FEMINISM! FEMINISM!! FEMINISM!!!
I don't get it really, after many failed relationships, some ladies just sit at the corner of their homes with a bitten fingernails, dirty hair and porn-filled phone and condemn men under the guise of feminism.
Listen, the advocacy for women empowerment and gender equality is a great idea but shouldn't be a battle for superiority. I get pissed up each time I see these lonely single ladies dictating the fate of others in a 'working' relationship. Let me tell you a little secret, there is no gay nor lesbian out there who was not deflowered by the opposite sex. They usually end up fighting what they either couldn't get or handle so why allow them dictate your life?
Trash religion and culture for a sec. When there is an association, there must be a leader. Any institution or organization without a leader will collapse in no time, no matter how strong or corporative they may be. A lady naturally expects the man to make the first move, she expects the man to provide for the family, she expects the man to be her Chief Security Officer, she expects the man to do so many thing she could even do for herself. Isn't that assigning leadership (not emperor) role to the man?
Maybe you should also look at it this way, your boss at work is often not better than you. I've been a boss over people older than me and I've also taken orders from those am older and sometimes more experienced than. Same with marriage. The husband is not more human than the wife. He is just a leader. Brother and sister fights, Nations war against each-other. There's bound to be misunderstandings but we should look for alternative ways of settling our differences and not some frustrated bitches approach of 'give it to him hot'
I strongly disapprove abusive relationships. women please stop fighting back when he beats you, just calm down, give him some good dose of sedatives and deal with the bastard. Step aside or a while and you guys will 'settle as usual' Don't take my words for it. No relationship or marriage is common. find what works for you.
Back to my point.The Lagos state Government established something called the Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) which allows people to SETTLE their differences before heading to court.
We should also imbibe this idea in our relationship and marriages. Lets have alternative means of settling our relationship conflicts. Everything mustn't end in a fight for all.
If you do not believe in your husband leading the marriage, you will have problem taking orders in your work place and even with your friends.
and to the men, indeed the governance structure in marriage allocates headship to the man but that doesn't convey any form of superiority but immense responsibility.
my little Saturday morning piece.
K.D. Oniyide
Twitter/IG; @kdoniyide

Wow...op did you write this article?

Frustrated single girls you mean

harffie:
Wow...op did you write this article?

yes

Nice one op. You pretty much capture everything. Feminists (Nigerian) are frustrated single ladies with breaking record of failed relationship or marriage.
They only fight men.
Girls are being kidnapped by Emirs in the North, you don't see these feminists create a thread and think of ways to stop this menace of kidnapping of minors going on in the North. But you'd see them masturbating on threads relating to marriage and relationship because this provides a platform to display their hatred for the men. They are not feminists in the real sense, they're just frustrated single ladies wanting to reap from where they have not sown. That why you see that 99% of these so called supremacist don't have a boy friend or a husband and have at least 1 record of failed relationship or marriage.
However, respect must be earned and not cajoled. When the shell graduate trainee advert came out, I applied for my girl friend and even wrote the online test for her. Paid for her msc tuition fee and all. I did all this because she has paid her dues. Feminism is for insecure and bitter women. Men are still the boss anytime. Suck on this ye feminist/supremacist.
You cannot fight nature

I'm all for gender equality if ladies can start proposing to guys, paying groom's price and footing the bills.

ChessEnthusiast:
Nice one op. You pretty much capture everything. Feminists (Nigerian) are frustrated single ladies with breaking record of failed relationship or marriage.
They only fight men.
Girls are being kidnapped by Emirs in the North, you don't see these feminists create a thread and think of ways to stop this menace of kidnapping of minors going on in the North. But you'd see them masturbating on threads relating to marriage and relationship because this provides a platform to display their hatred for the men. They are not feminists in the real sense, they're just frustrated single ladies wanting to reap from where they have not sown. That why you see that 99% of these so called supremacist don't have a boy friend or a husband and have at least 1 record of failed relationship or marriage.
However, respect must be earned and not cajoled. When the shell graduate trainee advert came out, I applied for my girl friend and even wrote the online test for her. Paid for her msc tuition fee and all. I did all this because she has paid her dues. Feminism is for insecure and bitter women. Men are still the boss anytime. Suck on this ye feminist/supremacist.
You cannot fight nature

I'm all for gender equality if ladies can start proposing to guys, paying groom's price and footing the bills.

Well to be sincere feminism in Nigeria is a bit strange, because they should fight the bride price after all they are not properties ,it's hard to find a real feminist in Nigeria, feminism means to be treated equal as a guy. Trust me if we do that you girls won't be able to survive , the feminist in the western world are strong they depend on nobody here. But in Nigeria the same lady shouting gender equality is still fighting with her man to pay for her as it's expected. Pseudo feminism