babylove01:


Okay no problem, can we get the details of who to pay to and how much it is so that we can do that very soon.

Let's wait for d other mama to signify her interest to join the ilupeju group den we will talk bout payment and collection

Onegai:
Eolowu1, can you find Dove Pure and sensitive soap? Johnson's can be harsh on babies' skins
Contem2011 is Tetmosol an antibacterial soap? If it is, check back a few pages to what we wrote on antibacterial soaps: they're not so good for people and the U.S. is banning it.

Pls help me confirm. the ingredients are: soap base, famesol 0.5% w/w, dragoxat, titanium dioxide, almond milk, glycerin, fragrance, colour.

Tickled Thursday, I will share my experience next week by God's grace.

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k ma, bt even if u don't ferment, u ll hv to wash it, thereby wil stil need to dry it. So i stil prefer fermentin b4 dryin.
Stil in d dryin proces nw. Dryin gradualy.

Tickled Thursday, I will share my experience next week by God's grace.[quote author=fabmum post=49176764]@barag Pls can u put me through on ds powdered form pap making tin.... I wuld appreciate. Thanks .
When u get ur grains, like sorghum, millet and may be Jero. Make sure they are thoroughly washed, then u sun dry it very well. Take to grinding machine (engine that grind dry things only). sikena.

Onegai:
Okay updated list

Cutiereborn/rhukie/rofemiguwa/Adeime: Yaba

Fabmum/imurboss: Ilupeju

Babylove01: Benin/Yaba
Goldenruby: Ojo/Yaba

MetroTee: Lekki

NoQualms1: Festac

QueensC/hotmamma: Iyana Ipaja/Akowonjo

Pretimum/Osas4g/OnyxGem10/Ennyo: Gbagada/Oworo/isheri-ijegun

Tojued/Mumsgirl27/mukht/contem2011/Maran1983: Abuja/Nassarawa

Christybabe: Port Harcourt

Godmercy2015: Ijebu Ode

Aleesha0815/teeteelardey/everfaithfulGod: Ibadan

Tchiwinnie: Okota

Dunasy: Ikorodu (are you close to the oworo group?)

Please can we keep the groups 4 or 5 mums each? So you are getting 10 to 12 books each. Also shipping varies for each state. Iyana ipaja will get the cheapest shipping because you are close to Kidco (who is in Ota).

Mam Tchiwinnie,I stay on okota road, so I will like to join the group too

fabmum:


@babylove01 and @goldenruby.... These mamas can join ilupeju.. It's stl close to yaba... We are already two ilupeju mamas.. Twil mk us four and we can make order soon..

please include me in the ilupeju group, my despatch coy can pickup from there. Thanks

pls mothers in d house can I give my 15day old baby water to drink, he's breast fed but he took NaN for 8days wen I put to bed b4 I started lactating

Mama s weldon ooo. I just tot of smtin and wil like to know your opinion.
With d aim of enhancin our friendship as mothers, i ll like to sugest we all become friends on facebook.

We can drop our facebook id so we can send friend request across.
Gues this wil enhance our frndship n aid in comunication and contacts too.

Just sugesting, if we dont suport d idea, we can leave it.

Stretch and sigh!!! Done reading the pages i missed. Very educative and interesting posts, God bless those keeping the thread alive. About the books, can i still join iyana-ipaja axis? I stay at alimosho rd adjacent iyana dopemu

eolowu1:
pls mothers in d house can I give my 15day old baby water to drink, he's breast fed but he took NaN for 8days wen I put to bed b4 I started lactating

cc: soonest, onegai, Alphahandmaiden.

stadora:
Mama s weldon ooo. I just tot of smtin and wil like to know your opinion.
With d aim of enhancin our friendship as mothers, i ll like to sugest we all become friends on facebook.

We can drop our facebook id so we can send friend request across.
Gues this wil enhance our frndship n aid in comunication and contacts too.

Just sugesting, if we dont suport d idea, we can leave it.

cc: onegai

Prettyhurts:


Is it the smell? Is he formula fed?? Don't worry is normal with formula fed babies. My DD own is mosquito repellent, the smell is choking. As far as he's not constipated, don't worry. Hope this helps. Other sabi mamas can help too.

Thanks dear,he is on formula,but I noticed the smell since I started giving him cerelac last week,don't know if its the cause,but his brother's poo is nicer and they feed on same thing.
Lols at mosquito repellant ,its good sha,it will save you money for insecticide

pls mamas,av asked before and am asking again pls those that have toddlers what cream do you use for them?after my nightmare with Johnson I bought sebamed baby lotion and it seems its fake and am not ready to go and buy another one for 3,000,they are breaking out seriously on the face,pls tell me what u use for your toddlers abi once they are toddlers we should just rub anything on them?

dunnybaby:
pls mamas,av asked before and am asking again pls those that have toddlers what cream do you use for them?after my nightmare with Johnson I bought sebamed baby lotion and it seems its fake and am not ready to go and buy another one for 3,000,they are breaking out seriously on the face,pls tell me what u use for your toddlers abi once they are toddlers we should just rub anything on them?

for my toddler since i gave birth to him i have been rubbing him sheabutter and coconut oil and it has been good on his skin.

even my newborn dats wat am still rubbing her.

Onegai:
Okay updated list

QueensC/hotmamma/XX01/goldenruby/lawvlypearl: Iyana Ipaja/Akowonjo

Hi. So what's the next step? I think my group is complete.

Hello mothers in the house, I will appreciate your advice on this issue. I also want to believe that I may not be the only one experiencing it, so mothers who have been there, how did you handle it.

I am a working mum and on the average I leave home 7am to come back 7pm. Hence, I have a stay-in help who I leave my baby with while I work. LO is now 9months. Recently, I noticed that sometimes when I'm with my LO and my help passes by, LO may start crawling after her. Or a times she may arch her back if I want to carry her while my help is holding her. I understand this may be as a result of the time they spend together. However, I have heard about babies crying for their nanny or a third party or preffering someone else carrying them to their mum and I don't want LO to get to that stage. Being a mother, it will surely break ones heart to think your baby prefers someone else to you.

On weekends, I have more time with LO and my older daughter but I also have other things to attend to - market, cooking, sometimes salon, outings etc. My Sunday self is busy with church activities. I also juggle work, family with studies.

Most times, when I get back from work I feel bad and guilty for my kids for leaving them in the care of someone else. But I have no option for now than to work, for the family's survival.

You can imagine how bad I felt when I overheard my help telling some people in church that my LO is very attached to her than to anyone else including me. My help is about 26years.

Has anyone being there? I didn't experience this with my first even though I had the same schedule. Once I walk in, she allows no one else to carry her. How best do I handle this o.
Should I be worried that she is getting attached to someone else other than her parent?

good morning dear moms, it's a great day to be alive
I've learnt so much from peeping mode I want to officially join u ppl, I'm a first time mom and I want to say thank u for all the info made available here
1.pls I need ur response concerning this issue my baby is 2months now and has boils on her head only, behind her ears which keep coming bk after it dries up, she is always scratching her hair which is very much, pls what can I do abt it
2.im interested in the children book but I stay in anambra state,awka is it possible
thank u all
cc: Onegai,Alphamaiden,liftedhands

Chaulay1:
Hello mothers in the house, I will appreciate your advice on this issue. I also want to believe that I may not be the only one experiencing it, so mothers who have been there, how did you handle it.

I am a working mum and on the average I leave home 7am to come back 7pm. Hence, I have a stay-in help who I leave my baby with while I work. LO is now 9months. Recently, I noticed that sometimes when I'm with my LO and my help passes by, LO may start crawling after her. Or a times she may arch her back if I want to carry her while my help is holding her. I understand this may be as a result of the time they spend together. However, I have heard about babies crying for their nanny or a third party or preffering someone else carrying them to their mum and I don't want LO to get to that stage. Being a mother, it will surely break ones heart to think your baby prefers someone else to you.

On weekends, I have more time with LO and my older daughter but I also have other things to attend to - market, cooking, sometimes salon, outings etc. My Sunday self is busy with church activities. I also juggle work, family with studies.

Most times, when I get back from work I feel bad and guilty for my kids for leaving them in the care of someone else. But I have no option for now than to work, for the family's survival.

You can imagine how bad I felt when I overheard my help telling some people in church that my LO is very attached to her than to anyone else including me. My help is about 26years.

Has anyone being there? I didn't experience this with my first even though I had the same schedule. Once I walk in, she allows no one else to carry her. How best do I handle this o.

Pele, its not an easy one. But you have to let some things slide. Babies will generally get attached to who they see most and who "seems" to have their time more and in this case its your nanny. Also children are different. I assume it is not the same nanny you had with your first.

Whether you stay home or you go to work, there is no perfect solution. We all got to do what we got to do! And we pray for God's direction in whatever path we take.

Is your helps responsibility just the baby? Or she is a general help? During the weekends, let her be reaponsible for other things to give you time for your kids. Also during the week, even though you are most likely shattered after work, when you can, try and squeeze in some time with the kids. Even if it is only story time before bed.

I hope with her statement you overhead she is not thinking you cant do without her!

Send her to the market and let her do the cooking. And other stuff.
Also every once in a while give her some time off an afternoon maybe? And let it be family only time and get to do some activities with the kids in or outside the home. Make sure you drag hubby along too to help you.

Also just make the time off random, so she doesnt start to expect it as part of the package of it was not specifially agreed when she started work. You can even give her time off without her knowing it. Just go out with the kids and say she doent need to follow you. Just to get the kids ready! Other times you can just tell her she can take the next couple of hours off.

For the church too.... your primary responsibility is your family! Charity it says begins at home. I dont know what church you attend but a lot of nigerian churches are not considerate of family life. The family is the first institution created by God therefore your presence there is needed.

Speaking generally especially for us women.... it is absolutely wrong for someone that works stupid hours during the week, to still do stupid hours in church on sunday every sunday: Prayer meeting, workers meeting, main service, choir practice, womens group, etc. Then you will still go back in th evening for bible study!!!!.. when do you want people to spend with thier families. Especially those with young children.

( so anyone here who is an elder in your church or are a pastor or mummy GO, abeg review your activities it is WRONG, if you have a mother with a young children attending all these church activities..... drive her away... send her home!!! Her blessings will be no less for her spending time with her family)

Any church that goes for more than 2.5 hours...regularly..... i don pack run commot.

If you are in such a church..... please scale back your duties. Anything meeting that cannot be held once a month should be reconsidered. It does not make you any less a Christian.

Childhood is fleeting, one will blink and would have missed key bonding moments.

goldenruby:
please include me in the ilupeju group, my despatch coy can pickup from there. Thanks

@fabmum she has indicated can we know the way forward please. The person to help with mine will leave lagos by next weekend hence the rush.

dexterush:

Thanks dear,he is on formula,but I noticed the smell since I started giving him cerelac last week,don't know if its the cause,but his brother's poo is nicer and they feed on same thing.
Lols at mosquito repellant ,its good sha,it will save you money for insecticide

LOL, no two babies are the same, they're twins but don't share the same tummy.
My love to K&K.

AlphaHandMaiden, God bless you for this church "thing" you just addressed. I can't spend more than 2 hours in church! It has been an issue between me and Dh. He can stay in a 6 hours service.
What I plan doing is to give him our ds from d begining of the service till d end. Thank God he's on formula; I'll give him everything needed including diapers, so he can see how not possible it is for a nursing mother to stay in service for more than 2 hours. Especially with a baby that eats every 2 hours and want to play afterwards.

@ oneiga av heard so much abt d dove soap on dis thread, will ask around but where I stay is kind of remote ( somewhere in ilorin) av already gotten d baby tetmosol but will make sure I get d dove soap pls can I no d price range

@AlphaHandmaiden, thanks for your response. Yes I need to let somethings such as this slide but it hurts. I have to do a review of my activities.

In church, I belong to a unit where I have to stand for most part of the service. So LO still end up being with my help as I can't carry her while on duty. A couple of times that I sit with her, my HOD begs that I hand her to my help as we are very few in my unit. I'll have to look for a way to handle this.

Hmm... may God help me.

dunnybaby:
pls mamas,av asked before and am asking again pls those that have toddlers what cream do you use for them?after my nightmare with Johnson I bought sebamed baby lotion and it seems its fake and am not ready to go and buy another one for 3,000,they are breaking out seriously on the face,pls tell me what u use for your toddlers abi once they are toddlers we should just rub anything on them?

I use Vaseline and Sheabutter from birth, no form of any skin problem till date. (11mths, 1 week)

ngsoundz:
good morning dear moms, it's a great day to be alive
I've learnt so much from peeping mode I want to officially join u ppl, I'm a first time mom and I want to say thank u for all the info made available here
1.pls I need ur response concerning this issue my baby is 2months now and has boils on her head only, behind her ears which keep coming bk after it dries up, she is always scratching her hair which is very much, pls what can I do abt it
2.im interested in the children book but I stay in anambra state,awka is it possible
thank u all
cc: Onegai,Alphamaiden,liftedhands

1. Try penicillin ointment or sheabutter. Also take her to Dr for assessment.

babylove01:


@fabmum she has indicated can we know the way forward please. The person to help with mine will leave lagos by next weekend hence the rush.

Alright ma, d three of us are ready but mama @imurboss hasn't said anything yet about payment.. Please we are waiting to hear from u so we can all make payment and get our books soon... Thanks

comtem2011:
1. Try penicillin ointment or sheabutter. Also take her to Dr for assessment.

thank you so much dear I will do that...

Hello mamas. How ya all doing.hope great

Yaba mamas in my group
I believe kidco will deliver today.
From monday u can arrange for pickup

My details will be sent to ur fones. I work with national orthopaedic hospital igbobi.am sure it is quite easy to locate

Chaulay1:
@AlphaHandmaiden, thanks for your response. Yes I need to let somethings such as this slide but it hurts. I have to do a review of my activities.

In church, I belong to a unit where I have to stand for most part of the service. So LO still end up being with my help as I can't carry her while on duty. A couple of times that I sit with her, my HOD begs that I hand her to my help as we are very few in my unit. I'll have to look for a way to handle this.

Hmm... may God help me.

Chaulay1, please let it go for now. Truly some Nigerians churches keep people involved in their business at the detriment of every other aspect of their life. Please feel free to step down for a bit and ask the HOD to announce in church that they need help in your department. Because I have seen (and heard of marriages) being disrupted over this matter and I don't understand why the HODs/pastors don't immediately prioritise Family Duties over Church Duties. If the family is shaky, how will the church stand firm?

Your family comes first. God doesn't want you neglecting your kids for His work, especially at an age where they need you. I'd like to see the bible verse that says it is okay to abandon small kids for God's work or neglect one's spouse. Which is why Catholic priests and nuns don't marry. I know maids tend to like saying those things (why would one proudly boast that your employer's child likes you more?). Let her go to the market. You can cook, but let her do the cleaning.

Can you get more flexible hours? Is there a creche near work that will allow baby and maid? Try and go through some of the activities posted a few pages before, they are very suitable for a 9 month old and both of you do it together. Is DH willing to join in? I like dumping Baby E on Himself so that she gets comfortable with him (he works your type of hours). They spend time together so she isn't preferring our help to him. Weekends, bone those weddings and go to a park or a beach or somewhere public (I've come to realise we have one or two in each city), family play time, let the maid stay home and be cooking.

This is one of the reasons I like Mummy-and-Me groups. Nigeria, for all its talk about Family values, is not family-oriented. My sis was just telling me about paid Maternity leave in the U.K. sigh.

Comtem2011, I think tetmosol is antibacterial but with a different active ingredient. Just because I wouldn't want baby getting immune to that antibiotic I probably wouldn't use it

Eolowu1, if your baby is ebf right now there is no need for water. If you are doing combination feeding (BM and formula), maybe a little bit of water if you notice hard stool. I have no idea about Ilorin prices but why not try regular Dove soap classic and keep it out of his eyes?

XX01 contact the other moms in your group and decide who will collect payment and collect books for sharing.

Dunnybaby, we use Boots but Lord knows I don't trust it. We can actually whip up some lotion o. Or try Eucerin (though it's pricey everyone can use it). I'll ask the derma-doctor and see what he says.