlajumokeBread:

Informational not informative

Both are right. Check your dictionary, Madam Linguist.

HateU2:
Lalasticlala, can you move this to front page pleaaseeeee

Tell us how did you experience yours instead of using lalasticlala as a leverage.

HateU2:

yes

Why this Iyama thread making front page tori olorun..we men are not interested lah abi no be us u dey transfer the aggression on wen u dey leak

Was jejely eating Xmas rice with entire extended family members.Felt the thing,ran out to check,ran back into sitting room and as an idiot fourteen year old went, Mummy! IT HAS COME OUT.IT HAS COME! . For some reason I was excited .
But looking back now I get embarrassed AF anytime any of my rlatives that witnessed that shite brings it up.

IT EDUCATIVE, IT WILL B FANTASTIC IF MUM EDUCATE THEIR KIDS B4 DEY GET INTO DIX, 4 PROPER CARE & COURAGE

Nice one op. Female discussion IF UR BODY TOUCH OMOGE SHE GO GET BELLE, LOL.

Parent should try n create avenue 4 their children, know them more {likes N dislikes, feelings} n try 2 educate them more.

Well datz gonna those dayz. Most children now know more than their parent due 2 advancement in technology.

This goes 2 mum N mum 2b.
Try 2 educate ur children both male N female in all aspect of life

Gonna those dayz se my mama get No time 4 mum N child talk Market tinx as early as 5am N cum bak 11pm.

Pipu wit different opinion about dix topic, wel na so he suppose be, sum see it as trash, disgusting, educational, head up.
Just do d right thing very soon u gonna b a father/mother.

4me 2 Boyz nd 2 girlz are enough but God know better.

SHOBIZZ ICT