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Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 12:38am On Aug 28, 2016 |
What prompted this article would be enough to prompt a national disaster. I am fed up with this system and whoever started this should be boiled in hot oil. Sitting on my make shift bed in my room [yes you read right “makeshift” bed, in my own room] I am forced to pen down or rather like my posh friends would say ‘hit the boards’. Why would someone come to your house and stay for more than a month? No this isn’t squatting, it’s meant to be a courtesy visit. Sadly, I have had enough of the courtesy. I used to think overstaying for visits always ended with that village uncle or aunty we all got rid of after leaving our parents house, I regret the fact that this insane plague followed me to my own tiny room where I commute from for my daily bread. Let me give you a run down of my current predicament, I need a kind Nigerian who would ask for my account details and send me enough to get another place and leave my current abode for my room space thief with whom I am currently having a silent beef with. Gawd, to think I have to smile with him in the morning after writing this. It all started a month ago when I got a call from a childhood friend [p.s I think childhood friendship should be abolished because of this] he sounded all mushy and chubby on the phone, he asked how I was and was very pleasant until he dropped the bomb “ I am in Owerri, make I come around so we go hang out small na” my long throat self at the sound of ‘hang out’ immediately imagined he was coming with a lot of money and we would just groove all weekend. So I sent him my address, now I wish I can turn back the hands of time. I have decided to lay down certain principles or signs whichever one you choose to call them, this tidbits are timeless and would help you in avoiding discomforting situations like the one I found myself in. 1) They come prepared: The first sign of trouble was his arrival, who comes ‘around’ with an extra large echolac box? I overlooked it, maybe he was on his way to somewhere else and this was just a stop by. The next morning , my guy had already emptied the whole bag, his clothes were in my wardrobe and his toiletries in my toilet. The real trouble did not start then, I didn’t know I had gotten a roommate for myself. First, he started making calls informing mutual friends and non mutual friends alike of his current location. He didn’t fail to tell them what a good host I was and how nice my room is [I deserved the good host title sha, since he single handedly finished my stock of spaghetti]. If someone comes for a sleepover with a large box or Ghana must go, be alarmed, tell him your house rent expired that evening and you have been asked to vacate. Or tell him you borrowed your bed and the owner says you should return it. Just do whatever it takes, make sure they don’t sleep over. If they do, congrats, I think you would share your things from then on. I am currently mortified. 2) They are funny: you think being funny is a good thing? I hear people say that a lot, now? I think its sacrilegious, I think people should always be serious and only funny in exclusively required cases. Guests who tend to overstay are generally social and funny. My guy is. He immediately started warming up to my neighbors the following morning and before I knew it, Amaka [the hard to get girl] was already calling him sweetheart. Even the caretaker of our estate got used to him and automatically and assumed he was my younger brother hence he had no qualms with him staying. At a point I got jealous because within weeks of co habiting with me he had gained the love of all my neighbors and even managed to start dating my girl next door crush, talk about betrayal huh? 3) Pretense: OK, this is the part I find annoying, my guy didn’t tell me he was going to stay for months, no. They never do. They keep saying they would leave by weekend or the following Monday or something similar. They would pretend it wasn’t really their fault that they are overstaying, every once in a while he would sit you down and tell you stories of how he is expecting some money which once he gets, he would leave. Or they might say they are waiting for rainy season to pass, something crazy like that. These guys are wicked I tell ya. 4) No limits: guests who overstay don’t understand the term privacy, they literally step into your private life. They use your soap, clothes, bed, wardrobe, phone, girlfriend, underwear, and even your ATM, if accessible. Everything I buy now, I bear in mind the fact that I am buying it for two people. Whatever it is. He has shared everything with me. I pray he uses my cream and it itches him.. 5) They have history: yes, history. They stayed with anyone stay-able. Name them, john, Anthony, Kingsley, Emmanuel. They are serial over-stayers. They tell you stories of people they've stayed with and it makes you wonder how they live their lives, in people’s houses maybe. When your turn has passed and they move to another person’s house, they tell your stories too. 6) Add yours 103 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by perfectwazobia1: 1:49am On Aug 28, 2016 |
That's your star enjoy it while it last 5 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by ireneony(f): 1:58am On Aug 28, 2016 |
Tell him to leave your house. 10 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Mikocake(m): 2:05am On Aug 28, 2016 |
Introverts be like...I need my personal space. 56 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by arimahoseloka(m): 2:57am On Aug 28, 2016 |
If it was a rich kid now, u will not be here ranting, isn't he your friend? Why can't u bear with him. 38 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by nonjebose(m): 7:14am On Aug 28, 2016 |
Ehya, tell him you are relocating, lol 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 11:47am On Aug 28, 2016 |
ireneony: I will look bad. Won't I? 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by xendra: 12:13pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
hehehe you didn't write like someone frustrated yet, you still funny had to use common sense to send one away 2weeks ago, I am very accommodating just don't like inconsiderate people. someone else is coming next week this one made it clear she needs a place to stay and for a very long time, I don't mind as long as she is understanding. I just hope we don't make enemies trying to help a friend. some people can be very strange 38 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 1:07pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
xendra: Lol. I am pissed. I just needed the humor to hide my anger. What did you do to make the first one leave? share the secret... 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by blackmantis: 1:42pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
lol op you cracked me up. but really eh some people are so inconsiderate. I had a similar situation just before I got married. I was searching for a new flat, I needed something bigger than my one bedroom self contained apartment. Through an agent I met a guy who took me to the landlord of a beautiful 2bedroom flat. it was exactly what I wanted. But he(the guy) said that he has been living there and wants to move out in about 2or3 weeks. That after I paid I can move into the house while he would arrange himself and move out in 2or3wks. I paid moved in while he put all his belongings into the second room. Nearly 2months after the guy was still there. As I was planning my wedding I let him know that he has to make arrangement and move out. The guy was like he wouldn't disturb me but keep to his room when I bring home my wife. I had to give him a deadline and threaten to collect the balance of my rent from the landlord and abandon the house for him if he doesn't quit by the deadline. That was how he left and went to squat somewhere else. 37 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by EmekaBlue(m): 2:14pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
haha..life isnt easy..ur guy is just surviving by force with his tactics...Im sure he himself doesnt like as he an inconvenience to frienz...Baba God plz bless youths with money to carter for selves 34 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by firstking01(m): 2:36pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
I no read am. |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by hertz9te(m): 4:58pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
i know exactly how you feel...it can be really frustrating. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 7:49pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
blackmantis: Lol. I can so identify with this. I sometimes pity him though. |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 8:02pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
arimahoseloka:obviously that friend did not tell him he was gonna be staying that long so he has d right to rant or whatever you call it....especially in this buhari economy 39 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by arimahoseloka(m): 8:10pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Lawlahdey:what are friends for then? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 8:27pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
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Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by LuvU2: 8:48pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Aww Why dont u tell him ur rent will expire in 3days time nd u hve no where to go. Uuch no, he'll prolly move to squat with one of ur neighbours. Sorry bruh just carry ur cross to calvary. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 8:54pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Why don't you just ask when he would be leaving? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 8:55pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
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Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 8:58pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
A rich friend won't squat with you. A good friend would be upfront with you. He would make sure you are aware of his situation and would try as much s possible to contribute to the home. arimahoseloka: 42 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by MrWhaley: 9:05pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
daretodiffer:He did. Didn't you read the post?? 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by MrWhaley: 9:09pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Ah swear, I hate inconvenience. Me that values my personal space like craay...and my tolerance level gan is very low. 18 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 9:12pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
I read the part where he kept making excuses but to me, he didn't ASK when he would be leaving, if he did the guy world have left. MrWhaley: 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by AuroraB(f): 10:23pm On Aug 28, 2016 |
Got one on my neck. I've run out of excuses why I can't accommodate her yet. Had to tell her I owe the landlord thus I dodge being home. She's still not swayed. Lied I'm in between jobs, whosai . Mbok, contri dey somehow ooooo Op, I know he doesn't like being a sorta free-loader...you should have told him a while back, he gotta go. What with the 'Mr. Nice-guy though 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by arimahoseloka(m): 2:37am On Aug 29, 2016 |
daretodiffer:so a man in need is a pest? 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by arimahoseloka(m): 2:40am On Aug 29, 2016 |
daretodiffer:so u think because someone has money house will always be available any time he needs it. U think because they have money they can't have accommodation problem. Ok o continue 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 2:42am On Aug 29, 2016 |
ok. I know this is serious but . .. ...hahaha |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 6:20am On Aug 29, 2016 |
AuroraB: The problem is, he doesn't want to come out plain. So he doesn't share in the expenses. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by AuroraB(f): 6:40am On Aug 29, 2016 |
Chuksemi:I wouldn't accommodate someone, hoping he/she shares in the expenses. NO. Else, I loose my authority . 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Chuksemi(m): 6:46am On Aug 29, 2016 |
AuroraB: Lol. True. I haven't thought of it from that angle. Wahala. |
Re: Nigerian Guests And The Overstaying Syndrome. by Nobody: 7:03am On Aug 29, 2016 |
Accommodation problem that would last a month? I don't think so arimahoseloka: 10 Likes 1 Share |
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