The truth is this, sincerity should come from the man first. A man who sincerely submit to his wife how much gain he makes or how much he earns would not make any issues before the woman does that.

See guys, before you marry pls don't think all u need is love cos most of us are filled with lust or secretly enjoy an act, opportunity or interest forgetting that all these are just for a while. We marry the wrong person without considering these factors :

How does she/he handle crisis
What is his/her believe on finances. Will it be individual or for the family?
What is her in laws expectation about her
How long can she abstain from sex
What is her spiritual level
Is she meant for me?

I strongly believe that the man has a duty to be sincere first with the wife, open up to her. Be truthful tell her ur income and how u will spend it. Ask for her opinion and you both agree before spending. You can't do this and the wife will do otherwise else her conscience will disturb her.

It is better to do all these when u r dating before marriage. Then u will have idea what u r getting into.


Thank you

prettythicksme:
Who bust who? i just feel like changing to m.

so you change like that abi? hehehehe ok o hope you are enjoying your m status?

darkenedrebel:
No, she should not. It's morönic. Where's the sense in that?

This is just one of the many problems associated with the practice of brideprice — the woman becomes a cheap commodity, and a mindless marionette who is expected serve her husband like a common slave, even if it means losing her life in serving him.

If we trace why your stepfather feels this way, we would probably discover that it's because he paid dowry before he married your mother, and believes himself to have complete proprietorial ownership of her entire being.

I'm sorry to say, but your step-father is an arrogant, insecure and backward fool who needs to focus on being a man, rather than filching from his wife's purse like a petty criminal.

No one is perfect dear we learn everyday, no reason for insults please alright

Diddyydiva:
Tender ko,

Nurture ni


Lemme just read comments before am termed ' Feminist '

Feminist

Talk2Bella:


See your mouth

Aaaah Aahhh babe , what r u implying ?.... That my beloved would be wife/the mother of my unborn children can't attain the level of those women......

Any husband who asks his wife to give him all her monthly salary has no business being a husband.

Some of these questions are stùpid to me.
There is no one size fits all answer to this.
It all depends on the household
If a husband is a drunkard, a gambler or is wasteful
would you advice her to?

2dugged:
so you change like that abi? hehehehe ok o hope you are enjoying your m status?

Infact i am enjoying the m than F,at least guys dont quote and pm me anyhow again.I rest small

Some of these questions are stùpid to me.
There is no one size fits all answer to this.
It all depends on the household
If a husband is a drunkard, a gambler or is wasteful
would you advice her to?
Same way idf a man is resourceful and can make her 1# into 1000000# Im sure it will be wise giving such a man money

Talk2Bella:


Hahahahahah prettythicksme o brutal gan

gidigan

Joint account is a must 60% of Salary from both sides goes in there which will be used to run the family this doesn't stop the man from doing most things as a man and shouldn't stop the woman from buying those Littles things.

Some partners can be reckless with spending some buy what they really don't need.
My wife should know what I'm spending on. I've seen women from demanding homes in fact Mother-in-law can coarse her daughter to drain a man's pocket likewise bad friends. Some can go buying clothes they don't need on credit.

I will all always provide for my woman but that shouldn't stop me from knowing what she spends on.

prettythicksme:
Infact i am enjoying the m than F,at least guys dont quote and pm me anyhow again.I rest small

he only you na badt gehs

Oh boy see question o

Common sense, take over!

northvietnam:


Aaaah Aahhh babe , what r u implying ?.... That my beloved would be wife/the mother of my unborn children can't attain the level of those women......

They will surpass it amen

I will not tender my salary to my husband, yes as a wife I ll do my bit but giving my salary to him is a big Nooooo and no is a full statement.

My gf tenders her salary, and I use my superior knowledge to direct how it is to be used...not on me sha...don't get me wrong. But, only people from dysfunctional homes see the op's question as a problem!

prettythicksme:
gidigan

The overriding desire to keep and get more.........

For what it's her Salary




Am not interested in how much she earns.
My wife is a Civil servant just like me I never ask her how much she earns, As the man of the house I provide all the needs, and in dome cases if am cash strapped she comes in and bail the family out, but surely I do pay her back











As the head of the home I need to provide the family needs.
So don't bother yourself with how much she earns as men we shall always be the head and not the tail.


We shall always provide our family needs

truthsayer007:


Feminist

You try

darkenedrebel:
No, she should not. It's morönic. Where's the sense in that?

This is just one of the many problems associated with the practice of brideprice — the woman becomes a cheap commodity, and a mindless marionette who is expected serve her husband like a common slave, even if it means losing her life in serving him.

If we trace why your stepfather feels this way, we would probably discover that it's because he paid dowry before he married your mother, and believes himself to have complete proprietorial ownership of her entire being.

I'm sorry to say, but your step-father is an arrogant, insecure and backward fool who needs to focus on being a man, rather than filching from his wife's purse like a petty criminal.

and you had to call someone step-father arrogant and backward? Continue!!..

Talk2Bella:




I'd patronise your legit hustle as soon as I can

lol.. thanks ooo.my legit hustle would appreciate it!

first couple of months into our marriage, hurby wanted to withdraw all my money I ve suffered for cos I handed my ATM card for him..how will I now give him my salary.. not posible

The truth is that, there is no one straight answer to this question. Because, no two marriage are the same.
However, the bible in the book of Amos 3;3 says "can two work together except they agree". If both agreed to it, then who are we to go against it? As scripture even said that "they were both naked" therefore we are not suppose to do anything secret in marriage. But it shouldn't be a case of someone been forced to do it. It has to be with a mutual understanding and agreement.
I also need to mention the fact that, nothing should be done in self-centeredness. All should be done in the fear of God, on the side of both party.

I am not interested! She is free to spend her money as she seems fit

Absolute no unless we're both low income earners and we have a project like building a house, sending our kid abroad to study or investing in a business.

Believe me, there are somethings women do with money in the house that you'll never remember. Still does not mean she'll not get her allowances.

As the head of my house, its my responsibility to provide for my family.

[size=15pt]it's not a bad thing if he choose to know because they're suppose to be one.. But as bella said, he might not accept some of his responsibilities. So one needs to be careful.[/size]
That's my 2cent frm www.romanticpie.com

ItsQuinn:
There's love in sharing .....although I disagree in the terms that; my partner get to know the truth of my earnings because it can lead to some disadvantages like my partner avoiding most of his responsibilities, both of us having one account is a no no, him deciding what and what not to do with my money ( I earned and work hard for that money, it's my money so I get to decide not him), and lastly; Nothing will ever make me to surrender my whole salary to my partner when I'm still in my right state of mind, only slaves do that

well the bible says wife submit to ur husband, so dt includes ur moni. Sometimes i wonder why it is more easier for women to submit deir bodies dan deir monies. Which is more precious?

If person dey find wife, na this kind thread he suppose come because na this kind thread ladies dey contribute pass. Before i open the thread, i don know say ladies go full the thread. Ladies like marriage.

beautiful232:
for what na?

if I'm to give my money to my husband

should be from my heart

not working and bringing my salary to him

meka why?

becos u are commanded to submit ur all to ur hubby including ur money. Is ur money more precious dan ur body? If u can submit d latter why den is it difficult to submit d former?

Why Should A Wife Give Her Husband Her Salary, She No Get Needs As A Mother And A Woman.. This really crazy... Na Man Her Salary Better For Hand..All These Useless African Mentality Should Be Buried For Ever.. A Wife Can Only Tell Her Husband When She Receives Her Salary Not The Other Way Round.. For Me I Wish To Be Giving My Wife Large Portion Of My Salary Or Make Her Signatory To My Accounts If I Marry ... Thats How You Build A Home...!!!!

Well mister, not everybody believe in the bible(crap) ...how else can you prove your point without quoting the bible?

jabojafa:
well the bible says wife submit to ur husband, so dt includes ur moni. Sometimes i wonder why it is more easier for women to submit deir bodies dan deir monies. Which is more precious?