There is no better way to write it.....
Dear ladies
I have made this letter longer than usual only because I have not had time to make it shorter
You spend a lot of time demanding what a man should and shouldn't be that you all forget to applaud our strengths
It's extremely hard being a man especially in this time and age. The amount of pressure placed on us is unimaginable.
Our main duty is to provide for the family (nuclear,extended,inlaws, neighbours,
Right from childhood we are taught to hush up our feelings. Man up! Don't be a sissy.
It's no wonder men are 3 times more likely to commit suicide compared to their female counterparts. No avenue to voice out their feelings.
So we all go quiet and swallow it in. We really wish we could hold someone and cry it all out,but it's not what the society wants.
Ladies love to voice out their issues,men on the other hand internalise their issues. That's the reason he isn't talking to you at the moment.
When things aren't going as planned,when his mates are all starting to excel and he is feeling left behind, when his mum is insisting he sends money home. He stops believing in himself. Its like the game and rules has been changed without his knowledge,he becomes shattered and disorientated
At this stage,some of you ladies don't help at all. Instead of acknowledging his strengths, you all get lost in his weaknesses.
And somehow,just somehow, you girls make the situation about you instead of helping him through this phase.
When last have you gotten your man any significant gift JUST BECAUSE.
If you haven't, you need to revaluate your self and your relationship/friendship.
We men don't respond well to nags and screams. Those are emotional response. We deal with facts.
We love to go straight to the point. Ladies love dilli dalli and merry go rounding before you make your points. That's where you loose us.
We are sole providers. We are trained to protect and provide . Imagine when we can't fulfill this obligation. It's a death sentence for us.
Whenever we are irritable, less communicative or uninterested in activities around ,rather than nag,give us space to think, it has never been easy for us.
While making conscious efforts to speak to the King in us,Encourage and remind us of previous victories, no matter how little.
REMEMBER
You ladies have been trained right from childhood on how to build and keep a home. Men are not typically taught that.
The devils plan is not to cage men but to kill him completely.
We ain't just fighting a physical battle,we also fight lots of spiritual battles.
But you wouldn't know ,would you..
He hasn't sent you money or even called you for a week now and you don't want to know why.
Men deserve everything you ladies deserve:
Love
Care
Early phone calls,
Late texts
Ice creams
Airtime
Gifts
But we wouldn't say it or demand for it.
Of course MEN ALSO CRY
‪*‎notreallyoriginal‬*

Op, just be a man.

We have both good and bad women, same with your male counterparts.

Eyaaa! that is life for you, deal with it

OP, sorry ehn! I feel your pain... But that's life for you!

KingCheezyPuff:
What !!!!!
••The males on here flow rivers of tears 24 hours a day!!!!
making 1 thread about females or another .
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••You males spend so much time criticising everything about ya'll female counterparts
so much time bashing us ,you've not any time left over to talk about yer issuses.
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BUT Op !!!!
I have heard you.
I will buy my next boyfriend a ice cream!!!!!

You will buy Obontami an Ice cream you mean

Hmmm

Although it sounded like a complain, but I find it quite truthful.... Applauded..
Bar man, give him ice too, and another bottle ...

Op icecream na JediJedi oo.