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Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 7:38pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
hello nairaland, Am so confused on what path to follow. I ve two girls in my life, but am confused on who to settle down with. Girl A....she is not a graduate, she is a sales-girl, from a poor background, has a love-child at home. I believe she loves me, but I strongly suspect she is in luv cos of her belief that am way higher than her . I sense a great level of inferiority complex from her. She is never money conscious, barely asks me for money, she accepts anything I give her. My main issue is she is not proactive. She doesn't have a say of hers!!!! Girl B.......she is a graduate, she is doing her nysc, from an average family, assertive, doesn't pretend, always money conscious, always looking for ways to add value to her life, she nags and complains alot. She is always advising me to do better, she always keeps me on my toe by criticising any thing I don't do well. But..... I love girl B more than girl A, but the crux of the matter is girl A is pregnant for me...... I just don't know what to do. I need serious advice, I can't go for abortion, I don't want to marry girl A....... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Nobody: 7:53pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Can you believe this guy? You my friend have not even an ounce of respect for women. Look at the way you portray them, like mere objects. Toying and fĂșcking both. Worse still, getting the single mother pregnant, just to add to her burdens and to run away. Depriving a child of his Dad. And you even have the audacity to get confused. Karma will get your ass. 39 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 8:08pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
VolTOxic: Guy relax, it wasn't as if I set out to hurt both women, just the way things happen sometimes... |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Nobody: 8:14pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
You don't want to marry her? Who do you want to leave her for with a second love child? You are a joker. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Nobody: 8:15pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
konfused: What did you set out to do to both of them, by cheating on them both? How do things sometime happen? Was the se/x a mistake? 8 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Vikky014(f): 8:22pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
konfused:one of the benefits of double dating. hw i wish i hv the number of gurl B. I will jst tell her to dump ur sorry ass...imagine playing wt d feelings of two ladies. u r simply wicked nd hrtless..karma is a bitch though 4 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 8:27pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Gaborone: it was not a mistake, I just don't know, I know am to blame for all this, but I seriously don't knw what to do. |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by greatgod2012(f): 8:28pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Guy, you're not confused! You're wicked! That's just the truth. You knew you didn't love the girl A but you convinced her and deceived her and she believed you, hence, allowing you to impregnate her. You knew she already had a love child, and now you too have impregnated her, then, planning to dump her, after she has given you all of herself, you want to make her to have second baby out of wedlock When you knew you didn't love her, why did you impregnate her? Why don't you allowed her to find her match since she's not your match. As for lady B, I'm sure that you prefer her because she's more presentable than the other lady, nothing more. Anyway, I blame the lady A too, I expect her to have learnt from her previous mistake and never allow any man to toy with her sexually until she's married. Another area to look at it is will your graduate lady, I mean your lady B even agree to go on with that relationship with you ant longer if she's aware that you've impregnated another lady, provided she has class and principle 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by crackhaus: 8:37pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Mumu 1 Like |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 9:13pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Biko what qualifies this issue as wickedness, girl A was a side chick, cos I don't want to indulge in abortion now am wicked..... I love girl B, I need advice and not telling me if am wicked or not... |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by yomi007k(m): 10:21pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
VolTOxic: I like ds guy 6 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by GodnGold: 10:41pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
I just cooked fio-fio and yam,op come and eat.
Your problem is hunger. Marry girl AB. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by berryBee(f): 11:53pm On Aug 03, 2016 |
Op you are wicked. Take GalB advice n do better with your life. I blame GalA for making such a mistake a second time. If GalB has sense as you said, she Wll dump ur miserable a$$ 6 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Roseey0(f): 1:31am On Aug 04, 2016 |
The thunder!!!!!..... Just leave girl A first! |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 1:45pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Roseey0:Why should I leave A please? |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by yetseyi(f): 1:55pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Orishirishi You don't love girl A and you got her pregnant. Issorait. |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by trilobite: 2:06pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
. We are in the same boat my brother. I never give her bele sha. This your story just be like say God don warn me. Where did I keep that Durex?!!!! |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by natasha: 3:10pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
pls send us your pre wedding pics with Girl A, then the wedding pics, then the naming ceremony pics, then the anniversary pics |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by StPete: 4:06pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
This is real dilemma. OP follow ur heart cos if u marry d lady cos of d child, u will just end up regretting ur life. However do all u can to morally and financially support the pregnant lady and be a good father when the child is born. 2 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 4:11pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
StPete: Thanks for your advice bro. I really appreciate. Nobody dey boil water cos he is expecting to fall........ |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Nobody: 4:14pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
@Op just do what would make you sleep well at night! |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by benjibabs(m): 5:56pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
konfused: Side Chick ko? What does that even mean? someone to keep on the side to sleep with whenever you feel like and dump at the end of the day for the real deal??shey? Obviously, you don't think the so called "side chick" is human or deserves to be loved and cared for? No matter what level she is there is still someone of her level out there that will love and appreciate her. And besides, do you think she wants to be where she is or be in that situation for life? You really don't need anyone to tell you that you are wicked, you should know by now yourself. If you found out that girl B has been keeping you as "side guy" all this while, how would you feel? Or how would you like some clean guy to call your sister "side chick" to your face?? Go ponder on that to start with. Ok. Now lets see if there is any damage control you can deploy to salvage the situation. First, sit girl B down and tell her what you have done with girl A. If she dumps you, great! You now only have girl A to deal with. You then have to sit down and think of what you wanna do with girl A - marry her and be miserable or leave her but take responsibility to father your child and support the girl. If girl B is crazy enough to still wanna hang on to you, then let girl A know you are not moving on with the relationship with her but you will take responsibly for the child and support her. And yes, the conversations with both girls will be difficult and emotional. You just have to Man up and do what you need to do. It is what it is! Above all, you need to get you head screwed on straight and go back and look for your integrity wherever you lost it. In addition, stop calling fellow human being "side chick", it stinks!!! 11 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by project4OO: 6:03pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Can you marry both, please? |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by izzou(m): 6:07pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
You are truly what your moniker says Mtcheeeeew That's why i advise ladies to keep their legs closed because of devourers like op |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 6:42pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
benjibabs: Thanks a lot dude..... I really appreciate your input.... |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by HaneefahRN(f): 6:45pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
So you were busy playing with both, got a single mother pregnant then remembered you don't love her, so she can now be a single mother to two children from irresponsible guys, then had the mind to come and ask for advice? Your grey mater and conscience is dead and buried. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by konfused: 6:48pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
He who has no Sin should first cast a stone..... All these dudes acting all sanctimonious as if you guys are all angels, calling me wicked and all that, all I asked for is advice and not some holier-than-thou dudes telling me am wicked.... I bleeped up, yes I admit to that, but using that world "wicked"......haba!!! If you don't have any advice for me, say so than calling me wicked for something I didn't do intentionally..... |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Mopricelezz(f): 8:05pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Is this for real? Honestly I laughed after reading the last part. Guy, this is sheer wickedness. Playing both of them? Now Karma has caught up with you. You just have to man up and marry girl A ooo. Abi you wanna leave her with another love child? On a more serious note, bros if you marry the pregnant lady cos of the child, you might end up regretting it, so my advice. Man up and be responsible for the child when its born. Goodluck! |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by Mopricelezz(f): 8:11pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
trilobite: Hmmmm, Karma is a B*tch ooo |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by AfroKnight: 8:21pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Mr Konfused. First of all, congratulations. Just marry the pregnant babe jejely and enjoy your marriage. A woman who doesn't nag frequently is a rare treat from heaven. You said she's contented with whatever amount you spend on her. Baba, are you really trying to rationalize leaving such a woman? The main difference between A and B is education. This can be acquired even at her age. Na small thing. Pick lady A. With the right education and exposure you will end up with a peaceable, educated and reasonable wife who makes life easy for you at home. Bro, this is what men are praying for and you want to gamble? Ha! 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by eitsei(m): 9:40pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
Gaborone:I tell you.. It's not all the mad Men that you see on the street you pity nor people with broken lives because it might be karma dealing with them... Leaving the girl B now Mr konfused who do you think will marry her after two kids from two irresponsible different fathers It's not that the girl B is not money conscious nor proactive as you portrayed her, I believe she's only like that because of her condition because she will do anything to keep a man that looks her side despite the fact that such man knew she's already had a child before 3 Likes |
Re: Am Confused on what to DO....I need ADVICE by izzou(m): 9:49pm On Aug 04, 2016 |
konfused: Now i aff finally admit that you are confused 2 Likes |
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