Cutehector:
lmao... I don't think he'd have left if he asked another woman in his past to commit abortion...

he may not ask, but some may do without his consent. Who give d belle? Na him

fullofregrets:




my dear , you are right ,
we learn everyday ,
sometimes in just a hard way ,
I just wish he can give me chance to make things right again , but he refused to hear my pleas, he said he's fed up , and ready to find another girl , and impregnate her , well I can only wish him luck , am not bad either , God will surely send my own husband and children my way , I moved on already ,

And who told you he can readily impregnate another gal? My dear, what you need right now is a man that will support you through thick and thin. What if after u get married and hes now showing his real colour making life miserable for you. What would you do. Be grateful dear and pray that someone berra comes your way.

fullofregrets:
well I have done everything necessary , my
womb is okay and intact

why did you tell him? Seeee, nothing like love n trust in marriage for some men, they wil use it against u. Be wise

fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

He does not deserve you,a good man should be ready to stand by his partner no matter the horrible things she has done in the past. He met you when you had already done it not while doing it so his actions shouldn't be because of your past rather it should be because of your present. Sincerely speaking, what about him? Has any girl ever aborted a pregnancy for him before you met him? Has he ever impregnated a girl before? If he has I am sure he told the girl to terminate the pregnancy if not then I think he is the one with the problem of you not conceiving. Babe please, let him go it means he is not matured enough to be your husband.

my dear u did d right thing.just imagine wat

would have happened if u told him when u are already married to him. just ask God for forgiveness, he has a better report for u.suicide is not an option.take DAT thought from ur mind,it's going to b difficult but u will certainly heal with time.

fullofregrets:
I am full of regrets and I feel so suicidal right now , I am really depressed

It has not come to that please, free yourself from guilt and pray. If you're in Abuja you may wish to reach out to me for counselling and advise.

dollyjoy:
What makes you think he is innocent?


Do you know what a lady,somewhere is going through right now because of that same man? Pluseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

my wife waited for 8 months before she conceived, and i know what it means for her throughout that 8 month, you dont know why she has not conceived and it is not becus of her past .....so get d Bleep and short-up

Cutehector:
lmao... I don't think he'd have left if he asked another woman in his past to commit abortion...

You "don't think"
For all the women that have gone thorough an abortion procedure, was it a ghost that got them pregnant? I am quite sure it was karma that led him to her so he also may remember his past and what he may have endorsed with some other girl.

MrPresident1:


Hey, everyone makes mistakes. Your fiancee is only being childish, he will come back when his thoughts clear up and he realises that no one is a saint. If he doesn't come back, he is not the one for you. Your own will come and stay with you.

No need to commit suicide over triviality, or you think your life is cheap?

did you just say the fiance is childish. why don't you propose marriage to the OP

tosyne2much:
To be very frank and sincere, a lady who has once had an abortion is automatically a turn off for me unless I never got to know about it

Gbam !

When some of us preach chastity, we get attacked.

Because many people want to wallow in iniquity, they'll group everyone together by saying, no one is a saint, we all make mistakes, have you not had sex before? Who told you the lady you'll marry will be a Virgin etc.

Those who also think people are childish because they don't accept what others can accommodate are just being silly.

The devil is just deceiving many.

To the op, move on, check yourself. There's more Grace than you think.

That is why people should be very careful how they live their lives, some past things can come to hunt you in future.


''God wants you to be holy and completely free
from sexual immorality'' because ''without
holiness no one can enter heaven or see God''.
God hate all sin but frowns more at any kind of
sexual sin.
You might ask, what are sexual sins? Well, they
are fornication-sex between unmarried people,
adultery-between married and unmarried people,
lesbianism, bestiality, homosexuality,
pornography-enjoying pictures and videos of
naked women/men, pedophilia-adult sleeping
with children, kissing/ romancing/touching/
petting who you are not married to, masturbation
(practiced by both men and women, boys and
girls), oral and anal sex, bestiality, using sex
toys, etc, flee from these things and
repent...God hates them! People who do such
things will burn in hell fire forever.

fullofregrets:




my dear , you are right ,
we learn everyday ,
sometimes in just a hard way ,
I just wish he can give me chance to make things right again , but he refused to hear my pleas, he said he's fed up , and ready to find another girl , and impregnate her , well I can only wish him luck , am not bad either , God will surely send my own husband and children my way , I moved on already ,

really though? what's the level of your education?

i doubt you're intelligent.

a man telling you to get pregnant before marriage is a huge red flag.

you telling him you've had an abortion(especially as you still fertile and healthy) is just dumb.

At this point, focus on building yourself and your self esteem.
Any woman who wants to commit suicide because a man left her is swimming in low self esteem.

Funny enough, the fault might even be from your fiance. He too should check himself, he might be impotent.

Do you even know you ovulation day, if you want to get pregnant have sex a day or two b4 your ovulation.

vivaciousvivi:

You "don't think"
For all the women that have gone thorough an abortion procedure, was it a ghost that got them pregnant? I am quite sure it was karma that led him to her so he also may remember his past and what he may have endorsed with some other girl.

oh, so the man now should be d suspect.. u ladies are just smth else.. someone committed an abortion, the man now is to be blamed for her silly mistakes in the past.

Pls clap for yourself. Why not commit an abortion?

battleaxe:


Did you think her past was worse than yours? Wild orgies would be a no no for most people. Would it have been acceptable to you if she had only done 'bad' things similar to yours? Or you're looking for a completely clean female with no past?

Most guys aint bothered about a girl's past especially when the guy in question did similar things if not worst. My point is, the girl has to be open about it in the beginning. A guy that Reilly likes u dont really give a Bleep about your past .same with girls too. I know a friend who got married to a popular hooker. There were open about themselves.

WinningSun:


did you just say the fiance is childish. why don't you propose marriage to the OP

Going through an abortion is just being practical... Any guy who walks just because of that does not truly love you. Well, True love is even scarce these days

Joavid:


really though? what's the level of your education?

i doubt you're intelligent.

a man telling you to get pregnant before marriage is a huge red flag.

you telling him you've had an abortion(especially as you still fertile and healthy) is just dumb.

Why should she start her marriage with lies? What if she marries him and he hears it elsewhere someday? It's better she even told him, he has proved that he is not man enough to handle worse situations in the future, should incase they get married.

Chibuhealth:
why did you tell him? Seeee, nothing like love n trust in marriage for some men, they wil use it against u. Be wise

Una see them, smh.

goingape1 and hardmirror, make una come see them o

Cutehector:
oh, so the man now should be d suspect.. u ladies are just smth else.. someone committed an abortion, the man now is to be blamed for her silly mistakes in the past.

Pls clap for yourself. Why not commit an abortion?

stop being ridiculous.

In countries where abortions are legal( eg,UK and USA), it's done by a certified physician under the best health care facilities. nothing goes wrong. and the women get pregnant and give birth again.

it's done by quacks in Nigeria cos it's illegal, so it sometimes leads to complications. regardless, thousands of women in this country do it and have gone on to have kids and live a healthy life.

the procedure isn't such a big deal. we Nigerians blow things out of proportion.

fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

I can't say I know how this feels but I can imagine, it's not a bad thing that you opened up to him, so please don't regret that, trust me it's still going to come up someday in the future and at that point it'll be more disastrous than right now. You made a mistake as a young lady, everyone makes mistakes in varying degrees at one point or another in life, so if he doesn't want to marry you anymore, it's not the end of life. Pick yourself up, solve the hormonal changes or any other issues that prevents you from taking in before going into any other relationship, and most importantly, sincerely ask for god's forgiveness and pray for a suitor that would accept you just the way you are, trust me that will lead to a more stable and happier marriage.

Cutiekatty:


He does not deserve you,a good man should be ready to stand by his partner no matter the horrible things she has done in the past. He met you when you had already done it not while doing it so his actions shouldn't be because of your past rather it should be because of your present. Sincerely speaking, what about him? Has any girl ever aborted a pregnancy for him before you met him? Has he ever impregnated a girl before? If he has I am sure he told the girl to terminate the pregnancy if not then I think he is the one with the problem of you not conceiving. Babe please, let him go it means he is not matured enough to be your husband.

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That your no matter what you do in the past is not what people should listen to. We are Africans, and your past will always matter. Even God does not forgive the sin against the Holy Spirit.

Joavid:


stop being ridiculous.

In countries where abortions are legal( eg,UK and USA), it's done by a certified physician under the best health care facilities. nothing goes wrong. and the women get pregnant and give birth again.

it's done by quacks in Nigeria cos it's illegal, so it sometimes leads to complications. regardless, thousands of women in this country do it and have gone on to have kids and live a healthy life.

the procedure isn't such a big deal. we Nigerians blow things out of proportion.

so abortion isn't a big deal... may God have mercy on u. She deserves what she got! And she will forever remain childless until she seeks for forgiveness

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LadyB1195:

Why should she start her marriage with lies? What if she marries him and he hears it elsewhere someday? It's better she even told him, he has proved that he is not man enough to handle worse situations in the future, should incase they get married.

whatever rocks your boat.

I encourage you to take your advice dear, and see how Lilly levered Nigerian men are.

He has to move on. If i was him i will do same. Take heart Dear.

fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

P.S its best to tell someone your dirty past at d beginning before things gets serious..... We all have different moral standards so you can't force such down ones throat to accept. Once met a guy that wanted to marry but I had to escape when he told me about him being an executioner way back in the university. I just couldn't look at him in the eyes after that revelation so I took a coded walk...

thanks nairalanders , I appreciate all you have said , but I love this man so much , and I never expected him to throw me off like this , he's the person I will stand with in time of troubles , I mean worst troubles I can imagined, my worst fear is that he's not giving me chance to do the right thing , even with all he did , I still love and heart him so much , I still hope he comes back to me

MrPresident1:

Una see them, smh.
goingape1 and hardmirror, make una come see them o

it marvel me to see what these people (girls particularly) are advising the op.
he is not the man for her!
the person she was fvking and aborting child, was he not the right man for her?
why didn't she go and marry the man she did abortion for?
she is now paying for her sin.

mixter:
All this NL babe's no get joy at all. Una just dey para. Well, I comment my reserve. Am here to learn.

they have all committed abortion in d past na. Na why them dey attack upandan, the more dem dey reply to my comment, d more I dey know who and who don do abortion. By their comments u will know them

Cutehector:
so abortion isn't a big deal... may God have mercy on u. She deserves what she got! And she will forever remain childless until she seeks for forgiveness

No. she will have children cos she is fertile. and if it ever proves difficult, there's something called IVF.

Meanwhile another biach with at least 4 confirmed abortions have married recently and currently pregnant. A month is really too short sister... Or maybe he's been trying to get you pregnant to no avail before you opened up.
Your fiance might be like me only that I'm not close to marriage.