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Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Youngpo413: 3:58pm On Sep 19, 2016
Dump her asap,in fact never ever make a mistake of marrying a non virgin .
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 3:59pm On Sep 19, 2016
asuo27:
This kind advice. grin Not cool.
How are you?
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by omega25red(m): 4:05pm On Sep 19, 2016
EWAagoyin:
please bear with any blunders im nt myself currently thanks.
we started dating early this year and everything was going on well between us, well i planned making her my wife and i asked about her, she told me about many attempts of rape towards her because she lives in a house with many relative boys but told me non of the attempts was sucessful which she said she is still a virgin, fast forward yesterday i discovered she wasnt a virgin but was now telling that one of the guy succeded in penetrating her bt nt for long, i feel used and disgusted your advices is needed please.

Sounds like you are a F'ing hypocrite. You talked about marrying her because you thought she was a virgin but before you married her, you had sex with her to find out she wasn't a virgin angry . Now you don chop finish and want to run suddenly her virginity is an issue while you found out she wasn't a virgin by having sex with her. jeezzz awon omo keke re yi
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 4:06pm On Sep 19, 2016
Laveda:
Hmmmm

She didn't tell you the day she was raped?
And she told you that just yesterday?

Hmmmm

Cc: skarlet

Hmmmm
All i smell is lies grin
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 4:10pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

You don't get it, she lied and made him believe she was intact until they had sex. Why lie in the first place
I got his point dear. We all love to know the truth an feel cheated when lied to. And I kind of understand what he might be feeling. Often, the lies get mixed up with the truths till we find out. The lady had her reasons for lying to him- probably to keep the whole thing going. But unfortunately for her, she's now lost or about to loss her guy. She's probably regretting that now. Do you think it's proper or perhaps, do you think theirs any point in hammering on the lie?
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 4:14pm On Sep 19, 2016
Julian08:

How are you?
Good n you?.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by fumisko(f): 4:15pm On Sep 19, 2016
That's why there is something called forgiveness. Be angry with her. Even stop being your normal self with her for sometime. Just to make her know she hurt u. If she values you, she would be truly sorry and you would see it. Then forgive her. Such is life. In marriage she would hurt you more than this sef. Shit happens. And u would have to forgive her. So start learning to be selfless. Marriage is two good for givers living together.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 4:16pm On Sep 19, 2016
Julian08:

I got his point dear. We all love to know the truth an feel cheated when lied to. And I kind of understand what he might be feeling. Often, the lies get mixed up with the truths till we find out. The lady had her reasons for lying to him- probably to keep the whole thing going. But unfortunately for her, she's now lost or about to loss her guy. She's probably regretting that now. Do you think it's proper or perhaps, do you think theirs any point in hammering on the lie?
Thanks for getting the point smiley about hammering on the lie, it depends on how we take being deceived. I for one won't hammer on it but it's over . If you can't trust me enough to tell me what has happened to you in the past, carry your love and go cheesy
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by fumisko(f): 4:18pm On Sep 19, 2016
But you need to know why she lied...ask her and tell her to tell you the truth..maybe you have always told her somewhere along the line that it's a virgin you wana marry, and she liked you so much and was scared to say the truth...because she felt she may loose u. If that's the case, reassure her and tell her she shouldn't have done that because this lies hurts you more. It's her, her personality you love. Not her virginity status
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 4:22pm On Sep 19, 2016
asuo27:
Good n you?.
Good too.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Sbsex: 4:36pm On Sep 19, 2016
To me I guess u av to check it ur self first. Penetrate and knw how tru d road is.

If it nt normal u can give here a red
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by EWAagoyin(m): 5:00pm On Sep 19, 2016
fumisko:
But you need to know why she lied...ask her and tell her to tell you the truth..maybe you have always told her somewhere along the line that it's a virgin you wana marry, and she liked you so much and was scared to say the truth...because she felt she may loose u. If that's the case, reassure her and tell her she shouldn't have done that because this lies hurts you more. It's her, her personality you love. Not her virginity status
god bless u thanks 4 the advice
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by EWAagoyin(m): 5:03pm On Sep 19, 2016
skarlett:


Hmmmm
All i smell is lies grin
everything u read up there happened 2 me less than 24hrs ago and are all true no lie ma
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 5:08pm On Sep 19, 2016
EWAagoyin:
everything u read up there happened 2 me less than 24hrs ago and are all true no lie ma

Okay sir
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Shabib(m): 5:24pm On Sep 19, 2016
CrazyQuinn:
She's ashamed to talk about her horrible past, try and understand cry
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Shabib(m): 5:31pm On Sep 19, 2016
omega25red:


Sounds like you are a F'ing hypocrite. You talked about marrying her because you thought she was a virgin but before you married her, you had sex with her to find out she wasn't a virgin angry . Now you don chop finish and want to run suddenly her virginity is an issue while you found out she wasn't a virgin by having sex with her. jeezzz awon omo keke re yi
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Toks2008(m): 5:36pm On Sep 19, 2016
EWAagoyin:
please bear with any blunders im nt myself currently thanks.
we started dating early this year and everything was going on well between us, well i planned making her my wife and i asked about her, she told me about many attempts of rape towards her because she lives in a house with many relative boys but told in penetrating her bt nt for long, i feel used and disgusted your advices is needed please.
cc: ilegend , obotami , toks2008 , lalaticlala , sinaj , rokiatu , lola024 , brymo , lavenda , ladyf

lol! this is one of the most hilarious mentions I have ever had.

My broda please let me have her number so I can scold her for you lol..

But seriously if I were you I will forgive her for being slimy cos she definitely knew what transpered but she decided to keep that from you.

The bottom line is that if you see a lady wey don spoil small please hold her very tight cos most ladies nowadays are terribly spoilt.

my 50cents.

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Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by schumastic(m): 5:55pm On Sep 19, 2016
nma24:
Error

meaning
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by schumastic(m): 5:58pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

Not being a V isn't the problem, lying is.

you think, is he perfect or does he want to tell me he has not lied to her before?

am not in support of her lying but all am saying is this, he should forget about it and move on or better still break up with her, if that will make him happy or resolve the issue.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by EWAagoyin(m): 6:04pm On Sep 19, 2016
Toks2008:


lol! this is one of the most hilarious mentions I have ever had.

My broda please let me have her number so I can scold her for you lol..

But seriously if I were you I will forgive her for being slimy cos she definitely knew what transpered but she decided to keep that from you.

The bottom line is that if you see a lady wey don spoil small please hold her very tight cos most ladies nowadays are terribly spoilt.

my 50cents.
Thank u very much sir
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 6:10pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

Continue doing it till you get tired, then move oncheesy. Some girls are stupid angry
Hahan..Anti shocked...The bros should just quit the relationship then instead of what you advised. That way,both of them will just sulk small and move on.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 6:10pm On Sep 19, 2016
schumastic:


you think, is he perfect or does he want to tell me he has not lied to her before?

am not in support of her lying but all am saying is this, he should forget about it and move on or better still break up with her, if that will make him happy or resolve the issue.
Have you ever being lied too? They dated for 7 to 8 months, and she didn't think of telling him the truth after the lies. She didn't tell him until he got to the punna and discovered it has been tampered with. I don't know how people deal with lies but when I'm in a relationship, I can't stand it. No one will have your head for saying the truth
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by schumastic(m): 6:15pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

Have you ever being lied too? They dated for 7 to 8 months, and she didn't think of telling him the truth after the lies. She didn't tell him until he got to the punna and discovered it has been tampered with. I don't know how people deal with lies but when I'm in a relationship, I can't stand it. No one will have your head for saying the truth

n i asked a ?, haven't you lied to your partner before and have you seen any perfect person before in any relationship?
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 7:06pm On Sep 19, 2016
schumastic:


n i asked a ?, haven't you lied to your partner before and have you seen any perfect person before in any relationship?
I did once lipsrsealed, still regretting it till date undecided. And no, I haven't seen a perfect relationship but a relationship built on lies........ Kolewerk grin
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by schumastic(m): 7:15pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

I did once lipsrsealed, still regretting it till date undecided. And no, I haven't seen a perfect relationship but a relationship built on lies........ Kolewerk grin

well most are built on lies either before the relationship started or along the line....why are you regretting yours
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 7:20pm On Sep 19, 2016
schumastic:


well most are built on lies either before the relationship started or along the line....why are you regretting yours
Looool, long story tongue...... So you wouldn't mind your girlfriend lying for 7-8months?
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 9:08pm On Sep 19, 2016
checking it closely u will find out she wasn't even raped. I really don't know what's wrong in telling your bf you are not a virgin. why lie? when you know he will find out at d marriage night if you ever get married. if I ever get into a relationship and she tells me she's a virgin and I decide to abstain with her and then on the first night of sex get to find out she's not a virgin, bro we divorcing the next working day. bullshit women.

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Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 9:49pm On Sep 19, 2016
CrazyQuinn:
She's ashamed to talk about her horrible past, try and understand cry
Funny....u gals love to support ya selfs ehnnn.....
Dis is dsame story a girl told my guy.. shiiii....i don't believe her.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Antina(f): 9:56pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

Continue doing it till you get tired, then move oncheesy. Some girls are stupid angry

Was he a virgin before he met her?
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Nobody: 9:59pm On Sep 19, 2016
Antina:


Was he a virgin before he met her?
Did you read what Op typed at all She lied about being a virgin
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by Olumaeme: 10:25pm On Sep 19, 2016
Look, it's obvious she is lieng to u and ladies tell that lie a lot.
I know you are hurt, but I will advise you shine her Congo for the main time, then tell her your pastor is against marrying her later after you went for prayers.

This hoes ain't loyal...

If u like sit down dey think, u don't even know if she is collecting at the moment sef.
Re: Advice Needed Before Breaking Up With Her. by schumastic(m): 10:53pm On Sep 19, 2016
Aderola15:

Looool, long story tongue...... So you wouldn't mind your girlfriend lying for 7-8months?

everyone lies the most important thing is for you not to get caught...mind you, ladies are the ones who can lie the most n are good in covering up their tracks.

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