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My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 11:59pm On Aug 09, 2016 |
if i tell my mother fk off, I don't like you, I don't want u in my life she wldnt even care, she will just go on abt her business recently my Jamaican neighbour quarrelled with her daughter like me after the fight, when everything had cooled down her mother felt bad abt the whole situation and apologised her daughter was even forming self. .her mother had to beg more i was like wow, shes so lucky my mother won't do that my fathers people trained me to worship my future husband and children no wonder they didn't like my mother is it normal for my mother to act like that ![]() even when my father divorced her she didn't even really fight for her marriage she just takes life as it, does not stress her self most divorced Nigerian women go mental after divorce. .she took the situation lightly |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 12:33am On Aug 10, 2016 |
It's simple. She hates the life God has given her and one day she will realise it but then it'll be too late when the head is off |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by pimpchi(m): 12:50am On Aug 10, 2016 |
U expect ur mom to be aggressive? I don't get ur point plz. I feel d topic is misleading. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 12:54am On Aug 10, 2016 |
pimpchi: more caring |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by pimpchi(m): 1:37am On Aug 10, 2016 |
onila:Sorry to ask but caring in what sense? Cos the examples u painted were that of aggressive approach. I think it's her nature, she is extremely peaceful. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by nairalife2013(m): 1:39am On Aug 10, 2016 |
Some women are fast to react to emotions. Sometimes itz natural. But her own is much. I used to think my wife doesn't care abt our kids until I found out her mindset. She is so attached to me that she can hardly stay on her own for hours without me, she snuggles into my sides every now and then and would push our kids, even the last one of abt a year plus, to be on her own or with our maids when am around, so that she can have me all to her self. My wife would hardly sleep in d same bed with any of her own kids, except I was to join her there. I used to watch helplessly as they cry to their rooms almost on daily bases, after my fruitless efforts at convincing my wife to let them stay in our own room atleast once in a while. I was worried for my kids having such a mother, cos I found out my wife would not stop the habit soon. if I got angry and refuse to speak with my wife she would start running temperature before too long. If I tell u all u ll be mesmerized. If something should make me divorce her now, she will definitely become wrecked and feelingless. I had to fully come to terms with her nature and find a way to close-knit us as a family. I do not know d details, but in my opinion, yur dad didn't do well, letting yur mum go. Some women when u hurt them so much it kills their spirit so much too and d next thing they do is to beg God to take u away from their heart so that they can see u as any other person . This can affect what ever u gave to them, even kids they born for u. Itz a rare case. But itz there, even in men. Y'all become neutral in her mind. Pls go back to the distance and undo it and apologize, datz what I can tell yur dad. And for u her kids, she doesn't hate u, but am sure there is something on her mind that words can cure or affectionate action can heal. Continue to love yur mom against all odds. If yur dad loves u it means she loved yur mom. Something just happened along the way, I suppose. Pray to God for direction and take on a simple and forgiving heart. All will be well. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 1:52am On Aug 10, 2016 |
pimpchi: like make her children feel, without them she can't live when she's correcting you, she acts like she does not are abt you or love you one day, she told me, she hates me I know some parents go overboard when angry but there is something abt her, that disgusts me |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 1:54am On Aug 10, 2016 |
nairalife2013: my father left because they were incompatible she s horrible being caring is part of our family tradition she wasn't having that |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by nairalife2013(m): 2:00am On Aug 10, 2016 |
onila:this is serious. Horrible? ...Am dazed. I need to sleep first. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 2:04am On Aug 10, 2016 |
nairalife2013: she was mean to me growing up |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 7:53am On Aug 10, 2016 |
sorry about your predicament.my advice to you is: Take your mum the way she is: There's nothing you can do about it really,like Maya Angelou:"if you cant change a situation you're in,change your attitude towards it". |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 10:06am On Aug 10, 2016 |
When will you finally get over your family issues? It's time to grow up. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Ranchhoddas: 10:17am On Aug 10, 2016 |
You don carry your problems come again. Nairaland na police station? |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 6:00am On Aug 11, 2016 |
Mindfulness: with all due respect, if you don't have anything nice to say mind ur business, Thank you 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by George22016(m): 8:46am On Aug 11, 2016 |
My mum like that.one day she told she I'd not my mother. and even she sponsors other people children to school to the detriment of her own single son.It has made me see women as evil creatures.I can hardly have a stable relationship cus of her |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by DukeNija(m): 2:13pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I think you need the growing up a lot more by learning to ignore things that have absolutely nothing to do with you. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by yvelchstores(f): 3:21pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
onila, pls listen to what I hv to say to u. if that woman dies today, u will feel bad for all these things u use to describe her. if she isn't d way u want, that doesn't make her less of who she is, ur mother. if u think she isn't doing a gud job, say to ur self, u will be a better mum to ur kids. stop comparing her to Jamaican neighbour or whatever. accept her for what she is and make it work. when I was younger, my mum was wat I guess u refer to as mean. I eventually saw,that's d way she shows care, but I hv decided,I won't use her method for my daughter. at d end of d day, I love my mum, she has a lot of flaws, but no one can pray for me like she does. God bless u 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 3:39pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
yvelchstores: thanks but our relationship is very unhealthy it's like when she's shouting at me, there is so much tension is as if I should just commit suicide I don't know how to explain it but I do try now I just try and avoid talking to her so I can do things on my own I just need space she cant keep on with, the way I do things |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Gloriagee(f): 4:02pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
Y should u tell ur mum to f*ck off? Y shd ur mum worship the ground ur dad walks on for Chrissakes? Is he a demi god? I think u need to adjust ur expectations. Some of ur expectations are not healthy and I sense ur relationship with ur mum is toxic, with help from two of u. Now if ur mum is really as horid as u descibe, suicide is not the way to go esp since u insinuate she'd actually be indifferent. Identify the negative tendencies ur mum has n work on not replicating them. If she's cruel to u, minimise ur contact with her and as much as u can, kill her with kindness. Don't forget to honour ur mum, the first commandment with promise n pls realign your expectations. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Gloriagee(f): 4:05pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
I'm sorry but this is rather scary nairalife2013: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by yvelchstores(f): 4:22pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
onila:she is being a Nigerian mum. ask people on this forum, ur mum is even kind. just stop seeing it like that. that's how she knows how to train her child just like millions like her. I am not justifying her. my mum use to shout, beat, pound, grind...lol. as an adult now, I am kind of grateful for some of those discipline...just be grateful to God u hv a mother. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by nairalife2013(m): 5:19pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
Gloriagee:k.thx |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 6:29pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
nairalife2013:if what you said is true,then your wife is sick and needs treatment for the sake of those poor kids because she might hurt them someday if she feels they are sharing your attention with her. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by nairalife2013(m): 8:04pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
chinma414:hahaha, she is not sick, doesn't need no treatment...she loves them as much as she love me. Itz a bond tactics she uses to wrap the family... she believes the mother/child affection is natural and a periodic reprimand or rejection cannot destroy that. I have observed their relationship indirectly without appearing curious. It's affectionate, just that she craves the kids reckon with our unbreakable love and respect for each other and follow suit or learn something from there...she is a complete woman, the last female that would hate her kids, I found out. She is very sound. Dont go there, if u dont understand pls. Thx dear,for yur observation and counsel. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 8:07pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
now we know why onilas life is messed up |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 8:52pm On Aug 11, 2016 |
eddyjibs:Don't be mean.Everyone's got issues;because she can put her issues on here doesn't make you better than her. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 9:21am On Aug 12, 2016 |
DukeNija: Has my comment anything to do with you? ![]() |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 9:22am On Aug 12, 2016 |
onila: This is was the nicest and wisest thing I could have said to you who has been spamming this forum with her family issues. It would do you a lot of good if you finally got over it. If NL doesn't help, find a doctor. No insult, it's too serious. |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 2:00pm On Aug 12, 2016 |
Mindfulness: yo, this is family section. .I can complain as much as I want if it bothers you, then ignore my threads thank you amebo efulefu |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 2:01pm On Aug 12, 2016 |
Mindfulness: yo, this is family section. .I can complain as much as I want if it bothers you, then ignore my threads thank you amebo efulefu |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by Nobody: 2:01pm On Aug 12, 2016 |
onila: You can continue being miserable 'bout things you can't change, not my problem. ![]() |
Re: My Mother Does Not Show That Undying Love For Her Children by onila(f): 2:05pm On Aug 12, 2016 |
Mindfulness: thanks for ur opinion but I reject that now follow the arrow >>>> |
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