ItsQuinn:
you can simply leave the relationship na, it's not by force

ItsQuinn:
you can simply leave the relationship na, it's not by force

K9blunt:






I remember when I was little, I and my mother went to early mass (Catholic then), during the preaching, the Rev. Father emphasized on children obeying their parents according to the law of the Bible. My mother was quick to drag my ears that I should listen attentively but when the father Harped on parents not to push their kids to the wall , I whispered to my mom 'mummy did you hear what the father said?' my mom ignored me with a squeezed face!

Toks2008:


My broda I tire o...

The quotes from the book of Peters sum it up.

1 Peter 3:1-22
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
The book of peters acknowlegde that some men will be outrightly sturbborn and unworthy of your submissiveness but still submit all the same cos you can make them change.

So it is clear that submitting to your husband is a must even if he does not deserve it.

If you believe you can't submit to him for whatever reason then leave the marriage..Simple

Princedapace:




Pls, I want to ask u one question... If God allows u to b tempted and u passed thru harsh dificulties, will u stop submitting to Him? That is why the OP said submission is unconditional. Look...this is how it is but we as humans have edited a lot from the scripture to meet our personal needs. But deep down our heart, we know the truth. It is a two way thing, yes, love and submission. But I'm sure the op wrote this becus wives are having issues with the word " submission" even under the love of their hubby. So many women are indirectly being taught not to submit to hubby.. I know what I'm saying...they beliv it is master servant like. These days...u see wives making rules any how within the family. So...I think the op wanted to address that. Submission may sound ugly to women but that is the truth and that is the only way there can be happiness in the marriage.. This is why the submission was compared to that expected of the church to Christ. No matter the trial, troubles, pains, temptations etc u are expected to submit to Christ. If the comparison is anything to go by...it is means that no matter what your hubby does to u, u are expected to submit to him. Remember....not even at gun point must u deny Christ..u still need to be loyal.. There is a reason for that comparison recorded in the bible..if u understand the true nature of submitting to God.. U av no excuse as a wive not to submit to ur hubby..

What I tell women is to pray hard not to marry bad hubby becus too much powers and authority were given to men by the creator... I also tell them that if they av issues wit that...they can question Eve, their mother who brought that pronouncement against them... Remember when God said to Eve when she sinned "for this, ur husband shall rule over u" that statement changed everything...I know is painful...but this is just the truth. As for me... I will try as much as possible to allow my wife to have little space to be her self too.. It is just about marrying a good man.

engrelvis:
D issue of marriage is a very delicate tin.most of our women here v lost it.submission does nt mean u r a slave.a submissive woman will always win at d end of d day.forget d macho tin.men r like babies.submit n reverence dem n u will have dem eating from yr hands.is an inborn tin in all male species even animals want to b in charge.is how we were made.but sadly in dis part of d world women equate money to respect n submission. Most women r submissive when the man has money. Our women should change dis mentality of their man being their ATM machine. This is because when most women here begins to make money unconsciously dey feel dey dnt v need to respect their man.poverty mentality v really destroyed our women..

ammyluv2002:
Yes! It does make sense, but wives should submit fully to their husbands according to the bible principles. My husband cannot tell me to sleep with his friend & you expect me to submit fully



Modified

All these mentions that I'm not making sense baffles me. Obviously, most people just want to comment on front page threads without grabbing anything them. Just last week here on NL, there was this story of a married woman who deceived a widower over the years with her husband whom she claimed was her brother. They milked him (widower)dry he even rented an appartment for her untill he found out that she was married with 3 kids and he did the unthinkable by pouring acid on her. Some married men are bullies...the world is not okay at the moment. Marriages are suffering and only God can revive it

You guys will be amazed at the things happening in this world. I have seen & heard such stories even in my area. People who haven't seen anything about life should pls stop quoting me jor

uzolexis:


No Nigerian woman will even marry him sef.

Toks2008:


It won't take me more than once to win you over.

Rather than thank me for revealing the secret of lasting union you are just picking quarrels with me...na wah for you.

BornInApril:
It seems you know little of scripture.
The woman was created for the man. Let us make man a helper. And the bible also says the desire of the woman shall be for her husband. How to please her husband.

kretoz:
Op ur write up sounds funny and stupid, Now I believe that age does not mean one is ready for marriage, no wonder your wife left you, it's such a shame that you want submission from ur wife while you don't respect, love and even cherish her, I read a post on Nairaland where a taxi driver was calling his wife all sorts of name and was insulting her just because the woman thought her husband asked her to open the Okpa for him while what he said was that the woman should eat the okpa if she is hungry, According to the narrator, the woman was begging the man while he continued to abuse her and call her names and you expect a woman to be submissive to that kind of man? please think again. I once heard of a divorce story where the woman seeking for divorce demanded custody of her kids cos she always paid her husband for sex right from their wedding day, now the woman after having 3 kids for the man decided that enough is enough, and went for divorce, the man on his own side did not deny the story as he believed it's the duty of the woman to pay him for his services (Intercourse) else he will go and get it outside. my question now is will you advice the woman to be submissive when the man in question has no regards for her, please stop deceiving people. Marriage is a union that involves the partners treating each other the way they want to be treated. Mind you that no woman on earth enters marital institution with the view of disobeying their husband, in fact most women try as much as possible to make the marriage work but believe me when I tell you that there is a limit to what a woman can take, you can take my advice or better still throw it in to the trash can but please stop deceiving people with Bible quotations that only favour your attitude and sex instead be specific and speak on both sides. as for ur write up, too trashy to read.

uzolexis:


I have already been won over by an amazing man, don't waste your time dear

John902:
even my girlfriend is not allowed to huge my brothers now talk much of sleeping with my friends dem wan die oga this one I hail o

K9blunt:






I remember when I was little, I and my mother went to early mass (Catholic then), during the preaching, the Rev. Father emphasized on children obeying their parents according to the law of the Bible. My mother was quick to drag my ears that I should listen attentively but when the father Harped on parents not to push their kids to the wall , I whispered to my mom 'mummy did you hear what the father said?' my mom ignored me with a squeezed face!

Toks2008:


Then I pray he marries you but if you are already married then try to be submissive to avoid story that touch.

On this note I will be signing out of this no hold bar thread.

Thanks to the viewers, the intelligent contributors and the trolls....it was worth it.

Wishing you all a great weekend.

asuo27:
Well!, i'm not satisfied by your respond.

Toks2008:


The problem starts when we begin to rationalize and try to see reasons why submission from a woman should be hinged on the condition that the man loves the woman.

When you submit to your husband, he will only find himself loving you more and more.

ItsQuinn:
you can disagree to a foolish man in a submissive manner

freecocoa:
Face front and mind your friggin' business, my life, my mentality, nonsense.

ammyluv2002:
Yes! It does make sense, but wives should submit fully to their husbands according to the bible principles. My husband cannot tell me to sleep with his friend & you expect me to submit fully



Modified

All these mentions that I'm not making sense baffles me. Obviously, most people just want to comment on front page threads without grabbing anything them. Just last week here on NL, there was this story of a married woman who deceived a widower over the years with her husband whom she claimed was her brother. They milked him (widower)dry he even rented an appartment for her untill he found out that she was married with 3 kids and he did the unthinkable by pouring acid on her. Some married men are bullies...the world is not okay at the moment. Marriages are suffering and only God can revive it



You guys will be amazed at the things happening in this world. I have seen & heard such stories even in my area. People who haven't seen anything about life should pls stop quoting me jor

Toks2008:


My sis you are right to believe my thread is biased but the sincere truth is that it is not.

The first step for a woman to live a happy life in this cruel world of men is to see herself as an endangered specie.Indeed it is a cruel world of men so if you refuse to submit because a man is not living up to expectation you will be the one to lose at the end and i have seen many ladies who think they are so hot and would leave their marriage in a jiffy but i always tell these ladies that its a move in futility because each man you meet will always have a character you must tolerate and when these ladies get to certain ages they become so vulnerable and lonely and will not mind to take worse shits.


I have my reasons for directing my threads to ladies more because if they can try to get it right then they will be happier. Men are stubborn and even if you preach to them,that crazy ego will still override them so the best is to preach to ladies who seem to be more receptive.

asuo27:
Well!, i'm not satisfied by your respond.

Toks2008:


My broda nah maturity o.

The way some people attack me ehn sometimes i just feel like giving them a hot e-slap but i just try to calm down to respond in the most frank and calm manner.

Thanks

Kay17:


Would a foolish man consider such submission wisely and take a hint?

kaboninc:


So if your husband is determined to kill you and frustrate the hell out of your life, would you continue in the marriage?

kaboninc:


Sugar bee,

The write-up is not biased joor.

So you mean you won't submit to me?

Women should submit to their husband. The subject for if the man should love his wife or not is for another day. But common sense would dictate that a man should love his wife.

Truth also is that a man expects submission whether the woman likes it or not. And if she doesn't like it, then the choices is hers to leave. Shikena!!!!!!

Lastly, submission is a human thing, not exclusive to the man but also to the woman especially among her peers.