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He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Smoke2015: 8:53am On Oct 07, 2016 |
He has come to my office two times. Lean and dark, trying very hard not to betray his deep sadness as he manages a smile each time he looks at me. His eyes remain sad, deep and penetrating, his gaunt look making his oversized jacket hang on his dour frame with pity at his condition. His sadness infects me as I remain almost helpless in solving his immediate problem which is to assist him get a job. http://josephedgarng..com.ng/2016/10/diary-he-lost-his-job-his-wife-left-him.html?m=1 80 Likes 9 Shares
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Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Dyt(f): 9:01am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Everyone likes to be the saint Like someone I knoe The husband and his family claimed she left cos he had nothing But when he had Different women, don't sleep home weekends, partying and what not He became broke Wife stood by him and even gave him money but he preferred to give the gfs that was still with him She got fed up and left Now when you hear the husbands side, you think the woman is evil But when you hear the wife's side, would you still say what she did was wrong? Oh you would have said she shouldn't give him money again but stayed We all have a limit we can take Be it woman/man 130 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by keepingmum: 9:14am On Oct 07, 2016 |
You dont trust your wife to share a major life changing event such as loosing your job/finances rather you share it with your mother and you expect your wife's support?? Who do you expect to pick up the bills and support the household in your state of joblessness? Your mother abi? I dont know the calibre of boys that are raised these days with some very silly self entitled spirit. Why complain when wifey refuses to stay back, after all you didnt think her worthy enough to share that info. Its like a child who fails a class and rather than go home and tell his parents, i have failed and have to repeat; you instead tell your friends. When school resumes, is it your friends that will pay those fees ? Do your parents not deserve to be prewarned of the additional responsibilities about to befall them? Then ofcourse there is also the question of how you have being treating your wife in your days of "rolling in the dosh". abeg i de go chop choco milo this morning 31 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by eyinjuege: 9:21am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Dear blogger, Women equally leave rich people for whatever reason. Did your friend turn to the Lion of the tribe of anger after his job loss? Did he become unbearable to live with? What was his relationship with his wife like before he lost his job? Your own mother wasn't and wouldn't be the only who has supported her husband in difficult times. We see women hustling everyday to support their families despite some of their husbands not bringing in anything to the table. In fact, millions of women in Nigeria do that. Go to the market, you will see women carrying heavy load for others even while heavily pregnant, go to construction sites, go to banks, hospitals, civil service, just to name a few. All in a bid to make their families live a better life. In a bid to paint your mother as a saint and your father as a man who's sole purpose in life is to eat afang soup, you really don't need your friend's marital and financial woes to do that. 56 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Dyt(f): 9:27am On Oct 07, 2016 |
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Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 9:50am On Oct 07, 2016 |
A well written article. I dunno why people are attacking the messenger instead of appreciating the simple message the op is trying to share. My people I plead with our women to be like my mother. For eight years she stood and made sure her husband did not really feel the humiliation of a job loss, the loneliness of your essence rudely dragged away from you by terrible economic conditions and the absolute worthlessness you begin to feel as a result of your inability to be a man. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Onegai(f): 10:02am On Oct 07, 2016 |
keepingmum, dyt and eyinjuege, how dare YOU imply that women are caring, a lot of them are supporting their families uncomplainingly and standing by their man?! How dare you say that some men cause their own wahala with their hands, are you trying to say men should take responsibility for some of their own woes, that after they have made their beds, they have to lie on it?? Are you honestly trying to imply that women actually carry their weight times two in caring for their families?! Don't you know women are useless and are not as great as their mothers! hian, Are you Feminists!!! 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Onegai(f): 10:05am On Oct 07, 2016 |
VikingsOO7: Because when you constantly complain about a certain group of people, bash them continuously (seriously why are you guys still toasting Naija women, abeg gwan marry foreign babes and be happy, Ghana and Kenya is also #TeamForeignBabes o) and then tell them you need to change, without you accepting that maybe you're part of the problem, that other group eventually starts acting up, determined to prove your worst predictions right. If you keep calling your child a thief, one day it will come true. As you name it, so shall it be. Reading Nairaland has shown me you cannot win in life being a Nigerian woman. 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 10:19am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Onegai:Ovoko! I honestly dunno why something as simple as this is turning to a war. The OP' message is simple. Stick with Your husband no matter how bad things are. Support him, encourage him. Ffs, is the "For better for worse" vow now a poem You guys just recite in church? Nobody is saying the husband is blameless. The message is: Don't dump Your marriage when things go bad for Your husband. Nothing lasts forever. 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by babyfaceafrica: 10:22am On Oct 07, 2016 |
feminist will spoil this thread....watch out 3 Likes |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Onegai(f): 10:37am On Oct 07, 2016 |
VikingsOO7: and you're seeing trouble where there is none: your intended audience is telling you to also address that message to your fellow men. Simple and logical. The End. Abeg, let me leave this section for una. No be my pikin una go marry so e no concern me 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Onegai: 2 Likes
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Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Dyt(f): 10:50am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Onegai:In fact you are very coreecr A bottle on you 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 11:09am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Unfortunately, this is why a lot of women are putting up with lazy broke guys . . . So people won't make Jezebels out of them because they left a man while he was down. Nobody wants to know how she was being treated when she herself was down, or when the man had things going for him . . . The poor women ends up living with unimaginable financial burdens, unnecessary attitude from the man and even suggestions that her 'bad luck' brought about her husband's misfortune. But heaven sees it all. If the woman was irrational to leave, let her pay for her actions. But if she was right to leave, may God grant her the strength to stand strong and ignore the busy bodies. 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 11:20am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Onegai: Nairaland is a true reflection of Nigeria. Most Nigerian men see women as second class citizens. Women are always BLAMED for everything. I blame their parents, their mothers specially. Always acting as enablers. Being a Nigerian woman, living in Nigeria is no walk in the park. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by tron23(m): 11:26am On Oct 07, 2016 |
I weep for my generation, there is something fundamentally wrong with people these days. Recently, I heard that Gov. Serike of Bayelsa was blessed with 3 kids after years of delay. Yet he didnt throw away his wife. He stood by her side all the time. You see, young ladies need to understand that being loyal is a virtue. Personally, I believe that marriage is for better or for worse. My late Grand father (Maternal Side) lost everything (houses, 5 cars in Kano) during the civil war. But I can tell you that by 1990, he has 5 cars and 2 houses. His wife stood by him for years, once he came back online he sent her on foreign trips -first to Jerusalem, then to the US. Now, that's what I call manning up...and repaying your woman for her loyalty. I still dont know why people cant be sincere. Believe me, when you stand by your spouse when they are down, once they come back online things will be totally different. Recently a lady left her husband after he lost his job, just here -mid 2015. Now he just got a new job and relocated to the US, NOW SHE CANT BEG, SHE CANT TALK. SHE IS JUST MOPPING..... Why is it so difficult for people to endure...just for a little while till things get better. Believe me no negative or bad situation is permanent. Anyway, a word is enough for the wise. I 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by EfemenaXY: 11:47am On Oct 07, 2016 |
VikingsOO7: What's well written about it? An immature, one sided venomous, hate-filled writeup by a narcissist harbouring deep-seated issues with women folk? Abegie. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by keepingmum: 11:49am On Oct 07, 2016 |
tron23: What makes you think that the fertility issue wasnt with Gov Seriaki? Has it occured to you that perhaps its the wife who stood by him; putting her body through series of trauma and Hormonal changes whilst undergoing fertility so they could become parents? Do you know the dynamics of their relationship? And take it from a Nigerian in Diaspora that not everyone living in the abroad is doing ok. Some middle class nigerians (and i mean those who are even renting homes etc) are still waaayyyyy better off than Nigerians in the disapora so dont assume that because someone went to the abroad, automatically the person is doing great. You dont even know if the woman is mopping because she is unhappy with other aspects of her life and not the unsuccessful marriage. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by thorpido(m): 11:52am On Oct 07, 2016 |
Ujoan:This right here. The comments on this thread tho. The average Nigerian woman is up in arms. #singing where is the love.... |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Nobody: 11:53am On Oct 07, 2016 |
tron23:Need I add- at bolded applies to both parties(husband and wife) A husband should always stand by his wife, no matter what. Jumping from one marriage to another just because of some temporary obstacle is nothing but MADNESS. 7 Likes
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Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by EfemenaXY: 12:07pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
tron23: It works both ways. Living in chronic poverty where gaining access to the very basics (food, clothing, shelter) isn't the exclusive preserve of the women folk. No one here is saying don't stand by your partner when you hit a rough patch. What we're saying is: learn to appreciate your other half when they take on the added responsibility of running the home and bringing in the bacon. There is nothing more depressing for a woman to work flat out just to keep the family afloat while the man does nothing to improve the situation. Thousands of women do it anyway but what adds pepper to the injury is when the man becomes obnoxious and makes an already difficult situation intolerable by making comments such as, "oh, shebi you've grown wings now because you're the sole earner..." or situations (like the @op's father) where the man gets too comfortable and doesn't see the need to get up and do something. @op is getting a lot of stick because he endorses a slave mentality for women. Who wants to age before their time? For little to no appreciation with no thanks / acknowledgement. 14 Likes |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Officialkenshin(m): 12:09pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
This why I can never marry a lady who isn't working. |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by salabscholar01(m): 12:10pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
ok |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by dforum8: 12:11pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
the lady shouldn't have left him na.. |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by misscall247: 12:11pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
Na wa oooo.....after nairaland girls will say thy dont care abt money Who are u deceiving?......Aah #mek i go hustle jor. |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by Greataausim(m): 12:12pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
That is woman for u... |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by blezzymoore: 12:13pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
FT |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by manchidede1: 12:13pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
Ok |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by sassiemyk: 12:13pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
Such women ought to be brought out and shot straight on their foreheads. Foolish Daughters of Eve. #Karashika |
Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by emeijeh(m): 12:14pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
Kai! Fear women!
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Re: He Lost His Job, His Wife Left Him By Joseph edgar by midehi2(f): 12:14pm On Oct 07, 2016 |
eeyahh, God will provide the best |
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