OdikwaRisky:
MIL from hell.

ojun50:
U hv talk to her, her father did the same and yr family also did the same bt she prefer to roll with her mother.
Sir u hv d hand in yr hand.

OdikwaRisky:
MIL from hell.
Honestly, in situations like this, there's very little that you can do because the hold of your MIL on your wife is very strong (and probably very spiritual ). Just keep on being a good father and husband and keep praying and hoping your wife returns to her senses. If at the end, all doesn't work out, know that you did your best and nothing that happened was your fault. Just make sure she doesn't get custody of your kids if she follows through with the divorce.
Have you tried a marriage counsellor?

knuckbuck:


I am in so much pain, I feel really bad when I look in the eyes of my children. My youngest kid is just 4yrs old! The oldest are both 8yrs old since they are twins!

soberdrunk:
An apple never falls far from the tree, its obvious your wife's behavior is 'genetic' so i don't think you should waste your patience. About 3.52 "Billion" women on earth my good man, dont allow '2' send you to an early grave.

dollyjoy:
Simple, she should marry the mother

jashar:

hmmmm....

you'll get better advice from the family section. 

The mods should help you move it there.

knuckbuck:
I am a married man with three children under the age of 8yrs. We have been married for 9 years. I am faithful and have never cheated. My mother-in-law and I never agree because of her wayward way of life. She has encouraged my wife to have adulterous relationships. My mother-in-law abandoned her kids when my wife was about rounding up SSCE. When I met my wife she had no idea where her mum was. After we started dating she finally reunited with her mum. She used to be close with her Dad, now she views her Dad as the worst human being on earth and the mother as the only person important in her life. She has repeatedly abandoned me and the children just to be with her for months at a time.
January 2016, my mother-in-law told me she will make my marriage to her daughter come to an end, and she does not care what she does to make it happen. She said she does not know what she has gained from the marriage. She said we have neither bought her a car no built her a house. My parents, elders, my wife's father etc have begged her but she insists as long as she is concerned, it is over. My wife listens to only her mother and no one else. My wife has filed for divorce even though she does not have any steady form of income but she does not care. She's expecting to get at least a house and child support to sustain her.
Note, my mother-in-law has no steady source of income either. She depends on my wife for rent and even feeding. I have heard stories of what my wife does when she visits her mum. I know all these but for the sake of my children I am trying to make the marriage work!
House, what can I do? What should I do? I'm so confused and it's affecting even my job! Help!

lytech1:
I always wonder why things in this world are not equal!!!
Here comes a responsible man whom millions of women out there are dying to have...

Bro,for the sake of your kids,try harder to save the marriage...


If things persist,let go of her...see her as a dead being



People like her regret of their existence in the future.

Moana:


If you have tried all you can and if its still not enough for her let her go. You can always keep custody of the children and employ someone who will be able to take care of your kids while you go to work. Let her and her mother go rumouring around the world like HIV does not exist. Your wellbeing and that of your children is what is most important.

Moana:


If you have tried all you can and if its still not enough for her let her go. You can always keep custody of the children and employ someone who will be able to take care of your kids while you go to work. Let her and her mother go rumouring around the world like HIV does not exist. Your wellbeing and that of your children is what is most important.

obiorathesubtle:
Have SARS arrest and kill your mother-in-law.. Lobatan!

lytech1:

You've spoken well bro,but you forget the motherly care children needs from their mother...
Op,I can really feel you pain

Been in love with a woman who doesn't even think of one existence is hurting talkless of when children are involve



Try every possible means to convince her..
If you succeed in the end,forgive and forget her deed...
Not because you are foolish,but for the sake of your children...



But if her madness is uncontrollable,
Let her be..
God almighty will see your children through their journey in life.
Atleast just to complement your effort and sincerity

knuckbuck:


LOL. With all her wickedness she's still my children's grand mother

obiorathesubtle:
Suffer not a witch to live, you never hear?

knuckbuck:


I'm a forgiving man, that may be part of my problem. I believe in giving chances.

obiorathesubtle:
Okay na.. Stay there make dem dy wreck havoc for your family..

knuckbuck:


LOL. I understand why you'll be angry. I knew my when she did not know where her mum was. She is a very kind hearted lady. Very kind indeed. Since her mum made the full entry into her life, everyone has become her enemy... even her dad who took care of all of them.

Bro, seems to me something has already told you what to do.. You just want to hear it from our mouths..


Muna arrest that monster-in-law with SARS

1acre:
May be your MIL tried to make passes at you but you never noticed .

Well, you need to put your feet down.... at the same time prayerfully ....


Kindly make time out and spend with her and even listen to some of the issues, pretend like you are interested in truly resolving the issues , Im sure there would be some respite.

Regards,