naijaboiy:

Thanks Biko! I just had no strength to explain anything to him.

zicoraads:
I don't subscribe to this piece, well, maybe some part of it.

First, you said something about being financially buoyant, and then in the next sentence you said something about 'raking in millions'. Being financially buoyant doesn't necessarily mean one has to be raking in millions. What it means is that you can provide the three basic needs of food, shelter and clothing. That is financial buoyancy. And if you honestly think those things shouldn't play a very vital role in the plans of someone who is planning to get married, then think again.

However, I honestly agree with some sections of your write up. Especially the part where someone's marriage brings goodluck to his family. It is something that has happened and still happens everyday.

No, you didn't understand me @first paragraph.

I was simply pointing out the fact that most men of today think being financially buoyant is when they are raking in millions but that's not so. Being financially buoyant is exactly what you described there. We are actually saying the same thing.

@second paragraph thank God you believe that too.

daretodiffer:
I must be earning at least a 200k before I can think of marriage but if I am not, my partner must earn up to that amount of money o.

A good standard set. Nothing do you!

zicoraads:
I don't subscribe to this piece, well, maybe some part of it.

First, you said something about being financially buoyant, and then in the next sentence you said something about 'raking in millions'. Being financially buoyant doesn't necessarily mean one has to be raking in millions . What it means is that you can provide the three basic needs of food, shelter and clothing. That is financial buoyancy . And if you honestly think those things shouldn't play a very vital role in the plans of someone who is planning to get married, then think again.

naijaboiy:
But I stand contrary to that belief. You don't need to be financially buoyant before you can decide that you want to get married. By buoyant I mean you don't have to be raking in millions into your account before you can now say you want to tie the knot. It is a very sad thing that this is what majority of single guys think today. We men have put ourselves in a box that has no escape route. If you have a job and a steady income or you're in business and you earn enough that can take care of you, your wife and maybe a child or two why not get married? Especially if you're already engaged to a lady.

Oliviaarims:



You're missing the point. If a man decides that he cannot get married because he doesn't have enough to cater for his family, it becomes ironic when he spends much more than that on prostitutes and other frivolities. And of course, that's as good as "wasting."

Chrisrare:
Exactly my thought. The op is obviously deluded. U have to be financially and mentally ready b4 going into marriage, otherwise there will be consequence. Imagine watching ur wife and children starve cos u aren't financially ready for marriage.

Oga I did not say you should marry a woman when you are poor o!

Abeg read my post before you comment.

Oliviaarims:


Don't mind them.. .

falconey:


I just explained to the op, to economist like myself it is not a "waste" but positive spending base on benefit. I get his message and aver on the "waste" part of it to economist.

your approach and his is normative in nature and that's not the only theory in resource disbursement. let me give you a practical example; fuel subsidy that's a normative approach because it is what an average man will want for the masses to afford the pms as well as increase their purchasing power. while removal of it is positive, we analyze and decide base on boon we can derive from it.

I'm afraid I'll have to demean your remark on spending much more on prostitutes and frivolities. both of us know catering for a family which is most likely to expand with time is more expensive, there is possibility of increase in expenditure.

firstking01:
Even when you are financially bouyant, it's not a must that you must marry...people should go into marriage with genuine and clear intentions...naijaboiy well done.

That's why I clearly stated that it's for those who are looking to get married.

Men who don't bother about getting married have no business with my write up.

naijaboiy:

Oga I did not say you should marry a woman when you are poor o!

Abeg read my post before you comment.

Chrisrare:
Oga change ur topic, its misleading. How will u advise pple to get married without being financially buoyant. Those children u see hawking on streets do it cos their parents weren't financially buoyant b4 getting married. So change d topic.

My topic is not misleading. You just failed to understand it.

Read the Op then come back to criticize (constructively), else I'll cease to take you seriously.

Cheers!

Oliviaarims:



So, you plan and budget wisely.

falconey:


affirmative. rationalize and make decision on the best alternative that you will derive maximum satisfaction.

I am a practical individual, if my income can't cater for more than one person I won't marry until it can provide food for more than 2 people and sustain them for many years which means I need to have millions (minimum of 5m). getting money for marriage isn't a problem, most people outsource from family and friends, after the wedding that's when the journey begins.............

naijaboiy:

My topic is not misleading. You just failed to understand it.

Read the Op then come back to criticize (constructively), else I'll cease to take you seriously.

Cheers!

Oliviaarims:


I don't get it. You want the kind of savings that can sufficiently cater for a family for plenty years before you get married? Maka why?
It's not as though you'll get married and start sitting at home. Both of you would definitely continue to make sure things get better.

Oliviaarims:


But sometimes, when people say what they earn barely sustains them, it's because they try to live very lavishly....they tend to be extravagant, so much so that if the necessary adjustments can be made, it can cater for a small family....with the right woman of course.

naijaboiy:

My topic is not misleading. You just failed to understand it.

Read the Op then come back to criticize (constructively), else I'll cease to take you seriously.

Cheers!

Smellymouth:
Moral of the story, " Cut your cloth according to your size!!"


You are earning 40k a month, but you wan marry Genevieve Nnaji..Boda mi, suicide is real oo..

I believe there is someone for everyone..

danbrowndmf:
Mr falconey you wrote well. But for u to actually say u have to dwell in million for you to be able to carter for your you and your family. People earn less than 80k a month and they still get married and leave a decent life off their pay. It a matter of setting your piority right.

joseph1832:
Bros which modern day nigerian woman will want to marry a man who earns 40K a month?

Even many of our female Romancelanders here will run helter skelter if such a man approach them for marriage.

Berbierklaus:
You never ready to marry

Chrisrare:
Exactly my thought. The op is obviously deluded. U have to be financially and mentally ready b4 going into marriage, otherwise there will be consequence. Imagine watching ur wife and children starve cos u aren't financially ready for marriage.

falconey:



yes sir and when there is change in economy policy, will the priority sustain such family? 80k is too small sir, unless the man has a huge savings in the bank. this 80k can not sustain a family for a month with rent, inflation and tax rate direct and indirect goods and services etc

family expands, needs grow and number increases, with income not more than 150k it will be difficult to cater and save. before a man will plan to marry he should at least have #5m.

falconey:



yes sir and when there is change in economy policy, will the priority sustain such family? 80k is too small sir, unless the man has a huge savings in the bank. this 80k can not sustain a family for a month with rent, inflation and tax rate on direct and indirect goods and services etc

family expands, needs grow and number increases, with income not more than 150k it will be difficult to cater and save. before a man will plan to marry he should at least have #5m.

chronique:
No. He does not need 5m,but should have a reasonable inflow of income from salary or biz.

Smellymouth:
Moral of the story, " Cut your cloth according to your size!!"


You are earning 40k a month, but you wan marry Genevieve Nnaji..Boda mi, suicide is real oo..

I believe there is someone for everyone..

Which cloth Oga smello? Nor be everybody be tailor oooo

Me wey wan marry person like Nicki Minaj nko? Abeg nor dey discourage our brodas wey sabi dream big!

falconey:


Bros I am looking beyond food and shelter but the capability and ability to purchase normal goods and services, meet contingencies and adapt to changes in economy.

joseph1832:
Bros which modern day nigerian woman will want to marry a man who earns 40K a month?

Even many of our female Romancelanders here will run helter skelter if such a man approach them for marriage.