jabojafa:
becos u are commanded to submit ur all to ur hubby including ur money. Is ur money more precious dan ur body? If u can submit d latter why den is it difficult to submit d former?

Gracious10:
Umu Nwanyi atago afufu,

So everyday, men come up with one rule after another so they can continue to marginalize and reduce us to nothing.

I guess women are zombies that have to be controlled by men, they should also tell us when to breath.

God is watch all of you in 3D.

Talk2Bella:


Nwannem kedu

Gracious10:


Anom gidigba!
No shaking, they should come

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

It is important to note that every family is different,and so one can not authoritatively say this is how it should be.

There are husbands that beat their wives up,others don't. There are husbands that cook at home,and others will not go near the kitchen,and there are husbands that will demand to know how much their wives earn and others won't.

The truth is,if a man is doing well in life,he will be less concerned with what the woman makes,even if she is the President of a Nation.

Talk2Bella:


Consent
exactly

Diddyydiva:
In my own opinion, it is not obligatory for a woman to tender her salary to her husband.

Why would she?

Assisting in financial responsibilities is okay but making it the woman's duty is bad.

Of course there could be a mutual agreement on percentage of the woman's salary that will go into the family's up keeping .


Tendering is a no no for me

sugah:

What about this scenario:
Husband and wife earns almost same thing (like 20k difference)
The wife is the saver of the two so the husband tenders his salary to her every month.



I'm sure if you take another poll and ask if husbands should remit all their salary to the wives, all the women shouting hell no for this poll would have a different answer

Gerrard59:
With the topics and posts I see about women/girls/ladies on Nairaland, I can say confidently that majority of Nigerian women don suffer

No wonder The Economist said Nigeria is the worst place to give birth to a girl.

http://www.economist.com/news/21566430-where-be-born-2013-lottery-life

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

It is important to note that every family is different,and so one can not authoritatively say this is how it should be.

There are husbands that beat their wives up,others don't. There are husbands that cook at home,and others will not go near the kitchen,and there are husbands that will demand to know how much their wives earn and others won't.

The truth is,if a man is doing well in life,he will be less concerned with what the woman makes,even if she is the President of a Nation.

CaptPlanet:
Absolute no unless we're both low income earners and we have a project like building a house, sending our kid abroad to study or investing in a business.
Believe me, there are somethings women do with money in the house that you'll never remember. Still does not mean she'll not get her allowances.
As the head of my house, its my responsibility to provide for my family.

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

It is important to note that every family is different,and so one can not authoritatively say this is how it should be.

There are husbands that beat their wives up,others don't. There are husbands that cook at home,and others will not go near the kitchen,and there are husbands that will demand to know how much their wives earn and others won't.

The truth is,if a man is doing well in life,he will be less concerned with what the woman makes,even if she is the President of a Nation.

GBAM

Talk2Bella:

They will surpass it amen

freshvine:
If your mom is not extravagant, I don't see the reason why her husband should be demanding for her salary.

My suggestion is that she should come out clean and tell him how much she earns and if possible surrender her next salary to him to watch his reactions.

Men are known to display inferiority complex when broke by acting irrational. He just need the assurance from his wife that with or without his money, he's still in charge of the home.

Advice your mom to massage his ego a little and study him to avoid matrimonial conflict that could be blown out of proportion

33bandit:
my wife should belong to the bed room,the kitchen and the other room .I am making enough money already she doesn't need to work .stories like these should not exist in my house biko .

Talk2Bella:
Someone recently asked me to write on this issue, then I realized we were having this same problem at home. My step-father is a very traditional man, sometimes I wonder what my mum saw in him, she’s the typical educated lady who speaks more English than a Briton, and she’s way intelligent than her peers, so imagine our surprise when she said it was him she’s decided to spend her life with.


My dad died a long time ago, it wasn’t an easy marriage for them, separation, family intrusion and the rest, they were separated for more than a decade before he died, I’m glad they parched things up though.


My mum is a salary earner with the Lagos state government and for as long as I can remember, it’s been one quarrel with her and my step-dad to another, he says a woman must tell her husband how much she earns, my mum says if she tells him he will stop doing the normal things a man and a father would do at home, all because according to him my mum earns more than he does in a month {I don’t believe this though, he’s a funny man}


Well now the issue is, he wants my mum to tender her salary every month so that he can share it, tell her what and what to do with the salary and all, my mum says he must be joking, she pays bills, power bill, maintenance at home and sometimes feeding, because things haven’t been looking up real well for him because of the ban on importation of rice {he’s a supplier}


Now being who I am, unbiased, I want to resolve this issue amicably, it is wrong to ask a woman to tender her salary when you don’t tender yours, if you want to make it so, both of you should have a joint account where each month you put something in it from your earnings so when you both need something urgently you can withdraw from it.


There are women who do this, and this has worked for them, they are doing it because it was willingly done and not forced, I actually know someone who does something like this, the husband hasn’t had a job in like forever and at the end of the month, she shares part of her salary and gives him for his maintenance and that of the house.



What’s you take on this issue I would love to hear opinions.



Thanks and God bless


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HungerBAD:
Interesting.

It is important to note that every family is different,and so one can not authoritatively say this is how it should be.

There are husbands that beat their wives up,others don't. There are husbands that cook at home,and others will not go near the kitchen,and there are husbands that will demand to know how much their wives earn and others won't.

The truth is,if a man is doing well in life,he will be less concerned with what the woman makes,even if she is the President of a Nation.

Amelian:
tender your salary to your husband and suffer for life.
My late aunt gave all her salary to her husband every month for 4years, she is always broke and eventually he married a second wife into the same house. She saw fire and pepper coupled together in her home..she end up dying of heart attack.. Smmmhhh.

May her soul rest in peace but
God forbid I will be so dumb to give my husband all my money every month... For what nah?
Such men should not see me in their entire life.. I should become invisible in their eyes amen.

Talk2Bella:


No one is perfect dear we learn everyday, no reason for insults please alright

Cutehector:
Nice comment hungerbad, you just spoke the truth.




I don't think a woman should tender her salary to her husband, even joint accounts pose a risk as well..



My opinion is the same as that of the Op's parents and they really did well in that video.


Thumbs up talk2bella. We love you.

MrBLING:


And what do you call Saudi Arabia, Iran, Pakistan, Afghanistan ?

Enonimist ke economy ni

Talk2Bella:


No one is perfect dear we learn everyday, no reason for insults please alright