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When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 4:34pm On Aug 22, 2016
Ladies: at what exact age do you think you should say 'yes, I do', and thenceforth, jointly raise a family with your husband?

Men: Neglecting all constraints, at what exact age do you think you should settle down and start having kids?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 4:39pm On Aug 22, 2016
Nothing like "perfect age" to get married.
Depends on maturity.

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 4:51pm On Aug 22, 2016
Fabulocity:
Nothing like "perfect age" to get married.
Depends on maturity.
good.

I have seen 17/18-year olds who are already mature (intellectually and physically). So, do you mean they can get wed at this age? Don't you think they have to wait till they're about a certain age, and also not exceeding that age before settling down?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 5:04pm On Aug 22, 2016
Yes, they can. If they are indeed physically, emotionally, intellectually and otherwise mature.
Didn't our forefathers get married at 15, 16 years and they were able to cope with their marital responsibilities?
However, there should be an age limit. Mostly to avoid under aged people from getting married.

Geofavor:

good.

I have seen 17/18-year olds who are already mature (intellectually and physically). So, do you mean they can get wed at this age? Don't you think they have to wait till they're about a certain age, and also not exceeding that age before settling down?

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by thorpido(m): 5:09pm On Aug 22, 2016
Geofavor:

good.

I have seen 17/18-year olds who are already mature (intellectually and physically). So, do you mean they can get wed at this age? Don't you think they have to wait till they're about a certain age, and also not exceeding that age before settling down?
How do you rate the maturity?

Abroad,I'll say above 21yrs is right while in Nigeria,I'll say abov e 25yrs is right.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Ghost21(m): 5:49pm On Aug 22, 2016
Fabulocity:
Nothing like "perfect age" to get married.
Depends on maturity.
Financial capasity is not excluded, think about it.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 6:27pm On Aug 22, 2016
God knows best
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 6:43pm On Aug 22, 2016
thorpido:
How do you rate the maturity?

Abroad,I'll say above 21yrs is right while in Nigeria,I'll say abov e 25yrs is right.

Maturity isn't by age. It's by mindset.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 8:07pm On Aug 22, 2016
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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 8:20pm On Aug 22, 2016
LadyMercedes:


Maturity isn't by age. It's by mindset.
So, anybody who isn't mature, even though he/she has clocked 45, shouldn't get married?

What exactly do you call maturity?

Do you know that what you consider to be infantilism might be considered to be maturity by some other guys?

I think there should be an age range within which singles should be wed if there are no problems...

Not too early, not too late.

For men, I would say from 27 - 30

for ladies, 25 - 30...

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by thorpido(m): 8:22pm On Aug 22, 2016
LadyMercedes:


Maturity isn't by age. It's by mindset.
So can we say an 18yr old has the right mindset and should marry?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 8:55pm On Aug 22, 2016
Fabulocity:
Yes, they can. If they are indeed physically, emotionally, intellectually and otherwise mature.
okay. However, do you think maturity is the only thing to be taken into consideration? At such a young age, don't you think there are still lots of flexing to be done?

Some mature men who've seen and had it all still cheat on their wives, and vise versa. Don't you think an 18y.o dude/girl would do worse if he/she rushes into a marriage?



Didn't our forefathers get married at 15, 16 years and they were able to cope with their marital responsibilities?
However, there should be an age limit. Mostly to avoid under aged people from getting married.

I think comparing the stone age to this present day is fallacious. Our forefathers didn't have as much distractions and responsibility as we have today. Their lifestyle was pretty simple: get born, farm, get wed, give birth and die.

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 9:08pm On Aug 22, 2016
Lalasticlala, what do you think? grin
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 3:23am On Aug 23, 2016
Fabulocity:
Nothing like "perfect age" to get married.
Depends on maturity.

True dat!

The one thing I personally dispute is getting married because it is the next logical step. Most people marry after they have completed their studies, bought a nice house and car then look around and think, what else is left, make I find spouse. 6 months down the line misery drops rock hard.

One should marry when they feel comfortable about the whole arrangement, I mean we talking about being together for life here. Don't rush into it.

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Geofavor:
Their lifestyle was pretty simple: get born, farm, get wed, give birth and die.

grin funny dude
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 4:20am On Aug 23, 2016
Fabulocity:
Yes, they can. If they are indeed physically, emotionally, intellectually and otherwise mature.
Didn't our forefathers get married at 15, 16 years and they were able to cope with their marital responsibilities?
However, there should be an age limit. Mostly to avoid under aged people from getting married.

Lol my dear this sounds like a perfectionist idea to me, in fact almost unreal.

Most women attain emotional maturity only after having all their children and they never attain it fully.

Goodluck Jonathan's wife isn't intellectually mature till now (she may never really comprehend simple english). If she was emotionally mature b4 she married, she won't be crying on national tv now that she's years into marriage. That's what you'll never see okonjo-iweala do.

If women attained emotional maturity b4 they married, they won't be having issues with their daughters-in-law at grandma's age.

Wht we need is God and a good character. Life experiences, challenges and upbringing may never make u matured till you're 50yrs old

An abused girl who grew up with feminist tendencies may never marry if she's waiting for emotional maturity. But she can as well marry early if she finds a tolerant man who's patience can undo the emotional wound in her mind and vice versa.

So my dear its God alone and a good character that can help. Even ur spouse knows u can't be mature in all. The only problem is that most ppl of marriageable age still lack good character

Marriage is a dark market, no matter the maturity and perfect orientation one has abt it, one can still be prone to mistakes. Even a professor of psychology may never get it right in marriage. Remember all d whole maturity can not help if ur spouse is a witch or ritualist.

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by diva90: 5:35am On Aug 23, 2016
No such thing as 'perfect age' but the recommended age for females is 25+ , for males 30+

If both parties are financially and emotionally mature to face the challenges of marriage, then that's all that matters
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by ijeshaboy: 7:02am On Aug 23, 2016
diva90:
No such thing as 'perfect age' but the recommended age for females is 25+ , for males 30+

If both parties are financially and emotionally mature to face the challenges of marriage, then that's all that matters
recommended age 30+ hmmmm dts not factual.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 10:29am On Aug 23, 2016
diva90:
No such thing as 'perfect age' but the recommended age for females is 25+ , for males 30+

If both parties are financially and emotionally mature to face the challenges of marriage, then that's all that matters
30+ for males shocked... Don't you think their kids would mistaken them for their grandpas?

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by jayriginal: 10:33am On Aug 23, 2016
Whenever you are ready, regardless of age.

Ready means you can live up to the responsibility of marriage (and caring for dependants).

PS
Marriage isnt for everyone.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 10:36am On Aug 23, 2016
RadicallyBlunt:

Lol my dear this sounds like a perfectionist idea to me, in fact almost unreal.

Most women attain emotional maturity only after having all their children and they never attain it fully.

Goodluck Jonathan's wife isn't intellectually mature till now (she may never really comprehend simple english). If she was emotionally mature b4 she married, she won't be crying on national tv now that she's years into marriage. That's what you'll never see okonjo-iweala do.

If women attained emotional maturity b4 they married, they won't be having issues with their daughters-in-law at grandma's age.
I like this.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 10:39am On Aug 23, 2016
jayriginal:
Whenever you are ready, regardless of age.

Ready means you can live up to the responsibility of marriage (and caring for dependants).

PS
Marriage isnt for everyone.
The question is assuming all is well (neglecting constraints), when is the perfect age to settle down?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by jayriginal: 10:55am On Aug 23, 2016
Geofavor:
The question is assuming all is well (neglecting constraints), when is the perfect age to settle down?

Brother its not about age, its about being ready. Another way to put it would be whatever age you have attained by the time you are ready.

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by byvan03: 11:11am On Aug 23, 2016
All things being equal, 22-25 is perfect for me.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by thorpido(m): 11:45am On Aug 23, 2016
jayriginal:


Brother its not about age, its about being ready. Another way to put it would be whatever age you have attained by the time you are ready.
So if an 18yr old boy says I'm ready,then it means he can marry?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by jayriginal: 12:03pm On Aug 23, 2016
thorpido:
So if an 18yr old boy says I'm ready,then it means he can marry?

Not if he says so, but if he actually is.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Geofavor(m): 12:14pm On Aug 23, 2016
byvan03:
All things being equal, 22-25 is perfect for me.
male or female?

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Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Lordkylie(f): 12:36pm On Aug 23, 2016
when you're ready to handle the excesses of another and not freak out.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by thorpido(m): 12:41pm On Aug 23, 2016
jayriginal:


Not if he says so, but if he actually.
That begs the question.How can we really say someone of that age is actually ready?
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by jayriginal: 12:54pm On Aug 23, 2016
thorpido:
That begs the question.How can we really say someone of that age is actually ready?

Lots of ingredients there, but I daresay if a person doesnt think he is ready, then he probably isnt. Even a person with a fat account may not be ready if such a person is immature.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Elxandre(m): 1:01pm On Aug 23, 2016
Geofavor:

good.

I have seen 17/18-year olds who are already mature (intellectually and physically). So, do you mean they can get wed at this age? Don't you think they have to wait till they're about a certain age, and also not exceeding that age before settling down?
Lol.
Most times you don't actually outgrow your age.

You'll be surprised by the childlike response of those supposedly 'mature' girls to critical issues.

I think around 25 is the right age for mental and psychological reasons.
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Elxandre(m): 1:05pm On Aug 23, 2016
Geofavor:

30+ for males shocked... Don't you think their kids would mistaken them for their grandpas?
Personally I'd be at least 32 before getting married..
You can't be too sure tho grin
Re: When Is The perfect Age To Get Married? by Nobody: 1:41pm On Aug 23, 2016
maturity is a mental thing...undecided


I've seen 30-yr olds that act like toddlers.

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