sinaj:
You are just not ready for a reltnshp.

EmperorLee:
When next you get into another relationship, try as much as possible to keep your distance right from the beginning. Keep your space and avoid too much familiarity (like seeing her everyday, calling or chatting her every time and n so on), with this the relationship will always seem fresh and you won't get tired and bored of it.

Rexhenrex:
am impressed with this advice but i tried it with this new girl, but she insisted she wants to be seeing me everyday that she can't go a day without seeing me then i started giving excuses that am busy she began suspecting me and said i only see her when i feel like and that am selfish and if i can't make time for she will dump me. and i so love her so i continued with seeing her everyday again and now am getting bored of the whole thing

Rexhenrex:
obiora thanks for the correction and also i so much appreciate you advice i really do. but another issue is that if i get to always be with her i will get tired of her do you really think doing the things you mentioned will not make me get tired of her presence?

IamLEGEND1:
your bestie is a girl?

I give up.

Rexhenrex:
obiora thanks for the correction and also i so much appreciate you advice i really do. but another issue is that if i get to always be with her i will get tired of her do you really think doing the things you mentioned will not make me get tired of her presence?

[b]Hi Henry
I believe in understanding the root of a problem,correct me if I'm wrong.
@the bolded,trust me its all in your mind,the environment,peer pressure,what you noticed an elder doing while growing up/how people you look up to tend to treat or handle relationships,is just what you are acting with,so,your mind is conditioned to feel tired or fed up after just a little time.

eg,a male friend told me that "men are supposed hate ladies immediately after sex/intimacy (outside marriage)".(that was his mindset due to peer discussion,boys night out talks etc) but he found out,he always love her more instead,and even though,he thinks he should hate her,he will be the one introducing the cuddling after sex.

So my dear,I think you need a reorientation on relationship,all these advice will not work unless your purge your mind of the foundamental persperctive of what a relationship should be like.

I was once like that,always breaking up with my boyfriend over every slight misunderstanding(I had the believe that a guy must not offend me,I am doing him a favour by dating him,etc) until the day my then boyfriend, warned me that he is not going to beg me as usual,he will just breakup too,I realized there and then that I really didn't want to breakup with him,since then,I learnt to iron issues out by communication rather than threaten breakup.

If you don't find all these advice useful,please don't force yourself,to avoid breeding comtempt for your girlfriend,instead,go for medical help,a relationship counsellor will know what to do[/b]

Richiy:
Op, obirathesubtle and emperorlee have given you really great advise. Consider it seriously.

I am going to come from another angle. I am not trying to reprimand you, but just what do you think will happen to the girls you just dropped like hot coal? You drag them in just to leave them broken? Even if you don't consider anything, please consider these girls. Don't purposefully leave a trail of broken hearts behind you.

Fin advise: If you are not absolutely sure, do not even start it at all.

Obiorathesubte, that story was so touching I'd really wanna know what happened

I'm still trying to find out o.. But I'm sure she's happy where she is.. I was a handful, I know

EmperorLee:



She is not the one for you.

I used to face the same problem (getting bored of relationships, ending relationship within 1 or 2 months etc) until I met a girl that was just like me. We might not call each other in a week, we only meet twice or thrice in like a month and now September is gon mark the 4th year of our relationship.


When you find someone that understands your philosophy, you will never get tired of the relationship, you will keep loving her over and over again.

obiorathesubtle:
I'm still trying to find out o.. But I'm sure she's happy where she is.. I was a handful, I know

Richiy:


Is it the case of love isn't enough? Because I cannot understand why else you will let someone you connect with that well go away

Lol.. Kindof.. She always wanted more tho.. More love, more attention, wanted things her way.. Very slow to adjust.. Stuff like that..

So.. I guess so..


But I'm grateful to have known someone like her, she taught me a lot of things.. She made me realise parts of myself I had no idea about..

she humbled me to the ground! Damn!!

EmperorLee:



She is not the one for you.

I used to face the same problem (getting bored of relationships, ending relationship within 1 or 2 months etc) until I met a girl that was just like me. We might not call each other in a week, we only meet twice or thrice in like a month and now September is gon mark the 4th year of our relationship.


When you find someone that understands your philosophy, you will never get tired of the relationship, you will keep loving her over and over again.

juhan:
laveda say something na

Laveda:


Lol Juha n..

Okay, I can relate to the Op's problem here I've been in sh!t like this.. When it ended I felt like I wasn't okay.

Here's what I think..
Op is the type of person that shouldn't just rush into any relationship, maybe getting to know the girl better build this friendship with her, be sure of why he really wants to get into that relationship. Trust me if he really knows what he wants he wouldn't be changing gfs like boxers.


Rexhenrex I feel you shouldn't rush into dating when you meet a new girl no matter how beautiful she is, try to get to know her better, the kinda girl she is and if you both can really flow well...
I'm not good at this..

Lemme call my sis skarle tt to help.

IamLEGEND1:
your bestie is a girl?
I give up.

misspicy:

[b]Hi Henry
I believe in understanding the root of a problem,correct me if I'm wrong.
@the bolded,trust me its all in your mind,the environment,peer pressure,what you noticed an elder doing while growing up/how people you look up to tend to treat or handle relationships,is just what you are acting with,so,your mind is conditioned to feel tired or fed up after just a little time.

eg,a male friend told me that "men are supposed hate ladies immediately after sex/intimacy (outside marriage)".(that was his mindset due to peer discussion,boys night out talks etc) but he found out,he always love her more instead,and even though,he thinks he should hate her,he will be the one introducing the cuddling after sex.

So my dear,I think you need a reorientation on relationship,all these advice will not work unless your purge your mind of the foundamental persperctive of what a relationship should be like.

I was once like that,always breaking up with my boyfriend over every slight misunderstanding(I had the believe that a guy must not offend me,I am doing him a favour by dating him,etc) until the day my then boyfriend, warned me that he is not going to beg me as usual,he will just breakup too,I realized there and then that I really didn't want to breakup with him,since then,I learnt to iron issues out by communication rather than threaten breakup.

If you don't find all these advice useful,please don't force yourself,to avoid breeding comtempt for your girlfriend,instead,go for medical help,a relationship counsellor will know what to do[/b]

Richiy:
Op, obiorathesubtle and emperorlee have given you really great advise. Consider it seriously.

I am going to come from another angle. I am not trying to reprimand you, but just what do you think will happen to the girls you just dropped like hot coal? You drag them in just to leave them broken? Even if you don't consider anything, please consider these girls. Don't purposefully leave a trail of broken hearts behind you.

Fin advise: If you are not absolutely sure, do not even start it at all.

Obiorathesubtle, that story was so touching I'd really wanna know what happened