Got married to my husband three years ago and some months, but my three years of marital bliss is nothing but confusion...

I met him on Facebook in 2008 and we met in person late 2011 and we got married in February 2013, but the person I thought I knew was a total stranger.. After our marriage I got to know my hubby do bed wet, but I take it with a good fate and started praying along with him.

I gave birth to my son August 2013, after the birth of my son, my loving husband started his fornication in 3d without control, I pray I begged, and even fought with him to tell me what am doing wrong but all these led to him beating the hell out of me, leaving me with bruises...

In Dec 2014, I caught him with a secret phone with over 50 contact which is only female contact from Eskimi dating site and some other place...I was very hurt so will had a big fight over it, but later settled... but after everything there is this particular lady that my hubby refused to let go, for the reason known to them, he flaunts their relationship in a coded way but I do find out...the problem now is any time I confront my hubby with this girl's issue, he will deny it and even curse myself if he has anything to do with her..anytime we had any disagreement now first thing he says is I should leave him and go..

I'm really confused, is it man ego or there is no love left in my marriage?. This is the man I accepted in his darkest moment and I still keep my mouth shut abt his bedwetting thingz..pls note: we are still struggling to move forward, so money is not involved o...my son spent last term at home coz of money..

ihatebuhari:
lol...........men are wicked.


that's why I don't do men

AyoolaIgwe:

divorce is not an option. God said in His word, "I hate divorce...". The marriage vow has to stand, "for better for worse...till death do us part". I'm only disagreeing with u from a Christian stand point

stingbreed:
please go see the movie " War room "
Thank me later

canDy4eva:
Ur grammar no b here o!


All d same, good advice frm u!

Ipisi:


You might right...But it is a compulsory necessity

lilmax:
stay with him changes are coming

Jimi23:


Ur advice on marriage is not relevant. As long as the parties involved understand what they are into. Even siblings have nasty fights so i still insist that the cause of marital crises is not where the couple met. Its about how they choose to live their marital lives.

klevotino:
Alrite, i have a business offer for u........would you be my grammar teacher? lol

mercy232:
woman, kindly contact me on whatsapp, am a motivational speaker # and am alwys willing 2 help # it's wot God has called me 4... 08058044675...

dasparrow:


She is your typical Nigerian-bred woman. You know, they worry about what society would say. They were not taught by their mothers on how to put their well being first. So, they suffer and smile while telling their single counterparts to "go and marry" because as we all know, misery likes company. Many married Nigerian women are miserable in their marriages because the average Nigerian-bred male was not taught to respect and cherish women. So, they the women suffer infidelity in their marriages, nurse their sexually transmitted diseases in secret in the privacy of their homes, and secretly envy their single counterparts who do not have to put up with all the mess they the married ones are putting up with.

Allow OP to continue suffering abeg. After all, that is what summarizes most Nigerians, they are the suffering and smiling people and 'sufferhead' is the middle name of most Nigerians.

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OP goodluck. I can't tell you what to do. You are a grown woman and should know what is best for you. After all, it is your marriage and so you should know how much you can take. You married a bed wetter who is also a chronic cheat. How low can you go? All because you want to bear "MRS" and probably look down on your single counterparts. Many of you married women in Nigeria go through so much crap, it is no wonder many of you are envious of Genny Nnaji, Rita Dominic and other spinsters that don't have to deal with half the crap many of you go through in your terrible marriages. Anyways, I wish you the best in whatever you decide.

KAYD007:


She seems to lack self-confidence. She needs to know she's better off without him, that she can survival without him.

She didn't state if she has anything doing for her self that can sustain her when she decides to walk...

Her situation isn't good at all...na this kind thing they make woman old pass her actual age...that man can't change...such are not meant to be married oo

bennyrazz:
are you married?

Got married to my husband three years ago and some months, but my three years of marital bliss is nothing but confusion...

I met him on Facebook in 2008 and we met in person late 2011 and we got married in February 2013, but the person I thought I knew was a total stranger.. After our marriage I got to know my hubby do bed wet, but I take it with a good fate and started praying along with him.

I gave birth to my son August 2013, after the birth of my son, my loving husband started his fornication in 3d without control, I pray I begged, and even fought with him to tell me what am doing wrong but all these led to him beating the hell out of me, leaving me with bruises...

In Dec 2014, I caught him with a secret phone with over 50 contact which is only female contact from Eskimi dating site and some other place...I was very hurt so will had a big fight over it, but later settled... but after everything there is this particular lady that my hubby refused to let go, for the reason known to them, he flaunts their relationship in a coded way but I do find out...the problem now is any time I confront my hubby with this girl's issue, he will deny it and even curse myself if he has anything to do with her..anytime we had any disagreement now first thing he says is I should leave him and go..

I'm really confused, is it man ego or there is no love left in my marriage?. This is the man I accepted in his darkest moment and I still keep my mouth shut abt his bedwetting thingz..pls note: we are still struggling to move forward, so money is not involved o...my son spent last term at home coz of money..

Jimi23:


Of course i am. I also hv a younger sister who met her hubby via social media. They hv been happily married for six years. That is why i know ur assertions about meeting on social media are untrue. People meet anywhere. Where u meet is not relevant to the success of ur marriage. Its about being determined to make it work. Simple.

erimmy:
But do you do women?

Fawklicant:



Here we go again! It is called "Adult onset secondary enuresis", there's no spirit wife afflicting him. It could be caused by a number of factors which include underlying sickness like diabetes or UTI (very plausible since the husband seems to be a bingo), or even stress and anxiety. Caffeine overdose is another known factor, so forget the spiritual bollocks you are leaning towards, its purely medical.

bennyrazz:
no wonder you are a social media marriage advocate. You are entitled to your opinion but as for me, I don't advice any unmarried person to marry via social media. Every marriage has it own red sea, some end up drowning in it and others use the rod in their hands to part it. Only time will tell when it comes

Jimi23:


Of course every1 is entitled to their own opinion.

"Every marriage has it own red sea".

U said it all. EVERY marriage. Thank goodness u didnt say SOCIAL MEDIA marriage.

Where u met ur spouse is irrelevant. Its ur outlook towards ur marital success that matters. I'm not an advocate of Social Media Marriage, i advocate for making every marriage work. Social media and otherwise.

bennyrazz:
kikikikkkikikikiki A man met his wife at the entrance into a babalawos house, they fell in love got married. Later, after many years the man gave his life to Christ. He started having issues in his marriages, ran to meet PASTOR to complain his wife is a witch. Pastor asked him just one simple question "where did you meet your wife? " (thank God for the Holy Spirit) the man replied "at the entrance of babalawos house" Pastor now asked him "what do you expect? " to you where you met your spouse doesn't matter but to me and people I talk to "where you meet your spouse is important"

GloriaNinja:
It is not compulsory or necessary, only primitive people think that way, this is 21st century, most of the so called married people has been killed by their spouses.

Got married to my husband three years ago and some months, but my three years of marital bliss is nothing but confusion...

I met him on Facebook in 2008 and we met in person late 2011 and we got married in February 2013, but the person I thought I knew was a total stranger.. After our marriage I got to know my hubby do bed wet, but I take it with a good fate and started praying along with him.

I gave birth to my son August 2013, after the birth of my son, my loving husband started his fornication in 3d without control, I pray I begged, and even fought with him to tell me what am doing wrong but all these led to him beating the hell out of me, leaving me with bruises...

In Dec 2014, I caught him with a secret phone with over 50 contact which is only female contact from Eskimi dating site and some other place...I was very hurt so will had a big fight over it, but later settled... but after everything there is this particular lady that my hubby refused to let go, for the reason known to them, he flaunts their relationship in a coded way but I do find out...the problem now is any time I confront my hubby with this girl's issue, he will deny it and even curse myself if he has anything to do with her..anytime we had any disagreement now first thing he says is I should leave him and go..

I'm really confused, is it man ego or there is no love left in my marriage?. This is the man I accepted in his darkest moment and I still keep my mouth shut abt his bedwetting thingz..pls note: we are still struggling to move forward, so money is not involved o...my son spent last term at home coz of money..

lollytk:
My sis,there are so many things God can do but will not do if he feels they are not good for us,that's why it appears like our prayers are not answered a times,forget people's advice about prayers and deliverance, we are who we are,no one changes,we can hide our real self but it will always come out,where u met isn't an issue, my candid advice is to leave the man and face your life and your son, God is a God of second chance
Your advice is futile I tel you, everyone can't be you at the same time. What God put together let no Man put asunder, let her endure it, things would get better some day, I was once in your shoes, mine wasn't bed wetting but abusive and a useless adulterer,I left him without a job or biz,i started my life from the sratch after 3 yrs i met someone that practically worship me ,then I realised that God can turn anybody situations around,though it won't be easy, it will be a life of loneliness and confusion but God doesn't forget us, I'm d happiest person on earth now,marriage that was a nightmare with an abusive man became paradise when I have God sent, pray for divine intervention over your life, a man that cannot be changed by his parent can't be changed by a woman or marriage we women should understand that,forget what people will say,life is too short you deserve to be happy, stay blessed my dear.