nma24:
Three heartbreaks in one year? You try

My sister am already getting used to it

nma24:
Three heartbreaks in one year? You try

lol. Him own na small. I dey bury mumsy for one hand, heartbreak from babe dey slap me from another end.

Imagine that for one minute! Losing a parent and having heartbreak from someone you gave all your heart.

But I thank God sha. My heart be like stone now. Not sure I might marry though! Still playing with the thought in my head. Nothing decided yet.

positivec:
OP, If I may ask, do you love her? If you do,you will forgive her. Situations bring the worst in people and sometimes people take advantage of vulnerable people.
If you say, she has a good character and she stayed with your ailing Father. Don't you think that she loves you , to have made such a huge sacrifice in this era.
If I may ask, what is her gain . Do you pay her?.
Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl.
GET HER AN ACCOMMODATION TOO

He is has got no evidence yet talkless of confrontation, had it been all this were done then this advise is perfect.

First, get evidence, as in quality evidence that she will see and will not be able to talk. In the first place you didn't tell us she moved in with a male friend..

Yes some male friend can hold themselves, but what about the friend herself considering you are far away, temptation at times might be irresistible you know.

Back to the matter, please confront her with valid evidence then what happens after will definitely tell if she still loves you or not. If she loves you she will want you to stay through begging and proclaiming her love for you in the presence of that her male friend, then, you can work away with the quoted advice.

In relationship, shit happens and if we love each other we need to tolerate each other.

motherfucker:
lol. Him own na small. I dey bury mumsy for one hand, heartbreak from babe dey slap me from another end.

Imagine that for one minute! Losing a parent and having heartbreak from someone you gave all your heart.

But I thank God sha. My heart be like stone now. Not sure I might marry though! Still playing with the thought in my head. Nothing decided yet.

You will marry. Too sad though. Its not good for a man to be alone. Just marry and grow in love.

nma24:
You lack comprehension. The lady has accommodation problems which d op cannot solve and seems op still lives with his parents plus the lady's mum is dead. She might b on her own. Many shallow thinking zombies has infested Nairaland.... Haba!!!

you're the shaloow thinking zombie here.



If it were a man you female lots would be shouting all men are dogs now that it's a fellow lady you're giving her excuse.

xtervaganza:
you're the shaloow thinking zombie here.



If it were a man you female lots would be shouting all men are dogs now that it's a fellow lady you're giving her excuse.

where did u creep out from? Anyway, I'll understand if d guy is in d same predicament but then, blame society for most people and the high expectations they have of the menfolk... So no one will pity ya if you appear sloppy. That's just how it has been fashioned out.....

ikp120:


My sister am already getting used to it

Its well... Seems you gat no game.... Try and up your game ok

nma24:
Its well... Seems you gat no game.... Try and up your game ok

My sister I don't play games with girls o. I grew up with girls, no brother, so I wonder how my sisters will feel if a guy plays game with them. Also I don't date another guy's girl. It is against my rules. I am a very cool guy who doesn't like wahala. Once I find out that a girl am dating already had another guy before I came, I will free her, but we will still be good friends. I won't hate her. I don't date for fun at all just like most guys do.

It hurts sha. Sometimes I am like I can't trust a girl again, especially when she says she is single (especially fine girls o ).
But it is well.

nma24:
where did u creep out from? Anyway, I'll understand if d guy is in d same predicament but then, blame society for most people and the high expectations they have of the menfolk... So no one will pity ya if you appear sloppy. That's just how it has been fashioned out.....

I'm guessing you're one of the many half-witted feminazis on here?

xtervaganza:
I'm guessing you're one of the many half-witted feminazis on here?

Good night

ikp120:


My sister I don't play games with girls o. I grew up with girls, no brother, so I wonder how my sisters will feel if a guy plays game with them. Also I don't date another guy's girl. It is against my rules. I am a very cool guy who doesn't like wahala. Once I find out that a girl am dating already had another guy before I came, I will free her, but we will still be good friends. I won't hate her. I don't date for fun at all just like most guys do.

It hurts sha. Sometimes I am like I can't trust a girl again, especially when she says she is single (especially fine girls o ).
But it is well.

Try the plain humble ones OK... Some girl will take a good guy like you for granted. So you have to get hard and not all mushy mushy

TizaBaibe:
This is actually my first thread on nairaland, I am a guy of 26 years living in Lagos, at least I can say am doing good for myself in this recession. I ve dated this lady for four years and am almost considering walking down the aisle with her before I started noticing some changes with her, she is 22. Problem all started when I left for NYSC last year, before then she had been a very good lady and faithful too. For the time we dated she never demanded from me untill she lost her mum, even at that her demands were untypical of a Nigerian lady, because she always fended for herself unless I willingly intervened.
Problem started when she visited me and I noticed her long unusual calls, I confronted her but she convinced me with the normal just a friend stuff from female folks. Fast forward to the present day, she has kept her profile of been a good lady before me and family. I even introduced her to my people and from time to time she spends reasonable time with my ailing father.
The actual problem is this, immediately I passed out earlier this year, she had accommodation issues and I couldn't lend a hand. She was soomuch desperate that I couldn't help looking at her. She resolved to squat with a friend. God been so kind, I secured a job in Lagos and at the moment she is preparing to come visit me from jos, she just left my house last week after spending two weeks with my sick dad. I only found out last night that the friend she told me she was squating with all this while has been her other boyfriend. And the same person we started having issues over. I haven't told her of my findings, truth be told she's everything of a good woman and has really endured and supported me except for my latest findings.
Am as confused as hell now, I be not even confronted her, my mind is playing games with me. Pls somebody should talk to me. All the thoughts I have in mind are so far futile.

Lemme get DS straight, ur gf squatted with anoda guy (asin dey lived togeda in same confinement) and worst still u had to find out on ur own and ure asking wat to do? Bia where do u guys get all dis patience from? I want to av too o, cos if its me....I won't break up with her now....I will on d day of introduction. Ur gf is a hoe! U can't come and tell me dey slept on same bed and notin happened....laye ko Jo!

nma24:
Try the plain humble ones OK... Some girl will take a good guy like you for granted. So you have to get hard and not all mushy mushy

Seriously? You mean I should be mean to girls?

My guy listen to me. While I understand she is a good person, there are many other good women. You are only 26 years of age - you shouldn't even be rushing because of marriage. MY GUY WALK AWAY FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.....

She had a difficult situation and you couldn't help her - but you have to get over this. These things happen. You must also consider her reaction, she got a second boyfriend to live with. her response tells U who she is. this is what you should judge her by. If you guys ever get married she will do the same.

she had other options what of family or female friends... Guy FORGET HER...... DO YOU, MOVE ON..... just keep her as a friend, but don't make the mistake if having a relationship with her again....

Just do you BRUV.....

MOBE ONN

"I can't stand a cheat"... We all say that. Pray never to fall helplessly in love with someone to the point where the person becomes your all,and almost all you breathe for. At that point,you'd find out that you're very much willing to forgive "the cheat" if it eventually happens. Love is crazy.

@ OP: I can't say you should break up with her,or continue. Follow your heart and deal with the consequences.

saintfellow:
Rubbish, if truly that the guy she has been living with is her other boyfriend, then my brother, break up with her.
its for your own good, what if you get married to her and she starts seeing a secret lover.
op, a cheat is a cheat, and no matter the sacrifice a lady had sacrificed for me, the moment she cheats with another guy, then she is DEAD to me.
i cant stand a cheat.

ikp120:


Seriously? You mean I should be mean to girls?

Not mean per se.... You will meet d right one soon okay.

nma24:
Not mean per se.... You will meet d right one soon okay.

Okay

everybody seems to forget that (1) she's still living with the other boyfriend (2) if faced with challenges in the future, she would still do the same (3)i don't want to write much but i believe that any lady that uses her body to get ahead in life is an unrepentant hoe. she'll do it to pass that difficult course in school, to get a new phone with Whatsapp, to be posted by an nysc official to juicy location/workplace ,to get a federal ministry kob etc. I'm talking from experience. they might think that they would stop when they eventually gets married but do they? that's how they present their husbands with pregnancy from another man.ndi ara, dan iska.

positivec:
OP, If I may ask, do you love her? If you do,you will forgive her. Situations bring the worst in people and sometimes people take advantage of vulnerable people.
If you say, she has a good character and she stayed with your ailing Father. Don't you think that she loves you , to have made such a huge sacrifice in this era.
If I may ask, what is her gain . Do you pay her?.
Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl.
GET HER AN ACCOMMODATION TOO

Lol situations bring the best out of ppl n not d worst don't be fooled because of what u think is love

dairykidd:


Lol situations bring the best out of ppl n not d worst don't be fooled because of what u think is love

It baffles me, If reverse is the case, it will be a different advise. Had it been it's a lady telling this story. I am sure, she will be told to endure and pray that he his a good man. Some people are telling you to leave. RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND
Beloved. Love is beautiful and stand the test of time, It's unconditional.
Mr Op, there are few people left in this world that show compassion, so if you are privileged to see one, be happy. Remember, we are human bound to make mistakes.
Op, before you confront her , try remember times you felt hopeless , times that you really needed help and none is forth coming and someone just suggested something that seems like a solution and after the whole thing you felt guilty of your action.
Most people will be ready to help with a condition. Don't forget this , she is suffering psychological. A guy that knows you have someone but still wants to tag along is only killing your self worth.

ikp120:
Bro, at least 50% of ladies are like that; They don't know what they want. Stay with the one with the money. NO!
Then stay with the one you love. NO!
What then do you want? I WANT BOTH OF THEM!
Bro that girl loves you, but "when money nor dey...".
You know the rest of the story.

Bro, I beg you, don't confront her. I have met girls like that in school and dated them, only to find out that they had a guy at home. Of course I was upset, but their explanations were just like your girl's situation; they needed someone to assist them pay bills.
That guy is just a maga

ikp120!!! agreed he is s maga, but what if they are having sex, I'm sure u don't like dat thought

positivec:


It baffles me, If reverse is the case, it will be a different advise. Had it been it's a lady telling this story. I am sure, she will be told to endure and pray that he his a good man. Some people are telling you to leave. RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND
Beloved. Love is beautiful and stand the test of time, It's unconditional.
Mr Op, there are few people left in this world that show compassion, so if you are privileged to see one, be happy. Remember, we are human bound to make mistakes.
Op, before you confront her , try remember times you felt hopeless , times that you really needed help and none is forth coming and someone just suggested something that seems like a solution and after the whole thing you felt guilty of your action.
Most people will be ready to help with a condition. Don't forget this , she is suffering psychological. A guy that knows you have someone but still wants to tag along is only killing your self worth.

These filth came out ur mouth:

Situations bring the worst in people

Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl

"RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND"
I knw Nl is filled up with little kids most of whom are lost without any real direction and some old goats who have nothing meaningful to offer themselves not to talk of those around their immediate enviroment only to come up here to pretend to be what they r not and there r still lots of intelligent/real ones here n i knw when i come across them..Now to ur number 1 mumu track from ur dumb album:

1."Situations bring the worst in people" who ever told u dat is as stupid as those words sound..situations are meant to be handled by the individual.Tough situations either make u or break u depending on ur strength and personal values/morals n beliefs.let me tell u @some point in my life i couldn't afford my rent here in Abj and was thrown out with my things i had to make do with a bar boy who was close to me then so dat i could find a place to sleep which was on the floor of the bar after all d customers have left and in the morning i take my bath in one of d rooms b4 i begin my hustle..Lots of my guys came with different supposed solutions all negative and wrong to me because i was guided by my values n beliefs plus the strength in me.We became enemies because i refused their offer...we would sit in d same bar and they would be making fun of me indirectly by sending drinks my way when they knw i havent eaten any food since morning...i almost became a beggar ..i would wake up every day with pains all over my bones from sleeping on the hard floor,sold all my properties cos i didnt want to call home which i knw will support with wtv i want without doubt.My only properties where a few of my clothes and my Laptop n credentials but after hardship of abt 4 months i scaled through on my own with only God as my help..i remember going 3-4 days without food but water for those 4 months like every week n if dat week is so good then i get to eat once everyday hmm..i felt dead and would cry and pray even as a sinner God still heard me...today am helping ppl who need it even if am still getting to be where i want to be..if i had gone the other way and maybe became rich thru one smelly baba buh inside me no rest of mind & happiness then i would be harping on ur stupid song("Situations bring the worst in people" d same old song most olosho sing although i dont judge anyone,survive any how u can thats it sha. So brah to hell with u and ur damn philosophy SITUATIONS BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU!!


2.Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl:
Here u go again so ignorant and childish..now who is d devil the ex or d girl that condescended so low to rely on her ex for survival without letting me know by covering it up growing up my dad told me that d truth is like a wine cork,no matter hw u suppress it in water,it always comes up the surface d moment ur hands let go. U better grow up and see d real world for what it is b4 u die unknowingly.No be only devil u go fight na Satan...Keep blaming d devil for everything untill u crash-land


3."RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND" I blv u meant feeble
And fyi ur mind is not 1/4 as strong as mine...Lolss if only u have seen a pinch of what i have seen or walked a step in my shoes brah, any way let me not start talking abt myself here buh u still so ignorant and dull(no offense) but i am a realist that's what life has tot me so i face d world as it is.. no time to assume when d hand writing is boldly on d wall...btw if u sharp or u dull u no go affect me u or the op that already knows what to do buh came here for what i don't knw.



More Horse sh!t from you below:

[s]Op, before you confront her,try remember times you felt hopeless , times that you really needed help and none is forth coming and someone just suggested something that seems like a solution and after the whole thing you felt guilty of your action.
Most people will be ready to help with a condition. Don't forget this , she is suffering psychological. A guy that knows you have someone but still wants to tag along is only killing your self worth.[/s]

U r really an excuse for real men i pray u grow up and stop to be here on NL looking for acceptance /endorsements from NL girls who are mostly as dumb as u with very few intelligent ones...And dont quote me pls just think abt ur life any time d thought of quoting me comes to dat aimless,timid,uninteresting mind of urs

positivec:
OP, If I may ask, do you love her? If you do,you will forgive her. Situations bring the worst in people and sometimes people take advantage of vulnerable people.
If you say, she has a good character and she stayed with your ailing Father. Don't you think that she loves you , to have made such a huge sacrifice in this era.
If I may ask, what is her gain . Do you pay her?.
Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl.
GET HER AN ACCOMMODATION TOO

you're amazing , beautiful advice.

niccoloslick:
My guy listen to me. While I understand she is a good person, there are many other good women. You are only 26 years of age - you shouldn't even be rushing because of marriage. MY GUY WALK AWAY FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.....

She had a difficult situation and you couldn't help her - but you have to get over this. These things happen. You must also consider her reaction, she got a second boyfriend to live with. her response tells U who she is. this is what you should judge her by. If you guys ever get married she will do the same.

she had other options what of family or female friends... Guy FORGET HER...... DO YOU, MOVE ON..... just keep her as a friend, but don't make the mistake if having a relationship with her again....

Just do you BRUV.....

MOBE ONN

bruv may God continue to bless u joor! no be some useless and d!ckless ppl go come here dey form dr nice for real life situation so that some mumu girls like am here go accept am...She was in fvcken Jam & chose d easy way out God forbid this op marries her as dat very timid and dumb fellow dey advise tight situation come face the guy cos me n u knw life is not always a bed of roses what do u think she would do?? bear with him and be patient a virtue she never took d time to nurture when God gave her d chance to?? Some ppl will be dumb forever sha
My guy nice one n God bless wtv it is u do man!

firstking01:
Oh, how guys hate girls cheating on them...my word, op do a proper and
thorough findings before you conclude cos she just might be innocent after all.

fact still remains there's no proof she's cheating.

I accomodated a female friend for close to a year and we NEVER HAD SEX.

Dude that girl loves u, at worst everyother person is just a maga, desperate times calls for desperate measures,

talk to her and let us know her reply

nma24:
Lolz... Rose if I catch you

dairykidd:



These filth came out ur mouth:

Situations bring the worst in people

Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl

"RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND"
I knw Nl is filled up with little kids most of whom are lost without any real direction and some old goats who have nothing meaningful to offer themselves not to talk of those around their immediate enviroment only to come up here to pretend to be what they r not and there r still lots of intelligent/real ones here n i knw when i come across them..Now to ur number 1 mumu track from ur dumb album:

1."Situations bring the worst in people" who ever told u dat is as stupid as those words sound..situations are meant to be handled by the individual.Tough situations either make u or break u depending on ur strength and personal values/morals n beliefs.let me tell u @some point in my life i couldn't afford my rent here in Abj and was thrown out with my things i had to make do with a bar boy who was close to me then so dat i could find a place to sleep which was on the floor of the bar after all d customers have left and in the morning i take my bath in one of d rooms b4 i begin my hustle..Lots of my guys came with different supposed solutions all negative and wrong to me because i was guided by my values n beliefs plus the strength in me.We became enemies because i refused their offer...we would sit in d same bar and they would be making fun of me indirectly by sending drinks my way when they knw i havent eaten any food since morning...i almost became a beggar ..i would wake up every day with pains all over my bones from sleeping on the hard floor,sold all my properties cos i didnt want to call home which i knw will support with wtv i want without doubt.My only properties where a few of my clothes and my Laptop n credentials but after hardship of abt 4 months i scaled through on my own with only God as my help..i remember going 3-4 days without food but water for those 4 months like every week n if dat week is so good then i get to eat once everyday hmm..i felt dead and would cry and pray even as a sinner God still heard me...today am helping ppl who need it even if am still getting to be where i want to be..if i had gone the other way and maybe became rich thru one smelly baba buh inside me no rest of mind & happiness then i would be harping on ur stupid song("Situations bring the worst in people" d same old song most olosho sing although i dont judge anyone,survive any how u can thats it sha. So brah to hell with u and ur damn philosophy SITUATIONS BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOU!!


2.Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl:
Here u go again so ignorant and childish..now who is d devil the ex or d girl that condescended so low to rely on her ex for survival without letting me know by covering it up growing up my dad told me that d truth is like a wine cork,no matter hw u suppress it in water,it always comes up the surface d moment ur hands let go. U better grow up and see d real world for what it is b4 u die unknowingly.No be only devil u go fight na Satan...Keep blaming d devil for everything untill u crash-land


3."RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR FIBBLE MIND" I blv u meant feeble
And fyi ur mind is not 1/4 as strong as mine...Lolss if only u have seen a pinch of what i have seen or walked a step in my shoes brah, any way let me not start talking abt myself here buh u still so ignorant and dull(no offense) but i am a realist that's what life has tot me so i face d world as it is.. no time to assume when d hand writing is boldly on d wall...btw if u sharp or u dull u no go affect me u or the op that already knows what to do buh came here for what i don't knw.



More Horse sh!t from you below:

[s]Op, before you confront her,try remember times you felt hopeless , times that you really needed help and none is forth coming and someone just suggested something that seems like a solution and after the whole thing you felt guilty of your action.
Most people will be ready to help with a condition. Don't forget this , she is suffering psychological. A guy that knows you have someone but still wants to tag along is only killing your self worth.[/s]

U r really an excuse for real men i pray u grow up and stop to be here on NL looking for acceptance /endorsements from NL girls who are mostly as dumb as u with very few intelligent ones...And dont quote me pls just think abt ur life any time d thought of quoting me comes to dat aimless,timid,uninteresting mind of urs

Thank you for the correction and for taking your time to tell your pain. Sir, don't judge the lady from your perspective. You claimed to have good morals due to personal/ upbringing forgetting that not everyone has such experience.
Sir, from what you typed. Do you feel better after pouring out your mind, because you need much love to heal that pain your carry around. You tried to make a point but I can read a different meaning to it, because the lady needed serious help , also weak minded and didn't have the friends that you claimed . Rather she had an abuser , who worked on her psyche to even come in, in the first place. Ever seen were someone is so vulnerable.
Remember, the effect of death on a loved one, that feeling of needing someone to understand the pain. She needs help and not to be rejected. Mind you, the explanation you gave is not similar to the issue at hand.
Op, let God direct your action. Wisdom is needed.
Thank you.

positivec:

Thank you for the correction and for taking your time to tell your pain. Sir, don't judge the lady from your perspective. You claimed to have good morals due to personal/ upbringing forgetting that not everyone has such experience.
Sir, from what you typed. Do you feel better after pouring out your mind, because you need much love to heal that pain your carry around. You tried to make a point but I can read a different meaning to it, because the lady needed serious help , also weak minded and didn't have the friends that you claimed . Rather she had an abuser , who worked on her psyche to even come in, in the first place. Ever seen were someone is so vulnerable.
Remember, the effect of death on a loved one, that feeling of needing someone to understand the pain. She needs help and not to be rejected. Mind you, the explanation you gave is not similar to the issue at hand.
Op, let God direct your action. Wisdom is needed.
Thank you.

wtv u blv man i really don't care

positivec:
OP, If I may ask, do you love her? If you do,you will forgive her. Situations bring the worst in people and sometimes people take advantage of vulnerable people.
If you say, she has a good character and she stayed with your ailing Father. Don't you think that she loves you , to have made such a huge sacrifice in this era.
If I may ask, what is her gain . Do you pay her?.
Fight the devil that has entered this wonderful relationship and not the girl.
GET HER AN ACCOMMODATION TOO

This is an unacceptable advice! Dump the lady and thank God you discovered. If op stays with her, she will keep having affairs under your nose, even in your matrimonial home.

hkidola00:
ikp120!!! agreed he is s maga, but what if they are having sex, I'm sure u don't like dat thought

My guy I don't like that thought o. The guy should just do whatever he wants to do. But I won't want to release a girl like that o. At least the guy has a job now, so he can assist the girl. I hope what am thinking is not so; that she also has feelings for the other guy.