jeff1607:


Not in may, july

kk, cos those things on ur siggy are my top turn offs +lies... I so much detest the three

rubsaphy:
you sound selfish... learn to share the beauty of your mind and experiences with people. cos when it's all over, we would wish we had enough physical contact.

Thank you for your observation and by the way, no I'm not selfish, I only have issues with interacting with or getting to really be in company of others other than myself.

not marrying the woman I love....
and she not loving me...

Melonny:
will I really sleep(remain faithful) with just one woman for 20-26 years after marriage? it's like eating beans everyday for 26years.
God help us...

it's not going to be like that except you want it to. the ups and downs of life and how you both deal with it, make you see your spouse differently, but above all, make sure you marry one you love, one who has a lot in common as you. compatibility. you can never be bored. my own opinion ni o

My biggest fear in marriage is after child birth will i still be tight and juicy down dere

naijafeminist:


There's no way the woman you marry wouldn't change physically, and there's no way you wouldn't change physically. Women change their behaviors, men do too..... so your statement sounds sexist. Aside that, that's why your priority shouldn't be looks when looking for who to marry because you would be disappointed. It might be a necessary condition but not a sufficient one. People age, we all have to be selfless and learn to deal with it. You don't love your mom less now than you did 20 years ago, do you?

I shuldnt concentrate on looks abi Tank u, remind me to take my nxt gf for an xray to check her inner beauty...yeye dey smell. Pack urself oneside abeg.

My fear is that I might end up marrying not because I want to but because the society frowns at staying unmarried.

Malayy:
did you say skipping baths.. I will just stop sleeping with her..

Yea bro...a lot of present day married women do it especially on weekends....dey smell like unwashed armpits...I wonder how Deir hubbys feels or copes!

Fairgodwin:
My ONLY fear is the fact that I won't be able to stay alone anymore. The fact that I won't be able to sleep alone and wake innocently alone. Oh I so much enjoy being alone and spending time with myself all by myself.

you are yet to fall in love, truly. sleep alone? when you fall in love, it's different

iRepNaija1:


Skipping baths? What kind of women do you date?

If you do cheat, it's your fault. Making excuses or blaming your wife is what small-minded men do. Marriage is constant, continuous work. Do you think you'll remain the same man you are? Won't you get wrinkles, gray hair, and a potbelly?

Potbelly? Hell no aint gonna happen....av u ever taken a stroll on a Saturday mrn U'll find so many married women skipping bath all in d name of "its a resting day"....den dey tie wrapper like sumbori's granny....whereas while dating....dey even wear makeup to bed in sex bumshots....but now dey are married....na wrapper and unwashed armpit....I can deal abeg....my wife do dat I warn, do it again I para....do it one more time I cheat. Simple!

mamawin:
you are yet to fall in love, truly. sleep alone? when you fall in love, it's different

Indeed.

Eshence:
My biggest fear in marriage is after child birth will i still be tight and juicy down dere

i had the same fear before I got married.

Prosperus:


you are very correct bro. The fear of getting married give me nightmare sometimes. i ask myself what about if this is not the true character of the woman.

When i was still an undergraduate, all i look after is beauty,shape and height but now my philosophy has changed as i become older. I now look for something outside outward beauty, before the external attraction.


getting a good woman nowdays is very difficult . i just pray i don't make the wrong choice.

I tell u bro...gals will always form angels to get married and become demons under ur roof.

Sacluxpaint:


Skipping baths?? Damn homie, how does she expect head if she don't shower?? Will soak her in dettol if I have to.

Lolzzz....girls usually relax wen dey get married o....dey feel no need to look fine for u again.

Eating white rice all d time wen fried rice n coconut rice can b spiced

mamawin:
i had the same fear before I got married.

so wat happened gist me abeg......

SavageGarden:
I've long convinced myself that I can't stand a partner talk less of getting bloody married! Just broke up with a girlfriend god! it got suffocating I couldn't breath! I can't stand those things it's clearly not for me and I won't delude myself into thinking otherwise I wasn't born with that gene, getting married, having kids too much trouble! with the state Nigeria is right now it's safer to face this hellhole alone, and I cherish me some alone time. Can't imagine sharing my bed for the rest of days..i love sleeping alone my bed is sacred! then being someone's emotional and mental dustbin for the rest of our lives..Marriage is too demanding it should be banned!!!!!!! ;DI've long convinced myself that I can't stand a partner talk less of getting bloody married! Just broke up with a girlfriend god! it got suffocating I couldn't breath! I can't stand those things it's clearly not for me and I won't delude myself into thinking otherwise I wasn't born with that gene, getting married, having kids too much trouble! with the state Nigeria is right now it's safer to face this hellhole alone, and I cherish me some alone time. Can't imagine sharing my bed for the rest of days..i love sleeping alone my bed is sacred! then being someone's emotional and mental dustbin for the rest of our lives..Marriage is too demanding it should be banned!!!!!!!

Weird and crazy as it sounds I support!!!!

BCMI:

that moment wen the husband decide to start acting as the head of the house, saying 'dont u knw am the head of dis family' cannt even assist the wife with any chores and nt providing house help is slavery, he doesnt even care abt her is slavery, send her on all errands is slavery . God ll help our marriage.!!!!

Sister.... U need Jesus!!!

mamawin:
you are yet to fall in love, truly. sleep alone? when you fall in love, it's different

This is not really about love. Or maybe you're right, but I sincerely love being alone love or no love. I know most people consider me boring but that's just who I am.

Vivipop:
What if after five to ten years, i now realize i made the biggest mistake of my life? I am terrified of regrets and failure. I don't know how to live with that.

u r beautiful

stubbornman:

That's a bad mentality.... Wat will be could changed

bro wat will b will b includin d change u mentioned

all well said

Ifakiland:
Am actually scared of marrying the wrong woman. Cos gals av a way of changing after wedding, d angelic make up filled face turns into a pimples colony early in d mrn in bed with u....den she starts getting fat, skipping baths, nagging, etc.
I'm also scared am gonna cheat on my wife...if she stops been d gal I fell in love with after wedding!

Same with me for the opposite sex. (Not including the makeup part).

Ifakiland:

Lolzzz....girls usually relax wen dey get married o....dey feel no need to look fine for u again.

Na there I go change am.

sisisioge:
Hmmm...I'm afraid of plenty things.

I'm afraid he might turn out to be a vampire. A wife beater, a selfish azzzhole...

I'm afraid of divorce. It's very very important I get it right. For very personal reason, divorce is actually to be avoided like a plague. I most likely would just rather the guy don't turn push to shove for me. He should biko not let that hit our table.

I'm afraid of plenty house chores. The guy shouldn't turn me to his maid biko...I can't do all those darn chores alone!

I'm afraid of us falling out of love. Jeez! I'm a cat, I'm the all-over-the-guy kinda girl. I can't imagine being with someone I don't wanna hug a 100times a day. Omg! KO le work mehn!

I'm afraid he might cheat on me...if he does and I know. Whew, guy don kill me be that.

I'm afraid of not having kids...I love em lil people like kilode. The small noses, small hands, big hearts, beautiful eyes...omg! I must have them! I think I would die if I don't get them. My fertility isn't questionable o, I'm just saying. Plus thank God for fertility treatment!

I'm afraid of growing old alone. I'm afraid the guy might decide not to be my friend anymore in our sixties. What if my bobo doesn't wanna be my friend any more? What if what if?

Oh, I'm afraid he might become so bossy and treat me like he's my ancestor. Yeah we know he's the boss but pls, what if the guy demotes me from the second in command position to God knows where?

What if he stops listening to me...

What if his mom gives me hell...

What if he decides to disrespect my family...

What if what if what if he just turn out to be an SOB! After all, naa man I wan marry.

I have fallen in love with you already for this.. lol. but seriously you should not be afraid of these things.. whatever you see you tackle it.. enjoy your life girl..

Ifakiland:

Yea bro...a lot of present day married women do it especially on weekends....dey smell like unwashed armpits...I wonder how Deir hubbys feels or copes!

no wonder their husbands cheat on them with younger girls.. they can't stand the dirty armpits any longer

Titilayooni:
Afraid of been tired of the love we initially shared....

Same fears.

thank God for islam you get to marry four if u are capable of taking care of them. Not that you get to bleep only one woman for the rest of ur life.

Fairgodwin:
My ONLY fear is the fact that I won't be able to stay alone anymore. The fact that I won't be able to sleep alone and wake innocently alone. Oh I so much enjoy being alone and spending time with myself all by myself.

exactly the fear of sharing ur bed, not eating junks, watch football games and litter d house like u used to.

prolifiktip25:

exactly the fear of sharing ur bed, not eating junks, watch football games and litter d house like u used to.

Hahaha, I consider your statement funny though. Good morning.

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*TO THOSE WHO ARE MARRIED AND/OR ARE PREPARING TO GET MARRIED SOON*

1. *EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS*

Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse's weakness, you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

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I only have two fears
1. cheating
2. Sexless marriage

For me I don't view marriage as do or die, since I only live once will rather call it quits and find happiness. Though not saying am going to give up easily but divorce won't be foreign to me