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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:10pm On Oct 16, 2016

tender her salary,for what na?,some men they take this head of the home thing too far, so he will be the one to decide how much he will give her from her salary, na wah o

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by northvietnam(m): 8:10pm On Oct 16, 2016

Only if she is dezeani or Ngozi okonjo iweala then i can now call my kinsmen with the deacons of our church... We will sermon her for her salary

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by jewelbaby55(f): 8:11pm On Oct 16, 2016

Is this even a question? As for me no body can force me to do anything with my salary , I will willing help with what I can do. But do not Make it official, cus na der wahala go.. Na u be head of family abi

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Oct 16, 2016

God forbid i tender my salary to any man,am i mad? undecided

I trust my guy sha,he dare not ask me to do dat.My salary is like 1naira in his eyes. grin

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by DorisK(f): 8:13pm On Oct 16, 2016

FO FOR WHATU KWANU!!!!!!

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by robosky02(m): 8:15pm On Oct 16, 2016

prettythicksme:
God forbid i tender my salary to any man,am i mad?

I trust my guy sha,he dare not ask me to do dat.My salary is like 1naira in his eyes.

exactly money for tissue and pad grin

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by sisisioge: 8:15pm On Oct 16, 2016

Hmmmm...

I would say there is nothing wrong with the woman letting the man know how much she earns but plenty is wrong with the guy demanding she brings her salary to him so he could appropriate. Iranu...abacha!

I think both should have agreed from the outset on a joint account where each brings an agreed % of their salaries to be used by the family. I can't imagine all "my" money being our money when all "his" money is "supposed" to be our money. After all, I'm his helper, not his mother!

By the way, its my opinion, I'm not married. I'm quite very much aware that time and tides change in marriage. A prototype can't prepare one for the eventualities.

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by stagger: 8:15pm On Oct 16, 2016

My father never did it and neither will I. As a man who is making my own money, what am I doing with my wife's salary for crying out loud? Am I using it to bath or what?

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by ianSweet(f): 8:16pm On Oct 16, 2016

Why should she?

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 16, 2016

prettythicksme:
God forbid i tender my salary to any man,am i mad?

I trust my guy sha,he dare not ask me to do dat.My salary is like 1naira in his eyes.

busted, so na babe you be,why the (m) on your monicker?

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 16, 2016

robosky02:

exactly money for tissue and pad

He always b like na money b ur salary abi na paper? cheesy

i will b like leave am like dat. cheesy

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by winj3: 8:18pm On Oct 16, 2016

Do You Think Married men Should Tender Their Salaries To Their wives?

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by titsqueez(m): 8:20pm On Oct 16, 2016

I dont need my wife to surrender her salary to me, what for? As long as she is taking care of her part of the bills, her job her salary.

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:21pm On Oct 16, 2016

Cutehector:
Nice comment hungerbad, you just spoke the truth.

I don't think a woman should tender her salary to her husband, even joint accounts pose a risk as well..

My opinion is the same as that of the Op's parents and they really did well in that video.

Thumbs up talk2bella. We love you.

I am a strong advocate of joint account, It brings up issues if not planned well. If you and your wife agree what the account will be used for, then stick to it.

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by freshvine(f): 8:21pm On Oct 16, 2016

If your mom is not extravagant, I don't see the reason why her husband should be demanding for her salary.

My suggestion is that she should come out clean and tell him how much she earns and if possible surrender her next salary to him to watch his reactions.

Men are known to display inferiority complex when broke by acting irrational. He just need the assurance from his wife that with or without his money, he's still in charge of the home.

Advice your mom to massage his ego a little and study him to avoid matrimonial conflict that could be blown out of proportion

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
busted, so na babe you be,why the (m) on your monicker?

Who bust who? undecided

i just feel like changing to m.

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:22pm On Oct 16, 2016

Diddyydiva:
Feminism is not well defined in Nigeria, It has been abused by power starved women. I don't know your own definition of it so your will be difficult to answer.

Well laid point, there are different definitions of feminism

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:24pm On Oct 16, 2016

Cutehector:
Nice comment hungerbad, you just spoke the truth.

I don't think a woman should tender her salary to her husband, even joint accounts pose a risk as well..

My opinion is the same as that of the Op's parents and they really did well in that video.

Thumbs up talk2bella. We love you.

Thanks dear

Love you too sunshine wink

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:25pm On Oct 16, 2016

Ayoswit:
Haba, a woman is a home maker and should handle d financial aspect in a home. My hubby does not demand for my salary rather he gives me money from his salary for monthly upkeep, since I'm also working I take care of some of d bills.

Godbless you dear

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Oct 16, 2016

No, she should not. It's morönic. Where's the sense in that?

This is just one of the many problems associated with the practice of brideprice — the woman becomes a cheap commodity, and a mindless marionette who is expected serve her husband like a common slave, even if it means losing her life in serving him.

If we trace why your stepfather feels this way, we would probably discover that it's because he paid dowry before he married your mother, and believes himself to have complete proprietorial ownership of her entire being.

I'm sorry to say, but your step-father is an arrogant, insecure and backward fool who needs to focus on being a man, rather than filching from his wife's purse like a petty criminal.

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:28pm On Oct 16, 2016

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Tender Salary bawo..lol...As i dey hustle for my money abi?Well,i am waiting for that man with the liver to even jokingly suggest that to me!When no be him help me find the work?
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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
tender her salary,for what na?,some men they take this head of the home thing too far, so he will be the one to decide how much he will give her from her salary, na wah o

Hehehehee you don vex cheesy

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by folasayolyn(f): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2016

I am yet to see the babalawo who can prepare that jazz for nt hubby to ask that question. in fact after that question my portion reduces and prices increases

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by kodded(m): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2016

Ayoswit:
Haba, a woman is a home maker and should handle d financial aspect in a home. My hubby does not demand for my salary rather he gives me money from his salary for monthly upkeep, since I'm also working I take care of some of d bills.

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:30pm On Oct 16, 2016

northvietnam:
Only if she is dezeani or Ngozi okonjo iweala then i can now call my kinsmen with the deacons of our church... We will sermon her for her salary

See your mouth grin

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:31pm On Oct 16, 2016

prettythicksme:
God forbid i tender my salary to any man,am i mad?

I trust my guy sha,he dare not ask me to do dat.My salary is like 1naira in his eyes.

Hahahahahah prettythicksme o brutal gan

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by flamingREED(m): 8:31pm On Oct 16, 2016

Na wa o.

So the man should freely bring and you shouldn't freely submit.

I'll like to know what my wife earns,
Thereafter I'll x-ray what she can do with it.
I'll then make approvals or disapprovals.

Without unfairness, a man is lord over his home.
Without unfairness, the wife is subject to his tastes.

You claim you're submissive
grin

Without money?

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by bamisepeters(m): 8:32pm On Oct 16, 2016

No issues with knowing the amount she makes but tendering is not manish enough na. I pray to always give her more, if she is ok i am fine.

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Ekeke1(m): 8:32pm On Oct 16, 2016

Let hear from d President, what he has to say on dis one..

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Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Oct 16, 2016

Talk2Bella:

Hehehehee you don vex

it's annoying na,just imagine he only doesn't want to know the amount she earns he is insisting she tenders it to him, so he can decide how much she can spend out of it,that is just nonsense na

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Talk2Bella(f): 8:33pm On Oct 16, 2016

freshvine:
If your mom is not extravagant, I don't see the reason why her husband should be demanding for her salary.

My suggestion is that she should come out clean and tell him how much she earns and if possible surrender her next salary to him to watch his reactions.

Men are known to display inferiority complex when broke by acting irrational. He just need the assurance from his wife that with or without his money, he's still in charge of the home.

Advice your mom to massage his ego a little and study him to avoid matrimonial conflict that could be blown out of proportion

Nah she's not extravagant and the reason I talked to both of them is so the man won't feel I am biased about the issue

Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by Missyetty(f): 8:34pm On Oct 16, 2016

Tender ko, bender ni

I know it is part of my duty to contribute my own percentage to the running of the home, but anything outside that is my business and I can spend the rest as I want. Afterall, he doesn't tender his own to me.

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