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This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 9:09pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
THE SUBMISSIVE WOMAN Most ladies spend so much time and energy preparing for a wedding ceremony but very unprepared for just one condition responsible for a formidable union called SUBMISSION. The modern day woman has allowed sophistication as a result of sound education and several other factors to make her see herself as equal to a man hence finds it difficult to be extremely submissive and this is one of the triggering factors for a break up. Being fully submissive to your man is one of the greatest secret to longevity of any romantic affair so Lets see what the Quran and Bible has to say concerning the act of submission from the woman. Al-Tirmidhi 3272 - "When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, 'The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves'." Ephesians 5:22-24 :Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. No woman has any business with marriage or any serious romantic affair with a man until she is ready to "submit,honor,respect,reverence her husband to the maximum level just as she will respect the lord.Show me a submissive woman and I will show you a peaceful and lasting union.Being submissive does not mean you should obey your man blindly or go against the commandments of GOD neither does it make you a zombie or a mindless person but it means being meek,humble and serene even when you disagree with your man as many times as possible.Believe it or not,no matter how many relationships you get involved in,you will always have issues if you don't learn how to submit yourself to your man. And as the man,for whatever reason you choose to marry that lady, if you are not ready to love that woman with her imperfections and without exception with behavior worthy of respect and esteem, always seeking the best for her with an attitude of loving-kindness all the days of your life please don't propose marriage to her. GOD commands the man to love the wife and the wife to submit to the husband. Refusal to do this is rebellion against GOD himself.By loving your wife you are honoring GOD and not doing your wife a favor and by submitting to your husband, you are demonstrating an act of obedience to GOD and not to your husband. I hope this makes sense. 253 Likes 37 Shares
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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by jamalnation(m): 9:12pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Oga u 3much oh 86 Likes 1 Share
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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by ammyluv2002(f): 9:17pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Yes! It does make sense, but wives should submit fully to their husbands according to the bible principles. My husband cannot tell me to sleep with his friend & you expect me to submit fully ![]() Modified All these mentions that I'm not making sense baffles me. Obviously, most people just want to comment on front page threads without grabbing anything them. Just last week here on NL, there was this story of a married woman who deceived a widower over the years with her husband whom she claimed was her brother. They milked him (widower)dry he even rented an appartment for her untill he found out that she was married with 3 kids and he did the unthinkable by pouring acid on her. Some married men are bullies...the world is not okay at the moment. Marriages are suffering and only God can revive it You guys will be amazed at the things happening in this world. I have seen & heard such stories even in my area. People who haven't seen anything about life should pls stop quoting me jor ![]() ![]() 54 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by theEYe21(f): 9:21pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
How does a woman say no in a submissive way? 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 9:33pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Nice write up Toks. I noticed you placed more emphasis on submission, plz! can i ask you something?. 6 Likes |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 9:36pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
theEYe21: Nice question? When I was growing up I usually watch indigenous movies and I noticed that many times the wife usually disagrees with the hubby but there is this calm and respectful manner they table their disapproval and at the end the man usually flows with them. Olowo ori mi, oluwa mi, ade ori mi, my darling, sweet heart...are the magic words they start with and the man will just calm down to listen but in a situation where the wife just uses a high tone to disagree then wahala dey come be that. No man wants another man as a wife in a sane world. 184 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 9:37pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
asuo27: Fire on. |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 9:42pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Toks2008:Base on the first scripture you used " men love your wives as you love yourselves". ![]() And the second one which says "women should be submissive". My problem here is "Loyalty is a two way thing", how will a woman be docile while her loving and caring husband cheats on her?. 35 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 9:50pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
asuo27: Nice question. The issue of a man cheating will forever be a pain in the minds of many ladies but I'm so so sorry to tell you this truth that submitting to your husband is unconditional. In submittion you can table your grievances and the fact that your hubby cheats on you is not a ground for disrespect. If you want to leave the union because of that then it's your choice but that must not make you disrespect him. Your husband is your lord. 104 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Toks2008:Well!, i'm not satisfied by your respond. ![]() 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 10:02pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
asuo27: NO BE MY RESPONSE O..NAH BIBLE TALK AM. 41 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Diplomaticbeing(m): 10:03pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
@OP Stop sounding like you're an authority or one who has monopoly of wisdom. Your postulation is flawed to someone like me, because I believe that love or submission when given (earned or not), should be maintained so as to sustain it. In my altruistic nature, every living human being is automatically qualified for my love, care, respect etc - free of charge - however, to sustain any of these free goodies from me (especially a wife) she must continually improve (maintain) on all virtues. In summary, I say altruism plus reciprocation equal to a healthy and happy marriage. 66 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 10:09pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Diplomaticbeing: Do you know that you would have made more sense and sounded mature without the first paragraph? I can't remember ever claiming to have monopoly of anything so why the unwarranted bitter rant? Please you are a man so comport yourself as one. 138 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Diplomaticbeing(m): 10:22pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Toks2008: You amuse me. Kindly re-read the first paragrahy of your article and see how self-conceited you appeared. All the same, no hard feelings. Take care. 43 Likes |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 10:57pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
ammyluv2002: lol! of course it has to be in consonance with God's words. Nevertheless there is always a submissive way of saying No. There is no magic to a lasting union other than to obey the instructions of the creator of the institution. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 11:08pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Diplomaticbeing: Bro I'm so unfettered with negative comments and anytime I respond to one I just do that to correct the poster. The truth us that I have no business with nairaland asides my passion for freelance writing on romance, religion and politics. I know what marriage looks and feels like and the best I can do is share my knowledge and experience here and it is the choice of people to contribute or ignore rather than slander or make derogatory remarks. No hard feelings watsoever. I'm a lover not a fighter. 78 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by damiperry(f): 2:56am On Sep 15, 2016 |
asuo27: Well, perhaps there's something the woman does to the man @ home e.g a bad attitude or she isn't giving him something and when another woman comes by offering the man what he needs/seek/desire , he gladly accept her. And, before they tied the knot, something definitely attracted the man to the woman, and all of a sudden he changed in marriage. So, perhaps that "thing" isn't in her anymore, leading to the change in the other person. The problem isn't always with other people but us. My opinion though. 19 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Berbierklaus(f): 5:39am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Toks2008: Toks2008: Is anyone else seeing the contradictions in these posts? all in one breath ![]() You people do not even realise that y'all have painted our God as an Unfair God with all these baldadash and contradictions/confusions The God I serve is not unfair nor confused 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Berbierklaus(f): 6:08am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Toks2008:[b]Grandpa no one asked you for your life history,so please relax and take to corrections. ![]() if You were my husband/boyfriend,I would have told You to "shutup and listen" I said "Relax" coz You are my grandpa ![]() Now to the argument You both are having,Everyone has an opinion,trust me I have come to understand You and your writeups,(You are only been realistic while most of us are striving to be idealistic).The challenge is finding a balance because all these rules and regulations for marriages and relationships are unique to every relationship,some men don't take NO,no matter how submissive the wife is(been realistic,I'm sure You will agree with me) and some men are in awe or their wives and a very agressive NO will do the trick(I'm been realistic),so the problem I have with most of your rightups is that "they are not a standard for relationships,coz every relationship is unique" but from your tone of words,You type like that's all that should be done because it is in the "BIBLE" forgetting that even Jesus said in "MARK 2:27" The sabbath(law) was made for man not man for the sabbath(law), meaning most of this bible injunctions can be used uniquely not universally. (I hope You know what happened in that verse and why he made that statement?). secondly,I want to say I agree with your rightup once again,although it is a little bit flawed "to me". Any idiot can see the emphasis You made on "WIVES SUBMISSION" I think its good but I also think it would have been appropriate if You emphasized as much on the "HUSBAND's LOVE". (I think this is where most relationship experts get it wrong). Now lets use the scripture You qouted as an example,did You realise that Ephesians 5:33 has two parts(part A and B) Did You realise that part A was talking to the husband? Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself Did You realise that the bible spoke to the husband first? That tells You that Submission is "EARNED" so its flawed for You to say "THE BIBLE SAID THAT THE WIFE MUST BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT" Toks2008: Toks2008: because grandpa,the bible has put an unspoken condition in that verse,(You can't respect/submit to your abusive father,You "FEAR" him,likewise if You say wives should be submissive unconditionally,You are only telling her to "FEAR" him,that is not submission according to the bible) Part B Ephesians 5:33 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord Every man that loves his wife,automatically has earned her respect and submission,it is a known fact,and a man that doesn't love his wife(cheating on her "glaringly" abuse her,doesn't do his roles as a husband etc) will be "FEARED" not respected/submitted to). So grandpa,all this tunranchi is what the bible is preaching(Idealistic) not what our pastors are interpreting the bible to, not what You have interpreted the bible to,which is sadly the (realistic) point of what we have in the world today because our religious leaders have knowingly or unknowingly led some men astray by repeatedly preaching and emphasizing on "SUBMISSION" while skimming through "LOVE". The kingdom of God is a hot race,I fear for most people,as I have come to a stage in my salvation where,I read and ask the holy spirit to interpret and explain what this really means to me,instead of listening to one marriage counsel/counsellor and corrupting my heavenly journey ![]() I hope You will settle down and read my epistle,and may the holy spirit help You to realise the truth.[/b] 155 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by jaybee3(m): 6:14am On Sep 15, 2016 |
^^^ Please ask him where he got his experience of marriage from? 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Berbierklaus(f): 6:25am On Sep 15, 2016 |
jaybee3:Maybe his former life ![]() 25 Likes 1 Share
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Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Teespice(f): 7:43am On Sep 15, 2016 |
same ephesians says that husbands should love their wives. how can you expect a woman to submit when all you do is ill treat her. if you do her right, noting will stop her from submitting unless something is wrong somewhere. As always, you are entitled to your opinion. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 7:49am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Berbierklaus: Lol! This is exactly why many ladies will always have issues in their marriage cos they will always want to see a reason to go against that simple instruction concerning unconditional submission to the husband. Did you read that part where I wrote that different adjectives were used in place of submission like reverence and some interpretations actually used fear.... Ephesians 5:33 But every husband must love his wife as he loves himself and let the wife'see that she fear her husband. Why do you think God specifically juxtapose the man as your lord? trust me, any lady who believes she has a reason to disrespect or not be 100% submissive to her hubby has already failed the litmus test of marriage and it's better she remains single. When you choose to say no to your hubby you must say it in awe of him. This is not about being realistic but it is the blueprint for marital tranquility. You miss it you miss out. 37 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 7:59am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Toks2008:Same should apply to men too... Must ladies swallow bullshit all in d name of marriage? 5 Likes |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 7:59am On Sep 15, 2016 |
My own is; treat me right and I will treat you with all the love in my heart...but treat me bad then you will see my dark side ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 8:05am On Sep 15, 2016 |
nma24: Not at all my lady. .a wife has all the right under heaven to express her displeasure but she must do it with full reverence and submission. The day a lady dim it fit to stand shoulder to shoulder with her hubby is the day she ignites the fire of marital discord. The word of God says you MUST respect your hubby as YOU DO TO THE LORD. There is no condition attached and that is just what it is. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by firstking01(m): 8:06am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Your view tho, eventhough you are somewhat correct ![]() 1 Like |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 8:13am On Sep 15, 2016 |
nma24: The bible never instructed wives to swallow bull pooh in the name of marriage but respect, reverence, fear your hubby meaning you can express your anger in a submissive and respectful manner. My sister this is the ultimate key to marital bliss yet it has become extremely difficult for many ladies and this is why divorce will forever be on the increase. When a lady says my husband does not love me, it will amaze you that in 90% of the cases it is the lady who ignited that act and just do your findings to confirm. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by firstking01(m): 8:13am On Sep 15, 2016 |
asuo27:Bae ![]() |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:17am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Toks2008:Are you married? 17 Likes |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 8:36am On Sep 15, 2016 |
![]() ![]() Toks2008: 5 Likes |
Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by shotin(m): 8:38am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Okay |
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