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| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 4:07am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Taryur3:young man u better nt quote me again if u dnt want thunder 2 blast ur brain...carry ur advanced slavery and come and be going. 8 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:15am On Sep 30, 2016 |
NkayTiana: Happy born day sis. 2 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by repogirl(f): 4:15am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:If a man can wash his wife's feet like how Jesus Christ(the Lord and Saviour) washed his disciples feet, then he is a real lord, not a wannabe lord. A submissive trait in a woman is good and will benefit the marriage greatly. It's great you pointed out what it means to be submissive in your post, so that MEN can understand it better. Nice post. 6 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:17am On Sep 30, 2016 |
deathcomestoall: Is it not better to kuku divorce the man if you want rather than disrespect him? 4 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:21am On Sep 30, 2016 |
jahsson: A billion likes for this bro. Infact I no longer bother myself to open threads of prewedding pics or marriage because I have come to realize that most weddings are just facade. Submitting to your husband was never based on any other condition except in the Lord likewise the man loving the woman but as you wrote...the wife wants to submit on her own terms. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:24am On Sep 30, 2016 |
CindyeMerAld: Honestly if you understand the power of submission, you will glorify Jehovah for the instruction cos from the history lanes...submissive wives actually have their husbands in their palms..this is the greatest way to actually make your man do your bidding. ..this is the mystery only the wise women understand. 6 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:27am On Sep 30, 2016 |
repogirl: As long as you want to rationalize or define what a man should do to earn your submission then there will always be a problem. 5 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by repogirl(f): 4:27am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:this is not true. A wicked man/ one who never loved his wife will do what he will do whether his wife is submissive or not. 5 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Svelte98(f): 4:28am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008: If I may, let me quote you; "the word of God says you MUST respect your hubby as YOU DO TO THE LORD". In my honest opinion, I think people use the Bible/word of God as a cover for their mistakes. You can't respect your hubby as you respect God. God doesn't make you angry; your husband does. God will always be there when you need him; your husband won't be. God won't break some of the vows he made to you on your wedding day; your husband will. God won't be abusive or violent; your husband may be. I can go on and on with this list, but the bottom line is this; WE ARE HUMAN. And no matter how hard we try, we cannot keep to God's commandments 100%. That's why we pray, that's why we ask the holy spirit for guidance. And as humans too, we all have our breaking points. No matter how submissive a wife is, a husband will always find something to complain about. (He's human, you can't please him 24/7 with your submission) and in the same vein, no matter how loving a husband is, a wife will always find something to complain about. So rather than tell a wife to ALWAYS be submissive, or learn to say 'no' in a gentle way, I would say you both should work on those vows you made on the alter and strive to not break any of them. A wife CAN'T be submissive to her husband everyday of her life. She can't always say 'no' in a gentle way(because she has emotions like anger, fear, insecurities, etc as a human being). She can only do it when she knows she has to, when she knows it's necessary and pray that God gives her the strength to go on in her marriage. When a wife is submissive to her husband every time of the day, she ends up pleasing him alone. What about her? who's going to please her? What about her feelings? The definition of submissive is "meekly obedient or passive". The funny thing is even a dog can't be obedient or passive. Not to talk of human being or a woman. I'm not saying women shouldn't be submissive, please by all means be, but speak up when you have to, take an action when you know it's necessary, take a stand and put your feet down if your submissiveness is been taken for granted. And this applies to men as well. Love her with all your heart, mind, body and soul. Treat her right when you can, be there for her when you should be, but if your love and devotion isnt been reciprocated, speak up and talk to your wife. At the end, a husband and a wife are just two very imperfect and different people trying to make "this thing called marriage" work out for them. 9 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 4:28am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:what do u classify as been submissive?? |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Toks2008(m): 4:29am On Sep 30, 2016 |
repogirl: Go and read the story of Esther...it will help you understand better. Even women of great authority in the past were submissive. 5 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by repogirl(f): 4:35am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:well...aren't you trying to rationalise what a woman should do to earn her husband's love? Besides, I also illustrated from the Bible, Men are commanded to love their wives as Jesus loves the church. Jesus did not wait for the church's submission before dying for their sins. Also, Jesus Christ, the true Lord, Head of the church just as the husband is the head of the home, stooped so low as to wash His disciples feet. So why can't the man do the same without any hassle? A man who can do that for his wife should be held on to in my opinion. That's a man worth submitting to because you can trust he has your best interest at heart even when you both disagree. Not one who is selfish but hiding under the guise of 'my wife must submit to me' because whethershe likes or not, I am her lord. I'm summary, I'm just saying wives should know the sort of man they marry. Not just pick any type of man and think that unconditional submission is all that is needed to keep the marriage. 11 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 4:38am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008: THIS is hilarious Looooool. Of course the women back in those days were submissive and their marriages worked as in why not? Trick was the lady will be dying silently while the man will be a demigod. Is it not still happening today? 5 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by gentlegenius(m): 4:47am On Sep 30, 2016 |
asuo27:Are you a Christian and do you believe in the Bible? If yes, then think about this: Abraham married only one wife(Sarah), but he had other women he was sleeping with(concubines) and that means he cheated on Sarah. But the Bible says Sarah was still very submissive to him to the point of calling him "my Lord". I know that happened many generations ago, and women like Sarah are almost impossible to find in this present generation. But the truth remains that Love and cheating are two different things. Abraham loved Sarah but still cheats on her. So a man can love you and still cheat on you. But this happens mostly when a woman gives a man reason to cheat. The Bible says husbands must first love their wives, then their wives must submit to them. So you see, the roles are different, therefore, it is not a matter of loyalty for loyalty. It is a moral duty of a woman to submit to her husband as long as the husband loves her. God didn't make any mistakes in giving husbands and wives different roles. He knows too well that women are emotional beings and therefore what they need most is to be loved; while men are egoistic in nature and therefore, needs respect and submission. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by repogirl(f): 4:48am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:It was God and the prayer of all the Israelites that helped Esther o. She didn't do it just by her attitude. Abi should a woman want her whole church to be praying for her husband's attitude to change. |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by remikunle: 4:55am On Sep 30, 2016 |
End time marriage |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Beamborla(f): 5:00am On Sep 30, 2016 |
The problem is trying to hinge one on the other. Let husbands love their wives come what may and women submit to their husbands come what may. The OP is emphasizing on the woman's submittion while excusing the man's inability to love is wife on the basis that she's not submissive. The Bible mandated both parties to play their roles and did not give any condition whatsoever. Even the most unruly man wants submission when he's not playing his part and the OP is justifying it making them believe they need not be good. Wait for your wife to submit before loving her and even if you don't treat her right, suffer not yourself, she must submit. The Bible has placed the man as the leader and Lord the house, no problem. How many men are ready to be a leader and not a boss? Don't forget that to be a leader, you'd have to serve your subjects first and always. I'm not denying that some women are poison as well. But a biased writeup of this nature will do more harm than good. OP, your writeup is biased. Since she must submit even if he's not worth it, do you agree that he must love and treat her right even if she's not submissive? 6 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by kennethology(m): 5:02am On Sep 30, 2016 |
ammyluv2002: Ammyluv2002. Which Man will ask you to do a think like that ? Don't look for excuses not to be a good wife 3 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Odunharry(m): 5:05am On Sep 30, 2016 |
 misspicy |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by jeff1607(m): 5:08am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008: nice response bro. that's the difference between guidance and counselling. one is to choose a path and guide the individual towards that same path, while the other, gives different options and allow the individual choose by himself the path to follow 1 Like |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 5:10am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Nice write up. For me Christ(love) is d key to any successful marriage. Total Submission is one thing every man want in his woman, trusting that he is the Lord of the house. Likewise a man must love and respect his wife at all cost. 1 Like |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by edbor(m): 5:11am On Sep 30, 2016 |
If man and woman both love God I don't see why if a man loves his wife and she won't be submissive. likewise, I don't see why if a woman is submissive to her husband he won't love her. |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by KelvinC1(m): 5:13am On Sep 30, 2016 |
asuo27:OK just cheat back on him too.. that's all.. are you SATISFIED NOW.? 1 Like |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nobody: 5:17am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:
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| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Nicogen4us(f): 5:19am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008:At this junction I disagree with you. The African culture that you try to bring into this is totally absent in man. it is in this part of the world you will hear a man telling a woman that cheating is what is not questioning to man while it is shameful to woman by saying: Baba ngbe yawo lagbo, a kin gbo Iya ngboko/rele old. Okunrin le yan ale lai ni olopa to Ma mu, ojo to obirin ba Dan wo ojo naa Loma pada si odo awon obi e. Okunrin le ni Ju Iyawo kan Lo ti o ba ti le se ojuse e daadaa, ko si aye iru e fun obinrin. To this points do you think women that has put her trust in such man at first will trust anymore not to talk of being submissive to such a man. If you have been in marriage you will understand that the ego you men carries with the privilege giving to you 98% of you usually miss use it and that is what makes marriage in this part of the world to be enduring to women instead of Enjoyment. Ask any Nigeria woman that is able to hold her marriage more than 40years with the man she will tell you is a long story despite the uncountable circumstance that the nation they find themselves is still putting on them. The only thing I think to make us have a happy and enjoyable marriage in this part of the world is if you cross your heart for each other by taking it to be a liberty living together by just making a suggestions or giving opinion and it is not compulsory for you to follow until such man fall into such mess he will respect and start taking to the woman opinion even some man will say she is a witch for making such negative repercussions to be occurring forgetting that the principle behind a mutual agreement is that. 1 Like |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by misspicy(f): 5:32am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Odunharry:Odunharry  |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by Had1zasaf: 5:32am On Sep 30, 2016 |
ammyluv2002: Wetin do this one Person go talk something una go give extreme examples. Why will your so called hubby ask u to sleep with bus friend Dem be ram  4 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by mamawin(f): 5:34am On Sep 30, 2016 |
asuo27:I have seen many women left their marriages because their husbands cheated, only for them to marry already married men. to me that is not the solution, because the problem remains. submission and respect are two things that can make marriage last longest. you won't even get to know your partner's fault, BUT there are exceptional cases ooo 2 Likes |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by mamawin(f): 5:35am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Had1zasaf:don't blame her, many things unthinkable are happening in this recession of ours oo 1 Like |
| Re: This is the type of woman every man loves to marry. by jbonito(m): 5:36am On Sep 30, 2016 |
Toks2008: Walahi, if u had not backed this up with religious brouhaha, it could have been more appealing. Forget 'the bible says'. The bible said so many other things, we don't do half of it except those that are 100% religious so probably they may follow this line. Practically, when u love ur wife n involve her in key decision making, respect and care for her, she will most likely respect n summit to you. ( except she's a crazian ). This is vice versa. One major reason marriages of past decades seems to "work" based on total submissiveness was the infused culture + tradition then. Not even d Bible or Quran. Women were raised to respect their husband and "stay" in ur marital home no matter what. So daddy of the house comes back one day and says he's taking a second wife and our grandmothers just "summit" ( not happily though ). But modernisation and exposure within our generation means how our girls are raised is different and we've moved away from that style. Now Uve got to work for your marriage to work, put in shifts, respect each other and total communication/honesty. That way, ur partner doesn't even need to say No in a calm way cos u both arrive at every important decisions " together ". Avoid d conflict, don't provide solution for it. Shalom!! 4 Likes 1 Share |
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