/ekeminiabasi I guess you have read all that other mamas said. It really should not be a case, don't be surprised you will be given the while slot to name your second kid just like someone said.

And again, you shouldn't involve your parents on everything especially when you know they weren't initially in support of the inter marriage. It will add more fuel to the fire. I understand you may have involved them cos MIL was involved too but I don't think it will help the case especially when DH is already bent on going ahead with his plan.
Ejoor just let it go.

Sabi mamas, what's the difference between first and second name, can you interchange them without hassle in the future? (Esp abroad)
For eg, can I use my baby's 2nd name as his main name especially in school and certificates or i must put it in the real order ? If when just one name is required, can I use just his first name with surname alone?

Zaynie, Sugah, Feddy27 all my sabi mamas.

maureensylvia:


Am d one oooo

Thank God
Oya beginning of d month prayer u no do.
Oya combine d list of us make me know ourselves.

I troway salute my able captain

realdentist:


I don't understand what u said here pls. this story just gives me goosebumps. something is wrong somewhere. did u say the husband knows? and her mother is the one telling her to do this? I still can't wrap my head around this. is this insanity or witchcraft?

my dear the story long, her husband sale in cartons baby food of all type both foreign n local Is if d man Is not around she will pack like 2carton of different baby food to the house and finish it with 2weeks and she keeps the baby foods at her mums shop which is very very close to her husband shop and the hubby have bound her out his shop too.

When she gave birth to her son this year, the husband refuse her mother to come for omugwo. SHE CANNOT DO WITHOUT MOTHER AND HER MOTHER'S WORD IS HER DECISION.

ekeminiabasi:
Thanks for your prompt response@akorkor,sugah and cool1. @sugah:he says he just wants his son to have a christian name,and i'm being selfish by insisting on my name as the 2nd name. All his other sibling are in intertribal marriages too and have both tribe names as 1st and 2nd names. His mom has never been cool with that,now she wants to have her way through my husband. It might sound irrelevant to some pple,but it's painful to me,very very. I'm beginning to ask myself why I didn't just marry within my fold.

Its hard 2 arrive at certain decisions wen it comes to intermarriages sweety, sometimes its actually very simple issues. Honestly the placement of the names shuldnt be worth unhappiness in ur marriage and dont drag ur parents into this, it makes things worse. Tell ur hubby to just go ahead, its no big deal, u will kill 2 birds with that, first; he will adore and respect u 4 ur decision, second, it will draw u one step closer to MIL, now who doesnt want that?

burticious:
Helloo everybody! Just coming to register after months of looking for admission here, DW is currently 5weeks, we hope mamas in the house accept us, we are first timers. Location is Ilorin, Kwara state

Welcome papa, may ur wife carry to term. Feel free to mingle and ask questions.

Sixx:
Welcome papa, may ur wife carry to term. Feel free to mingle and ask questions.

Amen , Thank you

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ozycy:
Sabi mamas, what's the difference between first and second name, can you interchange them without hassle in the future? (Esp abroad)
For eg, can I use my baby's 2nd name as his main name especially in school and certificates or i must put it in the real order ? If when just one name is required, can I use just his first name with surname alone?

Zaynie, Sugah, Feddy27 all my sabi mamas.

Yes you can interchange it. You can even alter it to something else entirely so far you have the right documents to back it up.
You may just need to put the initials beside the name.
Eg......Great Sophia O. is same as Great Ozycy S. They trust the picture, finger print and signature that will appear more than a name sef.

burticious:
Hello Mamas in the house , please which of Pregnacare is the best to get for DW.. i see so many online ..And during the test at Lab ,they saw little traces of bacteria{and i suspect it's because of the Potty she uses in the toilet ,despite the fact that we have 2 very clean different toilets in the house,she still prefer using Potty which she has been doing even during school days } , the doctor said its just small and ask DW if she see discharge ,and she answered yes but little ..so Doctor said that we should come back for the test next week, but i have search through posts here and found Klovinal , pls mamas is it safe enough..i want to get it so she can start using it against next time we will going for the test .. Thank you all

Please I beg you in the name of all you believe in, do not let your wife self medicate especially in her first trimester. Let the doctor prescribe her a safe medication. It could be a UTI, it can generally be fixed and since the doctor has said its a small bacterial load, let him handle it. He is the professional not you.

Also, to prevent future occurrence, let her take clean water, and be very careful when using public toilets.

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firsttymum:

Thank God
Oya beginning of d month prayer u no do.
Oya combine d list of us make me know ourselves.

I troway salute my able captain

Maureensylvia was Feb 2016 class captain.

prettmum:
All protocol observe, I need advice ooooo

My best friend that lost his son due to overfeeding, has started again with her second baby. I don't know what wrong with her
, I have tried talking to her but she won't listen.

her late son died at 1year6months. when the baby was alive she does not feed her in my presence any time I come around she will excuse me to go feed her late son in the bedroom, the baby will yell and cry, feeding the baby takes 1hour. one day I told her that I want to see what and how she feed her baby, she laughed and said im lucky that her neighbor is not around that she will feed her outside today. she gave Me wrapper to tie and brought out lots of nakpins, she brought big bowl of food(cerelac,Gerber and sma )immediately I saw it I was dump founded, she scoop the food with cup , use napkin to cover the baby nose while the baby grasp for breath and was pooing and farting and the same time, she fed the baby 1 very very big bowl food, I was scared that baby should not suffocate, after eating the baby doze and snore off.
The baby could not walk, @1yr3months without crawling.
The baby died as he was feeding him and was bleeding from the nose....
I could not tell the husband what I saw cause I don't want to be tagged a homebreaker and I was TTC then, now God blessed her with a son again and she has started again to overfeed the baby.

MY SWEET MOTHERS YOU GUYS SHOULD ADVICE ME, SHOULD I TELL THE HUSBAND...WHAT I SAW NOW I MEAN HOW SHE FEED THE BABY( holding his nose) IM SCARED I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ANOTHER BAD NEWS.... PLEAS HELP

Oh my...that woman needs to be arrested. This is not an issue of being tagged a home breaker but rather you will be saving a life if you alert her husband. Please dont keep quiet,i'd rather loose my friendship with her but save her baby's life.

burticious:


Ok , Thank you Ma

If u suspect the potty.... get her hypo.
And pour it all around it. Inside n every where. Then cover it be4 washing.
She can do the hypo thing every 3days.....

Even in the toilet, she should use hypo to disinfect.
Very good.

Dont feel stressed she is using potty, its wat she is used to.
Mine is tissue paper i lay on every part my body will touch...even if its just i n hubby at home n i disinfect always....

Infection has showed me shege.

Naeto is 8mths old today!

@Prettmum! I'll suggest that you let the husband know. How can she tie a napkin over the baby's nose? That's very bad.

nkkystel:
Naeto is 8mths old today!

Aww teamie!!! happy child u got.ure doing a good job,keep it up.God protect him for u

tatacherie:

Aww teamie!!! happy child u got.ure doing a good job,keep it up.God protect him for u

Teamie dear, na God o! What other job do I have, if not to take care of him. Thanks! How's Your DD doing? Take cre of her wella.

realdentist:


I don't understand what u said here pls. this story just gives me goosebumps. something is wrong somewhere. did u say the husband knows? and her mother is the one telling her to do this? I still can't wrap my head around this. is this insanity or witchcraft?

My dear, I have seen a similar case with my two korokoro eyes. The mother tied the baby's hands, fixed the rest of her body in btw her legs, scooped food into her mouth like there was no tomorrow. Then she holds her breath by closing the baby's nose. And the baby gasps for breathe, chokes, then swallows the food forcefully, on top of cry ooo. After feeding, the baby dozes off like somebody wey carry firewood. I was afraid for my life...

nkkystel:
Naeto is 8mths old today!

Sweet baby!

nennynj:

@Godmother; I take God beg u. Exercise a little more patience. An induced baby is likely to ve respiratory issue if not up to 39 wks or else d baby feels its lung is matured enof and wants to come out on its own. Breathing problem after birth is not your wish for ur lo. For its sake tarry small. when the pain is much and u feel so heavy down your pelvics, just waka like "agadi nwanyi". God is ur strength.

Thanks mama. Will wait + even though its hard. Don't want anything to happen to my precious lo

I will be admitted today in d hospital against my CS tomorrow. mamas and papa in d house plz remember me in ur prayers. After 9 Yr +, I just can't imagine that it is happening. Though fear dey catch me small cos of the afterwards pain but I kw it must surely end in praise

Cappo Feddy27 ,hw is Fedora doing? All Oct teamies remember we no dey carry last. I need a birthday mate for my lo ....lol

I ll keep u pple posted.

nennynj:
I will be admitted today in d hospital against my CS tomorrow. mamas and papa in d house plz remember me in ur prayers. After 9 Yr +, I just can't imagine that it is happening. Though fear dey catch me small cos of the afterwards pain but I kw it must surely end in praise

Cappo Feddy27 ,hw is Fedora doing? All Oct teamies remember we no dey carry last. I need a birthday mate for my lo ....lol

I ll keep u pple posted.

We await your testimony.

iomoge2:

Funny thing is that i only see the bump in d mirror

Cant see it normally.
Bobby cover everywhere. Lol

You have to repeat your picture on Tuesday o for those of us that missed it.

I slept and woke up day before yesterday and it was like my tummy had doubled in size. Everyone has been exclaiming at the size. Na now I know say I get belle.

Realdentist thanks alot, it really is God's mercies.

Thanks goldmine. We are doing great. They are getting bigger everyday.

Thanks Sugah, mompurity2, bimsusy, besea, Rofemiguwa, iomoge2, Blessedmum, christybabe, amjane,twogreatnations, favouredmom

Thanks Feddy27, congrats on d arrival of your princess

Thanks akorkor. Amen and amen

Thank God we came out victorious. He showed me mercy indeed. I just kept on remembering liftedhands BS during that period

Congrats to all mamas that have offloaded and all mamas getting married.

Congrats to all the mama's that offloaded.
Congrats to those getting married even though I wish it was here in Enugu.
In other words, the way I eat is something else, if I don't eat till I can barely move, I won't feel satisfied (how do I work on it pls)Wednesday was my antenatal and I weighed 99kg(I was 85kg before preggy). See me paraing that the scale was compromised but unfortunately it wasn't.

Mitchy and enkaydewdrop I sight una your boys are doing great.
Melly245 where are you sis.
Liftedhands ke kwanu?
Fortius kilode? It has tayed o
ebony13 thank God for you sis
The mamma on admission for cs. God will see you through.
Love you all mama.

Evacroft:

Most times they don't actually say it cos dey really care bout u,dey just want u to know they know everything about babies,as per dey have d guide on how to care and nuture a baby. That expressing thingy makes me think, wait! U say what.

True

nennynj:
I will be admitted today in d hospital against my CS tomorrow. mamas and papa in d house plz remember me in ur prayers. After 9 Yr +, I just can't imagine that it is happening. Though fear dey catch me small cos of the afterwards pain but I kw it must surely end in praise

Cappo Feddy27 ,hw is Fedora doing? All Oct teamies remember we no dey carry last. I need a birthday mate for my lo ....lol

I ll keep u pple posted.

The thought of finally holding your own baby against your chest should totally overshadow any thought about postpartum pain.

Just stay positive. You'll be fine

ekeminiabasi:
Hello mamas,pls I need ur advice,esp d mamas who are in intertribal marriages. My husband and I are frm different parts of the country.......all along during our pregnancy,he told me the name he wanted for the baby,i was ok with it. I told him mine too. We agreed on his name as 1st name,mine as 2nd name. Both are native names. Shortly before we put to bed,he told me to pick a nice xtian name that has a good meaning. I did and he loved the name. Now after delivery,all of a sudden,he decided that his own name comes 1st,the christian name comes 2nd and my own name 3rd. I had always wanted my children to have both tribe names so that as they grow in life,evry1 knows they re intertribal products,so I rejected his new idea

This is a non issue my dear....funny enough mothers name tend to stand more than fathers name.although the child's written name arr usually the one the father gave but the name everyone call them arr the ones the mother choose to call there child.
I for one uses my english name as written name n in sch but in my neigborhood am known with my yoruba name n dat is because my mum called me by that.the same thing is happening to my daughter now.
Just that i and my hubby agreed on one name each i wnted giving the English name but he insisted on him bring the english name so i brought the yoruba name.

@ iomoge.....am yoruba n in my part ooooo the right to name a child is from both parent bringing at least one name each.

@chanbaby.....the first 1 -3 yrs marriage always bring unnecessary family interference but with time every one will adjust to the fact that the wife is here to stay n its her home.
In as much as its nice to be urself,its nt a bad thing to be nice when ever u see them.
Personally when ever i see my inlaw i can gist with rhem for hours talking abt fashion,news n other happenings.immediately they leave that is d end ooooo.if you like report me to my hubby he will not even listen.
Even the bible says wisdom is a defence......so pls use it.it is well jawe

Ijelex:

In other words, the way I eat is something else, if I don't eat till I can barely move, I won't feel satisfied (how do I work on it pls)Wednesday was my antenatal and I weighed 99kg(I was 85kg before preggy). See me paraing that the scale was compromised but unfortunately it wasn't.

We are in the same shoes, I can finish one derica of rice, I will just be dishing it small small, if my pot is nt empty my mind will nt leave the kitchen.

ultimatebunmi1:
Plz I need help I am 30weeks,yesterday when I came back from work my both leg hooked me seriously from my bum that I can hardly walk the pain is much

Nothing is wrong with you my sister, that's what dh and I call "locking" you won't be able to move from dat position until it unlocks. Weneva I stay in a spot for too long, dh will just laugh and say "otu ti lock"
Just stay wherever u are and allow it to unlock itself.
Sorry!

Let me hail my November mamas, how many monicker can I remember self,
D no1 honourable capo. @iomoge2 I so much adore you, hope you are good?
Besea, Bolseas, Jumayin, princesskiki, princessKf, lexajen, Godmother, deyoola, XX01, and all other November mamas hope you are all good?
Ebony13 u are a strong woman, ur joy shall be permanent.