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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by sukkot: 10:07am On Sep 13, 2016
doveda:
Darling there are women who marry and date older men with no fat bank accountundecided. Besies if a woman does , there is nothing wrong in it, we all have different reason for entering into a relationship. Yours is not necessarily better than mine. It is not a crime nor is it morally disgusting to marry an older man for his money . It has been happening before you were born and it would continue to happen. You don't need to disparage other people's choices.

Also, there are young adults who don't give a fvck about wizkid. Not all couples have the same taste in music and other inconsequentials. You also need to know that people do talk about lot of things other than things they have in common, you don't need to have anythibg in common with your partner to make marriage or a relationship work. Just because it is hard for you to start a relationship or converse with older people does not mean that others find it hard, laboring and difficult.

There women who chose or were betrothed to men twice their age and ended up having fruitful married lives.

Just because you don't like it doesn't make it bad, illogical, unthinkable or abnormal. undecided



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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AngelAhnie(f): 10:09am On Sep 13, 2016
Donpoker9:





lwkmd

baba i see am oooh, d tin shock me
make i d obs
what are you observing?
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by theorist(m): 10:10am On Sep 13, 2016
HornyTiwa:
really
yes, really!
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by gabe: 10:11am On Sep 13, 2016
bro, it should have dawned on u ur wife is pissed about something else u do. the siezing ur console, spitting was to get your attention. while i commend you for keeping ur cool, the job is not done. she's ur wife. talk to her. be patient if she doesn't respond initially. just ask her what is actually making her angry and LISTEN without making comments and judging her...if u r still interested in the marriage sha
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Donpoker9(m): 10:13am On Sep 13, 2016
AngelAhnie:
what are you observing?



Lol....so na from my mouth u wan hear say devil black abi?
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by LordScent(m): 10:14am On Sep 13, 2016
AngelAhnie:
There nothing like that. You asslicker !

Really?

You are already taking it personal....





If i were you, i will fight my battle from the spiritual realm "for we wrestle not against flesh and blood"..... grin grin

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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by LordScent(m): 10:15am On Sep 13, 2016
Donpoker9:





Lol....so na from my mouth u wan hear say devil black abi?

I wonder oooo cheesy grin


Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by sukkot: 10:16am On Sep 13, 2016
doveda:
Darling there are women who marry and date older men with no fat bank accountundecided. Besies if a woman does , there is nothing wrong in it, we all have different reason for entering into a relationship. Yours is not necessarily better than mine. It is not a crime nor is it morally disgusting to marry an older man for his money. It has been happening before you were born and it would continue to happen. You don't need to disparage other people's choices.

Also, there are young adults who don't give a fvck about wizkid. Not all couples have the same taste in music and other inconsequentials. You also need to know that people do talk about lot of things other than things they have in common, you don't need to have anythibg in common with your partner to make marriage or a relationship work. Just because it is hard for you to start a relationship or converse with older people does not mean that others find it hard, laboring and difficult.

There women who chose or were betrothed to men twice their age and ended up having fruitful married lives.

Just because you don't like it doesn't make it bad, illogical, unthinkable or abnormal. undecided



so you wee allow ya 24 year old daughter to marry a 50 year old man ?www.nairaland.com/attachments/4212209_fbimg1473153238367_jpeg2e1d45b2b25a5cdfed2e911592c7096b
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AngelAhnie(f): 10:17am On Sep 13, 2016
LordScent:

Really?

You are already taking it personal....





If i were you, i will fight my battle from the spiritual realm "for we wrestle not against flesh and blood"..... grin grin

You post a meme, pls I'm not taking anything personal and don't quote me. Sally is only a frustrated dude and I understand that. Reason I'm laughing here.
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by cescky(m): 10:17am On Sep 13, 2016
bigtt76:
She loves you but you don't seem to have time for her. She's lonely and craves your attention. You can't have a woman in the house and when you come back from work you're playing game. Haba! She had the remote in her pants to get you to touch her. You never de understand?



This is exactly why most Nigerian girls don't marry or don't marry the right one .... "Forming"g if their boyfriend and girlfriend ok no problem ,I'll try to decode or what ever it is she girls want

Girl I hope ur married and if not u better change ur thinking , if ur my wife all the way from school way back and u can't point blank tell me u need me, love me, best Sex styles etc them u can't be trusted .their husby and wife whats there to say am Hot again?.....

Naija girls una go tey. I've dated a non Nigerian it was never like this make una de form. I hold on to bible principles , but this days women are proposing to men, not that I support neither am I gaianst it cos the bible doesn't speak against it. Make una de de form he's supposed to know.is he a prophet? The man just came back from hard work in the office....who shld be pampering who? Change ur mindset if u know what good for.

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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by AngelAhnie(f): 10:18am On Sep 13, 2016
Donpoker9:





Lol....so na from my mouth u wan hear say devil black abi?
Na u sabigrin
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Donpoker9(m): 10:18am On Sep 13, 2016
LordScent:

I wonder oooo cheesy grin






Lol i swear the battle don enter spiritual something


btw e get something wey i wan ask u but e go be for d oda syd...
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by LordScent(m): 10:19am On Sep 13, 2016
AngelAhnie:
You post a meme, pls I'm not taking anything personal and don't quote me. Sally is only a frustrated dude and I understand that. Reason I'm laughing here.


*yinmu*


Uhmmmm i see....

Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Mosesbutez(m): 10:20am On Sep 13, 2016
Guy, I think you dont have time for her, create time and talk to her to find out, what really her problem.. Believe me playing console games mighty had drain out your time for her and she is not happy with it. ..

.l love playing console games and it's had taking some of my time I would rather use for communication

Your problem might come from your console gaming. .
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by LordScent(m): 10:22am On Sep 13, 2016
Donpoker9:





Lol i swear the battle don enter spiritual something


btw e get something wey i wan ask u but e go be for d oda syd...


No lele....


Abeg no ask am here ooo if uno wan carry dead body grin grin we go yarn on d oda side.






Abeg shift make i join you dey observe bikooo

Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by uzziwise: 10:23am On Sep 13, 2016
Pray. Only God can bring peace into your home . Nothing bring peace better than talking to Jehovah.
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by uzziwise: 10:23am On Sep 13, 2016
Pray. Only God can bring peace into your home . Nothing brings peace better than talking to Jehovah.
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by prince13: 10:32am On Sep 13, 2016
Send her back if possible and if it wont affect you in anyway. your wife spitting on your face is too far ,dats a tabboo
nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by komek(m): 10:34am On Sep 13, 2016
chuksbogus2001:
I don't know how Saudi deals men beating women .let me tell u when we were small my mum used to be very arrogant and rude to my dad cos he is a quiet man not until my mums mother I mean her own mum told my dad to beat her .After my dad gave her a better beating peace ,love respect came to our house since 1984 till now my mum has never raise her voice against my dad. Am not advocating women battery but a times small spanking does the magic
Seconded
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by Donpoker9(m): 10:34am On Sep 13, 2016
LordScent:


No lele....


Abeg no ask am here ooo if uno wan carry dead body grin grin we go yarn on d oda side.






Abeg shift make i join you dey observe bikooo




hahahahaha
ntn do u, i don laugh tire here
Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by doveda: 10:35am On Sep 13, 2016
Yessmiley
sukkot:
so you wee allow ya 24 year old daughter to marry a 50 year old man ?www.nairaland.com/attachments/4212209_fbimg1473153238367_jpeg2e1d45b2b25a5cdfed2e911592c7096b

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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by smellingmenses: 10:35am On Sep 13, 2016
sllay:


Bow down, you loveless, rectum-craving offspring of a crippled bum!

KingSLAY is in control of this narrative and you all will twist and turn as he pleases. I direct the pace of all of this. You are my puppet.


Worthless bastard! The only bleeding orifice you know is your ańus and your partners'. If you've ever been with a woman or dated one, you'd know most discard their sanitary pads before it even starts smelling. Read up on the biological and chemical composition of menses and how long it stays before it smells.

You've never known this 'cause you aren't attracted to women. Your moniker is a hate campaign against all women.

You turned gay because you never want to deal with a woman menstruating. Deny this! I dare you!

May your phallus shrivel the next time you try to sexually molest your neighbour's sons!

are you confessing?.....

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Re: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by nwamehn: 10:40am On Sep 13, 2016
@nameerfhtennek

I've read a lot of comments here,
Some are saying u should forgive, I wonder how u can forgive a girl who hasn't even sought ur forgiveness, a girl who doesn't even believe that what she did was wrong and who hasn't felt remorse for doing it, so how will u forgive? Who exactly will u be forgiving?
Some said u should beat her, pls don't, I am not saying u shouldn't because I don't want u to be a wife beater but because domestic fights are very unpredictable and can even lead to death.
Some said u should send her packing, it is very correct, a woman that insults ur parents and then spits on u just because u ignored her and dragged remote with her doesn't deserve to be ur wife. But don't send her packing yet, u said that for over a year that u were married that it has been fights up and down, u also said that u no more enjoy the marriage and that u feel it's now a curse.
My advice is this, do not approach her for any discussion on this, u can't continue to approach her for discussion even when she spits on u, don't convert urself to an idiot just because u love her. Allow her to realise that she wronged u heavily, give her the silent treatment if u can, do this for up to five days to a week, if within that period she apologizes, kindly forgive her and then engage in very deep talk with her on the developments so far and why u people need to return to how u used to be before marriage. But, if after one week she doesn't return to her senses, then the handwriting will be very clear to u that u don't have a wife. It takes a lot of innermost hatred for u to spit on someone's face. I can't even spit on my enemies. A woman that spits on u doesn't love u one bit, don't allow any person fool u into believing otherwise. And if ur woman spits on u and stays up to 7 days in the same house with u without feeling remorse, then she sees u as a piece of shit and no more as her husband.

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