Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by teabully(m): 9:05pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Do u socialise @ alll, and marriage ain't dat rosy, wud advise u don't jst shrug ooff "shams" advances, giveit a trial. seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by OutOnBail(m): 9:05pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired Sigh, u aren't alone in this. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by soloroyality(m): 9:06pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
tunde82seidat: . M exactly in ur situation. Right now m with a man I don't HV feelings for n v tried to really get to like him but its not just working ,its been a year plus n nothing has changed.wat if ds feelings neva grow ,will i keep living a life of lies n deceit ,i alredy discussed with him n he feels it will eventually develop n i just want give it lil time,will it be wise to take ds risk considering he's a good man.I duno m really confused ,are dere folks out dere that married wtout love n r enjoying their marriages with this reason u may marry him, after one yr with a child it will be more easier for u to run away from him without looking back. Here is my advice for u, remain a spinster than to create bad name for u . |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I think you are being picky or your characters might be what's chasing guys away. Trust me no matter how beautiful or rich or both you think you are if you have bad a character guys will flee away from you. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by hardeyincah(m): 9:07pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: Thanks so much for this; @bolded; i would love it both ways i.e the kind of person that i have feelings for and also have feelings for me. Honestly stories like that of your aunt scares me every single day, and if i said i shld go with someone i dont love now hoping love will grow with time,wat if it doesnt?. The ex of mine i talkd about,i dated him for good 3yrs! wishing/praying to God for me to like him,it dint just happen.
please was there any sexual intercourse within dis period? |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:08pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
hmmmm...this one pass me |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Peterside7: 9:08pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
As a Yoruba man, I wedded at 44yrs, why? My first two cars were bought by women, yet I was not in love. I read a book by Brian Tracy that helped my thinking and aid my prayer pattern. When you want to ask God for a life partner, be more detailed. Be more specific. The color, height, education, background, character, disposition to life, religion, the values and ethos. Anything and everything you want or desire from your would be husband. Before the book sorry I forgot the title, I borrowed it, got a jotter and took notes. Before the book, I prayed on generic terms. God, give me a beautiful, dutiful, faithful and God fearing wife. For years, I have girlfriends, I even lost count nd forgot some names. But with proper tailoring of my desired wife, I met my wife and we wedded about six years ago and till date, I never cheat on my wife, why? Because I love her more everyday. Before now, I don't keep girlfriends for upto six months. Take my advise, you are still young, feel good about yourself, keep an open mind, pray in a more specific manner, and it will come to pass. 4 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Benelegend: 9:08pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
My dearest nairalander, wise decision to wait and let God direct u. Don't be in a haste to rust to marriage. I will love to know of you more and encourage about settling down. I am inviting to our services @living faith Chapel, ota, lagos. Come and meet with God so he can guide your steps. I will love to send you some marital testimonies about ladies who has giving hope on marriage but through their faith in God met their life partner . let me pray with you, father In the name of JESUS cause her life partner to locate her in JESUS name.
Remember delay is not denial. I love you with the love of christ 3 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by gidjah(m): 9:08pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
more serious than you think bro, go to most churches to day, na "Yet to be married' plenty pass for their congregation! innocent1: That's serious
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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ottalo: 9:09pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I guess we could work things out if you don't mind. My number... 08166850802 ping me up |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:09pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
shams040: Na waoo, every body with him own cross.
I will like to meet u if tyns can work out. You want to marry her out of pity? if that is your plan then you will add to her problem... love or marriage is not out of pity. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by remsonik(f): 9:10pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
My story is same as Op story. I don't wanna raise a dysfunctional home so peeps say I am too strict when it comes to choosing a guy.I don't even have a boyfriend or go on a date. Maybe its the way I was raised or where I grew up,a lot of things people see as normal this days are not normal. I want love,true love,not gifts not money. I am okay in my own way,too many fake guys jare. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:11pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I mean no disrespect, but op, you're just 27 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by soloroyality(m): 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: Standard too high ke! you dont know me atall. I really wish i can explain every details of dat past r/ship with dis Mr Right,there is no spark atall frm myside and i cant marry him out of pity. It is not by standard,you love who you love. And do you tink anyone will be single if we decide to go for whoever comes our way;feelings or no feelings? and lastly let me get d bold part straight;are you saying its wrong to wish/pray for someone i will love and will love me back,or i shld enter a marriage without having feelings for d man?
then try to ask out a guy whom u think u have feelings for. Women don't expect we men to be the toasters play ur part. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by tonero230(m): 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired Which state are you from? |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired Please don't be in a hurry to get married so you don't end up making the mistakes you've been struggling to avoid. Your right man is closer than you think. I mmet my wife when she was 29 years old and I wa a year and few months older. Please keep praying to goe relentlessly. However, your case might not be ordinary though. You may need counselling. If you don't mind, you may pm me. You don't need to put down a farthing. My pastor will only ask you to observe some specific fasting and prayer...no candle lighting, no anointing oil. You'd testify. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by DIVFAVOR(m): 9:12pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
My dear 2 things are golden in the bible 1. A good wife 2. Patience. Though it tarried but it will surely come.
With prayers and grace yours will come to you.
Like seriouly expect PM from guys now. No man want use ear hear say a lady works and she makes good money...... because we are tired of liabilities.
All the best.
One luv. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ogboni76(m): 9:13pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I know you won't stop, Bros NKITA, I know what response to give, but I would rather not say anything cos silence is golden..kindly over look my aquire and keep your own acquire to yourself, since your acquire isn't acquiring me dinner or breakfast why should I care.. Na you pay my school fees? Bros NKITA ABEG PARK WELL... Nice profile pics though.... Adios amunkita:
It's acquire Sir.. Try Shoprite Sir.. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Nobody: 9:14pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I will certainly download it. Thanks cescky:
No ma'm Don't sell ur self short if it's ur desire to marry it's Gods desire for u to marry, stop listening to the voice of the devil That depresses
Like I told op please google and download this book power of your Subconcious mind by Joseph Murphy .....it can solve all your problems trust me,...if u can't get it I can and a copy to u |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by happney65: 9:15pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Forget it..You are a Lesbian...QED... 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by jclassiq(m): 9:15pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: Thanks so much for this; @bolded; i would love it both ways i.e the kind of person that i have feelings for and also have feelings for me. Honestly stories like that of your aunt scares me every single day, and if i said i shld go with someone i dont love now hoping love will grow with time,wat if it doesnt?. The ex of mine i talkd about,i dated him for good 3yrs! wishing/praying to God for me to like him,it dint just happen.
u dated a man for three years yet u never "liked" him? Aunty What are u even saying? What took to him in the first place? Or are u trying to say that he jazzed u or what? Pls oh, for the avoidance of doubt sis, i am not against ur belief in love, but if the guy is "perfect" and doesnt have issues like u typed initially, then i dont knw what kind of feelings u are waiting to develop again. This is the major bane of todays young ppl trying to settle down. They seem to narrow everything down to feelings. And they forget that they are not going to spend every single day loving even that person they believe they have the best chemistry with. To help ourselves more, we need to understand that marriage is more abt the character of a person and less abt feelings. All d best madam. |
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Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Jaftee(m): 9:19pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Enough has been said, but I have a scientific solution to your concern. 1+1 must be 2 except otherwise... you know the kind of man u want and that makes it easier. a potato cannot be in tomatoes farm and enjoy his stay...
eg. a philanthropist should be where he can help mindkind, have at least an NGO or group. google about them and locate them.
An engineering will be in engineering gathering... google about their gathering.
A pastor will be in a church or any Christians gathering... search for em
a comedian will be with their Ali baba
celebrity nko?
it is as simple as that... find me to tjank me latter. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by gidjah(m): 9:19pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
aunty abike? how many times did i call you,??never said I didn't advice you o!,you and I know that the trouble with you ladies is in selection/picking, (respect to few that are truly going through some terrible spiritual manipulation s from the pit of hell),you ladies pick men out of greed,I am a counsellor and a public speaker aunty, una need to re package una picking skills wallahi!,no one will advice or want a close person to fall in to wrong hands, but the truth is that u women contribute 97% of the reason for your wrong choices, do your research and you will be surprised, you guys prefer Lies over truth,I counsel people like you daily, I know the dig,Go to most churches today, majority of the congregation are the Singles and searching group,('YET TO BE MARRIED'!!most of the cases are Self Inflicted /Caused. Your blood dey hot ba! abike12:
Everyone has that Aunty. As miserable as they claim to be, they are not as unhappy as people that are stuck in a marriage with the wrong partner. That's the real hell on earth. It's not good to be too picky but at the same time, don't let fear of becoming that Aunty lead you into lifelong misery. 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by AlPeter: 9:22pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
missjo:
You have an ex who you say is PERFECT,still you could not love him.
My diagnosis is that you operate on a peculiar wavelength that isn't common, trust me I know what I'm saying. Every human has a wavelength they operate on. If you were to put on an eye apparatus that is capable of detecting frequencies and sending the visual to your eye,you will understand what I'm saying.
A lot of people operate on similar wavelengths that may have different frequencies,but the catch is that these frequencies can superimpose on each other and blend. Your case is that you have a totally different frequency as well as wavelength from most normal people. Yes you are not normal!
Don't get mad yet,that you're not normal is not bad,it just means you're part of the less than 5% of people in the entire planet who fall under this category. I've met one other guy like that on this forum,cant mention his moniker so he doesn't bite my head off but I follow him. These group of people actually find it hard picking someone to get married to because there is always a fault to be noticed no matter how PERFECT the person is.
I'm going to guess that you're an ambivert,i.e a combination of introvert and extrovert. Another guess is that u like to read anything and everything, and you find that most people do not really understand you even part of your own family. Another guess is that your close friends are very few,as in VERY few and you haven't made new friends in a while. Most of your friends are old friends. I also guess that you're someone who can have sex with someone and not add emotions to it,i mean just for the fun of it.
All guesses sha,so correct me on the wrong ones.
The solution is this,you should understand that for people like you, love is not what you need to marry. You only need to marry someone whom you would like enough not to see their faults or someone who is on the exact same frequency and wavelength as you,the latter is harder.
Are you into the science field,or do you just see yourself liking anything that has to do with figuring out how things work? who are you? Like I am very serious. You just describe me to a t. This is truly amazing. But you must understand if the OP is like me LOVE would be a veeeerrrrry big ISSUE. Someone of the same freqquency is her best bet. Trust me if she marries a guy she doesn't love and she later comes across the one she does love, it can became a very big issue. I am not always choosy but once I found something I like I hardly let go. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by rolly44: 9:24pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
@poster, You are just 27 dont give up yet, but let me give you a secrete dont lock oportunity, the pple you think you dont love can be good husbands dont look for ready made, marry a man you see love will grow btw yiu as time goes on after all marriage is for recreation love is secondary. |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by amunkita(m): 9:25pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
ogboni76: I know you won't stop, Bros NKITA,[b] I know what response to give, [/b]but I would rather not say anything cos silence is golden..kindly over look my aquire and keep your own acquire to yourself, since your acquire isn't acquiring me dinner or breakfast why should I care.. Na you pay my school fees? Bros NKITA ABEG PARK WELL... Nice profile pics though.... Adios
Hahahahahahaha, laughing hard with the embolden.. If u know what it takes to build a 5 month ban on Nairaland from 3days, u will keep that threat.. Anyway, I gbadun ur way... 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Icecream4U(m): 9:25pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired All my life I have never seen anyone that loves me the same way I love them. If possible, then it must be very difficult. I guess this is why most people search till it's too late. It is always those who can do anything to be with you and those whom you can do anything to be with. Those that have greater feelings for you are more likely to treat you like an egg while those that you have greater feelings for are more likely to play with your love. Now, the question is, would you rather marry the person that loves you the most or the person that you love the most? 1 Like |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by ericuzor(m): 9:26pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired marry me Search no more |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by yinkslinks(m): 9:26pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
businessman, 2 cars, rented one bedroom, 7 shoes, 25 shirts, 18 trousers, boxers 15, haircut low, good cook, residence abj, traveller etc. do i sound like what u looking for? seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired 2 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by Paulancebay(m): 9:27pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I am going through what you are going through my dear, even as a man! Though it's natural to get bordered but it's a divine assignment that only God fixes! No matter how ur body reacts to the need of marriage nor society talk down on you for not bin serious, bet me,it a life time regret that you can live with! Just imagine, u are bin pushed by ur desire for marriage, get fulfilled but no happiness, it's hurts and sucks! Don't just try it, God is the match maker, God is the chemistry behind the reaction! I just want to tell you that disasters awaits if u don't wait for your right match! Dear, he is somewhere, he will find you because if u done wait for him, you will meet him on the day of a marriage u rushed into! Love is not sold in the market, it won't grow in a person you don't feel it for even no matter how small it is! My advice is for you to identify what makes you happy, ur carrier, adventure, academics, name it, be embedded in them and blow the roof of your knowledge, increase your self worth and make your husband to be know the worth of what he is paying for! Don't beg for love, stay firm in your believe! U will find it at last! 3 Likes |
Re: Will I Ever Get Married? by oluwalewis(m): 9:28pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
seizethaBae: I don't even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is, hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. I'm a 27yrs old lady, finished university very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life, but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying I'm too choosy or not serious.
Honestly, I AM NOT choosy. When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon, I even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner (i know you can meet ur patner anywhere, but na just to shut up people wey don tink say i no dey serious), a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business', look for job so i can be leaving the house, and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection (honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it, the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. I'm not desperate or something, i just want to reach out if I'm the only one having this problem.
There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him, i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can at least like him (even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT, but it didn't just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich, tall, handsome like most ladies dream man. He should just be neat, God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys). Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there, has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their partners and they are loved back equally. Married women, please, I'm waiting to hear from you.
And for most people that will think I'm looking for a rich guy, believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs, but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head. So my problem is not even money. I'm so sick and tired I can only profer solutions wen I see your picture |