Don't you guys think something is amiss if, you are about to spend the rest of your life with someone, and you don't have tit bits of unsolicited information that affirm or deny the professed job of your spouse-to-be?

I can't be that dumb! I would discover most necessary things before I propose.

Aderola15:
I honestly don't understand how some relationships work. so if your girl tells you she has had abortion once, that automatically means twice or thrice and if she says she has not never done it=once abi, where is the trust

Unfortunately babe, in the real world things don't work like that, the day you stop trusting CAUTIOUSLY, might be the beginning of your heartbreak.
Love regardless of circumstance, if it's based on 'wholehearted' trust expectations, sister, the impending shock and heartbreak will be a crushing one.

Eke40seven:

A very good and valid submission. You do that not because you may not marry the person after all if you love them enough but to be sure that you can live with whatever baggage she might be carrying or sins of the past.
The problem is that in situations like this, our Naija gals tend to lie and or give half truths, if she told you she had aborted once, it's actually 2 or 3 times but it helps a lot if you are truthful and your spouse can trust your words.

But you have to know everything about your proposed spouse

AngelAhnie:
I will quit immediately. A lady I know married a guy, hired caterers, hall and all that is needed for a big ceremony. They married last year August and was homeless February this year. The car he claimed he owns is on hire purchase. As I type this they are living with her elder sister (she is even pregnant). So lying about job is a big turnoff to me.

Why wld she want a big ceremony, if not for forming purposes? Yes, I read the rest of ur post but chose dis part to maga

DavidEsq:

Why wld she want a big ceremony, if not for forming purposes? Yes, I read the rest of ur post but chose dis part to maga

I don't know about that.

modelmike7:
. . What?. . . . Dudes, what is really okay?. . . What do your okay(s) have to do with the topic na?!

their brain is rebooting!! [

Smallb0b0:

But you have to know everything about your proposed spouse

Is this a question or an instruction/advice?
If it's a question then, here is the answer:
I don't need to know everything but it's important to know some highlights that may impact on the relationship in the future, if I were to discover on my own. Whatever it may be though that will not stop me from continuing with her or love her less but its good to know.
However, care ought to be taken, some men/women are not matured enough to take certain news.

Something happened at my neighbour's. The husband, a doctor married his wife for over 25 years, however they brought a child who lived with them since she was 4. She grew up with them. This man loved his wife so much. Years later when the child was ready to marry, the Doctor discovered that the wife had lied all along, that child was hers, from a previous relationship! Something in that man died for a looong time.