Got married to my husband three years ago and some months, but my three years of marital bliss is nothing but confusion...

I met him on Facebook in 2008 and we met in person late 2011 and we got married in February 2013, but the person I thought I knew was a total stranger.. After our marriage I got to know my hubby do bed wet, but I take it with a good fate and started praying along with him.

I gave birth to my son August 2013, after the birth of my son, my loving husband started his fornication in 3d without control, I pray I begged, and even fought with him to tell me what am doing wrong but all these led to him beating the hell out of me, leaving me with bruises...

In Dec 2014, I caught him with a secret phone with over 50 contact which is only female contact from Eskimi dating site and some other place...I was very hurt so will had a big fight over it, but later settled... but after everything there is this particular lady that my hubby refused to let go, for the reason known to them, he flaunts their relationship in a coded way but I do find out...the problem now is any time I confront my hubby with this girl's issue, he will deny it and even curse myself if he has anything to do with her..anytime we had any disagreement now first thing he says is I should leave him and go..

I'm really confused, is it man ego or there is no love left in my marriage?. This is the man I accepted in his darkest moment and I still keep my mouth shut abt his bedwetting thingz..pls note: we are still struggling to move forward, so money is not involved o...my son spent last term at home coz of money..

Hmm...this one is strong. I don't know what to say.What do you do for a living?

vicdall:
Hmm...this one is strong. I don't know what to say.What do you do for a living?

am into frozen foods biz before we move to our new area dis year April.. and dere is no light and I can't carry cost of gen...so am still very much searching for job

Why is it that most women lack standard? He is broke, cheats, bed wets and pummels you, yet you are here looking for solutions. How bad will it get before your survival instinct kicks in? I believe that when you are fed up, you will know what to do.

uniqueB:
am into frozen foods biz before we move to our new area dere is no light and I can carry cost of gen...so still very searching for job

He's definitely tired of you. The best thing is to pick yourself up and move on.

I'm kinda worried with all these marital issues I read everyday . I can't stop wondering how once wonderful friends end up as a monster .



someone should educate me.

stay with him changes are coming

@uniqueB so you met your husband on facebook and you dated for 3yrs without seeing each other (how do people get to do that long distance relationship stuff) and after 2yrs of seeing each other you got married. Very interesting episodes.

The bottom line is the way he got and bed you via social media is also the same way he gets other women. Now for starters, he is bed-wetting because he has been afflicted by one of the women he sleeps around with. It is like a curse and I don't think he can stop cheating with just your pleading and understanding. How does he get money to give this women in the first place if he has no money? What is the background of his family? is your husband's father polygamous? I'm sorry to say this but nothing good comes the way of a man who causes his wife pains. Even if you don't curse him, your pains will. And that is one of the reasons why marriages suffer fimancial poverty.

marriage is like a package when you begin the journey that's when unveiling of the package starts.


you need to start making money through petty trading in the mean time while you wait to get a job because if his head turns ehnnnn.... you wont like yourself, avoid fights and confrontation. it is well with you

Hmmmm. Scared of getting married seff

whats my busi

Facebook, no wonder why

lol...........men are wicked.



that's why I don't do men

When you met him, you didn't make it public. So why are you telling the whole now it backfired?

From the word go I tell ladies, open your mind, stay alert. They won't listen.

One mofo on a previous thread said 10 reason why ladies love being around a ¨bad¨ guy. This is one of the result. When you meet a nice guy, you say he is too dull, you want adventure.

As for me, abeg i de choir practice.

There is solution to every problems of life.

Tell it to God in prayer, also don't forget, that the prayer of the righteous availeth much. (Talk to your spiritual leader)

May God heal your home and your marriage.

Shalom!

Buhari sef

sincerely @op, i feel your pains. i pray God gives you the wisdom to takle your marital prblms..amen

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goonsmi:




He's definitely tired of you. The best thing is to pick yourself up and move on.

Op, ignore this advice pls ... bet the poster is single or divorced

Mrs since u said u have confronted him for his cheating habit n he doesn't wants to change from it, n u even go as far to condole his bed wetting life style which I know is not all ladies that will accept such, I suggest u leave his sorry ass n move on wit ur life before is to late

I feel your pains dear keep praying
he will change
I will be praying here too

Stay in your marriage and try to make it work as long as he doesn't get physical.Focus more on your son.

Not even with a balanced legal tender

PLEASE DIVORCE.

Immediately you read her story,you went straight to her profile to check her out..if you know you are guilty of this,click the like button..

Is your horse_band from the YEAST?
does he have a flathead_ too?

WebSurfer:
Facebook, no wonder why

No wonder why? Forget FB it happens all the time. Don't term it as something that happens only to couples that met on social Media
Anyway back to the OP...I'll just say you should let him be for the main time and if possible you can involve his relatives

Lmao @ bedwetting thingz.

OP sorry o but you shouldn't have married the man.

Pls pack ur bags and run for your dear life! Stds and HIV is real. He can beat you to death too. Danger everywhere.

Uniqueb get yourself a fucckboy and you're even..

No need for all the frustration you're potting yourself through.

Number is on my profile.

Jesus am scared of getting married.

married February gave birth august. (7 months) the pregnancy may have led to the marriage afteral