Dear Bella,


Good job I see you doing. I have a problem (hide my info, will you please) I love my girlfriend so much that it will hurt me to see her cry or lack but the thing there is, I am not a communicative person. I can stay days on end and I won't call, text or even say hi whereas she is on my speed dial. It is not ego (I guess my past relationship is causing me this setback) cause I have tried every way I can to erase it from my head but I can't. I am not a selfish person, I love her too much she sees it but asks why I do not call, I tell her it is just me (so guys have this communication problem and don't know how to handle it)


I see her, and I am happy to go the world for her, climb the highest mountain and all that but as soon as she is gone, I fall back into my old state of not talking to her. I think my main fear is showing too much love (which I already showed her) and I don't want it to be seen as weakness as I am a sucker for love and if I got my sights on 1 girl, there is no amount of seduction/temptation that will take my eyes off her. I did show my previous relationship too much affection by calling and smsing all day (like say I nor get work!) and it was taken for granted and then again....how do people in relationships do it? What do they really talk about? I know too much of everything can make one sick, I just want to let her know that i am always there anytime even if i am not close to her, I can still do what is expected of me.


I need advice as I am scared of losing her. How do I connect with her?


Thank you


PS: Hide my info please; she is an ardent reader of your blog.





Talk2Bella





You mentioned you aren't a communicative person in the first paragraph but further down your story, you admitted your reason for your lack of communication was caused from your last relationship which stems on the saying, "once bitten, twice shy"


You see, in life, most especially in relationships, communication really matters a lot; it soothes relationships and increases the bond you both have for each other. Nothing stops you from picking your phone and just saying a hello, u never know; only that might just make her day fulfilled. People who are in normal relationships communicate about their problems, their joys, they tease each other, flirt with each other, or even so, they fight as well, it's still part of communication. Trying to please someone all day doesn't make sense. Silence as well is still part of communication!


I really don't foresee anything wrong with your relationship just the way you have painted it, but you should improve on the points I’ve mentioned out for you and try to reach out to her let her know what’s up about your day to day activities. If you are worried about airtime, social media has put facilities such as Voice calls, video chats and voice SMS that can aid in communication as well. Please try as much as possible to open up your heart to her so she should understand your shortcomings. ‎If you continue to shut her out, someone else might take her away from you.


Goodluck.


Reply From CuteHector


Talk2Bella Team

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/10/i-cant-communicate-with-my-girlfriend.html

I don't get,why do you bring these stories here?

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So,simple explanation you can't give...wonder the people that write on your blog for relationship advice.

[quote author=Talk2Bella post=50055555][/quote] Bella, I have a confession also. Pls make me anonymous...
I like you bella and I just don't know how to express my feelings.. Its burning me deep inside and am going haywire... I just want to feel you around me, you know your warmth, breathe (after brushing) and you.. .. Pls advice me.. I won't mind you coming with your boyfriend also,I can accommodate you two just because I love you..

Tiny23:










So,simple explanation you can't give...wonder the people that write on your blog for relationship advice.

lol cmon.. she's got tons of emails to reply with sound advice hence her idea of coming up with the talk2bella team.

You can be part of it as well... people like you, have a lot of issues bothering their relationships and they have no one to share it with. Talk2bella takes that passion to communicate with them and set them on the right part.

Tis OP would coman post a question from anon
and also post his answer to dat question from anon...
WHAT MANNER OF BLOGGING STUNT IS THIS
Guess we should all genuflect to your semi intellectual pomposity ... bah ?

UrWorstNitemare:
Tis OP would coman post a question from anon

and also post his answer to dat question from anon...

WHAT MANNER OF BLOGGING STUNT IS THIS

Guess we should all genuflect to your semi intellectual pomposity ... bah ?

hahah

aswr u just made me laff @ blogging stunt eheheeheh

thanks

Tiny23:










So,simple explanation you can't give...wonder the people that write on your blog for relationship advice.

if you question was deserving of an answer, trust me I would have given you one, I could smell the cynicism from here

Talk2Bella:


hahah

aswr u just made me laff @ blogging stunt eheheeheh

thanks

kk ya doin Web bah ?

WobiWobiWossDotTalk2BellaDotCom...

Doesn't change nada**

SMH 4u...

UrWorstNitemare:


kk ya doin Web bah ?

WobiWossWossDotTalk2BellaDotCom...

Doesn't change nada**

SMH 4u...

My new luff

Talk2Bella:

My new luff

Mehn !!
I give up
... can't even spell Love... chai !

emeraldknytt:

With a whooping 1.8million active users and well a highly numerated number of guests, a huge number of people will benefit from the A2A. Some, like me, will implement the solution(s) proferred and modified by NLers. Bella ain't stingy, it is a revolution.









sorry about the 'it', dunno if you are a male or female.

I got so much love for you right now, thanks

UrWorstNitemare:



Mehn !!

I give up

... can't even spell Love... chai !

Luff

Cutehector:
lol cmon.. she's got tons of emails to reply with sound advice hence her idea of coming up with the talk2bella team.

You can be part of it as well... people like you, have a lot of issues bothering their relationships and they have no one to share it with. Talk2bella takes that passion to communicate with them and set them on the right part.

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na so,when I can go to a counsellor

Talk2Bella:


if you question was deserving of an answer, trust me I would have given you one, I could smell the cynicism from here

whatever

emeraldknytt:

With a whooping 1.8million active users and well a highly numerated number of guests, a huge number of people will benefit from the A2A. Some, like me, will implement the solution(s) proferred and modified by NLers. Bella ain't stingy, it is a revolution.









sorry about the 'it', dunno if you are a male or female.

who axe you?

Tiny23:
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na so,when I can go to a counsellor

no one is stopping you. But please don't attack someone else who"z doing a good job!

Cutehector:
no one is stopping you. But please don't attack someone else who"z doing a good job!

indeed!how did I attack her?
only asked a simple question with no pun intended...

Tiny23:










indeed!how did I attack her?
only asked a simple question with no pun intended...

Sorry for the misunderstanding
I Bring here as no one is an island
No matter how nairalanders joke there's always an atom of truth in how they give advice and I learn from it.

This place is also a good advertising platform

Does that answer your question?

Talk2Bella:


Sorry for the misunderstanding
I Bring here as no one is an island
No matter how nairalanders joke there's always an atom of truth in how they give advice and I learn from it.

This place is also a good advertising platform

Does that answer your question?

very well,thanks

Tiny23:









very well,thanks

You're welcome

Introverts, one of the worst people to date on earth.