Jasparo123:
you're giving it another guy...

when you're giving it to another guy.

raziboi:


hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah hahahahh


seriously. ...it's all about experience.... i did no sex.. for 2yrs she left, another for 8 mnths she left.... i stopped.... oooo...

girls have really dealt with us with this no sex stuff. i don't just believe in it again!!!

bro, why did you indulge yourself in such farce?




I wouldn't be found in a no sex relationship. When aye is not doing me

ibietela2:


There's no guarantee that you guys will get married without involving in pre marital sex

Atleast ur dignity will stay intact, you won't be having a situation were u went out with the girl you so love & u just meet some guy dat will be telling you "dude i tapped dat sh*t, she's great in bed"

raziboi:


mahma sometimes you don't need to blame us having sex ...things happen for a reason... i once dated a girl for 2yrs without sex.. she just left like that, i felt bad cause she wasted my time... i opt in for another 8months with another girl.. she got tired....and left.....( these gals left cause they have nothing to loose... after their promises oo....
when they know you av not had sex with them... they are just not committed.. meaning the can just decided to leave you anytime )

so i just stopped it.... so am i to blame

I can imagine you are not to blame. Sex doesn't mean commitment though i wonder when both became synonymous. The thing is very few people can give you the results you desire.

herald9:

Miss Mossy, just tell us if you are or not and stop this sermon already

Lol its obvious from what i said biko i don't need to type in large fonts.So just leave it at what i said last night.

Meeloreh:
Well, it's still available. Yes, here in Nigeria. It's about finding the right person that geniuly loves you and has a future. If he has the fear of God n he wants a future with you, it's all good. The phrase "everyone is doing it" shouldn't make u do it cuz that phrase isn't 100% correct. Stand out sis

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The phrase is 100% correct. It's all about determination and trust.

shadeyinka:
I will like to encourage as many young men and ladies who have decided on a no-sex relationship. Trust me, I've been there at least for 2 1/2 years before I got married.

It is worth it at the end of the day. When you finally get married you will discover that the most promiscuous girl (except commercial prostitutes) can NOT match your frequency of sexual intimacy. Just imagine, 3x4x12 times on the average per year for the next 30-40 years of your marriage life (at a modest average of thrice a week). kai!

You will also discover that though sex is important and beautiful, it doesn't define marriage success.

If you can't keep yourself before marriage what is the guarantee that you can prevent adultery if a "suitable opportunity" presents itself.

The foundation of TRUST, LOVE and RESPECT for each other bus what you should build in your premarital relationships.

One thing helps though:
Why go into an intimate relationship before you are ready for marriage? What are you practising in the dating game?

Why not just be friends in your relationships when you are not yet ready for marriage.

Above all, Fear God
Hate Sin
All things are possible to them who believe.

Stay blessed, Stay chaste.
You are not a minority! There are many like you, don't fall for "everyone is doing it" slogan. Its a lie!

Care to explain more on the emboldened

ibietela2:


So what you are saying is that your family issues is because of they had sex?

Nope all am saying is dat we don't want to complicate our own situation by having sex related issues like STDs, unwanted pregnancies etc

it is really possible to be in a relationship without sex though difficult but when you make up your mind you can stand the temptation, we clocked one year with my girl friend without sex and all things seems normal, we are trusting God to keep ourselves

spice123:
I didn't have sex with my wife until we got married. Well from my experience I will say that it wasn't easy at all for the 1 year and 6 months we courted. Let's be realistic here. Aside the true love, the key things that 'WE' used was discipline and respect. That is what it is.

Nice one. But there was something like Kissing and little romance?

youmour:
Mtchew,kukuma tell me make I donate my preek for ritual

youmour:
Mtchew,kukuma tell me make I donate my preek for ritual

I've come to realize from this thread that most guys don't even know been in a relationship is all about.

Sex is not the bases of a relationship, the foundation of a relationship is not made is sex.

its based on mutual respect, planning for your future and helping humanity the way you two can. Sex should be the last thing on your mind when you want to go into any relationship, becos it profits you nothing.

Let's stop living in Hollywood world and help make our real world a better place.

telemapreye1:
Tell that to my fingers

You're the one telling the tale, not me.

ireneony:
I doubt if there's anyone in a relationship without having sex.
i have never met a guy that doesn't want sex in a relationship.

This happened one time..a guy asked me out and i told him i only do relationships without sex.
he was very blunt. .he said" for this town ..for Nigeria. .this kind tin still de happen"
here i was thinking he's the kind of person that does believe in a "without sex relationships" because of his innocent face.

The only time i see or hear WTHOUT SEX RELATIONSHIP is online stories and how ladies turned down men that practice without relationship, I'm like wowwww. Sometimes I'm like how come i don't see this kind of men.

This brings me to my question, how many of you are strictly in a relationship without sex, and how do you cope with the temptations?

Share your experience! !!

i m different

telemapreye1:
That guy is dumb
Ignore him

no he's not. I was in a relationship with a girl named juliet. I told her strictly NO SEX and she agreed. After some time if you see the way she started disturbing me with sex and money. I lost respect for her and quit. Girls view relationship as financial responsibility on the guy.

ireneony:
I doubt if there's anyone in a relationship without having sex.
i have never met a guy that doesn't want sex in a relationship.

This happened one time..a guy asked me out and i told him i only do relationships without sex.
he was very blunt. .he said" for this town ..for Nigeria. .this kind tin still de happen"
here i was thinking he's the kind of person that does believe in a "without sex relationships" because of his innocent face.

The only time i see or hear WTHOUT SEX RELATIONSHIP is online stories and how ladies turned down men that practice without relationship, I'm like wowwww. Sometimes I'm like how come i don't see this kind of men.

This brings me to my question, how many of you are strictly in a relationship without sex, and how do you cope with the temptations?

Share your experience! !!

I have been in a relationship with my sweetheart for 3 Years + and we have had no sex to be married next year.
People are just twisted on their understanding of relationship.

ireneony:
abstaining from sex is not a religious thing, is a choice

it is.


Check your frigging Bible and see if it says ure free to fvck.

Is all about determination .

Am presently in such relation ship which is about a year and 8months now

ibietela2:


Why did you break up? Why where you shining other peoples kit kat? Is this not cheating?

The relationship later turned to long distance relationship which she find it hard to cop with it cos she went to ghana after we graduated. She said am no more caring and blabla bla. so we broke up.
Though I she has returned we even saw eachother early this month and the love is still in her eyes but its too late cos I can't double date.
And about the reason y am shining other girls carpet, well i think I av to satisfy myself sexual especially b4 marriage cos dia won't be room 4 dat after marriage.

Missmossy:

I can imagine you are not to blame. Sex doesn't mean commitment though i wonder when both became synonymous. The thing is very few people can give you the results you desire.

Exactly

xtervaganza:
bro, why did you indulge yourself in such farce?




I wouldn't be found in a no sex relationship. When aye is not doing me

I can't do it again.... Cause when i tired it..... It wasn't favorable to me

RadicallyBlunt:

Would you enter a relationship without money? How irritating would that sound to you?

Thinking more of your desires and less of his is childish. The reverse is maturity.

very dumb thing to say

Currently I am in a relationship without sex,its amazing that we live in the same lodge in school,but an attempt for sex have not occurred not for once, that's because we do more of outdoor meeting and it has been for 1yr or less . And we both love each other very much.......... Thank God for love

MVLOX:


Nope all am saying is dat we don't want to complicate our own situation by having sex related issues like STDs, unwanted pregnancies etc

That's is why there are contraceptives (condom and the rest)

justicejay:

The relationship later turned to long distance relationship which she find it hard to cop with it cos she went to ghana after we graduated. She said am no more caring and blabla bla. so we broke up.
Though I she has returned we even saw eachother early this month and the love is still in her eyes but its too late cos I can't double date.
And about the reason y am shining other girls carpet, well i think I av to satisfy myself sexual especially b4 marriage cos dia won't be room 4 dat after marriage.

Ohk, but you just justified cheating on your partner

mengho:


Atleast ur dignity will stay intact, you won't be having a situation were u went out with the girl you so love & u just meet some guy dat will be telling you "dude i tapped dat sh*t, she's great in bed"

This doesn't make sense..... We all share our sexual experience with pals.

encryptjay:

Goodnight sir

Good morning

Luckygurl:


Care to explain more on the emboldened

God gave both men and women sex instinct. We naturally are pulled into sex. Now, a young man and a lady (boy or girl) start dating, whether one likes it or not there would be some form of attraction sexually.

Now the point is a boy/girl relationship is hardly defined. Is the relationship for marriage or just fratanity? The girl has more to loose in a casual relationship when sex is involved because there are consequences that may arise such as pregnancy (contraceptives do fail a times), eventual breakup where the girl feels used and the guy feel like I conquered.

So my point is, if you are not yet ready to get married in say 3-4 years why go into a relationship with a man. Why not just a general friendship with the opposite sex.

When you are matured enough and he is matured, then your relationship will have a purpose and direction. You both know what you want from each other unlike just a fling.

Early dating relationships predispose a person to early sexual experiences from predators.

GlorifiedTunde:


I have been in a relationship with my sweetheart for 3 Years + and we have had no sex to be married next year.
People are just twisted on their understanding of relationship.

Congratulations, pls keep it up. A lot of people are of the opinion that it is an impossible feat. Or that only frigid people abstain from sex in relationships.

I know that most people who succeed do so on the basis of their faith and obedience to God

ILoveLight:


I'm not talking about sugar mummies, talking about relationships where the guy is older. It's very rampant in our campuses these days. I have friends who have done such. Even now, there are guys who just want to go into a relationship with a girl cos she's rich or from a rich background. Guys are now taking the lead in gold digging.

Well, all i will say here is love can never be bought with money and sex will never make a guy stay glue to a lady.
Not to be bias, ladies were and are still in the shoes of gold digging too and guys towing that path is a shame.

chixtina2000:

very dumb thing to say

Very dumb being to exist

Missmossy:

I can imagine you are not to blame. Sex doesn't mean commitment though i wonder when both became synonymous. The thing is very few people can give you the results you desire.

You are right, sex in a relationship does NOT guarantee any form of commitment.