BeansOntheGrill:
Op ,I am vexed with the woman in yer place.

This man wants her it is not wise she associate herself with him in a personal way.
If it was a group lunch it would be fine but they will be alone .
*shakes head* Not good.

You confront her and let her know this
And speak 2 her about setting boundaries with make co-workers who have interest in her .

She Mar dismiss yer concerns
in her mind she knows she won't get into anything with the guy,their"just having lunch"

And she'sright. You have 2 speak 2 her and then trust her 2 handle herself even IF she continues 2 have lunch with admires as lomg as she doesn't encourage them(cross bounds)

Valerie

ekanDamie:

Cc @Berbierklaus i added more brackets to make it more visible

My point is,the other guy(s) probably don't want her for a serious relationship,Taking Awoof from them could lead to a steamy sexual relationship,in the case where he(they) might break her heart,and she will be back to You(Mr Nice/caring guy)

Cutehector:
First she ain't ur girlfrnd so she has every right to go out for lunch with whoever she pleases!
Second you aren't her boss!
Third, u are just jealous and insecure.
U like her? Why not talk to her about your feelings? Mind you, office romance is bad. You are just the problem, not her!

Cutehector:
OK agreed she is your girlfrnd..
The part u said can't she just go hungry till she goes home?
Like seriously? Really? This is one of d reasons why I dislike office romance. Such nonsense brings friction between colleague and work is hindered.

dharay99:

0ga read again, them dey date na
or am d1 not understandinq ni...

Cutehector:
I guess you didn't read that also. Nw get lost

Lmao, i only exposed your lack of understanding a simple
write up in a 'friendly way'. You screaming like a Lunatic with chains
on his ostrich neck. Read & Comprehend first, Ajah-Morôn.

Berbierklaus:

My point is,the other guy(s) probably don't want her for a serious relationship,Taking Awoof from them could lead to a steamy sexual relationship,in the case where he(they) might break her heart,and she will be back to You(Mr Nice/caring guy)

dharay99:

Lmao, i only exposed your lack of understanding a simple
write up in a 'friendly way'. You screaming like a Lunatic with chains
on his ostrich neck. Read & Comprehend first, Ajah-Morôn.

Cutehector:
so dis is all you can ever come up with? Can't u do smth with u time other than while away in nairaland?

Richy4:
That is just the problem OP... It is not everyone that can poo where they eat...because when it starts smelling, not everyone can handle it...

U are simply jealous because of the attention your lady friend was getting...It is normal.. The attention she was getting was a normal thing...u do not expect her to be a loner in a work place...

Assuming u were working somewhere else and not together with her, There might be female friends that u might have in that place that might buy u lunch when u are kinda broke..it is not as if u were gonna have a relationship with them.

U do not have to worry, u were acting normal....but what u were staring eye ball to eye ball was the disadvantage of dating someone u work with.....it makes one possessive and unnecessarily jealous.. .

ekanDamie:

That just sums up my predicament i get. Its really a disadvantage. So, my best behaviour u suggest is to be cool with her in such situations n not b jealous or possesive at such times.

Richy4:


Let us look at it this way, assuming are working somewhere else and u went for a harmless lunch with a female coworker which she paid for due to the fact that she likes u as a person and a good worker..surprisingly, ur girl friend came to your work place to pay u a lunch surprised visit.. and they direct her to the restaurant and she saw u with this female worker...and u were happy and laughing with her... how do u think she will feel?

I will allow u to think about that.. but what ever u are feeling right now is a normal thing except if u don't like her... give her some breathing space to be friendly with other co worker... but inform her when she is crossing the limit.....I personally have a rule for myself never to date a co worker or a neigbour just to avoid part of how u are feeling right now...

ekanDamie:

Lol. I do get ur points perfectly, i spoke with her, well, she was convincing d guy didnt even pay for her meal, i guess i over insinuated. About not dating a Co-worker, its my first time jareh, aswear itz not been easy, most of our fights has been work cause. But we juz love each other n dats y weve been making up, i go try adjust, abi is breakup d best option ni? E no easy.

Richy4:


No man... if you find her fascinating, why would u think about breaking up? i was just telling u about my personal rule concerning work place relationship... i got a delicate heart... I don't think it can entertain drama