Amelian:





True words
Only she go waka Come your house, begging for forgiveness.
Your Wife think its easy to train Kids , without any source of income.. Smiles
Just be patient...

Pidggin:


It doesn't mean you are divorced. What do you want? If you still want the marriage why not involve people she respects. She can't just decide the marriage is over, tell her parents and relatives what she is doing

arthurshelly:

She can't support you since she is not working.
You make more than 150k before you have ur baby with her and you cant get a plot of land or car?bro its seem you too don't cut ur shirt according to ur size which she was used to before she married you and she was dissapoint when you lose ur job.she cant call you when you travel becaused she dint love you at the beginning of relationship but you dint notice due to ur been too cold..
This ur wife cant pamper you because she dint love you at the beginning but love ur cash...with 150k montly you should be able to have a saving..someppl make less than 100k with 4ppl in the family yet they still have saving,bro adjust on ur spending...she travel to osogbo for month ago and she call that she love you environment which make you agree to relocate to oshogbo,risky ur life to Lagos every week,bro you are too cold to be move by the ur wife.dint you have plan nii?please relax and keep mounting pressure on her on how you can see ur baby for some month before you proceed to court...

You are Damn wrong. I would like to know how much is your income and how much you have saved.

ednut1:
how person wan take marry self with all dis stories we dey hear upandan. same thing happened to someone close. d wife ran away with their daughter and went to marry another guy. money is always involved. gold diggers everywhere

taiiremide:


She said she doesn't want me anymore.

sukkot:
bros, simply put, you married the devil. just move on.

she is confused and you are confused too. she wants a real man which you are not. first off you bought a car so you can get a contract and then you sold the car to execute the contract which turned out to be useless. this when her anger started. you are confused bro lol

i would say she is a gold digger but in actuality she is not. she just wants a solid man who can make decisions. you gave her 450 k and she rejected it tells me she is not a gold digger

and then you allowed her to move you to osogbo tells me you are not solid. then she realizes osogbo is crap but in her head she is thinking if i had a solid strong man he woould have talked me out of this foolish idea. instead this mumu moved us to osogbo and now i am regretting it. women want strong men who will talk them out of the useless ideas that crops into their heads all the time lolzzz

ItsQuinn:
I pray this ends up in court and he gets full custody of his kids

taiiremide:


She doesn't love me, when someone isn't in love with u, no matter what you do to please her, she'll never be satisfy.

ststyreal:

It seems u really don't value and respect her views. Why will u instantly tell your mum to go with your son without prior discussion with your wife. From the little u have informed us here, it seems you value your parents and siblings more than your own family. I hope you are not the mummy type of husband. Call your wife and try sort out whatever issue u have with her. Value your marriage cos u wouldn't appreciate her now until u have a second wife. Our parents should stay away from our marriage. I dislike mother in laws and sister in laws interference in ones marriage. Go and bring your wife back and don't let your family members dictate to you, be the man u ought to be. Talk some senses into your wife and let God be the head of your home. Endeavour to always pray together as the head of the home, you can head the prayer. May God grant you pea e and joy in your home. "I HATE DIVORCE SAYS THE LORD"!

Adiwana:

Oga, how old are you?You've got solid points,but what's with the mockery? Can't you just have passed your message in an elderly and respectful banner without appearing to be a nitwit.nawa to some people

Miladi:
At OP, no sane person loves being undermined. Having gone through your submissions, I deduced that you put your mother's opinion above your wife's own. . . . a statement like "my mother can never be wrong" and allowing your mother to take her grandson along while on visit, without prior notice, and without you having a private deliberation to seek/plead for her (your wife) understanding was wrong and can break even an angel. Respect is reciprocal; and to every action there's an opposite and equal reaction.

She's more on a revenge mission, especially since you're not living up to your former standard and aspirations financial-wise.

On how part though, she came across as a covetous, selfish and inconsiderate person. Kindly apply diplomacy to resolve the issue. Both of you can still mend fences and become a united force once again; this can only be possible if you both are ready to do away with mind games and you becoming altruistic towards her, while she master's the virtue of submission towards you.

taiiremide:


'do something for Him if u want to see wot u hv neva seen'. Something like what bro. Thanks.

eyinjuege:
But seriously OP, how can your wife just wake up one day and say she's not interested in the marriage again? Just like that
And her parents seem to be in support?

What exactly went wrong in the marriage?
It's such a strange story.

Don't let anyone take advantage of your vulnerability though. If at all you have to go to her parents house to see your children, don't go alone.

Her family may be scared that you would forcefully take the children from her if she meets you alone at an eatery.

taiiremide:
My wife absconded with our kids (2 boys). We’ve been married for 4years plus. I did everything a good husband would do to please his wife, but she never satisfied. Before we got married, I’ve a good job and she knew my worth, after marriage things isn’t as rosy and it used to be, I lost my job and I was able to get one after 2 months but the salary is 120k excluding other freelance jobs I do online.

We’re unable to save. We spent most of the money on food stuffs, I hate seeing her hungry. She called me one faithful night and reminds me of the premises I made before we got married about the car and supermarket I promised her (I can’t remembered making such promises), but I still encourage her to be patient with me, that things gonna be fine. She never supported me as she’s not working. I remember I gave her 450k to start a business; she was pregnant at the time so she rejected the money because of her condition. I added some money and I bought a car, I needed the car to hustle for contracts, I cant be jumping from okada to marwa, nobody gonna take you serious. A month later, I got a printing contract from one of the best companies in Lagos, the condition is to use your money for the contract so I sold the car to print the job, I bought a machine unfortunately the machine packedup, i lost the gain and money for the car but I was able to delivered the job more that expectation but I lost huge amount of money. She always complaining ever since, when I tried to encourage her that things will be fine she will ask me ‘when’.

She treats my kids as if she wasn’t the one that brought them to this world, she always using negative words for those kids, I later realized she doesn’t love me, if she love me, she’ll equally love my kids.

4 months ago, she went to visit my younger sister in osogbo, she saw the way my sister’s business was moving fine, she fall inlove with osogbo, she sent a message thus ‘dear, guess I am in love with Oshogbo is peaceful and cool’. When she came back to Lagos, she said she wanted us to move to osogbo, after much persuasion and consideration I succumbed. We moved to osogbo, I spent more than 300k. 2 weeks later, she started complaining that osogbo is boring. I was so mad. I had to risk my life travelling from osogbo to Lagos almost every week.
On the 16th of September (a day after I celebrated our last born birthday) she left for Lagos for her sister’s wedding, I gave her 12k for tfair and other expenses. I called her a week later to remind her that our first son gonna resume school the following Monday, that’s when she said she’s no longer interested in the marriage, that I should move on, I called her mother, she said I should come see her but my family stopped me, since we never had a fight and I was not the one that sent her packing that she should be the one to come.

I’m missing my kids, they’re my life, I don’t know what to do.

ItsQuinn:
Why can't you just ignore

discman2k2:


Bros, God sent wife is very POSSIBLE, but na HARDWORK gan!!
For u wey neva marry, just start praying & fasting nau because, if u make d mistake wey som pipu make, u go enter ONE CHANCE for real!I wan beg u nau b4 u make d mistake, START PRAYIMG & FASTING NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

taiiremide:


My mother cant be be wrong when comes to spiritual matter, she prays alot and might have seen dangers ahead. I didn't put my mother's opinion above my wife's own. And that is not enough reason to packed out of her matrimonial home. If things gone bad and I'm not living up to my former standard, her duty as a wife is to encourage and support me. The issue is love. I've been enjoying my peace ever since she moved out, my only concern are my kids. Thank you.

Generals03:


Learn to think deeply before you put your words on the marble until it becomes an habit.

Gaborone:


Can you please go back to the romance section and wag your little tail for the irresponsible boys there? This place is obviously not for you.

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sukkot:
its called tough love. i am saving him in case he marries again. some people need to hear the cold hard truth in a rough manner so it snaps them back to reality, and the reality of the matter is that ' if you are not ready to be a hard strong alpha male in a relationship with a woman ? you should not even bother going into one. God made you the man for a reason. scripture says the man is the head of the woman. if you are not ready to lead strongly ? dont even bother because the marriage will not work. how can you let a woman move you to osogbo ? and you dont think our brother needs to hear the truth in a rough way so he can be saved from future hurt ?

flokii:


Hmmn.. I didn't even think to that extent

probability is very high that they are not cos if they were, she would av gone alone.
This is another twist.