Pidggin:


It doesn't mean you are divorced. What do you want? If you still want the marriage why not involve people she respects. She can't just decide the marriage is over, tell her parents and relatives what she is doing

Berbierklaus:
Are you sure this was all that happened

No case of domestic violence and negligence?

taiiremide:


Wow. You just healed my wounds. God bless u.

taiiremide:


I never neglect my family. I provide everything they need in my capacity. She's not working. I beat her once. She provoked me. 5 months after the wedding, she slapped me, she was pregnant then so I spare her, I didn't retaliate. Her mother told me to beat her that no responsible woman will raise her hands against her husband.

TheArchangel:
Your story is taking shape now. Wife is tired and need a break. No smoke without fire.
Give her a break, she seem to need it.

VikingsOO7:

You know its over, You've made up Your mind. Why seek for public opinion?

Pidggin:


It doesn't mean you are divorced. What do you want? If you still want the marriage why not involve people she respects. She can't just decide the marriage is over, tell her parents and relatives what she is doing

VikingsOO7:

You know its over, You've made up Your mind. Why seek for public opinion?

taiiremide:


I never neglect my family. I provide everything they need in my capacity. She's not working. I beat her once. She provoked me. 5 months after the wedding, she slapped me, she was pregnant then so I spare her, I didn't retaliate. Her mother told me to beat her that no responsible woman will raise her hands against her husband.

I talk am
We are getting somewhere now

So your wife had the enfrontery to slap you during a heated argument She could be hot-tempered(which you know before marrying her,yet you overlooked it but can't keep up now?)

Now,how come her mother that encouraged you to beat her then,is the one advicing her daughter to leave you (Bami na omo mi ode nu olomo ,you don over do the beating )

And please come clean, "He who comes into equity must come with clean hands."

A marriage should not just pack up over flimsy reasons as these,have you considered your children? how they will suffer in case of a divorce?

Oga there is something else you are not saying

Berbierklaus:

I talk am
We are getting somewhere now

So your wife had the enfrontery to slap you during a heated argument She could be hot-tempered(which you know before marrying her,yet you overlooked it but can't keep up now?)

Now,how come her mother that encouraged you to beat her then,is the one advicing her daughter to leave you (Bami na omo mi ode nu olomo ,you don over do the beating )

And please come clean, "He who comes into equity must come with clean hands."

A marriage should not just pack up over flimsy reasons as these,have you considered your children? how they will suffer in case of a divorce?

Oga there is something else you are not saying

taiiremide:


She doesn't love me, when someone isn't in love with u, no matter what you do to please her, she'll never be satisfy.

Hmmmmmm

Speehless

queenesthr:
No woman walks out of a good marriage. @Op I don't believe your story

Miladi:
At OP, no sane person loves being undermined. Having gone through your submissions, I deduced that you put your mother's opinion above your wife's own. . . . a statement like "my mother can never be wrong" and allowing your mother to take his grandson without prior notice and without you seeking for her (your wife) opinion was wrong and can break even an angel. Respect is reciprocal; and to every action there's an opposite and equal reaction.

She's more on a revenge mission, especially since you're not living up to your former standard and aspirations financial-wise.

On how part though, she came across as a covetous, selfish and inconsiderate person. Kindly apply diplomacy to resolve the issue. Both of you can still mend fences and become a united force once again; this can only be possible if you both are ready to do away with mind games.

An0nimus:

Thank you for educating lil Miss sunshine for us

aaronson:
O boy, your wife is really smarter than you sir, you only playing your gender role as a man without think about the future, she tapped into that to make her own decisions just to get you to bend to her direction. Smart wife but dangerous.

My recommedation

Men lead by applying logic, women lead by applying emotion but that has been switched in your own case sir. So what can be done now? Cut back on your emotions and let her be right now and leave the kids with her, don't even try to contact her.

Use this time to focus on your finance, she won't be gone for long when she hears you back on your feet financially and when she returns, Apply logic, get your kids, get a lawyer to legalize your marriage for continuity or legally divorce her.

jabojafa:
this is the time to be more prayerful and draw closer to God. Since He is the author of marriage am sure He wud hv a solution for you. Dont even think of divorce becos you are doing ursef more harm dan good if u try it. Since she isnt working now wen d realities of life hit her she wud either come back to u or look for anoda man. Go to her parent's place but wit some of ur family member and get ur kids frm them. Remember only God can change ur wife n heal ur broken home so do somethin for Him if u want to see wot u hv neva seen.

taiiremide:

She doesn't love me, when someone isn't in love with u, no matter what you do to please her, she'll never be satisfy.

KevinDein:
I love this reply. From your write up, I can say you are stronger than you actually know and will definitely see yourself through this ermmmm mess. You seem very much capable of doing very well without her.

The only thing she has on you is that she's the mother of your children whom you love and she has absconded with them . At this point I advise that you either

A. Let her be. She will get tired and show up in no time. Raising children no be beans

Or

B. Take or at least threaten her with legal action.

Most importantly, never let emotions influence the decisions you'll eventually make; and don't allow anyone convince you you are somehow the villain in all these (I can see a poster or two trying to imply that), you are not

You'll be fine

taiiremide:


She doesn't love me, when someone isn't in love with u, no matter what you do to please her, she'll never be satisfy.

Berbierklaus:

I talk am
We are getting somewhere now

So your wife had the enfrontery to slap you during a heated argument She could be hot-tempered(which you know before marrying her,yet you overlooked it but can't keep up now?)

Now,how come her mother that encouraged you to beat her then,is the one advicing her daughter to leave you (Bami na omo mi ode nu olomo ,you don over do the beating )

And please come clean, "He who comes into equity must come with clean hands."
[b]
A marriage should not just pack up over flimsy reasons as these,have you considered your children? how they will suffer in case of a divorce?

Oga there is something else you are not saying[/b]

queenesthr:
No woman walks out of a good marriage. @Op I don't believe your story

taiiremide:


My mother cant be be wrong when comes to spiritual matter, she prays alot and might have seen dangers ahead. I didn't put my mother's opinion above my wife's own. And that is not enough reason to packed out of her matrimonial home. If things gone bad and I'm not living up to my former standard, her duty as a wife is to encourage and support me. The issue is love. I've been enjoying my peace ever since she moved out, my only consign are my kids. Thank you.

queenesthr:
No woman walks out of a good marriage. @Op I don't believe your story

mastermaestro:


I expect you to make moves of reconciliation for the sake of your faith if you've got any. Whether or not your mum is right about their sinister plans against you, it's your marriage and your family, there must be ways around the whole disagreement which could lead to reconciliation. You should explore ways to resolve the dispute.

One failed marriage positions you for a second failed marriage. Unless something spiritual sits deep, I hardly see why this union should be dissolved right now.

mastermaestro:


Didn't you notice this before marriage? Did her love for you suddenly fade away after marriage? Did you persuade or pressure her to marry you? The whole thing appears to have been built on poor foundation. If she doesn't love you now, it only means she never loved you. And this you should have seen at the time.