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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ElsonMorali: 6:06pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
seizethaBae: Look at it this way. When you lie in your bed and you're not feeling sleepy and you wanna sleep, you'll agree with me that thinking about the situation or worrying about it or even trying to force yourself to sleep are counterproductive right? Same thing applies to meeting your future spouse. It has been said that love is what happens to you when you least expect it. My advice? Live your life normally and go about your daily duties and stop obsessing about this issue. Don't go around living life on edge thinking you're going to bump into him any moment. People get married in their 30s and 40s. And some don't ever get married. It's not a curse. Getting married for the wrong reasons or to the wrong wrong person is a curse indeed. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 6:07pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
seizethaBae: My dear, it's very normal.. Don't worry your peace of mind unnecessarily.. It's better to be happily married than to be lost in marriage. Relax. You will marry 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 7:26pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: You and I know what it's like to be kicked down Forced to fight But tonight, we're alright So hold up your lights Let it shine Cause, this one's for you and me, living out our dreams We're all right where we should be With my arms out wide, I open my eyes And now all I wanna see Is a sky full of lighters A sky full of lighters 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 7:37pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Dyt: Wow babes...this is really cool. Wowzerful abi you copy am ? Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 7:41pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: Na song That your line reminded me of the song |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 7:48pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Dyt: what's the title? Jeez...I'm an oldies' girl though one song that two girls sang where one of them was rapping comes to mind Alicia Keys and L boogie or so. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 7:50pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: Bad meets evil(eminem and Royce do 5'9) ft Bruno mars Lighters 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 7:52pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Dyt: for where I wan know that one! Will find it though... Thanks |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Richy4(m): 7:53pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Give yourself a break OP... u are as normal as a daybreak... I do not even see anything to advise here... But i will only suggest u give those one that love u dearly a chance, u might grow loving them in return... my grandma says things like that do happen....But i think she was referring to those days when they got marry based on black and white pic of the suitors.. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 7:55pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: I think it's a 2011 song I like the video sha Rising sky lanterns |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 7:56pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Dyt: Cool...will search it out |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 7:58pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
sisisioge: You might actually only like the chorus which is Bruno Mars Are you a rap person? |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 8:10pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Dyt: No...though I don't mind a little of it. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by lobito007(m): 10:31pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
seizethaBae:You seem like you have set your standards too high, which underlines why you find it difficult to develop feelings for a man. What is your love language? What about a man makes you tick? Which of these things are lacking in the men you find it difficult developing feelings for? You mentioned the fact that an ex was just perfect for you, yet you could not develop feelings for him. What else are you looking for? It appears you have no clue. If this ex was perfect, why did he become an ex initially? Examine it critically- if a guy, especially one that you had dated, was by your assessment, perfect, why could you still not develop feelings for him after you reconciled? At least, you were in a relationship before. Did you never love him the whole time? Do you even know what love is? Have you ever fallen in love? Do you know what love feels like? Do some soul searching. Your talk of how you could not develop feelings, especially for suitors you thought were okay, is the type a teenage girl who is just trying out dating would come up with. You stated that the ones whom you love don't love you and the ones who love you, you do not love. That is a natural phenomenon and it is not peculiar to just you. So, if this has happened to virtually everyone, dont you think that there is a possibility that a lot of thriving marriages started out with unmutual feelings that later blossomed into mutual feelings over time? You are praying for someone you will have feelings for before you get married. You think it is every prayer God will answer?? What if such a man never comes. You would rather watch the ones who truly love you slip away? Not wise, if you asked me. You are a 27-year-old lady! Think and act like one! 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by haggai247: 4:25am On Sep 28, 2016 |
sisisioge:sis no vex marry Jesus 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by sisisioge: 5:21am On Sep 28, 2016 |
haggai247: Thank u sis. 5 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by tunde82seidat(f): 9:27am On Sep 28, 2016 |
seizethaBae:. M exactly in ur situation. Right now m with a man I don't HV feelings for n v tried to really get to like him but its not just working ,its been a year plus n nothing has changed.wat if ds feelings neva grow ,will i keep living a life of lies n deceit ,i alredy discussed with him n he feels it will eventually develop n i just want give it lil time,will it be wise to take ds risk considering he's a good man.I duno m really confused ,are dere folks out dere that married wtout love n r enjoying their marriages 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 9:38am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Standard too high ke! you dont know me atall. I really wish i can explain every details of dat past r/ship with dis Mr Right,there is no spark atall frm myside and i cant marry him out of pity. It is not by standard,you love who you love. And do you tink anyone will be single if we decide to go for whoever comes our way;feelings or no feelings? and lastly let me get d bold part straight;are you saying its wrong to wish/pray for someone i will love and will love me back,or i shld enter a marriage without having feelings for d man? lobito007: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 9:48am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Exactly what my ex said that kept me for 3years! i pray yours work out well, tunde82seidat: |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Onegai(f): 9:49am On Sep 28, 2016 |
There's a difference between dating a guy you're not sure of and dating a guy you are wondering what you're doing there. I have been on dates where I wondered what made my legs come to this place and i have been on dates where I was hoping the guy would like me but inside me I was baffled why I was setting my standards so low. See, if you think this longings you have and loneliness you feel are bad, try getting married to someone whom in a year's time you think to yourself "maybe I should have waited a bit longer". That is the truth of so many marriages, each spouse thinking "maybe, just maybe if I had stayed a bit longer, the next guy/girl was The One". So don't rush. The only people who can live a happy life in a loveless marriage are those whom are able to effectively distance themselves from any sort of emotion: happiness doesn't carry them away and neither does Sorrow. They are pragmatic to the core. That's less than 15% of the world's population. You're not one of them, because this is getting to you. You get? If the pressure gets to you, get off social media. Why bombard yourself with a million pics of your classmates posting pictures of smiling babies and happy husbands and blissful peace? You're not jealous, just being sensible: no need to punish yourself looking at cake when you're dieting. You get? What are your interests? Go find them. It is better to find someone who likes you the way he met you. So if you like going out, it's better to meet a guy in a club than meet him in church and pretend to be what he wants for a ring and dying inwardly. Go pursue your interests. When you meet a guy, take a look at your list. Find the one thing that you really need, not what you desperately want. The first thing in my list was a Strong Sense of Humour and Wit. But every single witty guy i met didn't want me. Guys are weird, they want girls they can impress, not girls that can match up to their skills. That Intelligence factor you crave, well those guys will friendzone you so quickly for that chick who thinks a Sidney Sheldon novel is deep intellectual thinking and puts up motivational pictures which she barely understands. That's why every wise woman will tell you to "laugh at his jokes and don't crack yours ". You get? Live and love your life. Don't wait around for Prince Charming, go out there, attend the ball like Cinderella did. He may be waiting there. Enjoy this minute because you are never getting it back. You get? You're gonna be fine. Fist bump! 37 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 9:55am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Please are there folks out there married without love and are enjoying their marriage even tho they dont have feelings for their spouse,or married without love initially and later fell in love with their patner some years into d marriage tunde82seidat: |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 9:58am On Sep 28, 2016 |
THANK YOU.THANK YOU.THANK YOU SO MUCH Onegai: 8 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by temi4fash(m): 10:12am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Don't worry. God does not forget is own. What type of dream do you have? 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by dangervu(m): 10:32am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I must be honest with you,you are your own problem,you have built up your kind of man in your brain that any one who is not closer to it doesn't pick your interest,my blood sis is 33years old,she had some many suitors then,but the standard she as built was making her turn them down,and this where guys who loves her so much,guys that would do anything for her! But you know what most of them get married months after been frustrated due to her altitude and behavior,i am happy for her becos she got luck and will be getting married soon,she is the last and the oldest to get married from the extended family...she is just been lucky other ladies won't get lucky,my advice is you start getting to know people who show interest...at the long run you would get the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh good luck 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by purplerain(f): 10:55am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Dear OP Please I beg you, do not marry someone you feel absolutely nothing for. It rarely ends well. I know what it is like to be married to someone you love and who adores you, it's AMAZING!. Marriage is to be enjoyed, abeg dont get in to endure Biko. There are a lot of miserable people out there married to the wrong person, please do not join that list. Be patient, and have an open mind. Chances are it will happen when you least expect with someone you least expected as well. In the meantime, abeg enjoy yourself and live your life... Cheers 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by olagift(f): 11:47am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Dear op,please don't be discouraged because there is nothing abnormal about what you are passing through. It is a normal phase of life that you will overcome with time, talking from experience. All what you need is a little patient and prayer. Somehow and anyhow you and your right man will locate yourselves. Never you bothered yourself with what is happening in the life of your counterparts because we have different life to live. Please, marriage is not the ultimate and all in all achievement in life. Dedicate your time to God,yourself, help and impact others. Enjoy the freedom of singlehood because life won't be the same after marriage. And don't get married to someone you don't have feeling for and the one you cannot cope or bear with his weaknesses. There is a special man out there that is meant for you. Once again use prayer and patience to wait for him. 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by abimbawealth(f): 1:55pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Dyt(f): 2:31pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
abimbawealth: Kilode? |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by toni4691: 3:23pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
Your response to the guy that requested your contacts isn't OK. You can meet your husband anywhere. Even a Nairalander can be the man. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by poik(m): 4:05pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
[quote author=seizet I don't have any feelings for him because HE IS JUST TOO PERFECT.. When will we understand women? 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 4:10pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
where did you read that sir? please read to understand. thanks poik: 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by seizethaBae(f): 4:10pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
the guy was only teasing. toni4691: |
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