sonnie10:


Unfortunately, the system is not set up that way. Take for instance if the man is earning $12hr and the woman is earning about $40hr as an RN, they surely would want to get a mortgage of about $300k. The monthly payment will not be less than $2k. This amount is more than the man's entire monthly income at $12hr/ 40hr a week job. Considering that they certainly would have other expenses and bills, how then will the man form boss with his little earning?

The truth is that, it takes understanding between couples to live with such difference in earning. The man must relinquish, get down from his high horse and find ways of coming to terms with reality. On the other hand, the woman must also understand that situation warrants threading with caution. She must make every effort to make the man feel like he is still in charge, even when in actual sense he is not.

For instance, she should never give out large amount of money to her family members without prior discussion and permission by the husband, even when it is her money.

Truely the system gives room for lots of rubbish. There are many other ways a man can substitute jare. Once the basic needs ae met the man can go to bed with a smile on his face. Black men are not lazy and are very versatile. Forget bills will be paid somehow. If the woman sees his effort na her conscience go judge her to do the needful. How are homes where the husband is the sole breadwinner surviving? All im saying is such women should be shown that their help is not ncessarily needed.

These things are very typical of naija women ...empower them financially and you are doomed as the man..cos money always goes into their useless fish brains and controls their actions...In a city like america where the man is not given a chance to talk what do you expect frm such men when they are fed up America had better reviewed their feminine laws and their gun rights if not we wld continue to have cases like this..men and women shld have equal rights god damit..

Do you think Mikel obi is foolish for going for a Russian babe or do you think that aiyegbeni is foolish for going for DJ cuppy. Moral of the story: it is better for you to marry a Nigerian from america or a well exposed one from a rich family than to pick one from the village or from a poor family.in short pray and fast verry verry hard and shine your eyes .

ponti93:
plz what is RN

Resident nurse i think

DICKtator:


Don't worry bro, you can go without your wife.

We in Nigeria would take very good of her

The car would need oil servicing and maintenance which we would take very good care of!!
Just continue to send her the money.

Thank you!!

Well bro to take ur wife to Western world is the last thing u don't even imagine. I know a guy DT shot his wife and didn't go to jail. just set her up.

CFCman:



http://journalist101.com/2016/10/04/nigerian-men-in-usa-killing-their-imported-wives-from-nigeria/

Old news.

Any recent occurrence? I don't think so.

Only morons still dream of going to Nigeria to get a wife. Do you have a girlfriend in US? Marry her. You will be better off.

Women control their husbands most of the time. Most husbands are happy to be controlled by their wives. Only silly women get killed or divorced because they fail to harness their God-given skills to press the mumu button of their partners. Every woman has it. This is why some ladies get car gifts while others are content with N750 recharge cards.

Ever wonder why the good ladies are in the church praying for husbands while the so-called whores are getting married every weekend?

For all you ladies: Forget all the feminism crap championed by angry and dejected women. Find a way to subtly massage your man's ego and he will take a bullet for you. It is no juju but pure psychological manipulation. Of all things you will encounter in life, to manipulate a man should be the easiest. Oh wait! And there may be no sex involved. There you have it.
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abike12:
I don't know why a sane adult will think it's his duty to control another living, breathing and functioning adult because he is the husband. I was very hard on a nlder that was claiming he's going to Nigeria to get a wife to bring back with him to the UK for this very reason. These men live in cities with a lot of eligible Nigerian single women but choose to go to Nigeria to import village girls so they can isolate them from their family and friends and control them. Unfortunately for them, the girls eyes will open and then they will resort to killing them as a means of final control. They would rather have a dead wife than a wife that comes and goes as she pleases. As for you girls in Nigeria waiting for their savior with dollars and pounds to come and rescue them, a word is enough for the wise. It's best you go and look for work and a young man in Nigeria to hustle with and build something.

You made a valid and sensible contribution in bold above.

However, the most important question is, why will a lady marry such a man in the first place, and also subject herself to such qualities for years? Then, when they start making money and are independent, they want to break out of it.

It then means, they do not love the guy before, they were just using him as a meal ticket and will afford to subject themselves to all manners of ill treatments until they achieve their independence.

Definitely, the men did wrong by killing their wives and deserve to rotten in jail, but the ladies are not blameless, they led these men on, they saw these controlling tendencies in their husbands years before, but choose to be submissive and carry on as if they are in total compliance. If these ladies had shown their independence earlier on, I am 100% sure, these guys would not have bother to marry then and their are men out there looking for such ladies.

Warning to ladies and guys, when you are to marry; if you do not like what the total package that you are seeing; please it is not too late to say No and turn back....do not think, you can manage it, or make adjustment to the package you are presenting in the future or the package that you are seeing.

Ezebinaugwu:





I support them die, the one that tied the wife at the back of his car and dragged her to death Na him make sense pass. Idiots

baba calm down lol

Sounds like you are not confident in your relationship.

If you truly love each other and have mutual respect for each other then you will be fine.

What if she earns more than you in Nigeria?

Nobleking2000:



Truly my mindset has been altered seriously I have this young lady am with with the hope of giving her the best in life in all aspects even sponsoring her to any level abroad but with this I have decided that she will get everything but not this one of coming to live with me in any western countries.

Akinwerndey:
you son of a baby factory... You're so dumb clueless and unrepentantly foolish and demented... So because they sponsored their wives to nursing school and because they divorce them means they should take laws into their hands and kill dem abi? Or na so your papa take kill ya mama? Okpo!!

Wait a min, which LAW? The one that took my years of labor and gave an ingrate? Abeg abeg abeg

PulloutGameA1:
Rubbish, There are plenty RN families doing just fine here in the USA...Whomever wrote this trash or endorses it must be extremely retarded_.

What do they all have in common? Stinking Gold-Diggas...They had a plan all along, their husbands labored hard,brought them from the shìthole called Nigeria and at the end if the day, they drain him of his resources and reveal their true character, you know it can only end deadly.

True. For every 4 names listed up there, I would give 20 names where the wife is a registered nurse and the family is doing very well. Those women listed up there actually got married for the opportunities the man represented. They are gold-diggers as u rightly said!

Whether you like it or not, wife cannot be the head of the home, that's not their position, and if you're looking for a husband that will be under you, then you have to travel abroad for that. I wonder what the women are looking for in this home headship of thing.

back2sender:

And my wife had been pushing me for us to relocate to america even though i send her on periodic holidays to america.
Omo i no dey relocate even if Nigeria dey catch fire.

Tel am say u like Israel

ItsQuinn:
He doesn't need your pity, don't worry he will be in good hands

All I could see that day is an assleaker, slowpoke or my dear get some clay and mould such submissive husband. Even our dad wouldn't pray for such wish to come to pass

pickabeau1:
Bruh..

You gats to chill


.

Olboy am just tired of the senseless killing. If na the money be issue make him too go back to school! If na compitition for money, make you study something that will make 4 times her income since you always want to be ahead!
Any body that hurt or kill my sister or daughter will not like my action oh cux I will not only kill anybody that has the same last name as him, I will make sure not even grass grow in his father's compound again.

ChristineC:
Sad tales. There's nothing like marrying your friend where you both have mutual respect, not submissiveness because of fear or wealth.

Money changes many people but with a friend things will not simmer down to the level of murder. My opinion though.

Your opinion but you are very correct!

ItsQuinn:
And who says the wife can't be the head of a home? Here is a clear evidence
Matriarchy is gradually happening

I don't know if you read the Bible because biblically, the man is the head of the family. Most women on the other hand become disrespectful when they start earning more than their husband. My advice for all women is that, when you become rich and influential, submit to your husband!

back2sender:

YES CONTROL IS RESPECT.
WHEN ARMED ROBBER PUT GUN FOR YOUR HEAD, MAKE YOU TELL THE ARMED ROBBER SEY CONTROL NO BE RESPECT AND SEE WETIN GO HAPPEN

Why are you typing in caps? Some of you are really angry for no logical reason. Have a blessed evening and try to take care of that anger problem.

I love the last part

I pity you people like you will remain permanently unmarried and latter strugle for land with their brothers. Olosho

[quote author=abike12 post=50144318]I don't know why a sane adult will think it's his duty to control another living, breathing and functioning adult because he is the husband. I was very hard on a nlder that was claiming he's going to Nigeria to get a wife to bring back with him to the UK for this very reason. These men live in cities with a lot of eligible Nigerian single women but choose to go to Nigeria to import village girls so they can isolate them from their family and friends and control them. Unfortunately for them, the girls eyes will open and then they will resort to killing them as a means of final control. They would rather have a dead wife than a wife that comes and goes as she pleases. As for you girls in Nigeria waiting for their savior with dollars and pounds to come and rescue them, a word is enough for the wise. It's best you go and look for work and a

The marriage-divorce industry in the West that leans heavily towards women is the cause of this nonsense.Marriage has never been a bigger suckers' bet for men in the West. God help any man even thinks about getting married.

OlajumokeBread:


Sorry, i pay people to read stuffs and explain it to me

I only read my bank statement

Pretty sure they read this one but you commented instead....so i'm wondering how the understanding fared for you to comment on what you did not read; he still got you here.

I wouldn't have commented but your arrogance and ego nearly suffocated and hindered my swift passage.

May be you should continue with just your bank statements and try learn from Mark Z.

I'm sorry if you are an elder person but know you money or status is not everything. The guy who attacked you too gets no credit.

Rich people don't talk....they don't show off .

Missonas:

Resident nurse i think

Registered

linearity:


You made a valid and sensible contribution in bold above.

However, the most important question is, why will a lady marry such a man in the first place, and also subject herself to such qualities for years? Then, when they start making money and are independent, they want to break out of it.

It then means, they do not love the guy before, they were just using him as a meal ticket and will afford to subject themselves to all manners of ill treatments until they achieve their independence.

Definitely, the men did wrong by killing their wives and deserve to rotten in jail, but the ladies are not blameless, they led these men on, they saw these controlling tendencies in their husbands years before, but choose to be submissive and carry on as if they are in total compliance. If these ladies had shown their independence earlier on, I am 100% sure, these guys would not have bother to marry then and their are men out there looking for such ladies.

Warning to ladies and guys, when you are to marry; if you do not like what the total package that you are seeing; please it is not too late to say No and turn back....do not think, you can manage it, or make adjustment to the package you are presenting in the future or the package that you are seeing.

Nice point of view. I don't think it's fair for a lady to marry a guy solely for the purpose of going abroad. I think these stories are also exaggerated because I know a lot of people that make more money than their husbands and they settle their differences and are still happily married. To me, those men probably wanted a puppet for a wife and when you bring a villager to america and she starts seeing bright lights, starts making a little money, starts hanging around all sorts of people, there's bound to be problem. Same will happen if a woman brings a village husband abroad, it's human nature.

My own issue is, knowing all of this, why do these men still go to their village to import women? What kind of man do you have to be that you can't marry someone unless you are the one saving them from village life and upgrading them? Why won't those men seek a healthy relationship with someone just like them? Why must you be looking for a naive villager to control? They deserve what they get.

CFCman:



http://journalist101.com/2016/10/04/nigerian-men-in-usa-killing-their-imported-wives-from-nigeria/

what is the difference between RN and auxiliary nurse and how much does a RN make per hour in the US

princeonx:

Olboy am just tired of the senseless killing. If na the money be issue make him too go back to school! If na compitition for money, make you study something that will make 4 times her income since you always want to be ahead!
Any body that hurt or kill my sister or daughter will not like my action oh cux I will not only kill anybody that has the same last name as him, I will make sure not even grass grow in his father's compound again.

I feel you

Sorry I don't believe in the bible

lookingfly:
I don't know if you read the Bible because biblically, the man is the head of the family. Most women on the other hand become disrespectful when they start earning more than their husband. My advice for all women is that, when you become rich and influential, submit to your husband!

seXytOhbAd:
What a damn shame!!! . I know of many women who come to the states, beg their husbands to sponsor their dreams. Mind you, these men have been in the States since, work very hard, and saved up to buy their houses and still spend their savings on these women. The cause for the violence is that, when a man sacrifices for you, and you cannot respect his sacrifice, then you must be mad! These men were pushed psychologically by a system that is partial to women, and our naija wives sharp mouth. Imagine not being allowed to sleep in your own home after a fight. Lol. Women will say men are animals, but women are Devils. What's your life and profession worth when you're staring into the barrel of a gun being held by a psychopath you created. Sigh. Sorry for the rant, I've had a long day.

You're not ranting, but simply saying the truth which they say is bitter.

ajensly1987:
I pity you people like you will remain permanently unmarried and latter strugle for land with their brothers. Olosho

Why are you calling me your mother's name?

[quote author=Stylediva post=50145506]I am also glad they would also die like their wives! At least that's the law abroad,no way to escape the punishment
Next time learn to control your temper. Even the bible said,' thou shall not kill'!
Many African women suffer more than this from their husbands and they didn't kill any one.
Useless bunch of insecure hypocritical men! [/quote
I pray this should happen to ur son. Say Amen to that

Our dad? ....but we are not related?

TROY85:

All I could see that day is an assleaker, slowpoke or my dear get some clay and mould such submissive husband. Even our dad wouldn't pray for such wish to come to pass

Ezebinaugwu:





I support them die, the one that tied the wife at the back of his car and dragged her to death Na him make sense pass. Idiots

lol....that's pure savage !!