I'm an American woman. I met a 38 year old Nigerian man although I suspect that he is younger. I'm 48. He is the sweetest man I have ever met. We have been dating for several weeks. He is very attentive and kind. The sex is amazing and we have a lot of fun together. .

The problem is, he doesn't talk about himself. I have to ask him very specific questions and he always wants to know why I'm asking. He never shares anything about his personal life other than he has a son. He works but o have no idea where or what company. I've been to his home several times and have met a couple of his friends.

He asks me no questions about myself. We really don't know a lot about each other.

Is this a Yoruba thing or is he just keeping his distance as to not get attached? I'm developing feelings for this man and I need to be sure.

and if he's not Nigerian?
would you still be that skeptical?

pomide:
and if he's not Nigerian?
would you still be that skeptical?

THE WHOLE WORLD IS SCARED OF US AND OUR "FRAUDRY"

[Yes but I know that often times cultural differences play a part.

quote author=pomide post=50060654]and if he's not Nigerian?

would you still be that skeptical? [/quote]

It is true. LOL

CAPSLOCKED:





THE WHOLE WORLD IS SCARED OF US AND OUR "FRAUDRY"

UrWorstNitemare:

What does that mean?

he's using you for a green card..

How long is several weeks ?

Can U try not to fall hard for him so u dont get hurt or disappointed later on? Get to know him well first.

Is an indication he don't want a commitment My opinion though

I don't know about others, but when I keep to myself, when I don't tell people about me, when I just go with the flow, is because, I don't want to be a liability to others. He has a son he didn't lie about. He is good, the only thing that will be dragging him behind might be the age

Beware don't enter one chance

Quivarious:
he's using you for a green card..

I've asked him about his status here and he said that he has a work visa and has one more year before he has to renew it. I'm really not sure if this is true and I don't know if there is a way to find out on my own.

Creamish:
How long is several weeks ?

Can U try not to fall hard for him so u dont get hurt or disappointed later on? Get to know him well first.

It's been about a month. I'm going to take things slow and find out more. I'm not giving up on him though.

sexymoma:
My dear...That's how naija guys behave ooo
Very very secretive and heartless,.. marray him and see how his fams will come with one elder to tell you "our wife we know he has offended you, you just have to take heart" means he has impregnate another woman... Mind you don't be surprise if you find you he s still seeing the mother of that his son...
make nobody come tell me wetin i already know...cos one person go come now tell say "i hope you know you father is a Nigerian"
and think well ooo, maybe he s still with you cos of one or two things he s getting from you.

like WTF do you mean?,, this is so uncalled for....if you're single i hope it remains so till you swallow up these words of yours

bbmpin:
you are just a "fling" to him #case closed

I hope not.

To be honest. I am the same way as that guy and the reason is because I do not want to be in a committed relationship. Take my word for it that guy is being nice to you by reducing his level of emotional commitment so you should do the same

ok

ucsparks:
like WTF do you mean?,, this is so uncalled for....if you're single i hope it remains so till you swallow up these words of yours

mtcheew

the whole inquiry ended when you said 'he doesn't ask you questions about yourself and all'

there's no Nigerian factor added to it

you guys are just 'flinging'

at least he is.. and you're there falling in love and planning an imaginary future and how you'd like him to be buried alongside you in about 40 years lol... All because a knot as been loose in ur head through the 'amazing sex' lol

pomide:
the whole inquiry ended when you said 'he doesn't ask you questions about yourself and all'

there's no Nigerian factor added to it

you guys are just 'flinging'

at least he is.. and you're there falling in love and planning an imaginary future and how you'd like him to be buried alongside you in about 40 years lol... All because a knot as been loose in ur head through the 'amazing sex' lol

I'm a widow so I don't take life for granted. It can be taken from you in an instant. There is no knot loose. Sex is what it is sex. My emotions aren't driven by that but how he treats me.

uche92:
To be honest. I am the same way as that guy and the reason is because I do not want to be in a committed relationship. Take my word for it that guy is being nice to you by reducing his level of emotional commitment so you should do the same

I can appreciate that.

Sweetpkizes:
I'm an American woman. I met a 38 year old Nigerian man although I suspect that he is younger. I'm 48. He is the sweetest man I have ever met. We have been dating for several weeks. He is very attentive and kind. The sex is amazing and we have a lot of fun together. .

The problem is, he doesn't talk about himself. I have to ask him very specific questions and he always wants to know why I'm asking. He never shares anything about his personal life other than he has a son. He works but o have no idea where or what company. I've been to his home several times and have met a couple of his friends.

He asks me no questions about myself. We really don't know a lot about each other.

Is this a Yoruba thing or is he just keeping his distance as to not get attached? I'm developing feelings for this man and I need to be sure.

that's another demon on the loose so please run away if you still love your happiness

Sweetpkizes:


I'm a widow so I don't take life for granted. It can be taken from you in an instant. There is no knot loose. Sex is what it is sex. My emotions aren't driven by that but how he treats me.

widow? good... give a lot more focus to your children...at 48 or thereabouts... you've been around what love is n what's its not.. you need not be in full thoughts about a guy much more younger dan you..

madam, na obanje, run for ur life!

You just came across a very mature,experienced, graduate yoruba demon.
Please run for your life